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Wife Divorcing Over Bi-Polar

How should I deal with a wife who is divorcing me because she thinks I am bi polar?

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i also have to consider my past, where ive been before i was an adult, what events took me to here, of Course God has determined all of this, and if i am bi-polar God still loves me and will continue to provide... but the Lord said in James chapter 1, a man who doubts God is like a wave of the sea and is tossed back and forth, he is a double minded man unstable in all he does. so i dont know if you sometimes doubt God in his existence, or his ability, but i do know one thing for sure, that even in those times where you want to say no to God, saying yes is an act of becoming stable.

anyways im trying to stay away from computers, i think its best if i get ready for work.
---Shane on 4/10/10


While God may heal many who believe, he does NOT heal all. One good explicit example in the Bible is Paul - he repeatedly asked God to heal his "thorn in the flesh", yet God continuously refused.
---StrongAxe on 12/9/09

Wxz ... You did not answer my repeated questions on another blog ... it seems you are doing the same now to StrongAxe
---alan8566_of_uk on 12/8/09

---StrongAxe on 12/8/09

Whenever you need healing God will remind you that he does not heal every one he gives people what they believe. The servant that hid his talent in the ground believed God was austere and God judged him in an austere way.

Luke 19:21 For I feared thee, because thou art an austere man: thou takest up that thou layedst not down, and reapest that thou didst not sow.

Luke 19:22 And he saith unto him, Out of thine own mouth will I judge thee,
---exzucuh on 12/8/09


You keep saying my words make the the gospel ineffective. I have asked you to specify WHICH words of mine render the Gospel ineffective, and which particular parts of the Gospel, but you have not done so. All you have done is quote what other people have said to do so.

I have asked you to show where the Bible promises God will heal ALL diseases or heal immediately, you have also not done so.

There are many devout faithful Christians who nonetheless get sick and/or die. If all such sickness is their fault, it heaps all the burden for their sicknesses on them - essentially, "You're sick because you're not good enough for God's love". Such a message would not fill people with hope, but with despair.
---StrongAxe on 12/8/09


1 Corinthians 1:17 For Christ sent me not to baptize, but to preach the gospel: not with wisdom of words, lest the cross of Christ should be made of none effect.

The wisdom of your words, take the power of the gospel that was paid for on the cross and make them ineffective. You weaken your own and others faith because you limit it with your ideas that compromise with the ideas of the world.

James 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
---exzucuh on 12/7/09

Judas had ideas about Jesus, he thought he knew more than Jesus and sold him for his ideas. Esau had Ideas he thought his inheritance was not as important as a bowl of beans that he traded it for. Some people get ideas that they think will work to get them something they want. David thought that if Uriah died in battle his death would not be on his hands. He used intelligent reasoning. He reasoned that God had not held him accountable for anyone he killed in battle. So he sent him to the battle front, not seeing that in Gods eyes, it was premeditated murder. You do not see in your eyes what God sees through your actions.
---exzucuh on 12/7/09


You ask: What does drinking wine for your stomach's sake have to do with faith to believe God's word.

Nothing whatsoever! I have never once spoken anything here against believing God's word. I just pointed out that nowhere in God's word are the promises for healing immediate and universal (because if they were, it would mean NOBODY has enough faith). If you can show me verses that contradict this, I would be glad to hear them. Yet you keep accusing me of taking power from the Gospel. Could you point out just which part of the Gospel do you think I'm taking power away from?
---StrongAxe on 12/7/09


The fact that Paul told Timothy to drink wine for an upset stomach underscores the fact that even the great Paul, pillar of Christianity, did not belive that God heals all illnesses (if he did, he would have told Timothy to pray for healing for his stomach).

This is what I have been saying here the past several days - while God CAN heal whatever illnesses he chooses to, he doesn't choose to heal ALL illnesses, not even for the greatest pillars of Christian faith. Sometimes he leaves us to our own devices, and expects us to use them.

