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How To Help A Grieving Parent

What can you do for a grieving parent who has just lost their only child?

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 ---mary on 7/10/06
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Find out if any church in the area has a Grief Share program.

It is NOT therapy, but a Bible-based structured group discussion that will help your friend.

Mary, tell your friend that it TRULY helped my wife and I through the mourning for our 23 years-old first born.

It is NOT pushy, and very sensitive to people's needs.
---John_T on 5/15/08

Sometimes Flesh and Blood can't comfort people, only God can. PRAY for the Lord to COMFORT her. Ask God to reach deep down inside of her being and heal that wound. It will take time, grieving is a process.

LISTEN to her, she will want to tell you how sad she is and what she's feeling. She will want someone to understand her pain. It is OVERWHELMING and makes one numb inside for a long time.
I went to counselling, it didn't help. I was told to "give up my desire to be a mother."
---Donna9759 on 4/20/07

{{{{shria}}}} God bless you, I know it hurts and we miss our love ones. The thing that gets me by most times is the fact that we will see them again in heaven some day.
---sue on 7/13/06

May our precious Lord Jesus stretch forth his hand of mercy and comfort you in your temporal loss. May he bring a spirit of peace in to your home, heart and mind and wrap his arms of love about you in your hour of need. May God bless you and keep you until you see your daughter again.
---Heather on 7/13/06

I just put red roses on my daughters grave a couple of hours ago. She passed away March 7, 04 from cancer. I don't think I will ever get over it. I think about her all day and when I am awake at night. I just want to hug her and talk to her. I hugged her many times but I would love to hug her now and tell her how much I love her. She was the sweetest, loving, funny person I ever knew.
---shira on 7/13/06

Post 2 of 2 - GOD upheld me, put a blanket of peace upon me and it never left me, He spoke to me "For the Father Himself loves you." He has compassion on us if we cry out to him and ask Him to heal us. Does she know Jesus? I can help if you'd like. I wouldn't mind befriending her and letting her know I went through something similar. I believe Jesus Heals the brokenhearted, but they have to go through the grieving process and that's the most devastating part.
---Donna9759 on 7/11/06

Post #1 of 2: mary, does she know Jesus as her Lord and Savior? I believe people who have experienced the depth of the devastation of losing a child can minister to her. I was distraught and numb, and not cohereant for 3 years. I cried every day and didn't want to talk to anyone. I only wanted God to give me understanding of why such a devastated thing had to happen, what did I do wrong? Through those 3 years of grieving, being in a state of DISTRAUGHT to the point where I wanted to commit suicide.
---Donna9759 on 7/11/06

When my son died, what truly helped me was when people talked about him. Sometimes people wouldn't want to talk about him or ask me if it was hurtful to talk about him but I wanted them to. I still do even though it happened 10 years ago.
---sue on 7/11/06

Mary--the only thing you can to is be willing to be there for her--and sometimes, just listen and let her vent her feelings.

But only when SHE is ready. Different people deal with grief in different ways.
---Jack on 7/11/06

Mary: I would write her a note which says that you cannot comprehend the pain she is in, and that you know that words cannot help at this time, but if she ever needs a shoulder to cry on, you will be there for her. Short, simple and to the point.

Then pray that the Lord will heal her and show His love to Her in this time.
---Madison1101 on 7/10/06

Let her know that she is loved and pray for her. If she is not saved then maybe invite her to church with you.
---Helen_5378 on 7/10/06

It was my former employer's 17 year old daughter (only child) in a freak car accident. She is in such a state of shock and is a very difficult person to begin with. Does not like people to really help her. Everyone thinks she might commit suicide. I honestly don't know how she has not died from a broken heart.
---mary on 7/10/06


Thank you for your concern, it was our daughter. She nursed her daughter, placed her in the bassinet, said to hubby, "Oh my head hurts", then said hello, Jesus.

Rayna is almost a clone of her mom, Rachel. Whenever she comes for a W/E, she lights up our life, and leaves us exhausted!
---John_T on 7/10/06

John, I am so sorry to hear you lost a 23 year old son. Can I ask how long your grieving process lasted? Mary, is it you who has lost your only child or a friend of yours? I will tell you this. I stood on the word, "HE HEALS THE BROKENHEARTED and BINDS UP THEIR WOUNDS." Psalm 142 or 147 verse 3. That word kept me alive for 3 years and eventually it came to pass in my life. You or your friend will go through stages of grief.
---Donna9759 on 7/10/06

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