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Ten Years Older Than Mate

Is a ten years age difference too much for marriage?

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It really depends on how old you are now. If you are 15 and he is 25, that's too much of an age difference. However, if you are 50 and he is 65, that's different. ( At the older age, both have experienced life's challenges, probably raised a family, etc.) While the difference in the number of years is the same, the ratio in proportion to the number of years of living is different.
---WIVV on 1/27/08


Ah, this brings back memories for me--good and bad. My second husband (now my ex)was almost 11 years my senior, yet our ages had nothing to do with our split. I was more in love with him than anybody else; even yesterday I got weak-kneed when I saw someone that I thought might be him! :) There is no age on real love. :)
---Mary on 6/20/07


Not at all. If you love each other.
---catherine on 6/20/07


While I personally do not want to marry someone with that much of an age difference than me, I do not see anything wrong with it if the couple has no problem with it and God has brought them together. I am sure if you look down through the ages that age was not always a factor in marriage.
---maryj9396 on 6/20/07


I agree with angea. I was 20 when I met my present husband who was 28 at the time. He knew it was wrong and lied to me about his age. He was more manipulative than most 20 year old guys my age. I wasn't prepared for the games he played. It has caused a lot of problems in our marriage. I feel like I was preyed upon.
---sherry on 6/19/07




I don't think it is right if you are around the ages of 15 to 19 and the other person is 25 to 29. My parents wouldn't let me do that at that age. But i think that once you get 21 and older that it shouldn't matter to much then. But i think you and that person should pray about it to be sure that it is the Lord's will for you both to be together. If it is the Lord's will,then it will work out fine. The Lord will let you know when it is the right person. Just trust God and pray about it.
---angea on 1/30/06


I think it depends on what age you and that person is. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 35. I never dated until i met him,when i was 23. I prayed for the Lord to send me someone and the Lord sent me him.We both know we are meant for each other. I think if it is the one the Lord has for you it will work out. Me and my boyfriend we don't even notice the age difference at all.And we been together two years and three months now.
---angea on 1/30/06


My point exactly PM .. When I am 80, needing a fair amount of care, maybe, and definitely with limited mobilty. my wife of 65 would have to look after me. NOT FAIR
---alan8869_of_UK on 1/30/06


No, ten years is not too much of a age difference. My wife is 18 years younger than I am. We both prayed a long time for God to show us the person He had for us to marry. God gave me this womderful woman, whom I have promised to love, honor and cherish.
---joe on 1/30/06


I agree that it really depends on how old you are. If you are 20 and your couple is 30, will not be the same as if you are 35 and he is 45.
---Alex on 1/30/06




Alan at 65 I find it difficult to look after an elderly parent. Problem is, when help is there (me) the authorities offer very little. A couple of similar age reaching their 80s or more will probably be either in a home together being cared for professionally or in their own home with regular care provided from an outside authority. The big age difference can create problems that we do not anticipate when younger. Our generation used to be considered 'old'. We are now often the carers of the really old.
---p.m. on 1/30/06


I, at 65, would love a wife 15 years younger than me. But, consider this, when she was 65, she would be caring for a man of 80. I wonder if that would be fair on her?
---alan8869_of_UK on 1/29/06


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