(There's an old Chinese proverb: "Man wait long time with mouth open waiting for roast duck to fly in").
---StrongAxe on 12/7/09

If you are bipolar and if the disorder is not well controlled, then you may have exhibited any of a very wide range of behaviors which can destroy a relationship. It is not uncommon for individuals with this diagnosis be ineffective in close personal relationships if their disease is out of control. I am not promoting divorce by any means. Just describing what I have seen with ref to the disorder. Perhaps controlling the disorder coupled with marriage counseling could help. Pray for God to show you what to do. Peace to you.:)
---jody on 12/6/09

Ephesians 4: 29Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
---Trish9863 on 12/6/09

---MarkV. on 12/6/09 Is that what you think that I jump all over people. You know we are writing on this blog and the words we speak are limited. sometimes what I write never gets posted. So I get to the point. I do not waste my words doing all that carnal patting and praising people. Do you want me to tell you the truth are be a man pleaser. I am Cherokee and Irish from Texas and If you Don't know what that means, I do not have the space or care to explain it. What I tell you is true if you find me on the internet you can see my videos. If you can get in touch with me I will be happy and most willing to tell you more. just type exzucuh in your browser.
---exzucuh on 12/6/09

Exzucuh, I find your answer wrong and please don't get angry and jump all over me for questioning you. But when you say something that we know to be wrong we should question it.
My question after what you posted is, "How many people have you brought back from the dead?"
I mean where they were dead already, and you went and prayed over them and they suddenly woke up healed? I hear many of you speak and if all of you have this power, why don't we hear in the news that many are waking up from the dead? Since there is thousands of you who believe this we should be hearing it in the news all over the world.
---MarkV. on 12/6/09

---StrongAxe on 12/6/09 What does drinking wine for your stomach's sake have to do with faith to believe God's word. I hope you realize that You quoted from a letter that Paul wrote to Timothy. Timothy knew when Paul was giving him instruction in God's word and making general conversation. You like many cannot tell the difference. Paul asked for someone to bring his coat to him, I hope you do not think that makes the word less effective. 1 Corinthians 1:17 For Christ sent me not to baptize, but to preach the gospel: not with (WISDOM OF WORDS), lest the cross of Christ should be made of none effect.
Your Ideology can take the power from the Gospel.
---exzucuh on 12/6/09

Ex: That is where we part company. My Jesus loves me and would not hurt me over illness, especially mental illness. He is love and compassion. You obviously know a false Jesus.
---Trish9863 on 12/5/09

Revelation 2:23 And I will kill her children with death, and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.

Is this the false Jesus you are talking about?
---exzucuh on 12/6/09


1 Timothy 5:23
"Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach's sake and thine often infirmities."

Evidently, according to your theory, Paul must not have had enough faith either, as he told Timothy to drink wine to settle an upset stomach, rather than praying for God to heal it.

Also, even the greatest men of God sometimes get sick, and always eventually die (and are not raised from the dead). Does this mean that NO Christians on the planet have ever had enough faith? (Except perhaps you and Eloy?)
---StrongAxe on 12/6/09

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Jesus is the CURE for mental illness.
---jerry6593 on 12/6/09

Ex: That is where we part company. My Jesus loves me and would not hurt me over illness, especially mental illness. He is love and compassion. You obviously know a false Jesus.
---Trish9863 on 12/5/09

---StrongAxe on 12/5/09 All diseases do not get healed, all people do not get raised from the dead. But the reason is because they think like you. They say the word of God does not work for every one. And it does not because they think like you. Jesus calmed the storm and then scolded his disciples because they did not do it. He scolded them for not healing the boy with epilepsy. He said it was their fault he was not healed. Your brain is carnal you have not sought the kingdom so these things cannot be added unto you. You need exsousia authority, to heal the sick, cast out devils, raise the dead, but do you seek these things from God. Jesus said you have what you believe so therefore you do.
---exzucuh on 12/5/09

Acts 1:8 But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you:
That power strongeaxe that you are supposed to have is Dunamus
dunamis doo'-nam-is
from 1410, force (literally or figuratively), specially, miraculous power (usually by
implication, a miracle itself):--ability, abundance, meaning, might(-ily, -y, -y deed),
(worker of) miracle(-s), power, strength, violence, mighty (wonderful) work

If you do not operate in this power the Holy Spirit is not upon you to give you exsousia authority. He may be in you but not upon you.
---exzucuh on 12/5/09

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I am also curious what scriptures support your thesis about Paul's thorn,
---Trish9863 on 12/4/09Lu 4:36
And they were all amazed, and spake among
themselves, saying, What a word is this

I have been taught by divine Revelation same as Paul in the same way as Paul. Paul fought with Peter over his divine Revelation of walking in the Spirit and not Living by Nomos rituals that he said was nailed to the cross.Paul could not prove his teaching to them because it has to be received by Faith. They were required by faith to forsake their intelligent reasoning. For Paul's foolishness
he was persecuted by the church.
---exzucuh on 12/5/09


I have no love of sickness, and I have no problem with healing. The only issue I have been challenging here is the notion that ALL illness and other bad consequences necessarily comes from sin. Jesus time and time again refuted this (the man born blind, the Tower of Siloam, etc.)

