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Family Problems With A Cousin

I have a cousin who has forbidden her family to speak to me for the last 7 years. I was falsely accused of something I didn't do. She controls who in her family can speak to me. I do not want her at my mother's funeral, she's known to cause trouble. How do I handle this? She is NOT a Christian.

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 ---Donna9759 on 6/9/06
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You don't handle it. I am willing to bet also that she is controlling no one....not really. How many people do you know that shun God because they believe He wants to control them against their own will? If she shows up at the funeral and causes trouble, then she has revealed who she really is. However, you never know how Father will change a heart just in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye.
---Linda6563 on 7/23/08

Have a very strong, male family member stand at the door and tell her she is not welcome. If she makes a scene, which is possible, call the police.
---Madison1101 on 4/11/07

Can't ya all take a break for your moms funeral?
---sue on 8/16/06

Either way you go, you do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, and spiritual wickedness in high places.
---Linda6563 on 6/12/06

It is not flesh and blood but principalities and powers on both sides. The cousin is probably using manipulation but fear or some other exalted thing (not your cousin nor the Spirit of Christ) is ruling her sister and she is permitting it. I am telling you, the sister either believes (by choice) what your cousin is saying or she is afraid of some recourse if she gives no heed.
---Linda6563 on 6/12/06

In order for there to be true control, the sister must believe all that your cousin said for herself...and if she does, then her choice is made based on her own belief (she makes it her "truth") and she bears that responsibility herself. If she doesn't believe what your cousin said, then she is allowing the devil a place only Jesus should hold and should at least relate to you and see for herself if the story she has heard is true or not.
---Linda6563 on 6/12/06

If her sister is a Christian, then why is she allowing your cousin to control her life instead of the Lord Jesus? Fear perhaps, which is not of God to begin with? That is what I mean when I say that no man can truly control another without some submission/trust on the part of the one on the other side of the fence. It takes two to tango. Then it ceases to be control and becomes choice.
---Linda6563 on 6/12/06

She most definitely is controlling her family. Her sister is a Christian and she has been forbidden to speak to me, and her sister's daughter had a baby and called to tell me not to come to see Emily, the new baby. So she is controlling. Isn't that a Jezebel spirit? Is that of God? She is not Christian.
---Donna9759 on 6/12/06

Ask the funeral director to not her in. I know of a preacher who was good friends with a couple and even got them in church. He even gave them money from his own pocket to help them out. He even got the church to give them money. When her husband died, they wouldn't even let him for the wake. The director,whom the preacher knows well told him he couldn't come in.
---Rev_Herb on 6/9/06

Read a few of these verses; Genesis 50:17, Matthew 18:21, Matthew 18:35, Exodus 23:4-5,Proverbs 24:29, Proverbs 25:21-22, Acts 7:60, Ask your self "What would Jesus do, or want you to do, look in his word for the answers" It may be hard to do but just remember God will take care of her for you. Even as Jesus at death asked for their forgiveness. Just be very careful around her. God Bless You
---judit4846 on 6/9/06

Rom 12:20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
Rom 12:21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

As for the lies, the faithful and true witness has already won.
---Linda6563 on 6/9/06

As much as it depends on YOU, live peaceably with all men. There is no trouble from any one who should be able to shake His presence in our lives.

Rom 12:17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
Rom 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
Rom 12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
---Linda6563 on 6/9/06

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