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Desperate Christian Women

Is it wrong for a Godly woman to let a christian man know that she is interested in him? If not how does she approach him without seeming desperate?

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Ruth 3:7, a widow named Ruth let a man named Boaz know her interest in him. Also in Isaiah 4:1 women of Israel braved to ask men. These also were widows.
---mike4879 on 3/14/16


Some men love a kind face nice smiles,she tells little things about her self,her hobbies the best prize baby back ribs!your's truly!! My baby back are to die for!! My secret recipe never fails..anyway just be yourself..Men love a woman who can cook,be kind,etc..she helps him feel.wanted,needed etc..the bible say when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing.love of jesus!
---Elena95555 on 3/13/16


Hi,sometime just a hint of a smile or at those christian pot luck dinners ha ha the mere extra plate of chicken with dumpings! homemade says sonething!! Ha ha that lill piece of pie...hmmmm just try and see If I'm not right its the little things you do...imagine love blossoms!
---Elena95555 on 3/13/16


Yes,most definitely. He likely doesn't know you are interested. I have found this out the hard way. DOC
---Macon on 3/12/16


I believe that if any man in general is interested in a woman will find a way to make his interest known, it is by his inner nature alone that he would rather not let the object of his interest get away, much less go to a better man. if he cannot find the courage to do this in some shape or fashion, i believe this man is also lacking charachter skills in other very important erias. as far as this term, desperation, I beleive this term is widly missused and poorly judged by selfish, world loving people. we were made for a pure loving relationship from the very beginning, and I believe it is only our sin nature that is repulsed by the reality of this fact.
---lisa on 4/30/09




Rhonda::I have disagreed on you for many other things but on this You are right on the button,you had a grandfather after my own heart.A man should be given just a trace of the perfume.Not the whole ball of wax,or bottle.Blessings.:-)
---Emcee on 6/13/08


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my grandfather told me in my early teens don't ever be foolish to chase boys now because you will be a damned women chasing men later

men lead ...if you seek out a man letting him know you're interested he hasn't led he's been led

he will be flattered accepting your advances and maybe stick around for a while ...if he stays and you remain together for how long will you wait for him to ask you to marry him
---Rhonda on 6/12/08


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Or will you seek him out again asking him to marry you? because it is unlikely a man who was pursued will be the man to drop on his knee and propose

although I'm sure many have ....a good christian women WAITS for God to SEND a man
---Rhonda on 6/12/08


Whew! My dear Ralph, I bet the women are lining up for miles outside your door to get a taste of your charms! :D
---Mary on 6/12/08


I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, her hands as bands. He who pleases God shall escape from her, but the sinner shall be taken by her.

My soul seeks, but I find not: One man among a thousand have I found, but a woman among those I have not found.
-Ecclesiastes.
---ralph7477 on 6/12/08




I say a big NO! Why would it be wrong? Give me one good reason. After all, who isn't desperate?
---james on 6/11/08


In days of Yore when knights were GallantThe lady always accidentlly dropped Her kerchief.Things have changed they use Kleenex!!hence No Takers!or Pickeruppers its Garbage and littering to boot.So the lady has to invent.Alls fair in love and war may the best man win.
---Emcee on 6/11/08


In days of Yore when knights were GallantThe lady always accidentally dropped Her kerchief.Things have changed they use Kleenex!!hence No Takers!or Pickeruppers its Garbage and littering to boot.So the lady has to invent.Alls fair in love and war may the best man win."Man should not live alone"Gen2:18
---Emcee on 6/11/08


Hi Muffin:

I do not know whether it is wrong or right for a christian woman to approach a man in whom she has interest. What I do know is that I, as a male, feel enormously blessed when another person, of any gender, shows interest in me.

Additionally, every decision we make, as Believers, may not be simply wrong or right. The question may be, in some cases, is the decision appropraite?
---Janze on 6/11/08


a woman approaching a man does not mean she is being desperate. it means it is a start of a relationship. and christianity does not teach relationship but always pointing to sin. christians always judge & make pre conceived opinions about issues of life. they make things more complicated.
---mike on 6/10/08


To throw a sprat to catch a mackrel is an old saying. Is often employed by the Fairer gender, in the most subtlest way taught by instinct,hence the saying "Come into my Parlour said the spider to the Fly--OH MY!"even the bible advocates "SEEK and YOU will find."This is a common theme for discussion after YOU GET YOUR MAN.!
---Emcee on 6/10/08


