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Are Women The Weaker Being

Should a woman stay married to her husband and pray for him even if he is bossy, abusive and believes that a wife should never question her husband's actions because they are the weaker being?

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 ---kat1 on 7/31/06
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Kat1, It sounds like you have your hands full. If you husband is seriously harming you, get out fast. If it is only difficult, then pray for him and model good Christian behavior.

The funny thing is that a lot of women marry men thinking that they can change them. That rarely, if ever, works. But with God all things are possible. Put your trust in Him and ask God what you can do to be a better wife.
---lorra8574 on 10/4/07

No one has to ever stay in an abusive situation. Ever! Saved or the unsaved. Abuse can lead to death. Self-preservation is #1. You can pray for your husband and separate from him. Carve a new life out for yourself, if you so choose. That is your choice...not His. Ok. It is not a crime or a sin to be single. Marriage is not the answer to all of our problems. You pray and do the right thing toward your spouse but don't forget about yourself, most of all.I pray there are no kids involved.
---Robyn on 10/4/07

2)Kat1, I cannot advise you to divorce as I do not know the entire situation. Is he saved? Doesn't sound like it. If he is not, the the Bible says that you can leave. The other reason that you can certainly divorce is for adultry. However, I do think that you can certainly seperate yourself from a woman abuser. You are infact the weaker vessel and he should not be abusing a weaker one. Pray and seek Professional Christian counsel if you can. If he is physically abusive, Leave Leave Leave!!!
---splaa6685 on 10/4/07

You'd be very surprised at what conditions thousands of wives live under yet remain faithful and trust in God for their break thru Ain't no one going to tell you their everything cos you'd pair them up with the rest of the women who are made to look weak and foolish for staying in a fruitless marriage. I know for many the spouse never did come to the light, and so the life began again after the event. Sad but true.Christ will always be your friend confidante and savior, who could want a better thing!.
---Carla5754 on 10/4/07

1)He misunderstands what the Bible is saying and is only reading part of it. The part that justifies his control issues. He left out the part about loving his wife as Christ loved the Chruch. Christ laid down his very life for His bride and was never sharp,bossy or abusive. He also answered questions(even of his enemies who were not his bride). This man is in need of counseling as a woman abuser and if you have children later, he will abuse them too.
---splaa6685j on 10/4/07

The Bible says a man is to love and cherish his wife as he loves and cared for his own body, yet look at some mens bodys, thats a good indicator how much love they give their wife. The Bible says he is suppose to protect you, give his life for you, and love you as Christ loves the church, if you say no to any of this, its time to move on.
---Whisper on 10/4/07

I believe you may need counseling, or a separation, as I was married to an abuser. I personally dont believe Jesus wants us to be abused like that.
---melinda_godwin on 10/3/07

Women as the weaker vessel is a type and shadow of the church being weaker than her husband, Christ.
The church has no final say and will never be strong enough to tell the Lord what to do.
Doctrines of man are an example of the church, or woman trying to be stronger than her husband, or Lord.
We worship where and how he says. Not how or where we want.
We belive what his Spirit teaches. Not what we want to believe.
---Frank on 9/27/07

Has he committed adultry? That is the only reason given for divorce. If he is a non-beliver and leaves you do not chase him.
---Ryan on 9/26/07

a woman is not weak I just want to let all the men know that. We could not bare a child I don't care how strong you are. As far a brute strength I really think that is over rated, since women can bulk up just as much as men. (our culture just doesn't see that as much because men have been dominat so the women haven't done the Heavy work as much) in other cultures the women are larger than men and the men are pretty fragile.
---Jared on 11/14/06

the woman that is staying in an abusive relationship needs to know that she can do better even if her husband says differently, and she should get out. Scripture can support this. Women are equal not to be dominated but to be the HELP Mate meaning men we couldn't survive with out women.
---Jared on 11/14/06

If you find yourself in abuse, practice Passive Resistance.

