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Men Just Want To Go To Bed

I am 24 and virgin, I am trying to find a mate but it seems like no man is interested in me because I do not want to go in bed with them before marriage? What can I do about it? Since I am a christian and I want to do the will of God, it is hard for me to find someone?

Moderator - If you are dating a true Christian for marriage, he will have the same pure interest, otherwise you are dating Christian men by their word not action which means they are not truly Christian.

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I would like to address the part about what can you do. First, praise the Lord for preserving you pure. Seek to reveal by your love for Jesus that you are His child and live to bless and serve those around you as He opens the way. In blessing others, your light will shine, and others will glorify your Father which is in heaven for you and your witness. A pure, Christian gentleman is attracted to a woman whose eyes are focused on Christ and His will.
---Wayne87 on 12/29/07

Are you dating a Christian? Sex before marriage is fornication and forbidden by God.
---wes on 12/23/07

important question--what kind of clothes do you wear? shorts and tank tops, form fitting pants or slacks, or a dress that covers and hides your figure? bet it's one of the former 2. there's a big reason
---r.w. on 9/19/06

Rickey when God sends you a mate He will do it not to pull you away from Him but to pull you closer.
My wife and I think alike. She or I will begin to ask a question and before 1/2 of it is out of our mouth the other one answers.
One works for the Lord and the other one prays for that one.
When God is in it marriage is great. To bad too many don't see it.
---Elder on 4/6/06

The problem you mention is recognized by Paul as being a legitimate one. However, that does not rule out marriage, which, after all, God ordained. God understands the demands a marriage relationship puts on our time and energies yet he still sanctions it.
---Bruce5656 on 4/6/06

Rebecca & Elder, thanks. What you both posted answered alot of my questions. Sometimes I just need to see an example.
---Rickey on 4/5/06

Rickey, You asked a great question, "I'll be honest with you. I desire a mate too, but have questions. Like how would I be able to spend as much time with Jesus as I do now & also with my mate? Married folks how do you do that?"
My wife and I have a partner relationship with each other and Jesus. She helps me stay focused and I her.
She has those spiritual gifts that I don't. We are a team put together by God for His purpose and our encouragement, comfort and happiness.
---Elder on 4/4/06

Thank you, Bruce, for this "reminder" given in four parts. It is enough to remind all women who are in the same state as that of the one posting this question.
---Linda6546 on 4/4/06

Rickey; It is hard to put God first before my marriage or family. I don't always put God first. We both give God our time in our own way. I give God my time when husband and kids are in bed. But it is great having a christian mate because we can discuss things that one of us may not understand. We walk hand in hand in God's hand. That is why and how our marriage is so strong. It can be done and thank God for that.
---Rebecca_D on 4/4/06

I have two unmarried Sons who are christians the say they same thing about the girls they meet, you need to find someone who shares your dedication to Christ like the Moderator says.exzucuh
---Exzucuh on 4/4/06

I'll be honest with you. I desire a mate too, but have questions. Like how would I be able to spend as much time with Jesus as I do now & also with my mate? Married folks how do you do that?
---Rickey on 4/4/06

It sounds like you may be trying to hard and looking at the wrong men to be your mate. I suggest that you find a Christian church with a singles group and just socialize with Christians in a group and befriend the men there as brothers in the Lord. As time goes on, you may see what a Godly man is truly like.
---Madison on 4/4/06

Maybe this will help:

Single & Saved
- Author Unknown

What makes you think that just because I am an attractive woman of Godly intelligence, that I'm incomplete without a mate? Who told you that without a man something's missing from my life? And if so, what would that be?
---Bruce5656 on 4/4/06

I love myself and more importantly I love the Lord. He told me that when I delight in Him, He will give me the desires of my heart.

I have everything I need according to His riches in glory.

Now, how's a man going to get to know me when he doesn't even know who he is in the Lord? See my Father told me I'm above a ruby's worth and a gem does not seek it is sought.
---Bruce5656 on 4/4/06

I'm single and that's all right with me.

See, it's not that I oppose relationships; it's that I detest co-dependency. As a woman I know it is not my role to chase after any man. Esther 2:14 reads that I am to wait on my king and when he's delighted in me, he will call me by my name.
---Bruce5656 on 4/4/06

My Lord does not intend for me to be needy or desperate. I am to be cherished, relished, valued, and honored. It's not my job to convince him or convict him of that. My mate will already know it and consistently show it and he will stay on his knees daily not just to adore me, but to praise the Lord for the virtuous woman he has found.
---Bruce5656 on 4/4/06

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So, when you see me by myself, I'm not alone. I know what I have coming to me.

I'm single and saved, and right now that's all I need to be!
---Bruce5656 on 4/4/06

I find the moderator's answer Absolutely correct. You might make your beliefs fully known as soon as someone express interest in you thereby avoiding any confrontation later on.
---mima on 4/4/06

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