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Can I Remarry Due To Adultery

I am 34 years old divorced mother of three. My husband left me for another woman and some Christians think I should stay single for the rest of my life. I do not agree. He has is own family and why am I not allow to do the same. I did not quit the marriage. He did and why should I have to pay for it?

Moderator - According to scripture, you can remarry due to his adultery.

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Moderator, The last comment under the name of "Gordon" was not my comment. Either someone else has user name of "Gordon", or mine was "hacked", or mine was used unwittingly, or whatever. Please take that comment off of my Blog List, Thanks!
---Gordon on 9/30/11


Of course you can do what you want and just as your ex-husband (that is remarry). However, you will be considered an adulteror in the eyes of God (Mk 10, Lk. 16, Matt. 19).
---Gordon on 9/29/11


I don't know ANY New Testament scripture which says that a woman can remarry if her husband commits adultery and leaves her with TWO POTENTIAL EXCEPTIONS: if he was an unbeliever (from Paul, not from the Lord) or if he dieS.

CAN ANYONE WHO BELIEVES CONTRARY PROVIDE JUST ONE RIGHTLY-DIVIDED, NEW TESTAMENT SCRIPTURE TO SUPPORT YOUR CLAIM?
NOT MATTHEW 19:9, as

Jesus said:
"..., whoever divorces his WIFE except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery" which means he's talking about husbands, and about 5 New Testament verses state that 'anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery'. Matthew 5:32 conveys that a woman's remarriage is adultery even if the husband left the woman.
---christian_brother on 2/12/11


Amen,

Always-on,

People want to do what they think is morally right rather than biblically right, it is such a sensitive subject because there are innocent people who's expectation lies in marriage rather than the almighty God and his son Jesus Christ who said he will keep those in perfect peace who trust in him.

Isa 26:3
Thou wilt keep [him] in perfect peace, [whose] mind [is] stayed [on thee]: because he trusteth in thee.

Matt 19:9:10

---Carla on 2/8/11


I'm with Carla on this one. Yes, scripture says you can remarry, but the story doesn't end there. In order to rightly understand the scripture, it's important to quote the rest which clearly states that a person will commit adultery upon remarrying.

It's common to hear people say that a person can remarry if they divorced a former spouse due to adultery, but far too many leave out the rest of Yahushua's teaching on the matter, which is quite dangerous.
---AlwaysOn on 2/7/11




I disagree with the moderator and I have a right to my understanding and that of what I read.

There are no gray areas. The word is simple to understand.
I go by the word of God and if it says that not all will receive the message of marriage then so be it.Matt:10

Give responsible advice not in part but in whole. Scripture cannot undo scripture. It either means Adultery if you remarry when your spouse is still breathing and you have not committed any sin yet you re-marry as a woman or I stand accused of misunderstanding Matt 19:9 Romans 7.

If it did not then why the debate?
---Carla on 2/6/11


The Moderator is right, but remarriage may or may not make you happy. Divorce, a forced division, is a tragedy where the family is destroyed. In otherwords, people should not marry only for the purpose of "being married".
---eloy7794 on 2/6/11


Part 1

What is most important?
Dont we want to have eternal life with the Lord as opposed to hearing him say depart from me you workers of iniquity, I never knew you?
Dont go by mans opinions, because man cannot push you into the kingdom if God says that you cannot enter.
Hear what God says about the matter and know that what He says is true.
NOTE: Take the SCRIPTURE which I give as truth, but CONSIDER my comments to see if what Im saying matches what God decrees:
---christian_brother on 2/6/11


Part 7


3. TWO EXCEPTIONS IN WHICH A WIFE MAY NOT BE BOUND TO HER HUSBAND:

1. If an unbelieving spouse leaves the believing spouse
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart, a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? Pauls words (not the Lords) [1 Corinthians 7:15]
Note 1: TPaul lets it be known that is from him, NOT FROM THE LORD: But to the rest I speak (not the Lord) [i.e., Jesus did not comment on this subject during His earthly ministry] [1 Corinthians 7: 12]
Note 2: I don't know if "not under bondage" means able to remarry.
---christian_brother on 2/6/11


Part 12


2. Using the fact that many remarriages take place in the church as evidence that it is not adultery as:
Jesus said:

Matthew 7:

21Not every one saying to Me, Lord, Lord, will enter into the kingdom of the heavens, but the one doing the will of My Father, the [One] in [the] heavens. 22Many will say to Me in that day, Lord, Lord, we prophesied in Your name, and cast out demons in Your name, and did many miraculous works in Your name, did we not? 23And then I will declare to them, I never knew you*, be departing from Me, the ones practicing lawlessness! -

