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Does God Pick Our Mate

Does God choose a mate for us?

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/1. Most don't seek God
2. Many who seek Him ignore His "no"
3. Mat 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.\-aservant on 6/29/15
-Worth repeating
---micha9344 on 6/30/15


Doesn't seem likely. If God is a match maker & He doesn't make mistakes, why are there so many divorces?
---Louise_Winston on 6/24/15


1. Most don't seek God
2. Many who seek Him ignore His "no"
3. Mat 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
---aservant on 6/29/15


Amen Cluny, I am single and never been married. Young ladies are praying not to turn out as me. 40's and not married.

But, I been listening to many women for the last 20 years. I found out as you said. Being married to the wrong person is scary.

I rather take my time or be an old maid than to stuck in a horrible marriage.

Darlene's godly marriage is RARE today.

I am happy, and content.
If God wants me married He better drop him into my life and make it CLEAR.
Because without God's CLEAR MESSAGE, I am not taking any chances.

Today's culture is bad.
People expect ungodly things on the FIRST date.
It won't happen on the 50th date, but the NERVE of even asking on the FIRST date!
---Nicole_Lacey on 6/28/15


There are worse things than not being married.

Most of them are being married to the wrong person.

If you think marriage will mean unendlng bliss forever after, read some of these blogs where people (mostly women) complain about their spouses.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 6/28/15


I am 43 yrs old. But I am glad you have taken off all your rings in public, Darlene. Because I have heard of robbers being inpatient of taking off the rings that they cut off the fingers just to get the rings quicker.

Plus, because you are older, the robbers will believe the rings are of higher value.
You don't see older women wearing custom rings like younger women.

You are blessed indeed and stayed faithful to God.
---Nicole_Lacey on 6/27/15




Nicole Lacey thank you dear little sister(I assume you're younger than 76),I had never thought of it the way you put it,Godly love story,and I love it,so sweet. Ha ha one would think so about the diamonds but he has been more than generous through the years and even after two of my rings were stolen I still don't have enough fingers for all the ones I have. I used to wear the rings doubled up but after a woman was robbed in the Mall parking lot I quit wearing them when I was going shopping. God Bless
---Darlene_1 on 6/27/15


Beautiful godly love story, Darlene.
You are right. Just because
God leads someone to their spouse it doesn't mean the marriage won't need work from both to stay married.
David and his first marriage was awful due to his own wife expecting him to come to her
level without a move on her part.

60 years wow. Doesn't he owes you another diamond?
---Nicole_Lacey on 6/26/15


God never makes mistakes, we need to remember Diamonds don't shine until they are polished. God Bless
---Darlene_1 on 6/26/15


God told me who my husband would be but not in specific words,like a name,or anything so clear. I had prophetic dreams from the time I was about 11 years old and God told me in a dream about my future husband when I was 14. God gave me a dream showing what the man I would marry would say to me and the situation we would be in when he said it. We were riding horses and he said two things to me in the dream,it happened that way when I was sixteen and he said the exact things he said in the dream. I was sixteen when we married and we have been in each others lives 60 years in July. God Bless
---Darlene_1 on 6/26/15


/If God is a match maker & He doesn't make mistakes, why are there so many divorces?\-Louise_Winston on 6/24/15
Mat 19:8 ... the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Pro 5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Mal 2:14-15 ...Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth...the wife of thy covenant...That he might seek a godly seed...take heed...let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
Mat 19:6 ...God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
-"til death do us part"
/a lot of people don't listen to the guidance He offers.\-Rita_H on 6/24/15
-Precisely
---micha9344 on 6/24/15




He gives us guidance in the sense that He tells us to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers so, as Christians are fairly thin on the ground, that narrows it down quite a lot. Whether He has an actual individual hand-picked for us I don't know but, if He has, a lot of people don't listen to the guidance He offers. A lot of Christian marriage break down these days so something is not right.
---Rita_H on 6/24/15


Doesn't seem likely. If God is a match maker & He doesn't make mistakes, why are there so many divorces?
---Louise_Winston on 6/24/15


LOL
you guys are just funny today.
---francis on 5/17/10

i should have said for those who believe in the Fathern, Son, and Holy Ghost.

You are a good sport, francis.
---aka_joseph on 5/17/10


Well, He did chose a bride for Christ.
---aka_joseph on 5/17/

LOL
you guys are just funny today.
---francis on 5/17/10


I would say yes, for those who would have mates.
Gen 24:14-15 Isaac and Rebekkah
Matthew 19:12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from [their] mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive [it], let him receive [it].
---micha9344 on 5/17/10


ONLY on TWO occasions do i recall God picking someones mate...

