Corporal Punishment OK Teenager
I am 17 years old and have been getting into trouble lately. My father believes that corporal punishment is ok, but my mother and I disagree. When we told him this, he brought out the bible. What do we do?
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---Caitlan on 3/26/06
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corp. punish. ? ok. but how ? bare bottom? maybe you need it . I remember in school , we used to get 6 of the best. I used to put on a half of dozen underpants so I bearly felt it. once a teacher put me over the desk for a spanking and somebody snitched about my underpants ...... oh boy !! he bared my bottom and then put me over the desk and 12 strokes administered |
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---rick on 11/8/09 |
Amen Mark
Alan it is sad
what I saw with my older children was they began to LEARN who to associate themselves with - eventually weeding out friends whose parents used beatings
my childrens correction is missed time with their favorite activities sports etc
...their once-friends who received beatings would attempt to influence my kids with wrong actions they began to understand their friends never evaluated their actions because outcome was always the same - an hour or so of quick fleeting physical pain ...my children THOUGHT about their actions and future consequences unlike those children who are ignored overlooked by their parents getting beat by parents instead of seeking understanding and resolution |
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---Rhonda on 11/7/09 |
Rhonda ... I agree with you completely!
Beating a teenager shows the inadequacy of the adult/parent, and inability to communicate with thier offspring.
What have they been doing these first 12 or more years of their child's life?
Just beating, not talking?
How sad! |
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---alan8566_of_uk on 11/5/09 |
it is not a matter of disagreement it is AGAINST the law
as for Gods Law ...correction by means of spanking is done for young children who are unable to understand completely and quickly forget
older children who are able to COMMUNICATE articulate and comprehend SHOULD be talked to like adults and LEARN LESSONS of wrong behavior by taking away privileges etc ...if getting into trouble usually done by association with WRONG friends - limit or forbid contact with them and activities that lead to "trouble"
there are no lessons learned by BEATING or spanking a child approaching adulthood it is the LAZY parents way so they don't have to monitor |
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---Rhonda on 11/1/09 |
I paddle my stepsons who are 14 and ten and i will continue until they are 18 (unless they leave home). Corporal punishment is discipline and not abuse when fair and legal. I was caned which was brutal. |
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---David on 10/31/09 |
If your father is unable to communicate with you without being physically abusive there's something wrong with him. Tell him that you will call Child Protective Services if he lays a hand on you. |
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---Mark on 10/30/09 |
Caitlan:-Tell your Father to read all the bible not just those parts which say "spare the rod and spoil the child"That is the doctrine of a BULLY not a father.Tell him to read I Cor13:1-13.The greatest commandment is love as Jesus said "Love one another as I have loved You"Respect begets respect.Honour your father and mother is also a commandment.I am sorry to say your dad is going overboard.You are now a young lady and should conduct yourself accordingly,with reserve. |
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---MIC on 12/18/08 |
catherine: "YOUR DAD IS SICK! Now, that is clear."
Is it clear? We don't even know the father.
"Tell your dad to get saved first and then bring out the Bible and the commentaries and the dictionaries don't forget God and then your dad can preach."
You sure do assume a lot. How do we know if the father is a Christian or not?
"Have a good day, my friend."
That's an empty statement. |
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---Steveng on 12/17/08 |
YOUR DAD IS SICK! Now, that is clear. No where in the Bible does God advocate abuse. Tell your dad to get saved first and then bring out the Bible and the commentaries and the dictionaries don't forget God and then your dad can preach. Have a good day, my friend. |
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---catherine on 12/17/08 |
I think that your father has every right to apply corporal punishment because you know that you are doing wrong yet you still get into trouble. I am also a christian and in the bible it is okay for your parent to apply corporal punishment when you step out of line. So yes it is okay for your father to turn to corporal punishment if you hahve been getting in trouble. Maybe you won't get in trouuble. |
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---Mark on 12/16/08 |
catherine" "Tell your dad if he cannot..."