Matthew 24:
35The heaven and the earth will pass away, but My words shall by no means pass away.
---christian_brother on 2/6/11




Dowaner ... It is interesting that the passage you quote, if taken literally, means that if a wife is put away, and it is not because of fornication, she is automatically committing adultery ... even if she has no relations with another man

So she is damned anyway, whether or not she remarries, and even if she never looks at another man!
---alan8566_of_uk on 2/5/11


"whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery" Mat 5:32, 1Cor 7: 15 "But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman IS NOT BOUND in such circumstances, ..."Only the one commiting adultery is bound
---dowanor on 2/5/11


We should seed to act on what the Bible says, not what christians say. Mat 19:9 'And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery'. This scripture clearly makes an exception for adultery. 1Co 7:15 'But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases:' 1Co 7:28 'But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned'. This chapter also encourages marriage to avoid fornication.
---Hope5979 on 2/5/11


You must remain single dear, but your reward will be in heaven, you cannot be selfish and lead another an to sin. Jesus was very clear when he said, Matthew 5:32 whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
It is the marriage that is the adultery
---Al on 2/4/11


if you interpret 1 cor 7 to be a "rule" that says you must remain single,then it becomes a "rule" with power over your life!...it would be very sad to later find out you have misjudged the scripture,and that you have been keeping a "rule" of your own making!...get some wise counsel: what the moderator says is true!...
---richard on 2/4/11


Carla: I beleive you ar e making a mistake there. 1 Cor 7 talks about a wife leaving her husband, not what the wife should do if the husband leaves HER

Paul, I beleive, never wrote about that becuase he beleive it would not happen!

But I know it happens, even in churches
---Peter on 2/2/11


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It's sad but hetrue it's not easy You are to remain single 1Cor 7, not that I may agree, but it is a rule even I have to obey it.

If you know the Lord as many women do on this site you will understand sacrifice is better than worldy Gain.

It takes one to know who God is to understand this is a BLESSING not a curse.

we live ln the physical but will see God in the spirit, and that's not easy to serve God you must spiritually renounce worldly pleasures and Yes even worldy marriages. HOWEVER God is BIG enough to keep you if so he would not have said'' My Grace is sufficient to keep thee in all thy ways''
---Carla on 2/2/11


not only are you able to remarry and be very blessed by it,you can also pray that God will give you the husband you so obviously need and want!...YOU werent the "adulterer" just the victim and even if you were there is always forgiveness to anyone genuinely repentant.....Boy there are some legalistic old misery guts out there and if you find a church full of 'em run like mad!
---richard on 1/29/11


According to scripture, anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. That is why the scripture speaks of a man making his wife an adulteress by divorcing her. The only verses one can rebuttal with: "No one is righteous. No not one." "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." No man is to marry a divorced woman. The man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew 5:32, Mark 10:12, Luke 16:18 make it very clear that the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Biblically, you will be happier to remain as you are. (1 Corinthians 7:40) You as well as the disciples of Christ know it is better not to marry. Matthew 19:10 Or do you wish to be like the Samaratin woman who had 5 husbands?
---Mike on 1/27/11


These people you are talking to don't know anything. This is why you need the right kind of counsel.Your husband left the marriage,not you. According to the word of God you can, remarry if this happens.But let me caution you: don't plunge into another marriage just because your husband has remarried. Make sure this is something you truly want and need. Sometimes being single is the best choice.
---Robyn on 1/23/11


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I can marry you , and I am ready to live with you until death
sliman
---sliman on 1/23/11


Ruth asked if she could remarry because her husband committed adultery. The answer is a simple Yes. Jesus, the Lord our Savior, said in Matthew 19:9: I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery. Jesus does not require the wronged party to be tied to the adulterer/adulterous for the remainder of his/her life as rw believes. Romans 7:2-3 is the verse that was referenced.
If this were the case, you know that the Lord would have spoken in unequivocal terms as He always does because He is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33).
---TLC on 1/16/11


1 Cor. 7:10-11 refers to non-adulterous situations (see full text below). Because these passages do not apply to Ruths situation, she is free. You are right however that the Scriptures require her to marry a fellow believer if she does choose to remarry. 1 Corinthian 7:39).
The Apostle Paul also provides another freedom regarding Christians and marriage but it comes with a strict stipulation, too.
---TLC on 1/16/11