Well, He did chose a bride for Christ.
---aka_joseph on 5/17/10


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ONLY on TWO occasions do i recall God picking someones mate

for ADAM he picked EVE ( it was very slim pickingback then)

For Hosea he picked Gomer

There may bemore but i do not recall them.
---francis on 5/17/10


I do not believe that God picks a mate for us, but he teaches us what to look for. If you have children, would you pick a mate for them or would you teach them how to pick? They have to be responsible and make their own choices, but my job is to teach them good traits to look for. I do believe that God can allow people to come into our lives, but ultimately, it is our choice.
---Floyd_A._Simmons on 5/17/10


Katryn: you have a fixed period of time in your mind within which God must give you your man. Please prayerfully remove the idol of time from your heart and give God the free rein. A woman in my country married at the age of 46! The husband could not hide his surprise that he met her a virgin, he announced it loudly and publicized it. It is the society that planted the idea of time to marry in you, do not judge God based on that, HE follows HIS own plan.
---Adetunji on 2/2/10


I was alone on the canal with no money and no natural hope..my wife of now was spoken to by God,who sent her to meet me (we were complete strangers)..We honeymooned in Israel..Yes we have our ups and downs,a fact of life for all couples,but we each know as individuals that what we have was born of (God's)supernatural intervention so commit all your ways to the Lord and He will direct your paths..God bless!
---richard on 1/31/10


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You have to be convinced God is Good but will never work against your will. Sometimes our will is entrenched in things in our subconscious mind & through our blood line. Speak to the Lord. As I have done, I am amazed in what He has done, not only in marriage but in other areas as well.

The Word is God and Life. Jojn 1:1,Genesis 24:14, Psalm 32:8. God will lead you to your spouse. Ask the Lord to deal with what hinders you from following Him. He will help you clear up all blocks.

Jeremiah 29:11, Psalm 84:11, Psalm 37:4-5, Proverbs 3:5 are important scriptures. Knit them together and meditate on them to believe them.

He is a Good Dad who loves to amaze us. I will keep you in prayer.
---liz48 on 1/30/10


No,

We have a hand book of examples of who God chose partners for in the Bible and why it was to fit his perfect will.

Match the word with your partner.

1. Is the person saved.

Do they have a testimony that God is the centre of their lives and Jesus Christ is their own personal Saviour .

2. Are they practicing their faith through prayer and obedience through the word?

Do they attend and partake in a Holy Bible christian faith church.

4. Do they accept the word rightly divided and adhere to it''''s teachings.

through their daily life and conduct is it visible that they are well established content and stable in Christ.

It is up to you!
---Carla3939 on 9/15/09


If we are TRULY to be with the person, than God does choose our mate. We MUST ask God to bring the one He has for us to marry to us. Sometimes we try to pick our own mate, and this can end in divorse. The reason being is because the person was NOT for us, but was someone elses wife or husband. When we do it our way, rather than God's, we end up in adultery (because that person belongs to someone else).
---Leslie on 9/1/09


Kathryn,



maybe you have over looked the scriptures the sign of the times and the fact that God shows us through the word that things are getting worse and waxing worse,

Look at it as a blessing your not on the next page asking about is it lawful to divorce for any said reason.


Keep praying but maybe with a BIG Thankful HEART also!



2Ti 3:2
For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
---Carla3939 on 9/1/09


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i am 34m been single my whole life, i pray everday for a spouse or at least a bf, ASBOLUTELY NOTHING HAPPENS!!!!!
why am i getting the same outcome as not praying at all
not sorry to say this but i actually expect to get what i am praying for, darnt thats why i am praying!!!!!!
---kathryn on 8/30/09


God always gives His best to those who leave the choice with Him. Remember that!!!
---Cretia on 12/9/08


God always gives His best to those who leave the choice with Him. Remember that!!!
---Cretia on 12/9/08


Hi
God already knows the outcome (He knows end from the beginning). I picked a mate I assumed God had picked for me. A disaster! An arrogant, insubmissive, abusive & delusional individual. I hadn't received counsel. Had no friends speaking into my life. Was very zealous with little wisdom. Needy, broken, desperate. A recipe for disaster!
So we're back at square 1. Seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness and all THESE THINGS shall FOLLOW YOU.
In Him is freedom.Lots of choices but look for the things you can't live with, get counsel, be brutal as you weigh the odds & be open to God's direction. He could say "no", "yes" or "wait"...
Blessings!

lindi7569
---Lindi on 10/27/08


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I love what francis wrote when it comes to choosing a mate.I also think when a person chooses to marry, they should commit to love that person and no other person and if the marriage does not pan out, they both agree to spend all of their remaining days alone on earth in service to god. That is what god calls for us to do as christians and that would make people think twice about marrying the right person, and think twice about ending the marriage. This also abides with the teachings of jesus about divorce and remarriage being adultery.
---Wal_Rev on 10/26/08