Also, the Bible says that God heals our diseases. However, it does NOT say that he always heals all our diseases, nor that he does so immediately in any case. Many naively believe this, and lead themselves and other to grief (for example, parents who pray for children and withold medical treatment - and then the children die as a result).
---StrongAxe on 12/5/09

---Trish9863 on 12/4/09
Why are you concerned about that? Jesus healed the man at Bethesda pool and told him Go and sin no more least something worst comes on you. And he went and turned Jesus into the Jews and even though he was sick for 38 years he did not appreciate what Jesus did. Jesus called the Canaan woman a dog and did not take care for her feelings, He also told her he had no use for her he was for Israel alone. Jesus answered both their prayers but he offended them. He told the man at the pool his sin caused his problems and the woman she was not good enough for his healing. The only thing that matters is healing and salvation. God does not care if he hurts your feelings.
---exzucuh on 12/4/09

Ex: I do not intend to try to prove you wrong. That is not why I am blogging here. I am concerned that you would tell people who suffer from mental illness that it is their fault they are sick and that they are not healed by Jesus because they lack faith. That type of teaching has caused many of my patients at the hospital to suffer needlessly because it is a lie.

I am also curious what scriptures support your thesis about Paul's thorn, because I have been taught by many Bible scholars, including professors at a Bible university, and have never been told that Paul's thorn was one thing or another, much less his persecution of the church.
---Trish9863 on 12/4/09

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---Trish9863 on 12/4/09 Now if you can prove me wrong, you give scriptures that verify that sickness was his thorn, then I will give my scriptures to you. I already know that you can't. You have to study the history of the Church and writings by people like Eucibus Pamphili who was a historian and on the council of Nicaea. People have been trying to say that blindness was his thorn and many other things, but what I told you is the truth.
And I really do not care if you believe me or not. You are the one that it seems to bother. So you do the studying I have already done mine.
---exzucuh on 12/4/09

Ex: So you turn out to be the only person I have ever known to have the knowledge of what Paul's thorn was. Please enlighten us all as to the scriptures that support your thesis that Paul's thorn was his sin against the church, because you are the first to claim that.

I need chapter and verse to support that claim, as I am obviously ignorant of scriptures.

Again, you have not proven that Christ heals all. You have just proven that you are an extremist in your beliefs.
---Trish9863 on 12/4/09

---Trish9863 on 12/4/09 Matthew 12:15 and great multitudes followed him, and he healed them all,

Luke 6:19 And the whole multitude sought to touch him: for there went virtue out of him, and healed them all.

Luke 4:40 Now when the sun was setting, all they that had any sick with divers diseases brought them unto him, and he laid his hands on every one of them, and healed them.

You see you and Markv always think you know but you don't, you just want to be right. I just want the truth to be known. You just want me to be wrong but I will never be wrong
because I am not trying to be right. I am speaking for God.
---exzucuh on 12/4/09

--StrongAxe on 12/4/09
Maybe you should ask yourself why you are defending sickness rather than healing and I am through on this subject I think I have made
Gods case perfectly clear. And you will never prove what you are saying. Christianet never puts everything I write on here. And I am not going to just keep posting things over and over.
---exzucuh on 12/4/09

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---Trish9863 on 12/3/09 Pauls thorn in the flesh was his sin against the church, he was constantly having to overcome persecution he received from Jews in the Church that did not trust him because he had imprisoned and killed
their relatives because they were Christians. his rejection of the Jews drove him to the gentiles that would hear him because they had no knowledge of his previous life. He was no longer Saul of Tarsus but Paul of Jesus. Paul struggled with his conscience and asked the Lord to help him. Jesus told Paul to trust in his Grace it was sufficient. Grace empowers us to rise above our guilt and do the work of the Lord. Our guilt empowers us to have grace on others forgiving them like we are forgiven..
---exzucuh on 12/4/09

Ex: Witnessing a healing does not qualify you to be an expert on mental health. That would be like me witnessing a surgery saying I am qualified as a medical professional.