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I would not, to be honest with you. I would wait for him to approach me. Anyhow, You are suppose to have your eyes on the Lord thy God, and not on a man, or the men.
---catherine on 6/10/08


He that finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor in the Lord. God will position you to be found. Let us not do this on our own, that's when we go wrong.
---Tiffanys on 6/9/08


He that finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor in the Lord. God will position you to be found. Let us not do this on our own, that's when we go wrong.
---Tiffanys on 6/9/08


It's not wrong. You have to start somehow. How about some eye contact and a few smiles. It's the first way to show you are attracted without being too forward. If you get some back then away you go. Have fun!
---john on 5/12/08


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As a man I can tell you that men are attracted to woman physically and don't let any of these
holy men tell you a different story. If this man is not really coming around he is either shy or he is not interested, or he thinks there is no way you would be interested in him. I would not be to pushy cause that is a turn off for a lot of men. But try to find ways of getting close so a bond can be made and that uncomfortable thing is not there anymore. And pray about it.
---exzucuh on 8/7/07


Muffin . . . I've seen how couples who are successful together each have their own unique way of communicating with each other and understanding things together. So, in case he's your man, perhaps you would enjoy discovering with him how you and he would enjoy handling this.

No need to hurry this, if God means it to last. Just enjoy getting to know him and discovering how you two prayerfully find your way to do things together.
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/7/07


There is nothing wrong with having an interest in a man if you are a Christian. The sin comes in if get out of control with the Lust,sex etc....before marriage. Otherwise, if a good Christian man is available, why not invite him out for coffee at a nice restaurant near your home? Or his. If he is interested he will let you know. If things progress you might want to invite him over for dinner sometimes. Or he may invite you out or over to his home.
---Robyn on 8/7/07


No matter how 'Godly' you are or aren't, I do know everyone on earth born of flesh and blood spend 100% of their time here in these 'earthen vessels', loosen up. No one, No one save the second Adam was more Godly than the 1st Adam [before enticed by Eve to sin (a lesson here)], yet he was lonely [Gen.2:18, no one to identify in the earthly realm with, any way you put it! Phil.4:19 (need!)]. I don't know the circumstances, but "better to marry than to burn/sin"!
---bob_[Elishama]_6749 on 8/6/07


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Read the Book of Ruth. Especially chapter 2 and 3, but since we are not Jewish, and not all men are good Christians, you should not do exactly what Ruth did. But Naomi encouraged her widowed daughterinlaw, Ruth, to go after and win Boaz, the most eligible bachelor in Naomi's family. And Ruth did as her motherinlaw instructed and won her man.
---lorra8574 on 3/13/07


No it isn't wrong. Just go up and talk to him. You may have alot of things in common, and it could lead into a long lasting relationship.
---Rebecca_D on 3/13/07


Rather be desperate for Jesus, He won't leave you, break your heart, cheat and lie on you.
---anon on 3/10/07


Perhaps it's a cultural thing - who chases who - but many years ago I was told by someone who knew that I liked a certain young man rather a lot, that 'Any man who allows himself to be caught by a woman isn't worth catching.' In other words, leave the men do the chasing. That might sound very old fashioned these days but it certainly proved true in the case I've related.
---emg on 1/25/06


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There's an old saying that goes, "He chased her until she caught him." You can ask him out. (That's now accepted in our culture.) Let it be known that you are interested in him, to other women. It's true that one of the best forms of communication is to tell another woman, so let it be known to others you are interested in him. (That may read like it's a sexist statement, but it is true.) Go to functions where he will be. Be attractive but not an attraction in you behavior and dress.
---WIVV on 1/24/06


A nice smile, and cheery hello is always welcome. Let your light shine with your attitude and demeaner.
Or perhaps you could engage the help of another member of the church to introduce you to him. Just be yourself. He may already have noticed you too.
So many Godly women such as yourself want to meet Godly men. Some are shy, some have been hurt and are afraid. Pray, and trust yourself. You'll be fine.
God Bless
---shara on 1/24/06


The direct approach isn't always easy or "lady-like". Believe me it isn't always easy for men either. Sometimes getting a mutual acquaintence to introduce you or have both of you over for dinner or study. Get to know each other as sister and brother in the Lord. The rest will take care of itself whether positive or not it will work out for the best.
---mikefl on 1/24/06


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