Tell Your Kids Your Mistakes
What do you think is best? Tell your children at the age when and if they need to know about the mistakes you made in your past hopefully to help them by your mistakes or to not every tell your children about your mistakes thinking that they need to have total respect for you?
Moderator - Why focus on your mistakes? There are thousands of lessons in the Bible. Teach them the Bible.
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Helpful Blog Vote (7)
My daughter's 30 and she shares that sometimes she knew I would be lenient about things bc I had done similar things.
I thought I was harder on those things but what disturbed me was she related to them in a positve slant not that she learned from my mistakes.
On the other hand we have a good relationship now and maybe that's bc of the level of honesty.
I don't think adults need to tell kids their personal stuff - its alright to have good boundaries and still expect them to be open with you
---Andrea on 10/25/07|
Regardles of your past mistakes your kids need to respect you, at all times. You do not have to discuss any negatives about your life unless you have to or want to. A kid born out of wedlock and things of that nature will probably need to be discussed,eventually but I would not push it unless I had to. Some things are better left unsaid. Let the past stay in the past. Where it belongs.
---Robyn on 10/25/07|
Mod ::I agree Parents are required to teach by example not past mistakes which may tend to Nulllify a childs love. But it is a matter of Choice.
---Emcee on 10/25/07|
I told my kids my mistakes so that I could also show them God's love and forgiveness, and what the power of God can do in one's life in changing and transforming me.
---Madison on 4/25/07|
The only time my husband & I tell our kids about our mistakes is when they are up against something or having problems about situations in their life, and they ask us if we ever had such problems and how to handle them.
---Melissa on 1/13/06|
I think honesty is the best policy but with few details. Certainly relate the lesson you learned from your experiences including the regrets. Some people learn from the mistakes of others ... other people seem to have to experience all the mistakes themselves. :)
---DoryLory on 1/10/06|
, yes, tell all.
---steve on 1/7/06|
When you became an adult you put aside your childish ways..Train your children in the Word..The past is gone.
---Lynn on 1/7/06|
No, the list is too long and they already think I'm a few sandwiches short of a picnic.
---1st_cliff on 1/7/06|
I didn't tell my children my mistakes simply because they would try to do the same and do it better. If they MADE the same mistake then I'd share to show that there's hope or light at the end of the tunnel.
---Kathy on 1/7/06|
I began when my son was quite young telling him about past mistakes I'd made. Not only is it showing how different I am now with Jesus, but he talks to me about those mistakes and with God's help, he'll not repeat what I've done. Praise God that woman is gone!
---Nellah on 1/7/06|
Don't push it. Focus on the present and the future. If asked, be honest, direct and what you learned , but wait until you are asked. Make sure you take the time to answer to question completely as possible and don't make excuses for it - just admit it was wrong, and move on. Don't over explain, just answer enough to satisfy to asker for example, a 7 year old may settle for a brief answer while a teen needs a more detailed answer.
---WIVV on 1/6/06|
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