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A Christian Surrogate Mother

I am thinking about becoming a surrogate birth mother. Is it against Christianity carrying in my woumb another couple's couple baby? They cannot carry it to full term.

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to carla...

i suggest you go back and re-read your bible. I have NEVER seen anywhere that says God will graft us OUT of the vine. Your words are mean-spirited and your bible knowledge is weak. Stop using old-testament people as arguments against surrogacy. We are NO longer under old testament law for we have been saved by grace through Christ's death and resurrection.

stop trying to take another's gift of surrogacy and throwing it at her like she's a prostitute
---tiffany on 6/2/09

I don't believe in my heart that it is right to be a surrogate mother. Selling your body can't be right??What has happened to the human race- not only do we turn a blind eye to the thousands of innocent babies been aborted on a daily basis.. Why don't they push for those babies to be given the right to live? What about all the orphaned babies desperate for parents and good Christian parents at that?
To what lengths will we as woman go? Where will it stop, if ever?
---Chantal on 4/8/09

I'll bleieve that what you do is sanctioned by God when you can prove that a womans body was built to be sold used for profit, be it for money or otherwise.

God makes barren whoms and by faith/ prayer only God opens whoms any other service is made possible through Fleshy gratification and fornication.

rightly said Hagar child was born by the flesh but Issac was a child born by promise.
Avoid fornication, it's like saying I never stole anything I used a prostate limb to do it so I'm not stealing because it was not stolen by my own hand!
---Carla3939 on 3/17/09

I am surrogate mother. My decisions are based on God's leadership! I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God is leading me to do this, otherwise I could never do it. It is a huge sacrifice of time and body and going through pain!! If God is telling you to do it, then do it!! There is nothing in the Bible that says we can't do it, not even the Sarah & Abraham story. God is God and who are we to say how He can use us? When we follow God's will, we will always face criticism from others, even other Christians. Count on it-that is in the Bible! You just do what God's leading you to do and if you do it, you, your IP's, and many others will be blessed and God will work!!! To me, it's a ministry and God's been working!
---Alyson on 3/16/09

I am a dedicated christian and take my gift to give life just as such, a gift. God granted me my children not because I am deserving but because is is allmighty and he is GOD.
I also am a 2x surrogate in my third pregnancy with my 3rd surrogacy and I feel God has given me this gift not to be selfish but to give back to my brothers and sisters that are unable to conceive on their own. Dont you think that's why God gives us "special gifts?" I do. He wants us to share and love eachother so I do. I am a sinner, but I am grateful that I have Christ in my life to forgive my sins and take my sins from me.
I dont belive he would want us all to do this , but those of us who have the heart and gift will give back.
---laschell on 2/27/09

God said for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, therefore they are no longer two but one flesh. If you carry another man's or woman's child, you are a third-party and you are facing hell. God would never want people born in such unnatural circumstances. Never forget Sarah got in trouble for getting Hagar to circumvent her marriage to Abraham. God means for people to be born in the way He formed, not the way people choose. God wants people to be family without interference from science or doctors.
---Betty on 2/10/09

No one deputes children are a gift the point is that gift is from God not a Sperm Bank!
---Carla3939 on 2/10/09

The bible (Psalm 127:3) states that children are a gift, not a right.
---LILY on 2/9/09

Why pervert the sancity of marriage? If you love the person enough to put yourself through that process have the babby with your husband and give the motherless woman Your child.

Oh theres no money involved there and you won't get paid!
---Carla5754 on 2/5/09

You know, Only the Lord know's best and I think He pretty well knows the situtation and whats going on if your involving Him in the question. And I'm sure He understands the love of a couple's desire for a child and if you can help them with giving them this gift then it would be a wonderful thing. The first thing you need to do is pray about it and He will surly tell you what you need to do. He's the life-giver, remember. And you know, one of the greatest reasons He blesses us is so we can be a blessing to others.(What a wonderful blessing you'd be for that couple.) Children are the heritage of the Lord. I hope this helps you. Like I said pray about sincerly in your heart and He will lead you rightly. God Bless You.
---Laura on 1/23/09

