Adultery Wife Wants Back
If your wife commits adultery, divorces you, marries the one she commits adultery with, then realizes that she has sinned, repents and wants to get out of this adulterous relationship and return to you, what does God say about this?
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---Mike8889 on 2/9/06
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It's good to remember that repentance is not tears and wailing and begging forgiveness. Simple regret or fear of consequences can easily produce these.
Repentance is seeing the horrible impact of one's sin(s) upon others and upon the Savior who gave His life to save us. It is a strong determination NEVER to repeat that hurtful behavior or attitude.
---Donna66 on 8/26/09|
God is a forgiving God.he forgives us for all of our sins if and we ask for his forgivness
---joann on 8/26/09|
What you do before god forgives your sins and you receive salvation is forgiven because those things he remembers no more. Was she supposed to be a Christian when she was married to you? You were not clear on that. If you are a born again christian there may be a problem if you take her back again because she has another living husband and so what does that mean to your salvation? If she divorced him and repented of her sins then it's probably OK. If she repented when she was or is still married to him then she will be committing a sin if he has done nothing to wrong her EI..adultery.
---Rhonda on 8/26/09|
I know God would have a lot to say about this.
The lady (?) doesn't seem to really feel sorry for her sin. If she did, I doubt she'd have the nerve to ask you to take her back....nor do I think she cares for the man she's married to... but now is willing to leave because of her "past sin". I think she is confused, and most of all selfish.
What she deserves is to have both you and the other guy leave her in the dust.
You must forgive her. You could take her back. But I think it would be a colossal mistake to take her back. If you do, you will regret it and she will learn nothing.
---Donna66 on 8/24/09|
I don't get it. After adultery,divorce and marrying someone else she "realizes" that she sinned and now wants back? Or does she now "realize" that life was better with you and wants back in? The faithful spouse is always made out to be the bad guy. I don't know what I would do but It would be challenging to trust her again.
---Michael on 8/23/09|
Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer, and anyone marrying one, is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Matthew 19:9, 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage. Read Deuteronomy 24:1-4!
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09|
Please read Deuteronomy 24 verses 1 to 4 for clarification on this subject.
---RitaH on 2/3/08|
Mike, I believe that God will deal with everyone differently. No one case for God is the same for every marriage has its differences. Sin always bring consequences and many get hurt through sin, Even Christians. No one knows what is ahead for her and for you but God. God knows her heart and how resentful she is and knows even what your motive was to put the question to others. Only He knows how He will answer. We can only give our opinions but cannot speak for God.
---Lupe2618 on 2/2/08|
There are scriptures that speak directly to the Jews and speak against taking back a spouce that has committed Adultery, I think if a man loves his Xwife and can find it in his heart to take her back more power to him. I really have no, experience but I would find it very difficult indeed. It. can be tough if you still love the person.
---Carla5754 on 11/15/06|
[What Would Hosea Do?]
---Reiter on 11/15/06|
Its a big mess and ought not to happen. A person doesn't fall into this kind of sin just like that. Its a process and happens only when you give sustenance to it. It takes a lot of character to be pure. If my wife was a non christian at her mistake then I might as well accept her if she turned to Christ as she would be a new creature.
---Aurunoday on 3/4/06|
Did she realize that she has sinned or is it that she didn't like her second husband? I personally would not take her back.
---A_Catholic on 3/4/06|
Jeremiah 3:1 repeats what Rebecca shared showing that it would greatly pollute the land. Yet God shows that He longs for His wayward wife (Israel & Judah) to return to Him. God wants to protect us from unhappiness so He gives us rules to follow. Yet there is no sin that He cannot and will not forgive if repented of. The danger is that if we do it on purpose, then we may never desire nor choose to come to Him that we might have life again.
---Wayne87 on 2/10/06|
For me I wouldn't take this person back. A person has one chance to burn me, after that, that's it. I wouldn't let it happen again. It says in the bible that a husband/wife can't go back to one another after their divorced. De 24:3-4. I think it would be foolish spiritualy and mentally, if the husband takes this wife back. If this man goes back to his first wife, he won't be happy because he wouldn't be able to trust that person.
---Rebecca_D on 2/10/06|
Becky ... it would be great if you could write in normal language, and not use text- speak. as that is very difficult for us oldies to understand. Thanks
---alan8869_of_UK on 2/10/06|
first god says u go out on your marriage u have rights for a divorce. god says u have your own wife. if she married again she not your wife go on god will find u a wife.....
---BECKY on 2/9/06|
The Bible, OT, has verses against anyone who has divorced getting remarried to the exspouse if that spouse has been married to someone else. Is the wife someone to take a chance on ? Will she do it again? She well may if you let her do as she pleases running from one of you to the other. What she realized is she had a better life with you and she wants out of a bad deal with this new husband.She knew she sinned when she did it. Pray hard for God's leading before you do something you may regret.
---Darlene_1 on 2/9/06|
'What does God say about this?' Well, I've forgotten where it says it other than to say O.T. but the bible states that after divorce one should not remarry their original spouse if they have been married to someone else in between, which happens to be the case here. If I can find the bible reference I'll come back on this but someone else might know where it is in the meantime.
---M.A. on 2/9/06|
2. In my opinion, it is a big mess and I would say, as for you, keep your relationship with Christ as close as you can, and worry about your life and what you have to do that is right. You cannot control her life and make things work your way. Only God can change a persons heart. But you can work on your own relationship with Him by learning from Him and let Him take care of matters and in the end you will see the results of His work.
---Lupe2618 on 2/9/06|