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Does God Recognise My Marriage

My first husband was an alcoholic who had 4 DUI's, spent 18 months in jail and picked beer back up when he got out. I am now saved, remarried and active in church with my family. Does God recognise my second marriage?

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1Cr 7:10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband 1Cr 7:11(but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife. 1Cr 7:12 But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her.
---Ryan on 10/2/08


Jesus said, except for FORNICATION. And Deuteronomy 22:13-21 gives the case of a woman who lies about being virgin, in order to fool a guy into marrying her. She has committed fornication...not adultery.

So, I consider that this is what Jesus meant when He said except for fornication. He did not say adultery. He does not divorce us when we commit adultery against our Groom, by doing things with Satan.

The lier's marriage is void because she married under false pretenses.
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/22/07


I cannot answer that. Read Romans chapter 7.Pray and seek the Lord on this matter. Then be persuaded in your own mind whether God recognizes your second marriage. God bless.
---Robyn on 5/22/07


Were you a Christian during your first marriage? Was your first husband. I don't believe God holds us to relationships when were were not His. The marriage you now have where you both are Christians, is is bound by God.
---Debbie on 5/22/07


She may go and be this mans wife Quote Deut 24:2 We are no longer under the law but under grace, Paul Quote Corinthians 7:39 Matthew 19:1:11, Romans 7, Mark , just to mention a few marry again for any other reason accept Fornication you will both be committing Adultery. Read the Scriptures for your self put Bible onine into google and look up the relevant scripture on Divorce, Adultry, do not rely on misquoted scriptures!
---Carla5754 on 8/30/06




2 Chr 21:11 Moreover he made high places in the mountains of Judah, and caused the inhabitants of Jerusalem to commit fornication . . .

Fornication is about covenant breaking. Mt 19:9 is about covenant breaking.

Adultery occurs when you marry another when divorce is not justified.

Abandonment via jail, cronic drunkenness, cronic financial irresponsibility are covenant breaking items.

Dt 24:2 . . . she may go and be another man's wife.
---a_servant on 8/5/06


I have heard this age old timeless tune of people not wanting to forgive, This person did not ask for forgiveness and the follow the advice in corinthians 7, matthew 19, romans 7, mark 10. she remarried and her spouse is not mentioned to have committed adultry,if you ask for forgiveness you are forgiven, how do you then continue in sin?
---carla5754 on 8/1/06


Melissa, What you are asking is exactly why my husband and I have been sent by the LORD to start a Couples Retreat. It's called (Putting God First Christian Retreat) because being remarried is not a sin that cannot be forgiven. Too many "Christians" act as if that's the only sin that will go unforgiven. It's our "brothers" and "sisters" (in church) that don't forgive. Thank God we don't need their forgiveness just God's, and we have that. God knows our heart. Put God First.
---Dottie on 8/1/06


Elder is it possible for you to please clarify
what you mean by ''one mate phyisically beating another is sexual sin Fornication''?
---Carla5754 on 7/24/06


All I know is that I had been divorced prior to turning my life over to the Lord. And I know that I will do everything possible not go through another divorce. Not because I want to stay married to my husband, but because I made a commitment to the Lord this time.
---Susie on 7/18/06




elder, thank you for your sound and compassionate comments on this one. It is too easy to be judgmental, and deny people the joy of a better new marriage, just be taking selective Bible passges
---alan8869_of_UK on 7/15/06


Carla5754 as I already stated Fornication combines all sexual sin.
One mate physically beating another is fornication/sexual sin.
What you said was, "Unfortunately abuse is not a reason for remarriage, fornication is."
Well, yes it is if it results in divorce. Abuse is sexual sin/fornication.
Any time a person has Scriptural basis for divorce they can remarry.
Or would you rather they murder their mate, ask forgiveness then remarry? Their old mate would be dead, huh?
---Elder on 7/14/06


Emcee Joseph was not "just engaged" to Mary. It was the first formal part of the marriage covenant.
You will notice the words "thy wife" and "her husband" used in the Scripture I gave.
Cond #2
---Elder on 7/14/06


Cond #2
Joseph had to give Mary a writing of divorcement to desolve this relationship. Which he had determined to do.
He was thinking on whether to do it publicly, to protect his reputation, or privately to protect the life of Mary who he loved.
She would have been stoned to death publicly.
The Angel said, "Fear not to take unto thee thy wife."
Read the customs of marriage in that day and you will see that.
---Elder on 7/14/06


