Can I Marry A Muslim
I am a Christian who has been always against marrying from muslim people, until I started to love a muslim guy. He doesn't want me to convert to Islam and we agreed to raise our kids as Christians. Is there any where in the New Testament saying we can't marry with a non christan people?
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---daniella on 4/27/06
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Some women think that they know their loved ones so well. They can change on you after marriage. If you have any children, we can only imagine the pain these women feel. It happens all the time. Watch the old movie "NOt without my daughter" to give you another glimpse of what happens to some after marrying a Muslim. No disrespect to any Muslims reading this. However, you must know what I am referring to. It's not anything new.
Seek Jesus in your life for answers! God bless! |
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---iloveHim on 5/9/08 |
Natalie, if you seriously think that the differences between Christians and Muslims are small you are in for one great big shock if you marry your boyfriend. I believe that this step would be the biggest mistake of your life and it will not be very long after the marriage that you will find this out. |
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---RitaH on 5/9/08 |
My coworker married a Muslim. Got divorced. She lost custody & got visitation. He had $$, she didn't. She last saw her oldest son at age 12, other son 7, & daughter 7 because he took them to Syria. Next to impossible with laws to get them back. The oldest was allowed to come back to US, since he "was" going to marry his cousin who was awaiting her VISA. After getting here, he told his father "NO" that he was not going to get married! |
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---iloveHim on 5/9/08 |
He then surprised & called his Mom! They will reunite w/her for Mother's Day! :)
Please pray for a miracle! Her daughter & son to be returned to the US and for her to see them again! The father has his family raising them over there while he is living in the US raising other children with his wife! So sad! All for a dowery as well! $$ for his daughter when she gets married..which can be anytime soon. |
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---iloveHim on 5/9/08 |
*frowns momentarily* I'm actually in the same situation. My Muslim boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over 4 years, and are talking abuot marriage. I seriously don't believe that it is a huge issue. Yes, Islam refuses the cornerstone of Christianity, but that doesn't mean that they don't hold Jesus in high regard. Also, we must also look at the Bible in context. I'm sure that the "religious" selection wasn't too big when it came to marriage. |
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---Natalie on 5/8/08 |
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It was either marry a Christian, or marry a Pagan. Now, if you were to marry a Pagan or an Athiest, i might raise and eyebrow because the two don't even match in small ways. I am reading the Qur'an. For the most part, I don't believe that being with someone who doesn't believe in the EXACT same thing you do, is a huge crime. Especially when most of the important details and beliefs are the same. |
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---Natalie on 5/8/08 |
I believe that it will be difficult, especially if you don't talk about the important things before you marry, such as to arrange marriage or not, to whether the females will have to dress in the Hijab and Burqa. As well, religious ceremonies should be taken into consideration.
My boyfriend and I have talked a lot about this. |
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---Natalie on 5/8/08 |
I would feel no anger towards them if they chose Islam, because I believe that ultimately it is their choice, and my boyfriend, being honest, said he'd feel sadness if they chose the opposite, but again, we both said we'd be supportive. I mean, many teens fall away from the religion they grew up with, in the first place. Who's to say that a born and raised Christian won't turn to Athieism??
As well, just to put it out there, it would be difficult to raise a child in a Protestant/Catholic home. |
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---Natalie on 5/8/08 |
Yes, most of the beliefs are the same, but there are still differences that will cause conflict. To do a Christening or a Full water baptism? To pray to Mary and the Saints or only to God? So, even in our own religion, there is still discrepencies...would a Protestant/Catholic be "unequally yoked". I wonder if any Sunni Muslims marry Shiites? |
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---Natalie on 5/8/08 |
Daniella,
Yes the New Testament does address this specificaly:
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
No one is saying that you do not have genuine feeling for him. But "genuine feelings" do not legitimize the relationship.