Here is the end of my entry that didn't show up yesterday.... (FROM PREVIOUS...) These are just some things I have pondered through the years. I guess in my own mind if it is restricted to father sperm, mother egg, carrier a close family member, no compensation, I can get closer to saying I am at ease with it all. But, even so, it's still not solely that of the marriage between husband and wife. So many things to think about... If ONLY I could think JUST like Jesus...
---Leigh on 1/9/09

Okay... I will try this a third time... (FROM PREVIOUS)... These are just some things I have pondered through the years. If the situation was father sperm, mom egg, carrier a very close family member (i.e., sister), I may come closer to acceptance, but without knowing truly truly what Jesus would say about it, I can't be fully at peace with such an arrangement. May God bless you all as you search the mind of Christ over this issue. :)
---Leigh on 1/9/09

I put 2 additional responses out there, but they have not appeared so here they are: (1) The process of surrogacy takes what belongs to the wife and what belongs to the husband -- what belongs to the marriage -- and places it into another woman. So, even though the adultery aspect of this process (ref. Abraham and Sarah), it still brings a third party into the marriage to bring a child into the world. (2) Egg donation, sperm donation, etc., the same thing... (3) Yes, God gives man superior capabilities in the areas of science and medicine, however, God does not need our assistance in the area of creation outside of the marriage relationship. (SEE NEXT...)
---Leigh on 1/8/09

Here is where I am in this discussion. I actually have worked in this area of the law for a few years now and after years of questioning have come to understand that I am where God wants me until he desires to move me. However, after many discussions with my pastor over this issue, my thoughts are as follows: (SEE NEXT...)
---Leigh on 1/7/09

1Cr 6:19


know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost [which is] in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?


The sooner you understand these scriptures the more you'll know you can make terrible mistake's read Abraham Sara's account, King David and many others that did just as they ''liked'' We are not in the same category as them we are Gentiles that were grafted into the vine and You can just as easily be grafted out!
---Carla3939 on 11/8/08

You know in the old testament there were surrogates all the time just in a different way. unfortunatley the bible is not certain on this hoever it is certain that we are to love and give life not take it away. i think that this should and will be the choice of the couple and the woman whom is willing to give birth for that couple. jesus was all about sacrafice and this is obviously the ultimate. good for you that you are thinking about it but ask God he will tell you more that people on this blog....
---Stephanie on 10/26/08

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I don't think that is is against christianity to be a surrogate birth mother. I am a women who can't have children and my finance and I would love to have a children of our own. I would like to have a Christian surrogate rather than a non-Christian one. So I say do as you like God will bless you for it
---jackie on 9/18/08

Well, in studying I find some are made righteous by certain qualifications. One committed to God makes one righteous. Righteousness itself is grounded in the character of God. In Ps. 53>>God speaks. everyone has gone astray. The universality of a practical Atheism that denies the presence, power, and provisions of God.>>Whether it is in practice or some other unbelief. How comes it that men are so bad?..Because there is no fear of God.
---catherine on 5/26/08

Luk 1:38
And Mary said, Behold the handmaid of the Lord, be it unto me according to thy word. And the angel departed from her.

Mat 13:55 Is not this the carpenter's son? is not his mother called Mary? and his brethren, James, and Joses, and Simon, and Judas?
---Carla5754 on 5/26/08

Isa 64:6
But we are all as an unclean [thing], and all our righteousnesses [are] as filthy rags, and we all do fade as a leaf, and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away.

Mar 10:18 And Jesus said unto him, Why callest thou me good? [there is] none good but one, [that is], God.
---Carla5754 on 5/26/08

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I am not catholic but that's what the bible say's

frances said:
''His Will is not that we should crown Mary Queen of Heaven,''

Carla say's HUh?


