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Must Dad Give Me Away

Does a bride have to be "given away" during the wedding ceremony? My dad wasn't really around when I was growing up. He didn't help raise me financially (eg.college). It's been 6 months since I last spoke with him. What's the significance of someone walking you down the aisle?

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I agree; this is a tradition, but certainly not something that has to be done. I preferred to walk down the aisle alone, because I wanted to give myself in marriage. This tradition comes from a time when woman were mere property to be transfered from one household to the next one; of course, this is not what it means today. If you are comfortable walking by yourself, there is no reason not to.
---Grace on 12/24/07


It is simply tradition based on sentiment. There is no reason whatsoever that it "must" be so.
---Bruce5656 on 4/2/07


Has your father shown any interest in the fact that you are getting married and, if so, does he show a desire to actually 'give you away'? If not, and if there are still problems between your parent it would probably be better if he wasn't there. The day is meant to be the happiest of your life and it will not be if your parents on not on good terms.
---emg on 5/27/06


Actually, it one man/covering releasing you to a new covering. The father is more or less saying,'I give you my blessing concerning this marriage'.
---Rickey on 5/27/06


Pharisee: Your words are very powerful. Life events, like weddings, funerals and babies, cause people to examine their lives, and this could be a turning point for this family.
---Madison1101 on 5/26/06




Grace is the signifigance.

loving others as you love yourself.

If you were your Dad wouldn't you want to be honored this way even though you were a total failure?

Sometimes what starts out as "going through the motions" can change the next chapter of your life, and maybe someone else's.

Grace is Powerful, it's what will keep you from Hell, let someone else recieve it to show the world that this is what you believe.
---Pharisee on 5/26/06


It's just a tradition. You can go alone, or with anyone of your choosing. I picked the man who was like a father to me in every way. Pastor Danny, if my father and mother were at odds and hated each other, how could I let him be there if it would deeply hurt my mother, especially since she was paying for the wedding?
---Donna9759 on 5/26/06


Part two .And I can tell you as a Dad that it is a feeling that I pray that no Dad of Mother has to feel . One can not change the pass but can allow God to use you to heal the future . My wife left me before I came to Jesus .A friend and brother in the love and compassion of Jesus Christ .Pastor Danny
---Pastor_Danny on 5/26/06


Part two .And I can tell you as a Dad that it is a feeling that I pray that no Dad of Mother has to feel . One can not change the pass but can allow God to use you to heal the future . My wife left me before I came to Jesus .A friend and brother in the love and compassion of Jesus Christ .Pastor Danny
---Pastor_Danny on 5/26/06


Have you forgiven your Dad ? If so the bible tells us love hids a mulitude of sin .If so give your Dad the option to say yes or no . As a Dad I had to go see my son go down the isle with his mother and her Husband. Part one of two .
---Pastor_Danny on 5/26/06




You can walk down the aisle all by yourself if you wish or ask a brother, mother, best friend etc. but you are not really being given away because no one owns you to be able to give you away. You'll be walking down that aisle totally of your own choice and I hope you'll have a fantastic day and be very happy.
---M.P. on 5/26/06


It's a holdover from the time when marriages were arranged.

There's no reason to follow this custom when it is meaningless in your case.
---Jack on 5/26/06


The tradition of giving the bride away stems from the days when women were chattel, and they belonged to their father till a husband would take them. The father then handed over the bride, and her dowry, to the groom.

You can walk down the aisle alone, or have someone else walk you down. I have been to weddings where mothers and brothers have done the honors.
---Madison1101 on 5/26/06


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