See a therapist and get an intake evaluation and find out if she is right. If she is, get therapy. If she's not, pray for her. |
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---Madison on 5/2/08 |
can someone please tell me what bipolar is or is not. I keep hearing this and my generation got a lickin if they acted up and I can't believe it is a disease now. |
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---shira on 5/23/07 |
I have been married to a man since 2001 who is bi-polar. It is a very frustrating situation for all involved. My husband has left me several times, threatened divorce & even served me with divorce papers 2 years ago. He just left me again this week. Every time it has been over a stupid disagreement. It hurts me so badly each time - emotionally & financially. Do I stay in this relationship, or move on? |
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---Diane on 1/5/07 |
I am in reverse situation, Wife diagnossed with BPD will not take meds. Blames me for her emoitional state and she wants a divorce. Osscor before its too late get a real diagnosse with your wife with you. If you are take your meds and both you and your wife join a support group. At least by your posting you are seeking help please follow thru, save your self and marriage. |
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---Thomas on 3/24/06 |
Madison: Last time I respond. Without competent, medical diagnosis, a non-medical person can't properly state if another has bipolarism. For example: post partumn
"blues" can be mis-dianosed as person being bipolar. Some forms of depression can also be mistaken as bipolor. A person who is an alcoholic may have a real a bipolar disorder but it may not be discovered because of his drinking. ETC |
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---WIVV on 2/17/06 |
I will let you ALL know that some of what you ALL say is true. However, you have to understand that as an adult is left undiagnosed, their bipolar disorder may be masking who they really are. We are no one to judge this woman...I went through what she has...it is an extremely large cross to bear and you have to do what is best for you. I married someone who became a person I didn't even know...even after treatment. It is up to God to judge what is right. |
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---tj on 2/15/06 |
WIVV: My first advice to the original poster was to get to a psychiatrist and get diagnosed.
As for making judgments on whether a wife should stay with someone who bi-polar, I prefer not to judge and make black and white statements that the person should stay. I grew up with a bi-polar mother, and it was living Hell. I work with bi-polar patients, I know how irratic their behavior can be, and violence is very common with this population. No wife should stay in a violent marriage. |
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---Madison on 2/14/06 |
WIVV, Excuse me for interupting. If your friends are seeing a doctor, they are very apt to be taking medicine for bipolar. If the spouse loves the person with bipolar, and the person is on medicine, both these can make a big differense. The person with the problems should see a psychiatrist, and find out if there is a mental illness. Even if the spouse will not come back, he should take care of himself, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. |
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---Ulrika on 2/14/06 |
Madison: if this person has not been seen by a proper, qualified medical person, to come to the conclusion that this person is by-polor is only a guess at best. If she thinks he may be, than he should he should be seen by a doctor. Still think the wife may be looking for a reason to get out of the marriage. (I have friends who have been declared bi-polor by a doctor, and the wives to these couples are "sticking in out".) |
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---WIVV on 2/13/06 |
i, Your post is nearly impossible to read. Is it that much faster to type with all those shortcuts. By the way, what is wrong with spelling God with an o?
A person might as well take a sugar pill, as to take vitamins for schizophrenia or bipolar. |
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---Ulrika on 2/12/06 |
J: Your thoughts on vitamin therapy are interesting. The problem is, prior to WWI, there was little emperical research done on the severe mental illnesses to support your theory. At that time in history, schizophrenics were warehoused in asylums. Their treatment was inhumane at best.
Most of the research that supports medication has been done since the 1950s. The pharmaceutical companies have contributed to improving the quality of life for many people suffering from mental illness. |
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---Madison on 2/12/06 |
efore wwI, bi-p and skxz were treated very successfully with vitamins. after wwI+II, the drug industry took over, and won't allow. still, if you can read you can find out URself. who U gonna trust - G_d or man? |
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---j on 2/12/06 |
WIVV, a bi-polar person who is in a manic phase and not medicated is extremely difficult to be around. Sometimes they are violent, and very abusive with their speech and behavior. If the wife is correct, and the poster is bi-polar, she is not using the illness as an excuse to get out of the marriage, she is trying to save her sanity and possibly her physical safety. |
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---Madison on 2/12/06 |
What are you doing that makes her think you are bi-polor? If you have NOT been told you are bi-polor by a medical professional, how does she know? Not that it would make any difference. Marriage is not a partial committment, but a total one. To use the excuse that you are bi-polor makes me think she's looking for an excuse to leave the marriage. |
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---WIVV on 1/24/06 |
Fred, Not everyone is mentally ill. If you saw mentally ill person, who is not on the right medication, you probably would notice something was wrong with him. If person with bipolar goes a long time without medication, he can become delusional. He can even have a break from reality (psychotic episode). Only a psychiatrist is trained to diagnose and treat mental illnesses. You can look up info about bipolar on the internet. |
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---Ulrika on 1/19/06 |
Madison , good explanation . A little more , Bipolar Affective Disorder ,better known as Manic Depression is an illness . Some researchers think caused by a difference in the chemical messangers between nerve cells in the brain , which transmits singals from one neurotransmitter on nerves , to another . Sorta like getting the wires crossed or a short in them. Mood swings may include changes in emotions , thoughts , behaviour , physical health , and functioning . It is sickness ,not evil ,or unruliness . |
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---Darlene_1 on 1/19/06 |
FRED S: No, not every peson is mentally ill, and no, Scott Peck is NOT a good source for Christians.
OSCAR: There is much good advice here. You might also want to check out minerith clinic, which is very good |
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---John_T on 1/19/06 |
Pray for her....that is not a grounds for divorce according to the Bible. |
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---wes on 1/19/06 |
Every living person is mentally ill. We all would fall under (3) catagories, Neurotic, Character Disorder, or Neurotic Character. Simply because we do not use our entire brain. You both might want to read the book
The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth, by M. Scott Peck, M.D. |
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---Fred_S. on 1/19/06 |
Shira: Bipolar disorder is a mental illness in which a person suffers from a chemical imbalance in the brain. This imbalance causes a person's moods to elevate to extremely high elation. This is usually characterized by rapid speech and agitation. This is typically followed by severe depression, one in which a person can become suicidal if not treated. When I was a child it was called Manic-Depressive Disorder. It has always been a mental illness. This is nothing new. |
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---Madison on 1/18/06 |
Often times it is easier for others to see, when we are not being ourself. You really should see a doctor. He could refer you to a psychatrist for an evaluation. There is no shame in being bipolar. The shame is not doing anything about it. Medication can help a person allot to be stable, and easier to get along with. It could possibly along with therapy, help save your mariage, if indeed that is what you have. At any rate you should check it out, for your own sake and not just for your marriage. |
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---Ulrika on 1/18/06 |
Are you bipolar? Only a physician or a counselor can tell.
If wife is diagnosing you, she is being unethical, and unlawful if she is not a professional.
BiPolar is VERY treatable condition using medications.
As you relay it (one side of whole story), seems as if wife is using a ruse to get out of marriage.
Consider marriage counseling in addition to your medical evaluation |
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---John_T on 1/18/06 |
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