Some of the responses have been extremely mean, Christians. There is nothing wrong with desiring a husband. If it is in God's will, then it will happen. There is nothing wrong with praying & FASTING for a husband. At least you are not out there making the decision on your own, that's why so many people, Christian & Non-Christians find themselves in divorce court, they did not seek God first. Yes the word says that God hates divorce. But if I have prayed for my husband, lived right before my husband, tried to reconcile with my husband, tried counseling with my husband, fasted that he and I would both change... & nothing happens, I refuse to believe that God would want me to stay in a totally unhappy marriage. |
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---Iwantahusband on 3/17/10 |
When you put the Lord God Jesus first, and also his righteousness, then other things in life- like wanting a husband- will become secondary. Some people are meant to be joined to a spouse and some other people are meant to be complete without a spouse. As we may see publicly, many people are married that should not be, and many are married to the wrong person, and there are also some people not married but they should be. But God knows what is best for each one of us, for he himself made us for his own pleasure. Let us strive to please him first, and then if he thinks that we would be better off with a spouse then let it be the spouse of his choosing. |
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---Eloy on 9/15/09 |
IT is really important that we understand and read God's word knowing that we live by God's grace and we are guilty of all sin when we fail to do just one right. I ask, If my temple is the temple of the holy ghost and my husband hits me, then divorces me are you saying, God is going to punish me because I desire 5-6 years down the line to be married and I remarry while he is still alive? God is not like this!! In his word it says in 1 Corinthians 7:14-15 A believer is not bound to a marriage if the unbelieving husband or wife divorces them. Which means move on with your life!! Do things according to his word and be blessed not bound!! |
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---Gods_Grace on 9/15/09 |
Why do you want a husband? You aready have a husband. Stop fasting and praying for yourself. Pray for other, your husband which you divorced. pray for salvation of our Lord Jesus in his life. Pray that God will better you so you can live the life of Christ for other.
You know...until you are willing to pray that God use you to fix you husband, God will not send you a new one. Remember if he truly recieve Christ, He is a new creation, he will have a new mind and understanding about Christ and marriage.
Let your fasting and praying be toward God's restoration between you and your divorced husband not to marry other people. God hate DIVORCED and love RESTORATION. |
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---Obi on 8/6/09 |
Jenny, you are supposed to be doing GOD's WILL, not THY will.
Seek the Lord and ask Him, Lord, what would you have me to do?
If you are studying the scriptures, you will find that Jesus is your Husband, (Isaiah 54, Hosea says I will betroth you to me, and John Ch. 15 says that I am the vine and my Father is the husbandman).
Take Jesus as your husband FIRST. Get in a close union with Jesus and God the Father and Holy Spirit. THEN they will lead you and guide you into ALL that God has for you, above what you never could imagined. |
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---anon on 8/4/09 |
Listen to God, study to become a good wife, Proverbs 3:6-7, Matthew 7:7-11, also Titus 2:3-5.
Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Please read Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18. Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage. Put away and loosed are synonyms for divorced.
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---Glenn on 8/1/09 |
well unfortunatley for you, in the bible it states that persons who are divorced must wait until their exspouse dies in order to start a relationship with another person. So it would actually be a sin if you were to marry again. |
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---A on 8/1/09 |
Why are christians so mean. If someone is struggling because they have a desire for a husband, then why don't you people pray and impart Gods word with gentleness. I am so tired of so called christians beating people in need over the head with their version of the bible. Check yourselves.
Nuff said, have a good one
Signed rapture ready |
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---renee on 6/19/09 |
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Pray/Fast for your soul/salvation which is more important than committing Adultery if your spouse is still alive and read the bible with fear and trembling concerning life after divorce since the advice is to remain single or reconcile.
It is The Man of God been betrayed that can operate the [except] clause, but Paul encourages widows above 60 and married women to remain single after death and divorce clearly in scripture.
Matt 19:9, 1Corin 7, Romans 7, Luke, Matt 5, Mark 10. Rev 22.
If God provided scripture inspired by Holy men of God and expressed his care for the sparrows why would he not provide for widows and the divorced?