It seems like one of the rare cases where scientific development actually does some good to someone). God bless surrogate mothers, Jesus's mother, Mary, was one.

on 5/22/08
---Carla5754 on 5/26/08

God bless surrogate mothers, Jesus's mother, Mary, was one.5/22/08

The Bible says ''that not one of us is righteous'', ''Mary was blessed'', but ''moreover, blessed are we'', ''Jesus promises, if we do the will of God the Father.
His Will is not that we should crown Mary Queen of Heaven, ?
Anyone who usurps Jesus's place is a thief and evil. Mary was not that person.?
She was just a humble Jewish girl.
frances008 on 5/25/08
---Carla5754 on 5/26/08


I found your comment confusing and disjointed because your statements conflicted with your reply.
---Carla5754 on 5/26/08

The Bible says that not one of us is righteous, we have ALL fallen short of the glory of God. Mary was blessed, but moreover, blessed are we, Jesus promises, if we do the will of God the Father. His Will is not that we should crown Mary Queen of Heaven, but that we should Look to the Son. Anyone who usurps Jesus's place is a thief and evil. Mary was not that person. She was just a humble Jewish girl.
---frances008 on 5/25/08

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You have it all wrong to dare class Mary Jesus mother A surrogate and should be ashamed of yourself . She was Blessed amongst All Mothers and truly rare and exceptional compared to these women perverting ''Faith'' by artificially inseminating themselves with foreign materials for immoral reasons, Mary carried The Savior of the world was a virgin and a true example of decent woman one chosen of God how can they be compared to Gods handmaid?.
---Carla5754 on 5/25/08

It seems like one of the rare cases where scientific development actually does some good to someone. God bless surrogate mothers, Jesus's mother, Mary, was one.
---frances008 on 5/22/08

how could it be unchristian?
it is giving someone one of god's greatest gifts !
a child.
i wish i could find a good christian woman to be our surrogate. it is not easy.
---rosena on 5/22/08

Greater love is this that a man should give his life for a friend, a child's an extension of that same love.

My mother and sister were given to her auntie and uncle, it was what was done in those days, even now now there are cases where this happens, being paid for the cost's(child) included obviously it's illegal to sell a child so it's wrapped up in costs NO ''christian'' should be engaged in the worlds way of producing babies.
---Carla5754 on 5/16/08

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I am a Christian mom of 2 wonderful children. And of 1 wonderful daughter I gave up for adoption almost 11 yrs ago. I feel like God is calling me to be a surrogate. I have done research and have read both sides. I feel like I still have lots of questions that need to be answered but then I realize it's not my questions it's everyone else's. What I think it comes down to is finding the right couple to help. I don't know how to go about doing that. Does anyone know of a Christian surrogacy agency?
---d on 5/8/08

I have been a Gestational Surrogate 2x and have given birth to two sets of twins. Surrogacy is not the right thing for everyone to go through. Your family needs to be supportive 100% and you have to do your research. Know what the laws are. Know what the risks are of the medications and the IVF procedure. Know if you are ready to carry more then twins. Good Luck!
Sharon LaMothe
2x Gestational Surrogate
---Sharon_LaMothe on 5/2/08


I typed in this evening on how to find a Chirsitan Serogate mother as I can not have children. Biblically it is not wrong to carry a couples child for them if its arificially inseminated. I think personally it is the greatest gift a person could ever give a couple.
It is not against Christianity to bless a couple with children.
I am currently taking my Masters of Divinity and I personally research this there is no biblical foundation not supporting sergogate child bearing. Caroline
---Caroline on 4/22/08

No this is not against Christianity. Children are a blessing from the Lord...irrispective of how they arrive - each life is planned, blessed and given by God.
---Jeannette on 4/3/08

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I hope God leads you to the right decision for you. I also want to address "c" who thinks that adultery can happen by artificial insemination. Adultery is the act of two people choosing to have sexual relations with someone who is not their spouse. I don't agree with insemination, but it certainly is not adultery! Also, Marcia, Sarai and Abraham are a terrible example of surrogacy. They disobeyed God and took matters into their own hands. Abraham slept with their maid servant. That is adultery.
---Katie on 3/31/08