---Reiter on 11/14/06

a woman/man should not be subject to any kind of abuse no matter what. . I will not put up with any. If the woman/man caused the arguement, that still does not give anyone right to abuse or think the other is a weaker being. dont forget, someone else is causing us to get into this problem and he's successfully doing it today to so many families. Lets all pray for strength and power to overcome these things in these last days...
---jana on 8/3/06

John are you implying that having vowed 'for better or worse' that a woman should stay with a man even if he is beating the living daylights out of her? I'm no sure who penned those vows but I guess they didn't have abuse in mind when they did.
---M.A. on 8/2/06

Being abusive is crossing the line. My ex-husb. was abusive, I let him hit me for the last 8 months of our marriage. God had him removed when he almost killed me one night. I say if he's being abusive, seek counsel, tell someone, go to a professional counsellor like Dr. Phil. How abusive is he being? Verbal? Physical? Sexual? It doesn't matter, all 3 are a crime, Domestic Violence is a crime. Don't let him do that to you.
---Donna9759 on 8/1/06

The weaker vessel scripture is misused. It signifies the church as the bride of Christ. He has the authority over it. That scripture should not be used to abuse or repress women. The women may be weaker but the husband is to love her as himself.
---Shari on 8/1/06

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A woman should consider if her life is in danger, whether she is best in a safe place away from her husband, then both can get good sound counselling as to how to repair your marriage. Being the weaker vessel is a bible doctrine that men use either to encourage or for evil which is to abuse you. pray by all means you still need mediation (counselling)
---Carla5754 on 8/1/06

What did your vows say when you got married? That is what you both agreed upon. If one breaks that vow then the other is not freed. According to Scripture, only death or adultery or the leaving of the unbelieving spouse releases us from our vows. The woman is the weaker meaning that she is not as physically strong. This has nothing to do with quality. We are all created equal that way.
---john on 8/1/06

Physically, women may be the weaker being. That is why man was charged with her protection. Mentally and spiritually, no. Our wonderful Creator has given us a good brain, so use it.
I have no problem with being in submission, but that does not mean being a doormat for an abusive male to wipe his feet on. To me it means being able to act in harmony with your partner, according to the Word of God.
---Margaretj on 8/1/06

I questioned my parents action to deprive me of the education that I sorely need. I had proven to them and to the rest of the family (even to the CLAN members) that with GOD's HELP women can stand on the same ground that their SONS stood. Abusive husband has no place in my dictionary. If you ask me, I will get rid of him instantly.
---Bebet3754 on 7/31/06

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I don't accept that women are the "weaker vessel" even if that was written in the bible. There should be another meaning to that term in relation on how it is being used by the writer as an offshot to the existing belief within the culture of the writer. "Women being weaker" is used by many to repress women who have potential. The idea was even used by my own parents to deprive me of many things including education.
---Bebet3754 on 7/31/06

Rereading your message, I must say yes. BUT, that does NOT mean you should allow abuse. Are you talking verbal, physical, mental, or what? I believe anything except harmful to you or family, the rest can be worked out with counciling. Even abuse can be counciled but from a distance. The Bible does NOT teach nor should anyone portray allowing abuse or condoning either person being a lesser being. You are equal in God's eyes understanding there are specific jobs for each to be responsible for in marriage.
---mikefl on 7/31/06

Just the fact that he is bossy, abusive and thinks his actions are his is the first sign who is the weaker one. He is manipulating you and justifying it by making your feel inferior. He wants to be in control of everything including you. Don't allow him to treat you this way.
---shira on 7/31/06

There are limits to abusiveness but I am happy to be the weaker vessel and a figure of what our church should be towards our Lord. I just wish I was a better example.
---Shari on 7/31/06

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If you are being physically abused get out of the house NOW!!!!!!! Get some therapy and some counseling from an older Christian woman. You do not have to stay in a house where you are being abused.

If necessary get a Protection From Abuse order against him.
---Madison1101 on 7/31/06

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