I acknowledged that God does heal some. Scripture is clear that God does not heal all. If so, Paul would not have written about praying three times to have the thorn removed in 2 Corinthians.

Obviously, you are not qualified to speak about mental health. Nor, are you qualified to speak on scripture, as you refuse to address the passage on Paul's thorn.
---Trish9863 on 12/4/09


Years ago, I visited a Quaker church that had a sign "Jesus died to take away our sins, not our brains". While we should not worship our intellect (as many do), we should not abandon it either.

Assuming every infirmity is necessarily a result of sin is a "thinking man's way" error that the Apostles made - and Jesus corrected them about it.

Even though Jesus took our infirmities on us, it's also true that even the greatest of Christians get sick and die. If this is a just a matter of faith, it means that not ONE single Christian on this planet has faith that is good enough.

It didn't sound like Trish9863 was judging you - she was just questioning your qualifications to judge everyone else.
---StrongAxe on 12/4/09

There is always a way to look at things through what man interprets as intelligent reasoning. But God says there is only one way to see things, HIS WAY! You can chose as Adam did, to eat and gain knowledge that will kill you. The death does not come to the body but to the spirit then the soul begins to die to the knowledge of spiritual things that gives life to the body and then the body slowly perishes. God has chosen foolish things is what Paul said, to confound Intelligent reasoning. Not foolish things to God they are intelligent reasoning. They are foolish by mans standards. All of mans knowledge has some credibility but it produces death in the end. It is always gambling with fate never sure.
---exzucuh on 12/4/09

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IT is better to die believing God's word than to live by intelligent reasoning. Do you not know that this was what Jesus struggled with in the garden that night with such horrific pressure upon his soul that great drops of blood dripped from him instead of perspiration.
His intelligent reasoning was tempting him to not obey God to take mans way out. Jesus rebelled against the influence of his intelligence and turned back to faith to believe he was sent into the world to give his life for all mankind. This was his cross his cup he had to drink of and your cross is to do the same thing to reject what you think and accept what God says.
---exzucuh on 12/4/09

---Trish9863 on 12/3/09 Are you qualified to judge whether I am qualified. Were you there when I was healed of a mental disorder. have you been with me in times of visitation and times when the Lord has given me divine revelation. Were you there when they told me my son was dead and I asked the Lord to raise him up and he gave him back his life and restored his brain that was destroyed. You were not there not one time in all the mighty works of God I have seen. But you go ahead judge because I know what I say is true God has proved it to me. And he has asked me to be a witness to the things he wants to do for you
if you would stop rebelling and believe he can.
---exzucuh on 12/3/09

---StrongAxe on 12/3/09 My point is that I am not trying to make a point. I am declaring that sickness or any other thing that you try to justify and hold on to so you and every other christian can live in a hell on earth is healed by the stripes of Jesus. Just because you cannot see your life lining up with what the scripture says does not change the meaning of scripture. A life that becomes the word must be lived by the word confessed as the word, be the word. You have to eat his word, breath his word, never let the evil canal mind compromise the word with foolish doubt.
---exzucuh on 12/3/09

Ex: You are no more qualified to discuss mental illness and the treatment thereof, than I am to discuss electrical engineering.

Fact: Many people are born with chemical imbalances that cause mental illness.

Fact: Many people are born with physical illnesses.

Fact: God heals SOME people of their illnesses, whether physical or mental.

Fact: God DOES NOT heal ALL people of their illnesses, whether physical or mental.

2 Corinthians discusses Paul's thorn in the flesh. He was not healed of his thorn. God does not guarantee healing to all of His children.
---Trish9863 on 12/3/09

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My point is that not every single bad thing (physical disease, mental disease, or anything else) is necessary some kind of cause and effect that can be blamed on the victim. Sometimes good people suffer bad things that isn't their fault. Recent examples include wackos going postal inside a church and killing the pastor and other church members.

A much earlier example would be Jesus, who (by the cause-and-effect sin theory many observers then believed), would have to have been a very evil man for God to have punished him with so cruel a death. Yet I don't think anyone here would say he deserved that.