Jesus would have been clear on the all things scripture if it was refering to marriage unfortunately only adultery/fornication and death is mentioned concerning Marriage, not Salvation Anne, Having said that you step into a new life with Christ, How will you return to your old sin's and still continue in Christ?
'' Any couple who get's saved need's to remarry'' Thats a new Gospel!
---Carla5754 on 7/12/06


Matthew 19:9:10:11.
....''Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her rhat is put away, doth commit adultery.

vs 10 paraphrase: If this is the case with both people it is better NOT TO MARRY.

vs 11 BUT he said to them, NOTE: ALL men cannot recieve this saying, save they to whom it is given.
---Carla5754 on 7/12/06


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Ditto on Annie's comment.
All thing considered, I think there's a greater chance of God recognizing your 2nd marriage than your 1st.
If you haven't already, pray and ask God to forgive you for committing adultry if you, indeed, by divorcing your 1st huband committed adultry. God knows. Anyway it's covered. Also, make sure you forgive your 1st husband. (Mat. 6:16)
Move on, and enjoy your new life with your new husband. (Heb.6:1 & 9:14)
---Tbabe on 7/12/06


John,
"I don't think God recognizes the marriages of the unsaved."

Following that logic;
Anyone couple who gets saved needs to "remarry."
and
An individual who gets saved but their spouse dosen't is free to leave them.
---Bruce5656 on 7/12/06


Okay so we both agree that you can divorce for sexual sin. Can you explain the rest please.
---Carla5754 on 7/12/06


Alcohol/DUI'S are they sexual sins? I did not question sex especially the ones you have Quoted for some unknow reason.

Re:''Beastuality''

''Burns water cooking, but you can for sexual sins FORNICATION/ADULTRY''?
'' offending things, Cutting off hands, Plucking out eyes''
''Joseph was going to divorce Mary''?

Why because she abused him! What was the message Joseph recieved? , He thought she slept with another man.God told him she did not.
---Carla5754 on 7/12/06


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You say you are NOW saved. You are a new creation in Christ; old things have passed away. Behold the new has come. 2 Cor. 5:17

What is the unpardonable sin? You're forgiven! There is no condemnation to those who are in Christ. GRACE
---Annie on 7/12/06


Now If i believed you could not divorce period I would have stated so. Where did I suggest that you could not divorce. The scripture say except for fornication, if that be with an animal, human or otherwise fornication is fornication. If you have any other scripture to back up divorce then I would be greatful. Alan pointed out to me sometime ago that fornication was relations with anyone other that ones spouse.
---Carla5754 on 7/12/06


I hope you haven't an axe to grind since I have never advocated that can one can only divorce for fornication/adultery. First of all I lived a fornicating life prior to marriage. I was also brought up in a terribly violent home as a child, both physical and mental abuse but not sexual although this occured through my fathers friends and brother. I stood by my mother to divorce my father or he would have killed her.
---Carla_5754 on 7/12/06


Carla...Good point, thanks for the correction.
---Ryan on 7/12/06


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Elder:Your quote Mat.1;18 Joseph was NOT married,just engaged.However your point is well taken one cannot divorce just because you do not approve of his Hair Colour,or some frivolous reason.Marry in Haste & repent at leisure.Only God can absolve this relationship NOT man,provided it was a relationship in the eyes of God& attested by Him.
---Emcee on 7/12/06


Sorry...I didn't realize that during her previous marriage she was not saved, but that does bring up the interesting question, Is God bound by the confines of space and time? Doesn't He know if we are one of His children from before the time we are in the womb?
---Ryan on 7/12/06


Carla when you understand the meaning of fornication you will understand why abuse can be a sexual sin.
If adultery is the only reason for divorce then a person could have sex with an animal (beastuality) and still not have reason for divorce. God called us to peace, even in marriage.
Cond #2
---Elder on 7/12/06


Cond #2
In Matt 5:27-32 Jesus is speaking about putting away "offending" things, cutting off hands, plucking out eyes and divorcing mates for sexual sins. You are not allowed to divorce because your mate burns water cooking but you can for sexual sins (Fornication/Adultry).
Joseph was going to divorce Mary in Matt 1:18-20 until he received God's message.
---Elder on 7/12/06


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Matthew 19:3
The pharisees also came unto him, and saying unto him is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication, and marry another, doth commit adultery.

