Divorces Three Times
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Unless you are interested in him do nothing at all. If you are then you need to find out whether he actually has been divorced 3 times or widowed 3 times because, I would guess, that will make a huge difference. Three divorces would set many alarm bells ringing. Most importantly though, is he a Christian and, if divorced, was he a Christian at the time of any divorce? If so you'd need to know why the divorce/s took place. |
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---M.P. on 2/27/08 |
Don't ask any questions. Leave running fast as your feet will take you. He is going to lie to you. You will never know the truth. He will definitely say it was THEIR fault. Of course it was...it always is/ We never like to fess up to our mistakes. Now do we? Get out of there quick unless you want to be Missus #4. It gets worse. You can't change him ,hon. |
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---Robyn on 6/7/07 |
I think I know that guy, he begged and teased me to marry him and his girlfriend, he had been divorced twice already but of course that wasn't HIS fault, well, someone did their wedding, and guess what they lasted 6 months.
I know of a few Godly, loving, single guys that would love a to meet a good Christian girl. Avoid problems and seek GOD"S best . please |
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---Jim on 6/7/07 |
That's a rough marriage history. Three times already and you may be the fourth. The message right now is look closer, just in case. He may just have a perplexing case of bad judgment, On the other hand he may be a misogynist, a narcissist, or an addict. In which case betrayal of your love waits just beyond the horizon. |
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---jhonny on 6/7/07 |
I am going through a divorce with a man who has been married two times before me. I knew the 'other women' had issues but I realized after several years, he has deep-rooted, very serious issues. He will not come to the realization he needs to change. It's sad, I was very in love with him. He's going to lose me for good. |
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---Someone on 6/6/07 |
First I suggest you find out what happened to his first three marriages. Then ask youself why you might want to marry him. Don't marry just to get married. Have you been married before? |
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---alan8869_of_UK on 3/15/07 |
You can't judge someone by their past. that is all people do now, is judge someone because of their past. I was divorced and so wasn't my husband, before we got married to eachother. His past is his past, and vice versa. If you love him and he loves you and you both want to get married, then get married. If we let the past interfer with our relationships then no one would be together. |
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---Rebecca_D on 7/10/06 |
Are you going to be the fourth divorce if you marry him? |
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---Helen_5378 on 7/10/06 |
I married a man who also was married three times before. He claims he never wanted divorce from any of them but due to circumstances...We split up and then got back together and now after 1 month he tells me he wants a divorce. I am devistated and am glad that there is someone whose marriage did work in spite of the prior marriages. God can do it if both partners are willing. |
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---Just_Wondering on 7/10/06 |
Alan,
That reminds me about the man who lost his third wife. Somone was remarking how sad that was and inquired what happened to the first wife.
"She ate poision mushrooms." was the reply.
"How sad, what about the second wife?"
"She ate poision mushrooms too."
"Really, what a terrible coincidence! What about your third wife?"
"She woulden't eat her mushrooms..." |
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---Bruce5656 on 2/7/06 |
Alan, I knew someone would say that as soon as I typed the words!! |
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---M.P. on 2/7/06 |
As a man who married and divorced 3 times before I was saved, I will tell you that it is possible, by the grace of God, for that person to be the most faithful husband you could have. I would pray earnestly about this marriage, though, as it is difficult enough to stay together today. My 4th wife and I will be celebrating our 10th anniversary on the 10th of Feb. As far as Ralph's comment about issues, we ALL have issues, we just have to realize that it is all about God's grace. |
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---tommy3007 on 2/7/06 |
Nellah ... that is so sad. Would you not marry a good man? |
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---alan8869_of_UK on 2/7/06 |
MP "Three divorces would set many alarm bells ringing" So too, I should think, would 3 widowhoods. |
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---alan8869_of_UK on 2/7/06 |
depends on when these divorces took place. After he was saved, or before? My best friends are a couple who have been married for 22 yrs. Her first marriage, his third. He was a main line herroine addict for yrs between the time he got home from Viet Nam and when he got saved. His 3 marriages happened during that time. God gloriously saved and delivered him and brought him into Becky's life. What God has called clean, we are not to call unclean the word says |
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---anonymous on 2/6/06 |
Don't even waste your time considering it. A man who wants to get married for a fourth time has some issues. |
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---ralph7477 on 2/6/06 |
Trying some Christian counseling but don't be surprised if this man refuses. He has issues. Before I became a Christian, I had been divorced three times also. I married three men who were verbally/emotionally abusive to me ... I was reared in a family with an abusive alcoholic Daddy, hence my choices for men. Since becoming a Christian has healed me. I don't think I'll marry again. I'm 56 and set in my ways! |
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---Nellah on 2/6/06 |
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