Or are you saying that in all of history, the man born blind was the only person whose suffering was undeserved?
---StrongAxe on 12/3/09

What you said is true But Jesus is not walking around trying to prove he is the Son of God now. There are no people God can make ill that will serve that purpose now. Jesus has paid for sickness to be removed and all curses to stop when people believe by faith on him. All sickness now is by curse or chastisement,because people have not been repented or been freed from it. You should concentrate on ending sickness and mental illness by finding the cure rather than compromising with ideology that keeps people under it's power. Submission to truth will get you authority with God over such things.
---exzucuh on 12/3/09


Yes, it is possible that demonic possession might cause mental disorders. However it would be presumptuous to assume that ALL such disorders are necessarily are caused by demonic posession. Demons can break things, but things can also be broken by more mundane means as well.

Not all illness is the result of sin (see the man born blind). If one thinks simplistically (as the apostles did before Jesus corrected them), one could assume that just because some miracles are done by men of God, ALL miracles are done by men of God. Yet many are done in order to decieve (even the very elect, if that were possible).
---StrongAxe on 12/3/09

--StrongAxe on 12/2/09
Revelation 18:23 for thy merchants were the great men of the earth, for by thy (SORCERIES) were all nations deceived.

I can see they have deceived you already.
---exzucuh on 12/3/09

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--Trish9863 on 12/2/09 Doctors treat symptoms!
Your mistake is to think that they know more than God. Some disorders they call bipolar Is nothing more than demon possession. Man is born with a mental disorder It is caused by his sin Nature. He has to be born Again to receive a new mind. Paul called it being translated out of darkness into the light. He was a deranged religious nut vowing to wipe Christianity off the face of the earth, but an encounter with Christ completely changed him. The fact that you rebel against the truth is why you cannot find help. You compromise with worldly doctors and accept what they say over God. A double minded individual cannot get anything from God.
---exzucuh on 12/3/09

In the story about Saul king over Israel, it tells us that his rebellion against God caused God to send the spirit of depression upon him.
If you read this story you will see the symptoms of Bipolar disorder in him, His refusing to believe what God told him and rebellion to do what he thought over what the prophet Samuel told him to do, caused his disorder. People who live with demons in the flesh, evil people that are abusive, perverts
haters of God and righteousness, suffer from metal illness most of the time. But that is why Jesus gave his life to set people free and bring them into newness of life.
---exzucuh on 12/3/09

The reason people cannot get help is because of compromise and fear of offending people. Ministers just accept the fact that these people with mental disorders cannot be helped.
After they are addicted to legal drugs and their mind is controlled by these substances the only thing that can help them is a miracle.
I see people so controlled by the medicine they take that God cannot get through to them, It is like a wall between them and God. They cry and plead with me and say they cannot be saved. And it is because the legal dope they are on has dulled their mind and cut them off from God.
---exzucuh on 12/3/09

Ex: My mother did not do drugs, nor drank to excess as a young woman. Yet, at age 32, she developed bipolar disorder. I do know that she was raped at the age of 5 by her stepfather. Her mother was abusive, and sent her to live with her grandmother, rather than kick out the child molester.

Please explain how it is that my two brothers who never did drugs became bipolar. They developed it as teenagers, and never did drugs, nor drank to excess. I do know that we experienced horrific traumas as children with my mother's bipolar disorder, and my father's violent alcoholism. His repeated attempts to kill her were ignored by the local police department.

Your ignorance of mental illness, and abuse of scripture is typical.
---Trish9863 on 12/2/09

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Bipolar disorder (as well as many other mental problems) are caused by abnormalities in the brain, either physical or chemical. Such problems can be caused by drugs (legal or illegal), or physical trauma (like an assault or accident), or severe disease - or a person could be born with them.

This would never be a problem if human beings were born perfect, but that hasn't been the case for a very long time.

It's a common misconception that people are always responsible for their own problems. Look at the man born blind - Jesus's disciples believed this, and asked whether this was as a result of his own sin or his parents' - yet Jesus said it was neither.
---StrongAxe on 12/2/09

I do not need a medical degree to speak for God. I just need ears to hear his Holy Spirit that lead us into all truth.

Revelation 18:23 for thy merchants were the great men of the earth, for by thy (SORCERIES) were all nations deceived.

