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I Want To Date A Muslim

Earlier this year, I became a Christian. It's the best thing that's ever happened to me. The problem is, I have a crush on a guy that I'm sure is Muslim. We've never talked. What if we meet? I believe he is deceived and doesn't know the true Word.

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What do YOU think "unequally yoked" refers to?

Being unequally yoked applies in agriculture, and in ANY kind of joint endeavour. Hopefully marriage is sufficiently important that the two involved in it will be of like minds, otherwise strife occurs.

As far as a Jewish believer and a Greek believer being married - this was a matter of different races, not diffrent religions. It would be like yoking a black ox and a brown ox - thier ability to pull would not be impaired.

Not the Old Testament was full of prohibitions against marrying women of other nations - but no condemnation of Ruth marrying Boaz. Why? Because such prohibitions were against mixing religions, NOT races.
---StrongAxe on 3/15/12

2 Corinthians 6:14-17
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?..."

---StrongAxe on 3/14/12
Nothing about marriage in that text

Acts 16:1 Then came he to Derbe and Lystra: and, behold, a certain disciple was there, named Timotheus, the son of a certain woman, which was a Jewess, and believed, but his father was a Greek:

so how about a jew and a greek getting married?

If we had to count the number of Jews and jewess married to unbelievers, it would be a bile of it's own
---francis on 3/15/12


1 Corinthians 7:8-17 talks about a two unbelievers, then one comes to Christ and has the potential to bring the other along as well. This is totally different from two people, one believer, and one not, deciding to marry.

2 Corinthians 6:14-17
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?..."

Two animals of different strengths pulling the same plow work against each other. In any endeavour, it is unwise to team up with people with different values and goals, because they will cause conflict - and this is especially important in the most important endeavour of all - life.
---StrongAxe on 3/14/12

Acts 16:1 Then came he to Derbe and Lystra: and, behold, a certain disciple was there, named Timotheus, the son of a certain woman, which was a Jewess, and believed, but his father was a Greek:

1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean, but now are they holy.

So is it so bad that she wants to date amuslim?
---francis on 3/13/12

we have goten away from the topis

Strongax has great questions better served in their own blog

i do not believe he is saying that a womans monthy cycle is a sin

But back to the blog topic: many israeli men were married to none israelies, and I am also sure that many israeli women were married to none israelies

Take Esther for example
---francis on 3/13/12

---StrongAxe on 3/12/12
Having leprpsy. flowers*, or your house invaded by Fungi are not sins.

The sacrifice for being restored into the congregation must be done the same as the sin offeering.

In other words the sacrrifice must be done the same, but that does not mean that if your house got infested, or you had leprosy that you sinned

Matthew 8:4 shew thyself to the priest, and offer the gift that Moses commanded, for a TESTIMONY UNTO THEM.

The priest were the chief medical offercers in those days. They declared one cleanof fidease and fit to rejoing the congregation/ They Got a gift for their medical srvices, and an offering was offered to God not for sin, but it was done the same way the sin offering was done
---francis on 3/13/12


No. I am using reductio ad absurdum to show francis's beliefs inconsistent.

IF one literally interprets what scripture ACTUALLY says (as he does), I asked if he observes separation of women during their time of the month. He said no, because all blood sacrifices were eliminated by Jesus.

I asked how this differs from murder, which ALSO requires a blood sacrifice. He said murder is a sin, and woman's period isn't.

I showed scripture does not differentiate, as a sin sacrifice IS required for the time of the month.

Whether that is still applicable now is something you can take up with francis, but I am still not clear how he determines what is still applicable and what isn't.
---StrongAxe on 3/12/12

Wow, you guys are really saying that a woman is sinning when she has her monthly cycle, somthing she can't control? Wow. StrongAxe, I understood you to be a liberal. Aren't you guys the ones who claim to be more for women's rights and all that junk? You're always accusing Conservatives of being oppresive of women, and here you are arguing that her normal bodily function is a sin? Equal to murder?! Wow.
---Jed on 3/12/12


Can you point out where in the Bible it actually says that the sin atoned for in the previously-mentioned passage is somehow qualitatively different than the sin of murder, from the perspective of atonement?

Because you keep saying that we need to keep all the laws in the Old Tesament -EXCEPT- ones involving blood sacrifice, and you further qualify this by saying that SINS (like murder) involving blood sacrifice are exceptions to your exception, in that we must really still keep those anyway?