Now you have the word of the Lord on the matter. You must choose who you will serve. Self or God. |
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---Bruce5656 on 3/29/08 |
Why on earth would you want to marry someone who denies your God and His Word, and moreover, who is headed straight to hell? Your muslim boyfriend either thinks a) Jesus was a liar when he claimed to be God or b) the disciples of Jesus were liars when they said He said he was God. You are about ready to trade your walk with God for fleshly pleasures! Repent and marry a son of God so that you can produce Godly offspring and glorify HIM! |
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---bryan_shaw on 8/4/07 |
If you are willing to compromise on this one thing - what will you compromise next. I've been married 32 years, during the good times it can be hard, during the bad times you need to be yoked to someone who can turn to Christ for you and with you. Why handicap yourself for eternity.
Does this muslim have anything to gain by marrying you, like citizenship? |
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---Andrea on 8/4/07 |
In John CH. 14 Jesus promised a concilor...The Holy Spirit..I think its important to recieve Gods guidance on this one. Pray to God and ask and expect an answer ! |
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---tony on 8/4/07 |
I understand you want somebody that loves you and I get that he may be the "one for you" but HOW DO YOU REALLY KNOW THAT? I Hate to say it you already know the answer to your own question, so the question is what are you going to do? God already told you the answer, so are you going to listen to him? |
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---ANN on 8/4/07 |
Love is blind. I understand that you love this guy. Do you want the marriage to last? If you are truly a born-again believer don't expect any help from God. Christians and Muslems DO NOT worship the same God. We worship the Creator of the universe and the heavens as well as this earth. |
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---catherine on 8/3/07 |
I don't mean to bust your bubble but if all Christains and Muslims were serving the same God why do Muslims call other faiths names such as the Jews? I don't want a debate because I know the Truth I know a lot of Muslims and they make no bones about knowing about some of our saints/prophets But distinctively make it known Our Gods are NOT the Same. |
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---Carla5754 on 8/3/07 |
I am bapt. MK, have been married to a Muslim for some time. He has never asked me to stop going to church. He respects me and I respect him. Isn't that what love and marriage is about in the first place? In fact, his life was such an example to me, his discipline of prayer times I have adopted these into my life and I now take the same time he does out of my busy schedule and pray (5 times a day). We have great relationship!!! |
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---Debbie on 8/2/07 |
I am a muslim, and how you all put a verse from the bible you must read the entire verse. (2 Corinthians) was writen for the people of Corinth a place in Greece. People that worshiped fake gods and statues. I suggest you read, Muslims and Christian have more than you think in common. We only have one god. Please read up. A True muslim must not lie, this is what defines a true muslim. as for children, it is perfered that they are raised as the father. thank you all |
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---Ash_B. on 5/8/07 |
Daniella, you are going to do what you want to do anyway. It is the pattern of your life. You are either going to be a child of God forever or your salvation is not real. You already know you should not marry anyone outside your faith, and you have been given many reasons why. Any Muslim will have many reasons why they are so great, so do other religions. But only Christ can be Lord of your life, no other. Choose who you want to follow. |
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---Lisas on 3/8/07 |
James 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoeever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. |
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---Cynthia_1 on 3/8/07 |
You are the one who said you are born again do you know what that means? It means that the Spirit of God has given birth to you as a new creature you are now a Jew in the Spirit and there is no salvation except through Jesus Christ, My words are truth to you I will not lie, without Jesus you will die in your sins. Arab and Jew alike both will die in their sins for forsaking Christ. |
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---Exzucuh on 3/7/07 |
The Bible says, what does light have to do with darkness and do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. In the beginning all is peaches and cream but the success of any relationship is like-mindness. Run sister, run as fast as you can. |
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---Yolanda on 3/7/07 |
Friend, you can marry anyone you please but you had better be prepared for the many consequences of being disobedient to the word of God. Sin brings much hurt and pain, usually. You need to seek the Lord on this. You are wanting to marry this man but what does God say about it? Things will change after u are married. Please pray over this matter---first. |
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---robyn on 3/7/07 |
Exzucuh