The word sorceries was used here because old English translators considered making of medicine and use of drugs as witchcraft.
pharmakeia far-mak-i'-ah
from 5332, medication ("pharmacy")

The pharmacutical companies and illegal drug dealers are destroying the world.
---exzucuh on 12/2/09

Exchuch: What medical degree do you hold to make statements about bipolar disorder and drugs? I know plenty of people who are bipolar who never did drugs. Where did you get your psychiatric training? I am fascinated by your supposed expertise on this subject.
---Trish9863 on 12/2/09

Stop acting like you're Bi-Polar, It is a sin.
If you are a Christian act like one. If you have to pretend then you are not a christian.
People that are Bi-Polar are that way because of drugs legal or illegal, it messes up their minds. Young people that experiment with drugs do not realize that it effects their brain forever. The chemicals can never be made right. People on legal drugs also, same thing, But doctors don't care they treat symptoms like a mechanic hears a knock, he says it is a rod and does an overhaul and finds it was only a loose flywheel. If your brain is messed up Only God can heal that. Severe depression causes the same thing and being separated from God causes depression.
---exzucuh on 12/2/09

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Im sorrym Oscar. I hate to hear of marriages being dissolved over such petty things.

Pray the Lord will burden her heart to remain faithful to her vows.

divorce # 4,532,148,443
---JackB on 11/30/09

If her thoughts are wrong, tell her so: if her thoughts are right, tell her she's breaking her marriage vow of "for better or for worse".
---Eloy on 11/29/09

Your wife will never have a chance at stability until she finds a GREAT psychiatrist. Your support and love is being wasted on someone who's not healthy enough for a relationship. Put your love and energy back into fixing you. Why are you attracted to this woman? What draws you into her dramas? What are YOUR ultimate life goals? These are the questions you must ask. By hanging on to her, you are effectively enabling her, putting yourself into denial and eliminating any chance for your own happiness. Why? It's hard, but look at your relationship more rationally and less personally. Make the hard choice of loving yourself first, even though you may love her from afar.

Elizabeth Atlas, Author
Married To Mania
---Elizabeth on 11/29/09

See a therapist and get an intake evaluation and find out if she is right. If she is, get therapy. If she's not, pray for her.
---Madison on 5/2/08

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can someone please tell me what bipolar is or is not. I keep hearing this and my generation got a lickin if they acted up and I can't believe it is a disease now.
---shira on 5/23/07

I have been married to a man since 2001 who is bi-polar. It is a very frustrating situation for all involved. My husband has left me several times, threatened divorce & even served me with divorce papers 2 years ago. He just left me again this week. Every time it has been over a stupid disagreement. It hurts me so badly each time - emotionally & financially. Do I stay in this relationship, or move on?
---Diane on 1/5/07

I am in reverse situation, Wife diagnossed with BPD will not take meds. Blames me for her emoitional state and she wants a divorce. Osscor before its too late get a real diagnosse with your wife with you. If you are take your meds and both you and your wife join a support group. At least by your posting you are seeking help please follow thru, save your self and marriage.
---Thomas on 3/24/06

Madison: Last time I respond. Without competent, medical diagnosis, a non-medical person can't properly state if another has bipolarism. For example: post partumn
"blues" can be mis-dianosed as person being bipolar. Some forms of depression can also be mistaken as bipolor. A person who is an alcoholic may have a real a bipolar disorder but it may not be discovered because of his drinking. ETC
---WIVV on 2/17/06

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I will let you ALL know that some of what you ALL say is true. However, you have to understand that as an adult is left undiagnosed, their bipolar disorder may be masking who they really are. We are no one to judge this woman...I went through what she is an extremely large cross to bear and you have to do what is best for you. I married someone who became a person I didn't even know...even after treatment. It is up to God to judge what is right.
---tj on 2/15/06

WIVV: My first advice to the original poster was to get to a psychiatrist and get diagnosed.

As for making judgments on whether a wife should stay with someone who bi-polar, I prefer not to judge and make black and white statements that the person should stay. I grew up with a bi-polar mother, and it was living Hell. I work with bi-polar patients, I know how irratic their behavior can be, and violence is very common with this population. No wife should stay in a violent marriage.
---Madison on 2/14/06

WIVV, Excuse me for interupting. If your friends are seeing a doctor, they are very apt to be taking medicine for bipolar. If the spouse loves the person with bipolar, and the person is on medicine, both these can make a big differense. The person with the problems should see a psychiatrist, and find out if there is a mental illness. Even if the spouse will not come back, he should take care of himself, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
---Ulrika on 2/14/06