Your rules for which laws we really still need to keep and the ones we really don't are getting more and more compliated. Can you give us soms scriptures that actually spell these rules out clearly, or are they just made up?
---StrongAxe on 3/12/12

Just WHICH sin is he atoning for?
---StrongAxe on 3/12/
To reconcile with God and his people from which she had been seperated

This is mainly a health issue
The same would apply to a person who is a leper.

We would never say that being a lepar is a sin

It would also apply to a house which had fungus / mold
---francis on 3/12/12


You said: No but having a monthy cycle is not a sin as Murder is a sin

Oh really? If so, how can you explain the rest of the very same chapter:

Leviticus 15:29-30
"And on the eighth day she shall take unto her two turtles, or two young pigeons, and bring them unto the priest, to the door of the tabernacle of the congregation.

And the priest shall offer the one for a sin offering, and the other for a burnt offering, and the priest shall make an atonement for her before the LORD for the issue of her uncleanness."

Just WHICH sin is he atoning for?
---StrongAxe on 3/12/12

---StrongAxe on 3/11/12
No but having a monthy cycle is not a sin as Murder is a sin

Notice that she is cleansed even before the sacrifice is made

One who commits murder cannot be cleansed of that sin until the sacrifice is made, but the woman is clean before the sin and burnt offering is made

Notice also the nature of the offering. ( SIN and BURNED)
---francis on 3/11/12


It may have ENDED in blood sacrifice, but how about the rest of it?

Note the law against murder. If you killed someone, the law demanded your own blood to atone for your crime. This was a blood sacrifice. Do you seriously believe that because of this murder is now alright, since anything requiring a blood sacrifice is no longer something we need to obey?
---StrongAxe on 3/11/12

It's spelled out in Leviticus 15:19-24. Do you follow that?
---StrongAxe on 3/11/12
it end in blood sacrifice
Jesus blood sacrifice ended all blood sacrifices, and thus al laws with blodd sacrifices
---francis on 3/11/12

Ebony, It's GREAT that you are now a Christian! :-D But, understand, also, that, as far as getting serious with another "potential mate", that Followers of GOD are to only hook up with other Believers. II CORINTHIANS 6:14 says "Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers:..." The Lord God YAHWEH is not the same god as Allah. It's being taught today that they are the same God, but, they are not. Even some Jews, 'though they are blood descendants of Abraham, are not true Believers in GOD, as they reject YAHUSHUA (JESUS) as Messiah. Much less the Muslims. See JOHN 14:6.
---Gordon on 3/11/12


It's spelled out in Leviticus 15:19-24. Do you follow that?
---StrongAxe on 3/11/12

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If God has not changed his marriage statutes, do you make your wife live in the garage for a few days each month?
---StrongAxe on 3/10/12

Good question, based on the bible, what then should happen after the days?
---francis on 3/10/12


If God has not changed his marriage statutes, do you make your wife live in the garage for a few days each month?

The question is facetious, but it is an inevitable conclusion - if one were to scruplously follow old testament law.

Regardless, if what you are saying is true, you disprove your own point - because if one person is a master of a second, the second is under the yoke of the first. So if marriage is not equal, it IS a yoke.
---StrongAxe on 3/10/12

said [new testament] Christian marriage, NOT old testament Jewish marriage.
---StrongAxe on 3/9/12

I do not think that God has changed his marriage statutes

Hebrews 13:8 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.

If we want to say that western values make a false equality of marriage I agree.

Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife,

1 Corinthians 11:3 and the head of the woman is the man,

This would be very consistant with Numbers 30 where a husband can dissallow his wife's vow to God, because he is the head
---francis on 3/10/12


I said [new testament] Christian marriage, NOT old testament Jewish marriage.
---StrongAxe on 3/9/12

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muslim marriage is NOT an equal arrangement by any means, ---StrongAxe on 3/9/12
is this equal?
Numbers 30:6 And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, wherewith she bound her soul,

Numbers 30:7 And her husband heard [it,] and held his peace at her in the day that he heard [it]: then her vows shall stand, and her bonds wherewith she bound her soul shall stand.

Numbers 30:8 But if her husband disallowed her on the day that he heard [it], then he shall make her vow which she vowed, and that which she uttered with her lips, wherewith she bound her soul, of none effect: and the LORD shall forgive her.
---francis on 3/9/12


Christian marriage is not a yoke. It is, for the most part, supposed to be an equal arrangement. But that is only for Christian marriage. Other traditions may differ.