God hates divorce not the divorcee. John 10:10 God gives life and to the fullest. If God sends the right man along get married.
---Scott on 1/14/11


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rw: Matthew 5:32 says, But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. and Matthew 19:9: I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.
The key words are marital unfaithfulness and apply to both men and women equally! So the person who does the divorcing and then remarries without the reason being the spouses infidelity, is an adulterer (and the new spouse), as is the divorced person who remarries (and the new spouse). Thats a total of 4 people who can be affected by the same sin. Yuck!
---TLC on 1/13/11


rw/carla: The Apostle Paul provided another freedom regarding Christians & marriage but it comes with a stipulation. 1 Corinthians 7:13-15: "13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman IS NOT BOUND in such circumstances, God has called us to live in peace. Not only can women initiate divorce, I believe that Christians who are not bound in this situation, are free to remarry.
---TLC on 1/14/11


whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. ~Yahushua (Matthew 5:32, emphasis added)

Clearly, remarriage is adultery, but it says the husband is charged for causing the wife to commit it. When this was written women had limited options for survival with marriage being the primary one. Marriages weren't based solely on love, but on economics, as well. With few choices, it sounds like understanding was given to her giving into a dishonorable situation.

The question now becomes, is your husband causing you to remarry in order for you to survive or do you simply want to remarry for companionship?
---AlwaysOn on 1/14/11


Because so many of us ho claim to be Christians are ignorant of Gods Word, take it out of context or are straight up disobedient to it because we value our own opinions more, we are causing many saved to lose their very souls because we are placing undue yokes around their necks. We're also causing the lost to reject Christ out of hand because of wrong teaching! We have got to do better! All passages quoted here are taken from the NIV 1984.
---TLC on 1/13/11


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I've seen the remarriage view from both sides. I think the ones who are die-hard never remarry people are wrong. I don't think the innocent partner sins to remarry. The guilty party does...sinned. The innocent party has the choice to make... to not forgive and divorce, to forgive and divorce, or to forgive and try to work on the marriage. The only wrong choice for them...is to choose not to forgive. But, just because one forgives doesn't mean the marriage can work.
---virga_7458 on 2/27/08


Andy said, "the one who broke the covenant will bear its consequense and not the victim, the victim is free."

But NOT necessarily free to remarry. The issue is not whether the husband is wrong here (he most certainly is guilty for breaking his covenent vow), but whether or not the wife is somehow free to remarry while he lives. NT Scripture says no, the Rabbi says yes. I have provided several NT Scriptures that say she cannot remarry. Can you provide even one that says otherwise?
---righteouswarriors on 2/27/08


Andy said, "I deliberatly did not use any scripture, only too show that common sense is more than legalism."

But is common sense more than clearly stated Scripture to the contrary? What is our final authority to be...Scripture or "common sense"? I know the husband was at fault, but come on...these verses are clear. The wife is BOUND to the husband so long as he lives. She can be reconciled or she can remain unmarried. Does "common sense" override Scripture now?
---righteouswarriors on 2/27/08


andy, you do sound like MikeM. He believes that way, too.
---Cindy on 2/27/08


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Gods word is final and sacrifice is better than Gain when earth Quakes seasons fighting, Wars wickedness people being lovers of money instead of God. Lawlessness adultery fornication etc is ever changing and on the increace. Remarriage is hardly going to make me lose my soul If it's not that important to others they have that road to travel and the consequences are thiers. As for me and my house we will serve the Lord be it unto me accordinging to his word( except) hubby having another (bird) Wife lol.
---Carla5754 on 2/27/08


Well, I deliberatly did not use any scripture, only too show that common sense is more than legalism. we all know that through God's grace his laws are written in our heart. but the question is here, Who broke the commandment? who broke the covvenant before God? who walked away?
---andy on 2/27/08


for this reason, a man shall leave his mother and father,and cling to his wife, and they shall be one says Genesis. and Jesus confirms it. said, if a man sends away a woman for any reason other then fornication (his own or hers)... it is evident, even the Jewish Rabi's know this that it is the one who broke the covenant will bear its consequense and not the victim, the victim is free.
---andy on 2/27/08


By the way, my answers are bible founded even when i do not quote it literally. it was with reason i called you people phariseans, for you guys know how to count your tithes upon minth and dille, yet you have forgotten the first and greatest commandement LOVE. Let all come from a loving and not a condemming heart. since you all have knowledge
---Andy on 2/27/08


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I don't agree with divorce, I've seen way too much of it in my life. But why should one have to remain single for the rest of his/her life? My mom has been divorced twice, once because of abuse, the other because of adultery. She is now happily remarried to a wonderful person. Just because someone wronged you doesn't mean you should have to suffer. Go ahead, get remarried, be happy.
---Katie on 2/26/08


Carla5754 said, "some people on this site believe that (Men only) have the right to Divorce? the bible is clear and it seems the decision is (male)orinentated."