Boy, do you have a warped sense of who should be in control. God does not take into account the age for punishment.
Most parents today are the children/grandchildren of a rebellious culture of the 1960s and 1970s. They trusted such parenting advice as Dr. Spock instead of the Bible. The children today are more rebellious than ever before. Each decade the rebellious children became worse and worse.
Plus, many parents today are immature. They try to be "friends" with their kids. They try to act young thinking they are young, but this is wrong. Children have brought shame on their parents by not learning obedience. |
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---Steveng on 8/5/08 |
Tell your dad if he cannot read but one scripture to put the Bible away. Not only that, but him don't understand scripture. Tell him to ask God if it's okey for him to use corporal punishment which means beating you up. God don't even like for me to hollow at my cats. Are cats more precious than you, to God? |
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---catherine on 8/4/08 |
To the 17 yr. old who asked the question for this blog, perhaps the scriptures shown to you and your mother were in Proverbs. In Proverbs chapter 23, verses 13 & 14 it says "withold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell." In the Hebrew language, the word translated for "beat" means "to strike." I'm sure the Lord wasn't implying to break bones or do serious damage, but since "foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, the rod of correction will drive it far from him" is in Proverbs chapter 22,verse 15, this is a way to give discipline to a child who continues to misbehave. |
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---theresa on 8/4/08 |
Perhaps you could consider becoming a young Adult. Stop getting in trouble and begin to listen to Your father's rules. Then after you're 18 years of age and graduated from high school. You can move out on your own. You might also read the Bible and see where your father is coming from. |
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---mima on 8/2/08 |
Caitlin: I disagree with your father, but since you acknowledge that you are getting into trouble, why not stop misbehaving and do what is right? |
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---Madison on 11/2/07 |
I was about 15 when my dad hit me for some terrible thing that I did! I endured the pain simply because I almost killed my younger brother in my carelessness! That event was never repeated. I respected my father more after that incident. I knew he meant business. I considered that the turning point of my life! |
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---Raine on 3/27/06 |
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth." (Ephesians 6:1-3). If you are like most 17 year olds, you have expectations of a long, good life on the earth. According to this Bible verse it would be in your best interest to honor your parents. This means whether you agree with them or not. The promise is in honoring them. |
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---DoryLory on 3/26/06 |
Caitlan here is the real problem;
Who is the "we" in "What do we do?"
I see a rebellious 17 year old that has got Mom to team up with them against Dad.
Madison asked you a simple question so why don't you do what is right?
If you are wrong it makes no difference how many you "get" on your side. Grow up, ask forgiveness of your parents and take your punishment.
You have put your mother in a bad spot.
Join the Army you will like the discipline there. |
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---Elder on 3/26/06 |
What to do? Obedience is a good start. What kind of trouble have you been into? Drugs? Stay away from them and people who use them. Downhill road. When I was 17 I still got spanked, usually because of disobedience. Corporal punishment? Maybe a trip to the woodshed wouldn't hurt. Always strive to do what's right, even if it means losing a friend. |
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---Nellah on 3/26/06 |
Stop getting into trouble! |
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---eliza4969 on 3/26/06 |
Dear boy, please obey your parents. It is sad that your mother does not support your father on this issue. God tells us to obey our parents and respect them. Why do you get in trouble? If you were my son, you would get punished according to your evil deeds and if it requires corporal punishment, you WOULD get it. |
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---shira on 3/26/06 |
Caitlan: Hopefully he didn't hit you with the Bible. If not, did he read/quote anything from the Bible? What? |
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---Leon on 3/26/06 |
Your father probably pointed out the verse 'spare the rod and spoil the child'. One problem there though is when is a child no longer a child? You do not say what kind of trouble you are getting into. If you are behaving like a child your father might feel that he should still treat you like one. If you are breaking the law perhaps he should just let you take whatever consequences will follow from that. Parenting is very difficult and stressful and so is growing up. Been there, done both. |
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---emg on 3/26/06 |
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