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Long Distance Love

I have talking to someone on the telephone for four months and he says he loves me. I love him. Is is alright?

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Not really! Most long distance relationships - that start only from a long distance relationship - very seldom work out. Why? The mind builds up a character in the mind that may not exist. When you finally do meet, there is disapointment since the persons you thought up in your mind is not the person you see. Meeting this person is a possibility, but to be in love is very doubtful at this stage.
---WIVV on 2/22/08


You love him? What makes you think that? Sounds like wishful thinking to me.
---alan_of_uK on 5/27/07


5. We're basically all seeking the same thing. To be loved and accepted for we are, and hope to find others we can feel the same about.
Honesty and integrity seems to be at an all time low.
I've forgiven him, but I'll remember it always:) I still speak with some of the women
Ask God for guidance, in this day we need all the help we can get fron Him. He loves us first, and always, and all He ask's is that we love Him back, and TRUST Him. There is a little voice, you'll know it when you hear it
---lynet on 7/13/06


4. He had met some of their families, ministers, and interacted with friends and relatives, and some like me were dealt with through the net. He is not who he said he was, he is a deciever. He is not a licensed minister, has no ministry, no degrees, no significant military past, and no real job. I began researching this before he was caught in his deciet.
I'm certain many of the same women including myself would have accepted him as him, If he had presented himself as who he is.
---lynet on 7/13/06


lynet, unfortunately those things happen to nice people, and I am sorry that people can be so misleading. I had many that were not truthful. When God enters and speaks to you about the person you are talking to, it makes all of the difference. Not just the words these people are spouting off, then there is most definitely a difference. Pray about your feelings, and God will speak to you if you stay quiet long enough to hear Him.
---Dottie on 7/13/06




3. He left a notebook at a womans house. When she found it. she found his real number. She took off the ring, cried for a month, compiled the addresses and sent a note. There were at least 300. She felt we should know.
I was shocked, I recieved mail from women all over the world. I had to request that I be given time to process the situation.
He was married to more than one woman, engaged to at least 20. I spoke with wonmen who were planning weddings, making major purchases.
---lynet on 7/13/06


2. I was pleased, but, because I never met him, or spoke to him, my focus, was to meet him. I thought we'd build a relationship, and possibly be married some day. He claimed his ministries over seas, etc to took up much of his time.
One evening on his supposed church website rather than the usual greetings and testimonies, there were letters from women all over the world (literally), telling of how he had sent letters, poems, pictures, asked for/recieved money, had intimate relations, etc with them.
---lynet on 7/13/06


Having a relationship on line is a personal choice.
THIS IS NOT A INDICTMENT OF ALL ONLINE DATING
Everyone's experience is unique, mine as well.
As a member of Christianet for two years, I've spoken with two guys by phone, I also corresponded with a person who stated he was a Dr., a minister, held several degrees, was in the military, and more.
He wrote sent poems, and pictures daily and wrote asking that I not end it, when I wanted to, and instead be his princess of life.
---lynet on 7/13/06


Jazzmine::"I love him, he is all right? "Dosent sound very enthusiastic.Long distance acquaintances should start as friendships,gradually developing into a firmer bond.The grounds for a relationship should mature over time, given the correct atmosphere.Commitment is final.Remember Fools rush in where angels dare to tread.
---Emcee on 7/13/06


I would have said something different 3 years ago if I had been asked this question, but today I have to say that if God is involved in your confession of love to one another then it may have been destined for you to be one. My husband and I knew in three days that God brought us together, and His hand was guiding us. But if you do not feel the hand of God guiding you both then "no" love is not possible over the phone or Internet. But with God, I say oh my "yes".
---Dottie on 7/13/06




I say love is impossible before meeting. You may love the idea. I thought I loved my phone "boyfriend" of 4 months but it was never said. We met last week. It was great but not as great as the phone. Still a strong connection,we want it to work and are taking it one day at a time. See the way he interacts with you & if he looks in your eyes, see how he acts around friends/family and TAKE IT SLOW. Don't fall for "love is blind". It could work!
---angela on 7/13/06


Jazzmine: Be very careful. You may like the tone of his voice. You may like the topic you talked about. You may be are in love with the idea of love. Courtship without you both facing each other is a very dangerous ground to play with. Do not be carried away by your own emotions. Let the head that stands in your shoulders rule!
---Linda6546 on 3/28/06


We had a 1-year, 300 miles apart, distant relationship. We married one year ago. We saw each other 2 x monthly, talked on phone or I.M. every day. We met each others' friends, family, jobs, etc. And mostly, we prayed a lot. It does work, but you've got to work it.
---Tammy on 3/15/06


If the phone relationship is taken very seriously and both are honest with each other, there is a good chance that such relationship can work out for both.

Talk about your goods and bads so you'll get to know each other well. Don't tell each other you're calm if you have a rotten temper - just be honest.
---A_Catholic on 3/15/06


Jasmine, did u find him in internet chatting? If so, be very cautious with the person ur talking with over the phone. He may say many sweet things but most of the time they aren't serious not unless u will meet and discover oneself. Above all, seek GOD's guidance whatever your plans, may it will be according to his will. GOD Bless!
---celer5375 on 3/15/06


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