While it is Scripturally true that only the husband has the "right" to divorce, it is nevertheless only under very specific circumstances when divorce would be lawful. Many of us fail to understand that Biblical divorce is actually a punishment, a necessary consequence of marital unfaithfulness on the part of the wife.
---righteouswarriors on 2/25/08


Paul teaches you the prosperity of a chaste life devoted to God but also the consequences of Adultery!

In this life we must suffer and to rein in Christ altimately we must suffer.

Hebrews 11:25

Choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season,
---Carla5754 on 2/23/08


There has been much speculation about being divorced and remarring given the limited information it's hard to make a real decision without knowing the Greek/Hebrew words concerning this subject and still need more clarification. However some people on this site believe that (Men only) have the right to Divorce? the bible is clear and it seems the decision is (male)orinentated.
---Carla5754 on 2/23/08


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Yes, you can remarry. Your children need two parents. It was not your fault your husband went off with a Jezebel.
---frances on 2/21/08


Matthew 5:32
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.


Ecc 5:6
Suffer not thy mouth to cause thy flesh to sin, neither say thou before the angel, that it [was] an error: wherefore should God be angry at thy voice, and destroy the work of thine hands?
---Carla5754 on 2/21/08


likewise we ought not to say that a woman can Teach although she is permitted to teach women and children?

1 Titus 2:12
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

Not to stray from the original question! for example (ONLY)
---Carla5754 on 2/21/08


Matthew 5:28
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
1 Corinthians 5:1
It is reported commonly [that there is] fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.
---Carla5754 on 2/21/08


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Andy said, "I am angry with all you pharisians . My sister, go ahead and marry, it was your husband who broke the covenant."

I notice you didn't actually quote any Scripture (NT or OT) to support your position. If the issue is just our human opinion on what is "fair play", sure, go ahead and remarry. Who cares what Scripture actually says regarding this very issue? But if we DO want to know God's will on the subject, maybe we should stick with what Scripture actually does say.
---righteouswarriors on 2/21/08


O you hypocrits. how long will you put a burden that not even the" jews can bear. I am angry with all you pharisians . My sister, go ahead and marry, it was your husband who broke the covenant. Even the most vile pagan knows that is a covenant is broken the victim is free. Paul also said it. only marry in Christ, with another born-again believer.
---Andy on 2/21/08


ruth said, "My husband left me for another woman and some Christians think I should stay single for the rest of my life."

Matthew 19:9: "And I say to you, whoever puts away his wife, except on the ground of whoring, and marries another, commits adultery. And whoever marries her who has been put away commits adultery."

Jesus's words are quite clear. Your husband has committed adultery through his spousal replacement. Anyone marrying you would also be guilty of adultery.
---righteouswarriors on 2/20/08


ruth,

Here's some additional witness from Scripture:

Romans 7:2-3: "For the married woman has been bound by Torah to the living husband, but if the husband dies, she is released from the Torah concerning her husband. So then, while her husband lives, she shall be called an adulteress if she becomes another man's. But if her husband dies, she is free from that part of the Torah, so that she is not an adulteress, having become another man's."
---righteouswarriors on 2/20/08


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ruth,

Even more additional Scripture evidence:

1 Cor. 7:10-11: "And to the married I command, not I, but the Master: A wife should not separate from a husband. But if she is indeed separated, let her remain unmarried or be restored to favour with her husband, and let a husband not send away a wife."

1 Cor. 7:39: "A wife is bound by the Torah as long as her husband lives, and if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she desires, only in the Master."
---righteouswarriors on 2/20/08


ruth,

Paul confirms Jesus' words. You are bound to your husband so long as he lives. It does not matter if he has committed adultery. One does not invalidate the other, and two wrongs do not make a right. If you remarry while your adulterer husband lives, you will become an adulteress. The truth is seldom popular but you deserve to know the truth regardless.