If you are a traditional surrogate(your egg and the intended father's sperm)then there could be a problem. That would be adultery. But I don't see a problem with gestational surrogate, the child wouldn't be biologically yours.
---c on 1/27/08

It is a BLESSING and a JOY to another couple to help them carry a child and "bear their burden"..People who still believe that God "opens and closes wombs" must believe that birth control is a sin as well. The things that GOd does not address in have to be led by the HS. Those that feel it would be a SIN..should obviously never consider it! There will always be the legalistic religious ones who try to stuff their OPINIONS down others throats..
---Grace on 1/26/08

Mary was not a surrogate Mother and there is no comparison with someone who rents out there womb! She was the Mother of God who Jesus received his humanity from. She nurtured him his whole life and then suffered with Him through the cruxificion.
Children are God's gift, not a right.
---janet on 1/8/08

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Ladies, if you are thinking about being a surrogate (or using one), I would have to say go for it! More than likely you will not regret it! I haven't! In fact I'm ready to do it again! I am amazed at how much such an act of love & kindness like surrogacy can cause so much division amongst ourselves. Don't we have better things to argue against! I am a Christian and have been a surrogate. I do not believe surrogacy is anti-Christian!Mary was definitely a surro mother!
---Stephanie on 1/7/08

Rebecca, from where do you get the idea that Mary was a surrogate mother? Who was the other woman who could not have a child and on whose behalf Mary bore Jesus? There seems to be some quite strange justification for surrogacy on this blog.
---RitaH on 11/3/07

Hi, God bless you Rebecca :) You are doing such a beautiful thing :)
---Mary on 11/2/07

I am a surrogate mom 7 weeks pregnant with a baby that belongs to a woman who was born without a uterus. To her, I am a miracle who has been able to show her that Christ does exist. After all, the virgin Mary was the first surrogate.
---Rebecca on 11/2/07

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Carla5754: The scripture you are referencing has nothing to do with this person's situation. God promised Abraham a son from SARAH. That is why using Hagar to conceive was wrong. The Bible does NOT mention artificial insemination. Nor does it mention heart medication, chemotherapy, or multivitamins for that matter. Should we pretend to be stupid and helpless in order to conjure God's miraculous intervention? Let's be transformed by the RENEWING of our minds, rather than the REMOVING of our minds.
---j._the_nomad on 10/23/07

<< Being a surrogate mother is a noble thing to do. Rachel was helped (freed,lifted, healed) that way. Jacob took care and loved the children God gave him througth a surrogate mother, Bilhah.>>

And the 4 mothers involved were always quarrelling, even though two were sisters.

Abraham and Sarah had a surrogate motherhood arrangement with Hagar, and look at all the trouble it caused AND IS STILL CAUSING!
---Jack on 10/23/07

Being a surrogate mother is a noble thing to do. Rachel was helped (freed,lifted, healed) that way. Jacob took care and loved the children God gave him througth a surrogate mother, Bilhah.
---M on 10/23/07

Where in the bible does it encourage artificial insemination, or the sperm/egg of your spouce being given in any shape or form for the sake of a child?. A great example is where Sarah gave handmaid Hagar to her Husband. This caused the muslims to believe they are the true heir's of the promise land hence the Islamic dominance in Jerusalem today. They refer to the Jews/Christians as Infidels and see themselves as the true occupants.

Why would this practice be Right today?
---Carla5754 on 9/2/07

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Sandy- that support group sounds like just what I am looking for. I am without a doubt pro-life. That christian surrogate support group is full. It did say you can be invited to join. If you are a member of that group would you mind reccommending I be considered to join?
Thank you.
---Natalie on 9/1/07

Julie-What different avenues are you looking at in you journey to find a christian surrogate?
---Natalie on 9/1/07

I am a Christian and am looking for a Christian Surrogate myself. No. I do not believe it's against anything the bible has to say.
---Julie on 8/31/07

Stephanie-How did you find the right couple to be their surrogate? Being a surrogate has been laid heavy on my heart. Thank you for sharing your experience.
---Natalie on 8/31/07