If you see how the Qur'an commands muslim men to keep their wives obedient by beating them, muslim marriage is NOT an equal arrangement by any means, especially since muslim men are allowed to have up to four wives, but the reverse is no true.
---StrongAxe on 3/9/12

I have been married for many years. I do not see marrriage as a yoke.

If we study the bible, only a few nation were prohibited from marring israel, and that was for a limited time.

I like this verse
Deuteronomy 21:10 When thou goest forth to war against thine enemies, and the LORD thy God hath delivered them into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive,

Deuteronomy 21:11 And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife,

WHAT take a foriegn wife, the woman of the emeny?
---francis on 3/8/12

Bible says: "don't be unequally yoked." muslims follow allah(god) which is totally different from God Almighty, Jesus & Holy Ghost: 1 in 3 & 3 in 1. There is only one way to Heaven(God Almighty) and it's thru Jesus Christ from his "shed blood" on the Cross for you...
---Marlon on 3/7/12

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Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/7/12

---francis on 3/7/12

Only three, so far as I can tell, francis:


Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/7/12

How many jews in the bible, married non jews in the family line of Jesus?
---francis on 3/7/12

While it is human to have a crush, God does not expect us to immediately go forward and act towards all that our mind suggests to us or feels good about (Isaiah 65:2, Jer.23:17 gives a picture of this). God expects us to tell Him what we feel and ask Him to show us if it is good or not for us. Please discuss your crush with the Lord.
---Adetunji on 3/6/12

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If Israel right now are in peril because of the Muslims,

How in JESUS name can you befriend a foe if only to get them to accept Christ.
---Carla on 3/4/12

I was not aware that Ebony was at peril because of muslims
I was not aware that Ebony was a foe of the muslims.
Nor was I aware that Ebony has been called to oppose muslims on behalf of Israel.

IS not Abraham the father of the muslims as well as Israel?
---francis on 3/4/12


If Israel right now are in peril because of the Muslims,

How in JESUS name can you befriend a foe if only to get them to accept Christ.

And no that's not what you meant or you would have said so!

If you marry anyone who is not rooted grounded soundly in Christ its trouble never mind someone of a different faith.

If there is only One God, then that means they believe in the devil hidden in the belief other than Jesus Christ and the I AM.
---Carla on 3/4/12

Lord help us are crazy if you do. Please I beg you do not marry a muslim.
---shira4368 on 3/3/12

Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. A bad friend can corrupt good morals. That is what the Bible says.
---Ann_Leidel on 3/3/12

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---Ebony on 7/14/06
I do not see a problem with dating a muslim.
If by datng you mean going out in public

Get to know the person.
Allow him a chance to get to know you

Just because you are close friends with someone does not mean that you are ready to marry them.
---francis on 3/2/12

Try it and turn your back on the word... who will you have to blame?

No-one but THY/self, You said you just got saved, why are you not studying to know God?

the bible said.. Seek ye first the kingdom of God

Know your bible

And his righteousness
What is right for you according to Gods will

And all things will be given to you
whatsoever God has in-store for you, be it a blessing to remain single( the obvious)

Or marriage (the hardest) Let God be your guide not your emotions, peer pressure and lusts.

GOD KNOWS EVERYTHING you'll be and go through, for You to live in peace and contented regardless of earthly things... that's where the having to know God comes in.
---Carla on 3/2/12

If he is a practicing Muslim then he will not be interested in you anyway. If he is interested in you then there is probably a deficiency in his faith and practice that would even make him attracted to you.
---Shareef_Muhammad on 3/1/12

KEEP AWAY!! The bad always rubs off quicker that the good on humans. If you are deceived in believing that you can change him, think again. Of course, as always pray. But, to be honest, I do not see how this living God who lives in you, How He is keeping silent?
---catherine on 6/15/10

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I don't feel like he is deceived because he has a different belief! The belief is totally that person choice but don't question your belief because the lack of knowledge is the key of finding understanding!!
---Danielle on 6/15/10

Way to go ebony!!!
---fay on 6/13/10

Ebony-- Good for you! (and thanks for the update)

You should know that anything you write on this site can, and will be, mis-understood, mis-quoted ,evaluated, analyzed, scrutinized, moralized and debated, until the question bears no resemblance to the one you actually asked. LOL.