Madison: if this person has not been seen by a proper, qualified medical person, to come to the conclusion that this person is by-polor is only a guess at best. If she thinks he may be, than he should he should be seen by a doctor. Still think the wife may be looking for a reason to get out of the marriage. (I have friends who have been declared bi-polor by a doctor, and the wives to these couples are "sticking in out".)
---WIVV on 2/13/06

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i, Your post is nearly impossible to read. Is it that much faster to type with all those shortcuts. By the way, what is wrong with spelling God with an o?
A person might as well take a sugar pill, as to take vitamins for schizophrenia or bipolar.
---Ulrika on 2/12/06

J: Your thoughts on vitamin therapy are interesting. The problem is, prior to WWI, there was little emperical research done on the severe mental illnesses to support your theory. At that time in history, schizophrenics were warehoused in asylums. Their treatment was inhumane at best.

Most of the research that supports medication has been done since the 1950s. The pharmaceutical companies have contributed to improving the quality of life for many people suffering from mental illness.
---Madison on 2/12/06

before wwI, bi-p and skxz were treated very successfully with vitamins. after wwI+II, the drug industry took over, and won't allow. still, if you can read you can find out URself. who U gonna trust - G_d or man?
---j on 2/12/06

WIVV, a bi-polar person who is in a manic phase and not medicated is extremely difficult to be around. Sometimes they are violent, and very abusive with their speech and behavior. If the wife is correct, and the poster is bi-polar, she is not using the illness as an excuse to get out of the marriage, she is trying to save her sanity and possibly her physical safety.
---Madison on 2/12/06

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What are you doing that makes her think you are bi-polor? If you have NOT been told you are bi-polor by a medical professional, how does she know? Not that it would make any difference. Marriage is not a partial committment, but a total one. To use the excuse that you are bi-polor makes me think she's looking for an excuse to leave the marriage.
---WIVV on 1/24/06

Fred, Not everyone is mentally ill. If you saw mentally ill person, who is not on the right medication, you probably would notice something was wrong with him. If person with bipolar goes a long time without medication, he can become delusional. He can even have a break from reality (psychotic episode). Only a psychiatrist is trained to diagnose and treat mental illnesses. You can look up info about bipolar on the internet.
---Ulrika on 1/19/06

Madison , good explanation . A little more , Bipolar Affective Disorder ,better known as Manic Depression is an illness . Some researchers think caused by a difference in the chemical messangers between nerve cells in the brain , which transmits singals from one neurotransmitter on nerves , to another . Sorta like getting the wires crossed or a short in them. Mood swings may include changes in emotions , thoughts , behaviour , physical health , and functioning . It is sickness ,not evil ,or unruliness .
---Darlene_1 on 1/19/06

FRED S: No, not every peson is mentally ill, and no, Scott Peck is NOT a good source for Christians.

OSCAR: There is much good advice here. You might also want to check out minerith clinic, which is very good
---John_T on 1/19/06

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Pray for her....that is not a grounds for divorce according to the Bible.
---wes on 1/19/06

Every living person is mentally ill. We all would fall under (3) catagories, Neurotic, Character Disorder, or Neurotic Character. Simply because we do not use our entire brain. You both might want to read the book
The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth, by M. Scott Peck, M.D.
---Fred_S. on 1/19/06

Shira: Bipolar disorder is a mental illness in which a person suffers from a chemical imbalance in the brain. This imbalance causes a person's moods to elevate to extremely high elation. This is usually characterized by rapid speech and agitation. This is typically followed by severe depression, one in which a person can become suicidal if not treated. When I was a child it was called Manic-Depressive Disorder. It has always been a mental illness. This is nothing new.
---Madison on 1/18/06

Often times it is easier for others to see, when we are not being ourself. You really should see a doctor. He could refer you to a psychatrist for an evaluation. There is no shame in being bipolar. The shame is not doing anything about it. Medication can help a person allot to be stable, and easier to get along with. It could possibly along with therapy, help save your mariage, if indeed that is what you have. At any rate you should check it out, for your own sake and not just for your marriage.
---Ulrika on 1/18/06

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Are you bipolar? Only a physician or a counselor can tell.
If wife is diagnosing you, she is being unethical, and unlawful if she is not a professional.
BiPolar is VERY treatable condition using medications.
As you relay it (one side of whole story), seems as if wife is using a ruse to get out of marriage.
Consider marriage counseling in addition to your medical evaluation
---John_T on 1/18/06

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