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Kristen s.- I am genuinely interested in talking about it.
---Natalie on 8/31/07

I think it is wonderful that you are considering being a gestational surrogate for a couple who cannot carry their child to term. We are a Christian couple in that situation. Due to pre-cancerous growths, I lost my uterus. The only way for us to have
a child together is with the help of the Lord and the mercy of a woman with a selfless heart, like yours. There is a Christian Surrogacy Support group on Yahoo that prays for one another and supports pro-life medical practices in surrogacy.
---sandy on 8/31/07

I have a burning desire in my heart to be a surrogate mother. I have been looking for a christian based infertility company however I don't believe there is one. I believe there is a couple somewhere that I am meant to help. It is my prayer that God will do his will in my life and make this happen if it is to be.
---Natalie on 8/31/07

I am genuinely interested in talking about it. I am so thankful for your blog.
---Natalie on 8/31/07

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I am a Christian woman and mother. I delivered gestational surrogate twins one month ago. It is such an amazing gift to give. If you are careful in selecting your couple, you can remain in contact. Therefore, even if they are not Christians, you can be a witness to them by showing them Christ's love. Surrogacy is something that must be decided by the individuals but it is by no means evil or a sin. I could not have done it w/ out His love & guidance. Consider the all the possibilities!
---Stephanie on 8/27/07

How many people say they Got the revelation/vision from God to get married the lord said yes provided the Provision's, helped them to fight the adversaries and yet In they end Divorced. God get's the blame for a lot of things but how many are willing to testify that their testimony and convictions based of the failure of it will put their hands up to being wrong!
---Carla5754 on 8/21/07

I must continue my blog. I wish there were room to write all that is in my heart. We've made an absolute commitment to God and his will for us. Our mission is to work with orphaned, abused children. We are in the process of adoptiing already, but it will take two years before we receive a referral. God has laid it in our hearts to attempt to have children via surrogate, but if he says NO in the end, we will embrace his word gratefully.
---Kristen_S on 8/21/07

This is the first time I have ever been on this blog, or any blog for that matter. I actually came, because I wanted to see if there was a Christian site where there were women interested in becoming surrogate mothers. I would never presume that my husband and I are particularly worthy, certainly not more so than any other human who is a Christ follower. I would have to say that, if someone were genuinely interested in talking about it, my husband Peter and I would be very grateful.
---Kristen_S on 8/20/07

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One need to consider we cannot create a child for a childless couple and copy Mary's divine appointment. Oh man! what did the Gospels encourage, If it was at all possible to do this thing why did God make a womb barren/productive. Consider what men are now able to do regardless of it being biblical and ask yourselves if this makes a disciple of Christ or a child for a couple regardless of the morality of it. What are we asked to do?
---Carla5754 on 8/20/07

I think that what makes the difference is whether or not you do it to further the kingdom of God or not. I am considering the same thing. I think that you would need to carefully pick the parents and help a couple that you think God is calling to be parents. You want to pick a couple who is going to raise that child to give their souls to Jesus. That boy or girl could grow up to do great things for the Lord. Otherwise, you are just helping to create another lost soul, and there are too many already.
---Mercy_Wininger on 8/19/07

I think that what makes the difference is whether or not you do it to further the kingdom of God. I am considering the same thing. I think that you would need to carefully pick the parents and help a couple that you think God is calling to be parents. You want to pick a couple who is going to raise that child to give their souls to Jesus. That boy or girl could grow up to do great things for the Lord. Otherwise, you are just helping to create another lost soul, and there are too many already.
---Mercy_Wininger on 8/19/07

Emcee, Respectfully are you familiar with the DIFFERENCE with the OLD/New Testament?