---Donna66 on 6/12/10

Dear Ebony:

I am glad you came to your spiritual senses and did not repeat the same mistake that King Solomon made by marrying wives who worshiped heathen gods...leading him astray. Best wishes to you and may The Almighty bless your faithfulness.
---Higgins on 6/12/10

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just to update a bit... i never wanted to date the guy... it was just a crush... anyway that was 4yrs ago and my relationship with Jesus has grown.. i have no interests in men that don't serve the True God, and those who do, better be a part of God's will for me ,)
---Ebony on 6/7/10

Why don't you witness to him as a friend, but if you pursue a relationship with him and he remains a muslim, you are in for a hard road to hoe. I mean HARD.
---shira on 11/16/08

Carefully and prayerfully read 2 Corinthians 6 v 14-18. You have nothing in common with him.
---pkay on 10/2/07

Well sweetie I can safely say that if you are thinking as seriously as this right at the beginning then the boy will think you are no fun and run a mile. Enjoy your youth, for God's sake. Young women beat themselves up far too much.
---Katherine on 9/9/06

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Scripture says "be ye not unequally yoked with an UNBELIEVER..As a new Christian, you are not spiritually mature enough in the word to withstand such a relationship. Do not think you will change him..Since you've not the other way. I pray your eyes will be opened and you will seek Godly counsel on this before it goes further.
---Terry on 8/10/06

Well, some of it has helped me to re-evaluate the situation. More info: I'm in college and I see this guy on campus a lot. I'm not sure whether it is lust because I have felt lust before. Thanks for the help, though. I do believe that a relationship with someone like him would be betrayal to Christ.
---Ebony on 7/22/06


Has anyone helped you here?

Please reply
---John_T on 7/17/06

Gen 1:4 And God saw the light, that it was good: and God divided the light from the darkness.

2 Cor 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
---a_servant on 7/17/06

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I don't know about Elder, but I don't plan to testify against anyone.

Rather, I pray that God will show others the same mercy I hope He will show to me.
---Jack on 7/15/06

With your plans to date a Muslim, you are in for a lot more trouble! Not only for now but forever! Beware! Your foolish heart and your Messianic complex might trap you in a relationship that comlicates your life.
---Lingling on 7/15/06

Hey Joe, don't you worry yourself about us Christians. We are getting ready to leave and you won't ever have to put up with us again... well, maybe one more time when we testify against you at the Great White Throne Judgement.
Ebony, the reason you see nothing wrong with dating a Muslim is because you haven't yet and you haven't married one.
---Elder on 7/14/06

How you could have a 'crush' on a guy you never met is hard to understand - but that's not important. What is, is you should just back-off. Pray for him, but don't try to make any direct contact. Why? You can't be objective in your approach. If he is a muslim, this is one of the hardest groups to have a positive witness with. If you already have a 'crush' on him, he will influence you more that you will influence him.
---WIVV on 7/14/06

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Multiculturalism, in the sense of respecting different cultures and ethnicities and customs (though Christianity seems to not receive this respect by multiculturalism's proponents) is one thing. One could say it's a practical application of Matthew 7:12.

Saying that all relgions are equally true is something else, though the difference seems to be too subtle for some people to grasp.
---Jack on 7/14/06


Christians are peaceful, kind people who believe that Jesus Christ was the Son of God. We celebrate his birth, his life, his death, burial, and resurrection. We fully embrace His teachings, one of which is not to be unequally yoked. There is a reason for that. A perfectly matched team of horses pull better. Non-believers are not people we should MARRY. We can be friends with, we just can't become one with.
---Crystal on 7/14/06


And Joe, if it's rubbish, why are you bothering to read and respond to it?
---Jack on 7/14/06

Joe, if Christians are the "true evil in the world," why are you reading and posting to blogs that perpetrate such evil?

To be friends with a Muslim is one thing. Certainly we should be courteous to them. It's another to date as dating is basically the interviewing process for a prospective spouse.