I have to reply to that attack. I was a muslim for a year before meeting and agreeing to marry my husband. I chose Islam because I believe it not because of any human relationship. |
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---Khadijah on 3/7/07 |
Sorry for the double post - also wanted to say that dating is not accepted by most muslims. You can talk together, but physical contact is not allowed between men and women before marriage. If you guys are 'dating' in the american sense (going out together alone, kissing etc..) it does raise red flags for me. But I don't know him and its wrong to speculate. Just do your research. |
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---Khadijah on 3/7/07 |
Jesus said in the Bible not to be unequally yoked. Since his beliefs are totally different, it will cause you misery to marry him. It is best to marry a believer. I had to give up a fiance because of this once. You know what happened? Jesus became my husband for 6 months, and then he gave me an earthly husband far better than I imagined. |
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---Crystal on 3/7/07 |
If you don't want to fall in love with a Muslim, don't date one even casually. It would be a mistake to marry a Muslim because unless he has already planned to convert, it will be his faith requirement to eventually convert you and any children you have. Even if he does not believe that now, his family will know that, and when children come along, everyone tends to revert to the faith of their youth. |
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---lorra8574 on 3/6/07 |
---Khadijah on 3/6/07
How could you forsake the one who died for you and turn to another god, there is no name under heaven whereby you can be saved but Jesus, you have sold him for the price of a husband and traded your inheritance as Esau for beans. |
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---Exzucuh on 3/6/07 |
Hope my post can get in - I'm a former born-again christian and now muslim. I'm very happily married to a wonderful muslim Saudi man. But one of the main reasons (beside love) that our marriage works is we have the same goal in life. Both of us are practicing muslims. Forget the stereotypes, all muslim men arent the same, but if you have a different outlook to your husband it may be hard on you both. Kids are usually expected follow the father's religion. Read about Islam and meet his family first. |
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---Khadijah on 3/6/07 |
The Word of God declares that if you call yourself a christian you cannot marry unequally yoked meaning that you must marry someone who believe in Christ and not someone that denies Christ. Muslims believes in a god that is void a god that is dead. Jesus Came to this earth for the lost and for the lost will lead them to Him so they denied the true living God that was given freely to them. But in the end times it states that every knee will have to bow down to God. |
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---Amanda on 3/6/07 |
ible clearly says we are free to choose but partner should be christian becuase we have nothing in common with unbeleivers.
what is sureness your partner won't change his mind after wedding?in his religion he will be your master and lord and you will be completely submitted to him. don't choose a man above God. God said for our own good not to tie or bing with not christian man. you can't be sure he will accept Jesus as his saviour.
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---Kasia on 3/6/07 |
Daniella::You sound Spanish.but seems you are in need of advice which you probably wont Take.Love is a strong tie of emotion which unfortunately does not last as the spark does go out,& then it is humdrum .No more excitement what others say is very true so if you want to spenda life under laws you are not familiar with & have to give up all your Rights Even your own Flesh & Blood are you ready to do that? is that what a marriage means to you? a DOOR MAT.Senorita that is NOT for you.Beware!! |
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---Emcee on 3/5/07 |
No Dear,its not good to marry the muslem.He may change his mind about the children when you get marry.And also;all things a permited but all things are not beneficial.YOU MUST NOT BE UNEQUALLY YORKED !! Imagine a goat and a bull are york together to till the soil,what will happen? they are unequally yorked |
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---daniel on 3/5/07 |
If a person is a Christian, they are supposed to be following the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Jesus said not to be unequally yoked..... meaning don't marry an unbeliever. Spiritually, what do you and a muslim have in common... nothing. The Bible warns that to be with an unbeliever will tear you down spiritually.... and pull you away from you beliefs. |
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---Cheryl on 3/5/07 |
I understand you, when I was living In London, England, I loved one Muslim and one Hindu, they were clever, smart, interesting, and very deep, I loved their intelect, because they were deep, and so am I, we often talked hours on end, every night on many subjects, However, DO NOT MARRY, Because you are not to be un-equally yoked. |
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---Cynthia_1 on 3/5/07 |
Michelle you most certainly can choose who you "fall in love" with. When you find someone that is against the very things the Bible teaches then you separate your self from them.