BE VERY CAREFUL what you Call EVIL good and GOOD evil!
Adoption carries no such sin. Greater love is this that a man lays down his life for a friend what says you cannot give them your own child. My gran gave my mother to her childless sister NO SIN INVOLVED or MONEY for that FACT.
---Carla5754 on 8/19/07

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Have wondered the same. Am curious to see Biblical replies.
---Lois on 8/9/07

I am sooo sorry, Rachel. :( Bless you dear.
---Mary on 7/24/07

Concider Serah asking Hagar to carry Abrahams seeds so that they could have a son.
---Marcia on 7/24/07

Rachel, would you mind using an initial with your name.
I've used Rachel for quite awhile. Thanks so much.
---Rachel on 7/24/07

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I am unable to carry a baby to full term.

My husband and I just lost our second daughter due to extreme prematurity. She was only 4.5 months when I gave birth to her. Hannah was immediately gone from our lives as the doctor and nurses wrapped her up in a blanket. Her little heart beat strongly until my body forced her into our world.
---Rachel on 7/23/07

God opens and shuts wombs. We decided to adopt after years of infertility, but God intervened and we now have three beautiful children! You would better serve an infertile couple by interceding for them to remain in God's will with contentment. God is able to do exceedingly, abundantly beyond anything we can hope or imagine. Be wise. It would not be selfish of you to tell them "no". This would be YOUR own child that you would be required to give up, and that is no small matter.
---Tina on 6/26/07

This is such a difficult issue but i belive God is in control of all things and as hard as it is for a couple to not have a child i still belive God knows all things and in this situation we shouldn't try and help God out. He has a reason for all things for our good.
---m_ichelle on 6/22/07

I have been blessed with five wonderful children. I have lost five children also. I know the pain that goes with the loss of children. I as a christian women think that surrogancy is something that should be prayed about,I don't think that it is against the Lord's wishes or commands. Yes there are several hundred children awaiting adoption and that too should be taken into consideration. I would have no problem being a surrogant for a christian family. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk.
---Bridget on 6/13/07

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I feel it is wrong. I would not choose to do it. I feel we should leave such things alone. If God had wanted her to be a mom, he would have allowed it. Don't play God in this case. Adoption would be a better choice. So many unwanted kids already available.
---Robyn on 6/13/07

I am christian too and i do GS for a Friend. Nowhere in the Bible is actually a law or anything that says yes or no. Go with you feeling and pray about it. you find the answer
---anny on 6/12/07

tia, it's either God's way or NO way. Where in the bible did this happen? .....
---Donna9759 on 5/15/06

Donna, where in the Bible does it say you can ride in a car or fly in a plane or use a refrigerator or even use antibiotics....

That said, Tia, it is a wonderful thing for you to give of yourself like this... but it is fraught with problems. Be sure, be very sure it is what you should do.
---NurseRobert on 5/27/07

No, its not biblically wrong to be a surrogate mother. Why would it be wrong to help someone have a child?

If you are going to lecture infertile couples about adoption, then first, you need to adopt children yourself. But even then, its not your business to tell someone else how to create their family. That is private and none of your business, and never will be.
---Hermione_Lane on 5/27/07

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Carla ::Is there any Mention of a surrogate mother in the Bible OT OR NT?Doctors were not so learned in those days But Yet Sara allowed Abraham her husband to go to Her Bonds woman Hagar?How did God View this ?See the race of Ishmael today?God is infinite But we must obey his commands.
---Emcee on 5/20/07

I an not going to encourage someone to do something unless I my self would do it and it lines up with the word of God.

Anything God does he does it Well and when we find ourselves in a position where we do not get a breakthrou we ought to praise God any How. There is a song where it says

And If heaven wasn't..... promised to me, It was WORTH having, the Lord in my life.. Living in a world of darkness, he came down and paid full the price.
---carla5754 on 5/20/07

There is no greater joy in life than giving of yourself in selflessness to perform a miracle for a couple denied the blessings of children. For medical reasons, many women cannot conceive. That does not stop doctors from implanting eggs in the womb of someone else on their behalf. Just remember though that a special bonding occurs in childbirth. don't listen to those who would want to deny this couple that blessing. Suffer little children to come unto me, for such is the kingdom of Heaven.
---ashley on 5/20/07

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