Teen Skin Cutter
My 16 yr old daughter is a teen cutter, and here recently she is getting more intense with the cutting.I have had her in counsling, and when it get to the point of making progress, she refuses to go anymore. Please if anyone can point me in the right direction, please give me advice........
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---wendy on 5/31/06
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From what I understand, and it is somewhat verified by teens who cut themselves, it is an out ward expression of inner pain that they cannot explain or express otherwise. It is turning emotional injury into a physical injury in an attempt to deal with it. Thus "cutting" provides a measure of relief from the psychic pain.
I'm wondering if your daughter is afraid to be without the relief cutting provides. Encourage her to continue conseling because if she is able to VERBALIZE her pain, she may find some real solutions. It is very common for people in conseling to reach a point of resistance just before a breakthrough. |
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---Donna66 on 11/5/09 |
I never cut, but I did grow up experiencing 51 years of suicidal depression.
To a pure/contrite hearted child of innocence, this world that is full of corruption is a very uncomfortable place (a pure hearted child will find no comfort here and will LAMENT....be sad/depressed "poor in spirit").
Matthew 5:3
"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven"...(in time, God will teach them to have an inner heaven, John 12:25).
Even on other forums, nobody knows why they cut. I can only guess that it is a subconscious protest against this world of corruption because innocent children are closer to (more accustomed to) God's way of life (peace).
Verses are from RSV. |
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---more_excellent_way on 11/4/09 |
hi to tell you the truth it can be really hard. i was a teen cutter and when my dad talked to me i wasnt ready he told me he cared and knew and when i was ready he would help.so my advice is tell her u care and when shes ready u will help. |
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---hannah on 11/2/09 |
I am too a cutter....its hard to stop once u'v started....i'v tryed.....i don't understand y i do it so there for i can't explain to anyone else y i do it....i just cut today....i feel better but that dosn't make the ppl around me feel anybetter! |
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---Jessica_Jarrett on 10/3/09 |
Hi, i'm sixteen and i cut myself too. maybe what your daughter is thinking is that even if she does make progress she's scared of falling back into cutting, that's what happened to me just tell her that you'll always be there for her no matter what and then follow through on your word. |
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---Meirah on 3/18/08 |
To be completely honest I am a cutter too.
Your daughter won't get better until she decides she's ready.Therapy doesn't help, trust me. You probably shouldn't talk to her about it either it might make her uncomfortable. Really the only thing you can do is give her a lot of positive attention. |
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---jenna on 3/8/08 |
I'm also a cutter. This happens when problems are greater than coping skills. It sounds like you're being a good mom and giving her resources. Even though I have many (incl. therapy), I sometimes feel pain that's bigger than them. Please try to be non-judgmental and see it from this perspective. Some people go shopping when they are stressed, others eat. Some of us cut. You can't force your daughter out of this, but you can listen when she's ready to talk and offer (not force) healthier ways of coping. |
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---Girl on 3/4/08 |
my name is anne and i am a cutter and have been for over a year now. Your daughter is not going to get better until she wants to, you and her therapist even her friends can't make her stop. I finally realized this week that we may cut about curtain problems in are lives but this addiction itself can only be stop by her control over it.
i wish you luck. |
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---anne on 1/30/08 |
Oh, how I despise the Devil. |
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---catherine on 1/29/08 |
i will be honest i am also a cutter but it is something i regret i have to say it is an addiction but i go 2 therapy for it and i hate talking 2 a stranger about my problems i wouldnt start cutting if i felt like what i have 2 say matters and that i am loved and not some person who gets ignored and unimportant i'm just saying that listen 2 what she has 2 say and if she seems depressed just talk 2 her. i hope what i said will help. and dont worry i have my step sister helping me. u can help ur daughter |
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---kelsy on 1/27/08 |
If she made progress then there was a willingness in her soul.
Leading me only to one conclusion; the devil has set up a fortress in her mind.
This might sound strange but YOU NEED to devote yourself entirely to God.
Stop watching the TV at night, and DEVOTE every waking minute to prayer, learning the word and yes I'd even fast (until the resolution comes) in this case.
You are going to need to see spiritually if you want to battle this.
Your daughter's life may be at stake. |
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---Pharisee on 1/13/08 |
Any time you have a child that continues to cut themselves,you can take it as a sign for some serious inner fears and hurts. I don't know where you get too in the counseling but she needs to be in a place where she can freely speak about what is going on. Usually, this is a sign of some deep emotional hurts that require pain to make a person feel better about what is going on. Encourage her and listen to her and you and her go to therapy together. I will be in much prayer about this. |
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---Brenda on 3/10/07 |
I too have a daughter who is a cutter.I turned to her public school for help. That got me nowhere.I took it in to GOD to show me how to help her.We started every night asking how did you day go. For weeks she would not talk.Oneday she came to me crying little did I know she had been raped in Oct. this was April when she told me.Their is something hurting her so bad. Just keep the faith and just keep a open mind .She will open up when she feels she can. |
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---Teresa on 3/10/07 |
Two things to try and resolve.
1. What is making her feel badly
2. Why does she cut when she feels bad.
You can not really solve the problem if you do not know what is causing it. |
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---Hellena on 2/21/07 |
try not to make your daughter feel as if you are pressurising her to stop, if anything, this will have the opposite to the desired effect. instead of dictating to her what she 'must' do, ask her to come to you when she feels the need to cut, and be with her in her time of need. give her reasons to stop her destuctive behaviour, but most of all, make sure she realizes just how much you love her and are there for her. good luck! |
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---sophie on 2/13/07 |
I worked with a lot of children that self harm, they seem to feel that they hate themselves and that no one cares for them. This is a commom thing in teens of this nature. Generally here parents get it wrong by thinking if I give a child gifts instead of love and devotion or a parent neglects the child and abandon them. Divorce, Or a child is going through peergroup pressure, exams, or even a bad relationships. you will have to work out what it is with your child. |
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---Carla5754 on 8/1/06 |
Have you sought advice from your church? |
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---Thomas on 6/1/06 |
Wendy
tough love is the hardest thing a parent can do. my son was a drug abuser for most of his teen years and 2 years of rehab was agony for me Make her GO or commit her because the cutting will only escalate this will not go away unless the real issues are dealt with.. Wendy there is hope pray with her and for her ask Jesus to give her peace and when she gets out of control sing Praises to GOD.
contact me at mike3966 and we can talk more |
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---willow on 6/1/06 |
There is something deep going on inside of her, and it is probably blocking her from moving forward in therapy. Prayer for her will help tremedously. Stormie O'Martian has a great book about praying for kids "The Power of a Praying Parent."
Most importantly, love her unconditionally, as Christ loves her. Show her that more than anything in the world. Cutters are angry about something and feel unloveable. They are directing their deep seated anger at themselves through the blade. |
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---Madison1101 on 5/31/06 |
Mark 5:2-5 And when he was come out of the ship,immediately there met him out of the tombs a man with an unclean spirit, 5:5 And always, night and day, he was in the mountains, and in the tombs, crying, and cutting himself with stones. :9 And he asked him, What is thy name? And he answered, saying, My name is Legion: for we are many. A solid Bible believing church is highly recomended. |
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---BoDilly on 5/31/06 |
Get you and your family into a bible beleiving church. accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour-He is the only one who can heal-anything else is worthless. Seek council from elders in your church and heavy duty prayer! i will pray for you! |
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---michelle on 5/31/06 |
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