Your answer of turning to God for the answer also includes the Written Word of God which is against this union.
But go ahead and marry these guys you will pay later and make some Divorce Lawyer very happy. |
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---Elder on 3/5/07 |
just wanted to let you know that you are not alone on this one sweetie - i met a muslim man and we have dated for the past 9 months - i have asked myself the same question - my theory is that you can't help who you fall in love with - as little girls we never think that religion will be an issue when we meet our prince charming - but it is - just remember that when you have a problem you should turn to god for the answer - he is the only one that can provide it - best wishes for your answered praye |
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---michelle on 3/5/07 |
Yes ... be ye not unequally yoked togeather
with unbelivers. sooner or later the pressure of muslim will reach out for you, it has to
it's his belief and he'll do what ever it takes
to convert you to muslim. |
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---billy on 5/31/06 |
My dear, your question make room to suspect the root of your believe in Christ. Do make time to study 1Corinthians 7:1ff to know more what marriage is. Are you aware that a muslim is permitted to lie especially to non-muslims by his religion, to lure them? You can be sure he could change his mind at any moment and you can do nothing then. Many have gone that way and never had any good story to tell. Do go and join their band wagon, as the decision is yours now. But you can be wise anyway. |
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---Micah on 5/25/06 |
Daneilla, Allow me to present a more practical aspect to your question. I have lived in three Muslim countries, and if he is a citizen of another country or has strong ties to those countries you need to know that as a woman, under Sharia law, you have no rights to your children. I know from working for the government that the situation in the movie, Not Without my Daughter, happens frequently. And ALL the women say, I didnt think he wouldnt do that to me. Be careful. |
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---randy on 4/29/06 |
Do you support the enslavement of children, the crucifixion of believers and the beheading of converts? Do you believe only the woman should be stoned for adultery, or both for that matter? Do you believe that Jesus did not die on the cross, and that all that the NT teaches about the faith is a pack of lies?
If the answer to the above is yes, then marry a Muslim, thats what they believe. |
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---mike6553 on 4/28/06 |
I agree with everything stated in the first three answers. |
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---mima on 4/28/06 |
Daniella, you CAN put water in your gas tank.
Think about it. It is cheaper, more available, smells better and won't explode in your face. Do you think water will solve problems in your car or cause more than the car is worth? It is the same with your marriage to an unbeliever that cannot be trusted spiritually.
Marry him, be prepared for your Hell on earth, blame no one but yourself. Remember you could have been obedient to the Lord and He would have provided a mate for you. |
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---Elder on 4/28/06 |
The bible says be 'ye not unequaly yoked'. That refers to beliefs, not nationality. You say that you are a Christian but what do you mean by the word Christian? If you truly are one you should not even be contemplating this. You should know that you would not have a happy future with someone who does not love Jesus as his Lord and Saviour. You will have a most miserable marriage if you marry ANY non-Christian, regardless of whether he follows a false religion or believs nothing at all. |
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---M.P. on 4/28/06 |
The answer is no plus expect lots of disagreements and arguments if you proceed with such marriage. |
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---A_Catholic on 4/28/06 |
It's true! what the others have told you. The word of God tells us not to be yoked together with unbelievers. And futhermore, He may be telling you now that you could raise your children as christians, but he just might try to change that, and a lot of other things about you and your children after you marry him. |
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---Barbara on 4/27/06 |
I have said this before:
If you are a believer, your Father is God. The father of the unbeliever is the devil. Do you really want the in-law (or shall I say outlaw) problems that come with the union you are desiring? |
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---Linda6563 on 4/27/06 |
you "can" marry anyone you choose. The question really is should you? if we wish to serve our creator, then we need to listen to his advice. After all he knows best. The israelites intermarried and it cost them. far more than they thought it would. In fact still is, look at israel today! They are at war with the very nation they married!
my advice, ask father for partner! |
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---truthfinder on 4/27/06 |
How clearly can I write this--NO, NO, NO!!
Listen to what the Mod says! |
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---NVBarbara on 4/27/06 |
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