Interdenominational marriages between Christians have serious strains. The problems of an inter-religious marriage, especially when just one is Christian, are insuperable.
---Jack on 7/14/06

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I had a friend once who was married to a muslim. What a scary mess, and my friend wasn't christian. She couldn't even find him to get the divorce papers signed. Just follow JESUS sweetie, He will help you find the right guy.
---Julie on 7/14/06

As christians we aren't against multiculturalism. In Christ there is neither Jew nor gentile, white or black, asian or american; we are all one body composed of many members. We do have a standard though. Our standard is the word of God & we don't appologize for that. The word tells us not to be hooked up with or in a relationship with nonbelievers & explains why.
---Rickey on 7/14/06

If he is a muslim leave the relationship alone. Reason being, if you're still growing in the Lord it's easy for a person to get decieved or drawn away from the faith. It's good to be a witness to him, but not in a relationship with him. Keep on seeking God because He knows the plans He has for you. Get involved in bible studies, etc. and grow in the word.(Jeremiah 29:11-13)
---Rickey on 7/14/06

Joe ... Thank you for your thoughts.
If you look back at previous post from"Joe", you will see that some of them reflect what you say in this latest one, but earlier blogs from Joe are from someone with very different views It would help therefore if you added something to your name so you can be properly identfied when you write, perhaps "Joe the unbeliever" would be a good name.
---alan8869_of_UK on 7/14/06

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Joe, the "rubbish" that you are referring is being born again believer. SORRY, muslims, budist and others who do not believe in God should go where they can worship their dead god.
---shira on 7/14/06

Most of these answers are very definite and I appreciate the people who have "told it like it is".
---mima on 7/14/06

It's hard to believe that someone would call the word of God rubbish. He gives us direction in our lives and while all things may be lawful, all things are not expedient. But to call the word rubbish is blasphemous hon. Please reconsider.
---Shari on 7/14/06

I can't believe i'm reading this rubbish!

This is exactly why people say religion causes war. Multiculturalism is something to be celebrated, not feared or loathed. Christians are the true evil in this world, not 'non-believers'.
---Joe on 7/14/06

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All throughout the word of God the children of Israel were told to make no marriages with those cast out before them. Don't take this lightly as the devil can put some people in your path to ruin your walk with God.
---Shara3678 on 7/14/06

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT become involved with anyone whose faith does not accept Jesus as the Son of the Living God, no matter what faith it is. Some muslims have said that Jesus is the bastard son of Mary. We as Christians believe that is blasphemy. It would be a mistake for you to have any dealings with this man.
---Anne on 7/14/06

RUN - Do Not Walk - RUN in the opposite direction. When you date someone who is unsaved (never mind their religion or lack thereof), you are in direct opposition to the Word of God. God says, "What fellowship hath darkness with light?" This question is not rhetorical. You think you may lead him to the Lord? Chances are much greater that he will lead you to the pit of Hell and introduce you to Satan. Do I sound extreme? It's because I've tried it, and I promise you it DOES NOT work - EVER!
---Crystal on 7/14/06


If you date this guy (God forbid, marry him), you will experience a couple of weeks, maybe a month, of euphoria. Then, WELCOME TO HELL!! Take it from someone who has been there. Seriously bad idea. Want a broken heart? Then go ahead. Want a good, solid relationship? Stick with the Lord and WAIT on Him to bring someone who will be a blessing into your life. Like Ruth, you may have to make some sacrifices, but it will be worth it in the end. Read the book of Ruth in the Old Testament.
---Crystal on 7/14/06

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The Bible says do not be yoked with can light and darkness co-exist? I think you should examine your heart and see why you are attracted to him if he is deceived! If you have never talked, how do you know about him? Are you just interested in his looks? That's lust if so!
---ralph on 7/14/06

Be careful. Be not yoked with unbelievers. What does darkness and light have in common?
Just pray for this unsaved person & live a life pleasing to Jesus Christ according to the Word of God.We are to obstain from all apperances that are evil.
---sandiee on 7/14/06

Ebony - The Bible instructs us to not have relationships with people who worship other gods. You are called to witness to them and pray for them because they are God's children, even if they do not accept that. If you haven't officially met this guy, don't entertain fantasies about him. You are blessed that you have found Christ before getting into a serious relationship with anyone! Always pray and ask God to guide you to the one special person He has planned for you to share your life with!
---melissa on 7/14/06

I think you're the one that is deceived.
---wayne on 7/14/06

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I suggest you read this blog:

2 Corinthians 6:14-18, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God;
---Bruce5656 on 7/14/06

as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty."
---Bruce5656 on 7/14/06

Where do you know this Muslim guy from? I am guessing the internet. The Word says to not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. If it is the internet, then drop it. Whichever way it goes because you are the Christian it is up to you to find a way to tell him that Jesus died on the Cross for him, but you are not to get involved with an unbeliever.
---Helen_5378 on 7/14/06

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