Holiday Break From Spouse
Christian friends of mine often holiday separately, it fits their timetables and they say the break from each other is healthy. They suggest I do the same - what do you think - any of you couples ever done this?
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---emg on 5/3/06
Helpful Blog Vote (7)
I think separate vacations are a wonderful idea, especially if the couple in question have different interests--if one is outdoorsy and the other isn't, a camping trip would make at least one, if not both people miserable, as an example.
Alternatively, for those that want just a little time apart, choose a destination that has attractions that appeal to both. The day can be spent apart, meeting back at the hotel later.
---Nancy on 12/1/07|
My sister-in-law and I took a 10 day guided tour of Old Mexico.I also took 10 day trip to PTL. My husband didn't care anything about either, but he has taken many fishing trips with a lot of men to lakes in Old Mexico. I see nothing wrong if the trips are upright and honest. No hankypanky on them. I've been to many Christian Retreats alone,however, we always took many trips together alone and with our children. Honesty,trust,and balance are the keys to make it work.
---Darlene_1 on 11/27/07|
Are you having marriage problems? I never took a separate vacation from my husband. How do you think that helps the relationship UNLESS there's problems or abuse in the marriage.
---Donna9759 on 4/29/07|
I want a "holiday break" from my wife. There may be some time that she would go on her own somwhere or with a relative or girlfriend but it would not be a "break" for me. I would miss her too much.
On the other hand, there is the surround sound that can be cranked up with no one else in the house.... :)
---Bruce5656 on 5/5/06|
Some couples enjoy each other's company so much that they never wish to be apart. I know a man who slept on the floor beside his wife's hospital bed. Other couples benefit from a break. I think each couple should just do what works best for them.
---F.F. on 5/5/06|
I feel really sad that some of you had to include words like 'abuse' 'marriage problems' 'funny business'. Did the wording of my question actually lead you to think that this was what I was referring to? Madison and Darlene, thank you for your helpful answers, I feel that you did understand the question.
---emg on 5/4/06|
Vacations separately are often very healthy for a marriage in which there is trust. Being able to enjoy life separately brings richness to when the couple is together.
It is unhealthy if a couple clings to each other as the only travel companions they have.
---Madison on 5/4/06|
It really all depends on your motives. My husband (whom I do not trust for good reason) would not be going on overnight trips. However, I have not broken his trust and he knows if I am away from our family, there is no funny business going on.
---barbara on 5/3/06|
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