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Only Non-Christians Want Me

I always wanted to be married but the men who court me are not christians, shall I stay single forever just because I don't want to be "unequally yoked with unbelievers?"

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 ---crist7943 on 3/7/06
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It only takes ONE guy for a really right marriage. THE one who is for you is all you need to find. I'd say, then, you don't need to window shop. "Don't shop while you're hungry," they say to ones who have eating control trouble; because if you shop while desperate for food, this can impair your good judgement. It's like this in finding who you really belong with > patience is virtuous and virgin.
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/9/07

"For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body." (Ephesians 5:23)

We need all our different brothers and sisters; so in marriage we need to balance our marrital love relating with relating in love with all the others we need > not get isolated, not put all our eggs into one basket > a Christian brother as your head can make sure you get fulfilled in sharing with all the different people you need.
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/9/07

These have been very good and caring things people have shared here, I'd say. Thank you!!!

If you want a real love relationship with a brother who is suitable to be your head and who will cherish and appreciate and admire you >

"'I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
By the gazelles or by the does of the field,
Do not stir up nor awaken love
Until it pleases.'" (Song of Solomon 3:5)

Don't push > let love develop.
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/9/07

Yes, stay single please if it means marrying an unbeliever. You are asking for major problems if you become unequally yoked together. I cannot believe that if you are a Christion that you would even be in company with unbelievers. Aren't you afraid something that they have may rub off on you? Unfortunately, usually the bad rubs off on the good instead of the other way around. God, has gotten in my face too many times on this very issues.
---catherine on 5/8/07

All may seem harmless at first while the butterflies are fluttering there wings above, Your out on a date, swimming with the dolphins, after the marriage you can find yourself no longer swimming with the dolphins, but walking on stingrays, and jellyfish and swimming with the sharks.
---Cynthia_1 on 5/8/07

Totally agree with the moderator...been there, you have to surround yourself with God's people, while examining yourself & trying the spirits. Some Christians might find it exciting to court with non-believers, be careful, there's an element of lukewarmness that goes with that, the enemy will try to "set you up"...don't fall for it, if you do, you will regret it. (Eph. 5:15-17). God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 5/8/07

You have to seek God on this issue. God tells us in His Word to be equally yoked. There is a very good reason for that warning. If you want to go ahead and be disobedient, to God's warning. It's your choice! You could live to regret marrying an unsaved man. I have. But I am going to wait on the Lord to deliver me and I will not ever do that again!
---Robyn on 5/7/07

Don't be tempted! If you married a non-Christian, how would you cope with knowing that the man you love is not going to heaven?
---alan8869_of on 5/7/07

There's also a great book out from Sovereign Grace Ministries entitled "The Rich Single Life," by Andy Farmer. Andy is the singles pastor at Covenant Fellowship Church in Glen Mills, PA. I would highly recommend this resource to any single believer, whether never married, divorced, or widowed. You can find it on the ministry's website, and on many churches book tables.
---daphn8897 on 3/9/06

Amen! Thanks, Bruce! It blessed me all over again, it's so edifying.

Crist7943, I recommend that you read this several times a day and really let the words settle in your mind and your heart. Also spend some time studying passages in the Bible that speak of God's love for His children. Psalm 103:8-18 is a good place to start. Purposely spend time getting your mind off marriage and men and onto the Lord and allow Him to transform you into the beautiful, confident woman He created you to be.
---DoryLory on 3/8/06

Ok DoryLory, here goes:
I do not know the author of this and I had forgotten that it was DoryLory that sent it to me. I was thinking I got it from my daughter

Single & Saved
- Author Unknown

What makes you think that just because I am an attractive woman of Godly intelligence, that I'm incomplete without a mate? Who told you that without a man something's missing from my life? And if so, what would that be?
---Bruce5656 on 3/8/06

I love myself and more importantly I love the Lord. He told me that when I delight in Him, He will give me the desires of my heart.

I have everything I need according to His riches in glory.

Now, how's a man going to get to know me when he doesn't even know who he is in the Lord? See my Father told me I'm above a ruby's worth and a gem does not seek it is sought.
---Bruce5656 on 3/8/06

I'm single and that's all right with me.

See, it's not that I oppose relationships; it's that I detest co-dependency. As a woman I know it is not my role to chase after any man. Esther 2:14 reads that I am to wait on my king and when he's delighted in me, he will call me by my name.
---Bruce5656 on 3/8/06

My Lord does not intend for me to be needy or desperate. I am to be cherished, relished, valued, and honored. It's not my job to convince him or convict him of that. My mate will already know it and consistently show it and he will stay on his knees daily not just to adore me, but to praise the Lord for the virtuous woman he has found.
---Bruce5656 on 3/8/06

So, when you see me by myself, I'm not alone. I know what I have coming to me.

I'm single and saved, and right now that's all I need to be!
---Bruce5656 on 3/8/06

Bruce, if this is the one I sent you a while ago, it's only 300 words. Why don't you post it? Then everyone will will be blessed by it. It really is a motivating piece.
---DoryLory on 3/8/06

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I have a wonderful article I would like to send you called Saved and Single. Since you have a ChristiaNet profile, I will send you a message there and if you care to respond, I will send the article to you.
---Bruce5656 on 3/7/06

3. of six single sisters out to lunch and I would pay for everything. The next week another six. I tried to be fair. after a couple of weeks a few brothers joined in and now we were a group and everyone talking to everyone. It worked great. Think of something or someway everyone can talk. In a picnic and join together.
---Lupe2618 on 3/7/06

2. The women at my church were too conservative. Like they were hiding or something. I have never had trouble talking to women and yet there it was different and maybe because everyone knows everyone and they are afraid people will talk. You see, if you take someone out to lunch, people know, and later you might take out someone else and people will begin to talk. What I did to solve that problem, each Sunday after church
---Lupe2618 on 3/7/06

I would say to get involve also as the moderator, in activities that are Christian. When I say Christian activities I mean not just your church. Sometimes the church we attend is small and you know everyone and no one makes a move. Get involve in all Christian functions. You will meet some great guys there. Make friends. At my church there was over fourty single women and maybe three single guys, but they all kept to themselves and hardly wanted to talk or be friends.
---Lupe2618 on 3/7/06

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