No, God give us free will. He give us choices. We should pray always before making such a major decision in our lives. I seek God's guidance. Praying that my descerning spirit will show me if that person is godly and have the same direction as I do. God created Eve for Adam because he did not feel man should be alone. Joseph was chosen for mary in order that the birth of Jesus would be fill. Not that Joseph would be his nature father. But a husband to her to cover her. I once beleieved that God had that one special man for me. I realize that now that the one can come from knowing what was not the one.
---Gaylynn on 10/23/08


What I want to know is how you discern if someone was actually sent to you by God?
---TT on 11/14/07


ReAnn...ask God to give you His heart for this person and to see him through God's eyes. I personally have met men in the past that I was not attracted to, but they turned good looking when I got to know them as a person (and this was while I was in the world) so can you imagine what God can do for you. If this man is the person God brought for you, ask God to make him attractive in your eyes...for nothing is impossible with God! :-)
---Holly4jc on 11/14/07


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But if she marries "in the Lord", Helen, I'd think this would be in obedience to Him...to His choosing. Plus, I'm finding it will be indeed the perfect person to learn how to love, if God Himself makes the choice, in His ways "past finding out" (Romans 11:33) to test my obedience and drive me crazy, but never bored > TV action movies and football have become a boring bygone > "walk in love" (Ephesians 5:2) > in prayer, but always with one foot down to earth (((o:
---Bill_bila5659 on 11/13/07


Some marriages are made in Heaven.

Some marriages are made in hell.
---Whisper on 11/13/07


I beleive that yes God does choose a mate for us. But, we have to be open to God's will and you must pray for it. If not you will find someone that was not meant for you. If you go off of your libido you will not find the mate the God intends for you.

REANN.. The question to ask yourself is will this person help me get to heaven? If not the best looking person on earth is not worth an eternity in Hell.
---Francis on 11/13/07


Give him a gift certificate to the dermatologist for wart and hairy ape removal. The small elfish hands part, I don't know what can be done. A pair of nice leather gloves for the winter.
---Bob on 11/13/07


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What if God picks someone for you, but he is not what you expected, someone far below average looking-- small elfish hands, warts and moles all-over his face and plus he is really hairy. All of the physical attributes you're not attracted to. But you are attracted to his soul. What do you do in this circumstance?
---REANN on 11/13/07


What if God picks someone for you, but he is not what you expected, someone far below average looking-- small elfish hands, warts and moles all-over his face and plus he is really hairy. All of the physical attributes you're not attracted to. But you are attracted to his soul. What do you do in this circumstance?
---REANN on 11/13/07


I think that if I wanted a mate and I asked God to choose that mate for me, then He would. However 1 Corinthians 7:39 says "...she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord". So there is freedom in Christ to marry whom we want "only in the Lord".
---Helen_5378 on 9/12/07


Three divorces ... can't blame God for that one :).

Happy, congratulations and God bless you both.
---Nellah on 8/4/06


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i have waited and for the last three years intensely prayed that God would prepare a woman for me. On the 6th of may my prayer was answered i have one girl for me. this is Gods plan for my life. its so awesome how God has brought us together, and only He could have been the author of our relationship
---happy on 7/24/06


No, God does not choose a mate for us. On the other hand, if you want to marry the person perfect for your life, ask God to send him and pray and seek God's face. When the right one comes along, you will know it.
---shira on 7/12/06


Prov. 18:22 "[Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the LORD".This verse tells me a man searches for his wife and the wife places herself in a position to be found.
The verses Ricky refers to is an excellent place to start.
This has always been my mindset from the day the Father lead me to the passage. However my path has never lead to a wife or children. I must admit I have often wondered why, then my mind is taken back to the verses.
---josef on 6/24/06


No, but He will give us the wisdom on who to choose in His word.(Proverbs 3:5-6) For instance, it says not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers or folks who aren't saved.
---Rickey on 6/23/06


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Rose, I would say if you are a saved christian and lead by the spirit you are paying attention to Gods word.And I guess you could say God picks your mate. But as we all know most people in this world don,t ask Gods opinion ,usually they are too young to know enough whats best for them.
---tom2 on 6/23/06


First of all we are to be lead of the Spirit. Consider Romans 8 pray and meditate read again and again until the meaning of this passage sinks down insdie of you. You have been born with a purpose and not every one knows the secret of the heart but the Lord. Should you marry some one who does not share the same purpose then there will be strife and contention. Consider what is written before making any decision. Proverbs 3:5-6
---Dean on 6/23/06


If we are diligently praying and asking Him to, HE will pick one for you, and if it's HIS WILL for you to have one. "He works all things after the counsel of His will." He gives to those who ask of Him if it is His will for you life.
---Donna9759 on 6/23/06


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