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Can Widowed People Date

I lost my husband 7 months ago. Is it wrong to date and how long should one wait?

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 ---Jennie on 7/9/06
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She's probably married by now, at 7 months she was asking, by 12 months she was dating and 2 years later, she's married and wondering, did I do the right thing? You think?
Or she could be thrilled and glad for the second chance at happiness, maybe, maybe not.
All that we know, at 7 months she was ready to jump back in to the dating scene.
---Bob on 2/18/08


I would not want to date or even think of marriage so soon but everyone is different. I would want to sort out my feelings, grieve for a period(to help me heal)want to relive the memories I had with this man,especially the good memories. It takes time to heal from a life changing experience like death.People do not know how to communicate or have very good coping skills when they make a fast move like that. They usually have dependent and non assertive personalities. I think.
---Robyn on 2/18/08


Jennie ... just don't get hurt. You may think you are ready, but probably are not.
---alan8869_of_UK on 2/18/08


Jenny and Jennie are two completely different names and people. I didn't lose my husband.
---Jenny on 6/14/07


People wonder why many scriptures are butchered by many. The question posted was Can a WIDOWED person date and then Jenny says she lost her husband earlier. Why would she ask if a widowed person can date if she is divorced. Read what is written. The answer is yes Jenny and let God direct you always in righteousness. I empathize with your loss. have faith and move forward. God will bless you always.
---ashley on 6/13/07




Jennie::"LOST my husband" does that mean dead or divorced.If dead then you are single, free but do use your experience &womanly wisdom.It's easy to jump from the frying pan into the fire.
---Emcee on 6/13/07


yes i think it is fine to go out with people you need to be around people.... have a go at it... and enjoy.
---irene7395 on 6/12/07


Go ahead have some fun. Have fun, Don't sin.
---catherine on 6/11/07


1 Timothy 5:14 "Therefore, I want younger widows to get married, bear children, keep house, and give the enemy no occasion for reproach;"

I don't know how old you are, but if you are a young widow, Paul says that you should remarry. If you are an older widow, Paul suggests that you should remain as he was and perhaps enter into service for your church. But in any case, for the widow and the never married, it is better to marry than to burn if it comes to that, 1 Cor 7:9.
---lorra8574 on 6/12/07


I would want to wait a while before I started to date. But that depends on you and your personality type. I would also want to give myself time to grieve and to savor the hopefully, wonderful memories, that me and my deceased husband shared. I would want to wait at least two years or maybe more, out of respect for my husband's memory. But its nothing wrong with dating. Take your time. Be careful. You are very vulnerable right now.
---Robyn on 6/11/07




No it would not be wrong to date. I don't think that there is a set time to wait. You will just know when it is right I am sure.
---M.A. on 6/10/07


No, it is not wrong to date. Your spouse is gone and you are free to remarry today if you wanted. It is a good idea to wait at least six month after any serious life change before making any important decisions, like marriage. But, dating would be your own decision. You will know when you are ready.
---Susie on 7/18/06


Jennie--just make sure you are finished with the grieving process. It takes about 2 years to get over the loss of a spouse, usually. If it has taken you less time, that's ok.

Just make sure that YOU are ready and you're not trying to make OTHER PEOPLE happy or living up to THEIR expectations either way.
---Jack on 7/15/06


It's natural that you'd want to get out, meet people and have a good time. It shows that you're working towards building a life for yourself after the loss of your spouse. That's a positive move. There's no set time to grieve, and stay away from the opposite sex. Only you can be the judge of that.
You may want to double date, or go to a singles affair where there are others who are seeking friendships. Be prayerful, careful, and enjoy yourself:0)
---lynet on 7/10/06


Are you wanting to date to fill the void? or because you have gone through the grieving process and are healed and ready to date? Most folks jump into something as a coping mechanism, thinking they can date to cope with the pain of the loss. I strongly urge you to spend time with the Lord Jesus and let him be your Husband and fall in love with Him and let Jesus pick someone out for you to date. Make sure you are fully healed and not just wanting to fill a void in your life.
---Donna9759 on 7/10/06


I think it is best for any single person to form solid relationships of the same gender and to be involved in ministry and volunteer projects to maintain socialization and combat loneliness. It is not wrong to date of course but someone of the opposite gender does not need to be your only source of companionship.
---bonnie on 7/10/06


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