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Biblical Stand On Divorce

What is the stand of the bible about divorce? Is there a text in the bible allowing us to get divorce? I am confused, please enlighten me.

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Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer, and anyone marrying one, is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Matthew 19:9, 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09


The OT allowed divorce, Yes it was due to hardness of heart, but it was permitted and regulated. Many of the laws regarding divorce were there to protect the women from false accusation.

If God DOES hate divorce, and if remarriage (except for widowhood) was forbidden in God's sight, why did he not simply say "Thou shalt not divorce, deal with it" and "Thou shalt not remarry, unless thy husband or wife is dead" with the same simple clarity and unambiguous nature as "thou shalt not murder" or "thou shalt not steal" or thou shalt not eat lobster or pork". Admitteldy, it is an argument from silence, but I believe it is a valid question.
---Travis on 9/28/08


Marriage and divorce in our modern culture is very convoluted. First a man and woman must be truly married in the biblical sense before a divorce can happen. It is not the government documents that determine it. A man and woman can be legally married and still be in sin. They must become "one" as it is written. If they are one heart and soul, standing biblically married, then the laws of marriage apply. Proverbs 19:13, 20:25, and 21:9 paint a picture of the un biblical marriage. It was men's "hardened hearts"(Mat.19:8) as Jesus said that convoluted marriage as God intended.
---AWat on 8/17/08


No divorce is not permitted except for fornication Matt 19:9.
---Carla5754 on 5/16/08


Well Here are some references from Naves Topical Bible on Divorce: Exodus 21:7-11; Deut. 21:10-14; Deut. 24:1-4; Ezra 10:1-16; Neh. 13:23-30; Jeremiah 3:1; Micah 2:9; Malachi 2:14-16; Matthew 5:31-32; Matthew 19:3-12; Mark 10:2; Luke 16:18; 1 Cor. 7:10-17; Esther 1:10-22; Isaiah 50:1; Isaiah 54:4; Jeremiah 3:8
---Phil_the_Elder on 5/13/08




The bible is against divorce, but it is also against other sins as well. There is forgiveness for all sin. I am always amazed how other sin can get forgiveness but divorce seems to be an unforgiven sin by some. God forgives. Man most of the time don't.
---shira on 8/16/07


Were you married in a church? Regardless, of whether you pretended to be Christians or not, Christ defined marriage as two leaving their parents and coming together as one. So two virgins coming together is marriage, and "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth", "But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled." Nowhere does it say give up, keep praying and seeking the Lord. Stay in the Word.
---Porter on 2/17/07


I just signed a marriage certificate but never stood in front of a minister and exchanged vows with friend of 30 yrs whom was in prison. I filed for divorce 2002 he was released and filed his own papers in 8/31/2005 neither one of us finished process my paperwork was missing 1 doc,never got around to resubmitting. He has recently married about 8 months ago. My question aren't we still married? Never received final decree of dissolution. What do I do?
---Tina on 2/17/07


The church is not governend by your mis interpertation of Re- Marriage or we would all be writing a blogg stating, Why can I not be married in the sight of God since I re-married following Lee's advise but In Matthew 19 it actually states that except for Fornication I will commit Adultery if I re-marry !
---Carla5754 on 2/15/07


To daphn8897, How do you know they hadn't already killed the man? It don't say.
---Thomas on 3/19/06




Thomas, "They wanted to kill her because the law called for it." Yes and no. They were only following the law partly... where was the man? and why were they not stoning him as well? There were deeper issues here than Jesus' forgiving her (though that itself is a marvelous wonder). The greater sin He was dealing with was the deceitful hearts of her accusers - who used the law for their own purposes/agendas.
---daphn8897 on 3/17/06


divorce was permitted under the Mosaic Law - Deut.24.1 and even God was guilty of divorce as He divorced Israel on the grounds of adultery - Jer. 3:8

the NT divorce was permitted on grounds of unfaithfulness - Mt. 19 and even Joseph considered divorcing Mary after he learned she was with child - Mt. 1:19.

Paul implies that divorce and re-marriage was permitted if the unbeliever deserts - 1 Cor. 7:15.

Historically, the church has claimed authority to grant divorce and re-marriage.
---lee on 3/16/06


Ralph, "The causes of divorce are rooted in immaturity and selfishness. Too many people retain these qualities even after becoming Christians." Don't be shocked now... I actually pretty much agree with you. In the USA especially, we are not taught that committment means work. Nor are we taught to defer to one another or to place the needs of others first - unfortunately even in the church.
---daphn8897 on 3/16/06


Many christians doom divorced people to hell because they KNOW God's will. Do you think PAUL was a man of God? Read what he wrote about it. Do you believe God joins every couple in marriage? I am glad that GOD is my judge and not man. Judge not or you may be judged. Christians are free to ponder these questions but it for sure we don't know how God will judge any particular person. When the woman was caught in adultry, they wanted to kill her because the law called for it, but Jesus forgave her.
---Thomas on 3/16/06


See Matthew 19:8, 1 Corinthians 7:15 and related verses. As Bruce mentions, the main "issue" most often discussed is about remarriage after divorce, i.e., is the divorced person "free" to remarry or is it best to remain unmarried unless reconciled to the former partner. See Romans 7:1-3, Matthew 5:32 & 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18, etc. It boils down to the question of how one relates to the authority of scripture. Do we want to know His will or to do just what we desire to do?
---Wayne87 on 2/10/06


Ultimately I dont believe the Word gives allowance for it. When teaching on divorce Jesus said that Moses allowed adultry as the reason because of a "hardness of heart". Jesus did say adultry was the only ground but there is still the hard heart issue. We commit spiritual adultry on God, yet He always invites us back. Mercy? Grace? Love?
---douglas on 2/8/06


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To figure out why the divorce rate among Christians is so high, one only has to spend some time reading through the various blogs on this site. Two people who call themselves Christian can be just as unequally yoked as a believer with a non-believer. The causes of divorce are rooted in immaturity and selfishness. Too many people retain these qualities even after becoming Christians.
---ralph7477 on 2/8/06


The divorce rate among christians were relatively high compared to non-christian believer. Why is this so? What is the main reason.
---celer5375 on 2/8/06


Divorce is many times the result of another sin rather than a sin in itself. It seems like many Christians, in trying to forgive a divorce, are also forgetting and pretending that the divorce never happened. This is very troubling when the divorce is not biblical and Christians go out of their way to participate in, and support an unbiblically divorced person in a second or third marriage.
---ralph7477 on 2/7/06


M.A. -- I believe there is another biblical reason for divorce. It is abandonement. Scripture says that if the unbeliever leaves the believer, the believer is no longer bound (I am paraphrasing). This is the situation I am currently in. My spouse left me 9 months ago (he is not a believer and I am one). I have struggled with the decision of divorce, but now I believe I will be forgiven.
---Shanah on 2/7/06


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Shira,
The issue in divorce is not forgivness, it is the dissagreement as to the status of an individual following divorce. The fact that Jesus said that following divorce if one remarried they would be committing adultery indicates the fact that while divorced (a civil procedure) they remain (in God's eyes) one flesh - not available for remarriage.
---Bruce5656 on 2/7/06


Adultery is the only reason that the bible gives for acceptable divorce. But even if divorce takes place because of adultery we should still forgive as Christ has forgiven us of all our sins.
---M.A. on 2/7/06


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