Unfortunately abuse is not a reason for remarriage, fornication is, despite what some people believe.
---Carla5754 on 7/12/06


I rest securely in Jesus' arms, knowing that my life is better because of Him and I am so thankful that my second husband is in church with me!
---melissa on 7/12/06


Someone changed my original topic posting! I wassn't asking if God recognized my marriage! I said that I feel my marriage is recognized and blessed. I wanted comments, but I want to be clear that I feel blessed!
---melissa on 7/12/06


I think most would agree that a heathen baptism is not recognized by God and is not binding. I would apply the same to the marriage and divorce of a heathen couple. Neither would be recognized or binding because God has no covenant with the heathen.
---john on 7/12/06


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Ryan, if we use your logic on this then whatever you were before you got saved then we could tell you that you still are that even now that you are saved. Something doesn't make sense. This lady is not an adulterer, she is forgiven. The marriage and divorce she had as a heathen cannot be held against her now.
---john on 7/12/06


With my years in the Gospel Ministry I am very interested to see the verses that say God does not recognize a marriage of the lost.
If Marriage is "only" for the Saved then would it be a sin for the Lost to live together?
Paul indicated that God recognized the lost folks marriage when he spoke about an unbeliever being pleased to stay with a believer.
Cond #2
---Elder on 7/11/06


Cond #2
Next, If God forgives all sin, would it be OK to murder your first mate, ask forgiveness and then remarry? Of course not.
There are two reasons for divorce;
1 Adultery, Illegal sex while being married
2 Fornication, this covers all sexual sins to include abuse.
I would like to think that before someone gave life changing advice on this subject they would try to know a little about it.
There is always Hope in Christ no matter what someone has done.
---Elder on 7/11/06


There is no need to ask Him. God has already addressed this issue in the scriptures. I suppose you could continue to ask but I find it hard to believe His position would change. If you are divorced for any other reason outside of adultry or abuse and you remarry you are committing adultry.
---Ryan on 7/11/06


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Jack. I think you know I am quoting the verse that says that even the prayers of the wicked are an abomination to the Lord and that His face is turned away from the wicked. Hence I can scripturally say that two heathens' marriage vows are not recognized by God either.
---john on 7/11/06


Corinthians deals with the issue of a unsaved spouse and while he is not at liberty to remain married to you, Paul gives the advice of remaining single or to reconcile, He advices the widows and virgins differently and the choice for marriage is as advised, although some read it to mean the Married the catogories are plain and remarriage is dealth with in Matthew 19, mark 10, Romans 7, and many other scriptures.
---Carla5754 on 7/11/06


Melissa: As HIM--don't ask mere mortals on these blogs.
---Jack on 7/11/06


**He does'nt hear their prayers either.**

I wouldn't presume to know whose prayers God hears and whose He does not.

However, following this logic, God doesn't hear ANYBODY'S prayers because the first time one cries out to Christ for salvation, he is technically unsaved.
---Jack on 7/11/06


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Regardless of the past we must live in the present!!! I would ask you to look at the story of the woman at the well. Do you believe it's possible to unscramble scrambled eggs? What ever your position now(being married) you must move forward from where you are. Jesus Christ died for all sins, so your sins must be in there somewhere. Praise God for his mercy and forgiveness and go forward.
---mima on 7/11/06


Debbie, with all due respect because I know you are a lovely woman, how do you know with certainty this is God's will for her life? I would be scared to death to give my opinion and say it's definitely so. You say: I don't believe God holds us to relationships when were were not His. WHERE IS THE SCRIPTURE REFERENCE TO BACK THIS UP? What did Jesus say about what you believe? They don't match.....
---Donna9759 on 7/11/06


I don't think God recognizes the marriages of the unsaved. He does'nt hear their prayers either. There is no covenant at all with the unsaved. Now that you are saved you belong to Him and He has some instructions for you that Ryan quoted.
---john on 7/11/06


1Cr 7:39 A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
---Ryan on 7/11/06


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Luk 16:18 "Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries one who is divorced from a husband commits adultery.
---Ryan on 7/11/06


1Cr 7:13 And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away.
---Ryan on 7/11/06


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