Read and Study it's for your own Good and that of others! |
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---Carla3939 on 5/20/09 |
I believe there are a lot of lies that church people like to tell when they have little to no revelation on what God's design is for a thing. We leave it it to human intuition and then call it being "lead of the spirit". God is sovereign and if he has given you a desire for a husband it is with that desire that he wishing to bless not only you but nations. the only answer the church has given single people is to take your focus off of man and out it on God. This is not incorrect merely incomplete. If your focus was not on God would you really be seeking him through fasting and prayer for a husband? No you would be operating according to the world's standards and you would be in the club or dating circles to find a potential mate. |
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---Kay on 1/28/09 |
Be so so glad you don't have one! They are truly more trouble than they are worth and God says you don't have them in the next life. |
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---robin on 7/29/08 |
Well, I don't believe it anyways! I think that they are making this stuff up. God is useing somebody to make this stuff up! |
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---catherine on 7/28/08 |
Praying for a husband! Are you still fasting? If I were you I would stop. Did God tell you to fast? For a husband. |
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---catherine on 7/28/08 |
Waiting on the Lord is what we singles do. But not JUST waiting. We are given this time to do something for Him, and we should find out what it is and get to it. "Lord, send me!" should be our cry.
Whether it be youth work, prison ministry, van ministry, music, shut-ins. Where your passion is, and you feel the Lord leading you, go with it!
I receive such joy when I serve Him and go all out for our Father!
Single, shmingle.
Saved and serving. |
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---Colleen on 7/26/08 |
Wait! You are supposed to wait upon the lords timing and put your mind and heart on something else, like doing for God.. perhaps working in a soup kitchen or a homeless center. Something to take your mind off of obtaining a mate. Learn to be happy where you are now. Best of luck |
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---Toni on 7/24/08 |
I do not believe that you have been praying and fasting for a husband. You had better check your motives, because God won't grant you your heart desires if they are selfish desires. |
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---catherine on 7/23/08 |
Hi
I have been seeking God for a mate as well but I believe now that its up to God to deliver, if it is his will or his time. Therefore there is nothing else you can do but seek to get closer to God. |
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---sherrell on 7/22/08 |
Wait on the Lord. Commit thy way unto the Lord. Be still in the Lord. Rejoice in the Lord. Do good. Be patient. Psalm 37. |
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---frances on 1/29/08 |
Jenny...I've been praying and waiting almost 18 years. It's all up to God and His timing. He's given me the scripture of Psalm 46:10...Be still and know that I am God. There's nothing we can do to make it happen any faster, just draw near to Him and work on your relationship with the Lord and when He thinks both you and the husband-to-be are ready, He will work it all out.
:-) |
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---Holly4jc on 1/28/08 |
Stand still and let God move. What else can you do? |
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---Rebecca_D on 1/26/08 |
Psalms 37:4 delight thy self in the way of the lord and he shall give you the desires of your heart. god wants us to search for a godly spouse. It's ok to hurt over it and keep looking god wants us to he don'twant us2 hurt but cor. 13 tells us that charity (love) is long suffering. If we have to wait on the person god sends we will appreciate them even more when you find someone make sure that god is first in their life.when he supplies never cease to praise him for it.I'll be praying for you |
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---Steph on 3/23/07 |
I have been divorced the same and been asked to be married 2 times seriously planned it.But I must be ever so terribly near sighted! If they are the OJ Simpsons, Scott Peterson types they LOVE me! So sister U are doing right seriously pray pray pray and fast I almost made terrible mistakes,on the back of my shirt it must say send me your jobless, hot tempered...smile I am trying to lift your spirits. You are doing the right thing-so wait just wait. Unless U want to double w/me..smile again! |
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---Jeanne on 11/19/06 |
Hi, can I just say that I know exactly how you feel and although I agree with make God your husband first etc. I also know that when looking for a job,that God also says is good, we do not sit and wait for someone to knock at our door and say hey I have just the job for you! Nor will someone knock at your door and say God sent me Im your future husband. You also need to help yourself in your search. There are plenty of good Christian Websites available on here with people looking for the same as you :-) |
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---Sharon on 11/19/06 |
Hi Jenny,
Just curious--did you ever find the husband that you so desire? I hope that you have! There is nothing wrong with that desire. I am praying for the same thing.
Debbie |
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---Debbie on 6/6/06 |
I asked God to give me the husband that he had chosen, if I was to remarry at all. I became willing to do His will and be content until the answer came. We are celebrating our 1 year anniversary...and, we met on this site. God did a much better job that I had done in the past on my own!! |
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---Annie on 4/27/06 |
Was your divorce on Biblical grounds? If not, then you should try to reconcile, unless of course your spouse has remarried. If it was an unbiblical divorce you may also need to repent for your sin before you get another spouse. |
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---wes on 4/25/06 |
A Catholic, to you it would border that because "unless one is born again, he cannot SEE the Kingdom of God." Let's NOT attack one another on this board, okay? Just because one sees the word in a deeper way, doesn't mean it's fanaticism. PLEASE STOP JUDGING OTHERS. Thank you. God Bless You. |
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---Donna on 4/25/06 |
I totally agree with Madison and Lupe, they are right on. Thank you for acknowledging the truth. God Bless you Mightily. |
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---Donna on 4/25/06 |
3. Another thing too Jenny, man are more scared to make a commitment then a women. If you pray for a guy, be sure that you don't confuse just anyone as the answer to your prayer. I have seen that many times where the first guy that comes people think that is the answer and they make a mistake many times. Just make friends and things will work out for you. Put your prayer in God's hands and just move on without thinking about it and you will see results. |
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---Lupe2618 on 4/25/06 |
2. God will answer prayer but many times its not the right time or the right reason. He knows your life better then you and will put people in your path that you will meet and things just work out. I know many at my former church that waited many years and they are good people but it just seems that nothing would happen. Just be yourself, do the things of God, and don't worry about a man, and things will be much better for you. God never makes a mistake. After all, He is in control of everything. |
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---Lupe2618 on 4/25/06 |
Hello sister Jenny, I believe Madison's and Donna's answer are correct. When we live a life in submission to God first, and what we should do as Christians, God will work through you even when you don't see anything happening. If you keep praying with the intention that you are thinking of yourself, your focus is you and your life, and not God's. Of course it is important because of what your circumstances might be. But when we are dependent upon God for everything, we don't worry what will happen next, |
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---Lupe2618 on 4/25/06 |
Catholic: How is her statement fanatacism? She basically said the same thing I said. Too many people are running around looking for a spouse when we are supposed to be devoting our lives to Christ. Paul said he would prefer that everyone were single as he was. That way, they could devote themselves to the Lord's work entirely. |
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---Madison on 4/24/06 |
Donna, your statement borders fanaticism. |
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---A_Catholic on 4/24/06 |
I know you probably don't want to hear this, but Isaiah 54 says: For your maker is your husband, the Lord of Hosts is His name. Until we make Jesus our Husband, he may not send us a human husband. I know that's NOT what single folks want to hear, but I have 8 friends STILL waiting for husbands for 20 years now. Sometimes God asks us to lay our desires down and HE will give them back to us HIS way, amen? |
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---Donna on 4/24/06 |
Trust in the Lord, pray and fast, all good deeds but you should also join some groups and associate with people while keeping an open eye.
For several years I didn't bother looking for a wife then, all of a sudden, I found a good, Christian sweetheart and today she is my wife. |
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---A_Catholic on 4/24/06 |
I feel for you I am the same situation. But have to wait on god and he will tell us where to go and who to see when the time is right. Unfortunately, it takes patience. so in the meantime we have to be happy with what we have. Think about what you are thankful for and you will be happy so when the prince comes he will see you happy and want what you have and want to share your happy life. God bless |
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---erica on 4/23/06 |
Trust in the lord and his timing and you will be blessed. |
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---Grayson on 4/23/06 |
I have been divorced for five years. I stopped praying for a husband back in September when the Lord reminded me that He wants to be the Love of my life, and my eternal Husband. If He should choose to share me with a human husband, I will gladly accept. Until then, or if not, I am at peace with being His beloved bride. |
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---Madison on 4/23/06 |
Why do you want a husband so badly? |
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---ralph7477 on 4/23/06 |
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