To moderator, Robyn, emg, Madison1101, karin, etc: please provide clear Scripture rather than opinion if you dispute these verses.
---righteouswarriors on 2/20/08


Carla5754,

You and I have not always seen eye to eye on many things (specifically regarding the definition of marriage) but I'm glad to see that you've taken a definitive stand on the Biblical definition of adultery. Quite frankly, I'm blown away by the number of Christians who apparently have either never read, or have chosen to explain away, so many clear NT verses in Scripture regarding an adulterous woman. All of us, myself included, need less popular opinion and more Scripture in our lives.
---righteouswarriors on 2/20/08


Mat 19:9
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

1Cor 7:39
The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth, but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will, only in the Lord.
---Carla5754 on 2/19/08


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You can remarry but only to another Christian if you are a Christian also. You need to read your bible as well and you will know the truth for yourself.God has left His Word for His people.Read and study,for your growth and maturity. People will say and tell you anything,sometimes. I agree with the Moderator.
---Robyn on 2/18/08


Ruth, moderator is absolutely correct. It is amazing just how many Christians do not know what scripture says on this subject.
---emg on 2/18/08


Mod is right. You are freed by his remarriage.
---Madison1101 on 6/20/07


but where does it say you can remarry?
---r.w. on 11/18/06


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Some people can jump from one relationship into another very easily. I myself cannot, when I love someone and they betray my love I cannot run out and jump into another relationship right away, as a matter of fact I can't see myself ever having another relationship again because of it. The Bible says adultery is grounds for divorce, but that provision was given only for people who desired release from their marriage, and not for those who desired their marriage to be everlasting.
---Eloy on 10/3/06


I agree with Moderator,you ARE free to remarry due to your ex's situation..He has to answer to God for his own actions..I believe this is what God says..the adulterer is NOT free to re.marry,in the eyes of God but you are... God be with you........Karin.
---karin on 10/3/06


thanks. yes fornication covering a number of sins. well, God said let no man put asunder what He has joined. where does it say that you can remarry? i am afraid that you cannot remarry while he is alive. only when he is dead will you be free. i am struggling w/ this subject. man's logic says remarry, but the Bible says no. His logic is not like our logic.
---r.w. on 10/3/06


r.w., Adultery is the sin that married people commit. Fornication covers all sexual sins to include adultery.
---Elder on 9/24/06


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matt. 5:32 and 19:9 speak of except for the cause of fornication. why does it say fornication? and not adultery? could it be talking about in the times of Moses, if a husband found out after being w/ the new bride for the first time she was not a virgin that he could divorce her? i'm not sure how to read these verses
---r.w. on 9/23/06


moderator - Surprised to see you say that, bible is very conflicted on this topic.

Moderator - I believe it's peoples understanding that is conflicted. The Bible is clear on the issues of adultery.
---frank_cos on 8/13/06


**Yahweh is not like that. Remeber when Yahshua (real name of Jesus) was fasting in the desert, and the devil appeared to him and said "take this woman, for is it not meant for man to be alone".**

Jacques, follow the advice you have given people elsewhere, and give book, chapter, and verse for this.
---Jack on 8/12/06


Jacques, where does the bible say this 'Remeber when Yahshua (real name of Jesus) was fasting in the desert, and the devil appeared to him and said "take this woman, for is it not meant for man to be alone". I do not recall ever reading this.
---Mac on 8/12/06


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At the time my ex left me after 28 years for another women...I was crushed. Thank God he left me and married her. What a wonderful gift he gave me. My freedom. I remarried and am delightfully happy to a man that God chose for me. Yipppeee!!
---Annie on 8/11/06


Donna , I quote you:"I beseech you with all humility ". I like that(smile) --Mrs. Morgan
---Mrs._Morgan on 8/10/06


Donna9759, In the english language we have prefixes and suffixes. The prefix "Re" means to do again. If someone was married than widowed and they married again than the prefix "Re" is appropriately used. My question than becomes; Does the greek languge use prefixes and suffixes in similar gramatical fashions as the english language? This is probably a question for Jack.
---Ryan on 8/10/06


Donna9759 , First of all I do not twist scripture. Secondly I was responding to this off the top of my head. I am at fault here for not looking up the scripture and just paraphrasing but please do not accuse me of twisting scripture.
Mat 5:6 "Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.
---Ryan on 8/10/06


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You can remarry. My ex cheated on me and he filed for a divorce. I just signed the paper and went on with my life. After almost a year I got remarried. And I am thankful I did. God has blessed me beyond measure with a wonderful husband whom is a preacher now and two beautiful kids. Why should you have to pay for what? The divorce? It didn't cost me anything.
---Rebecca_D on 8/10/06


It would be silly for anyone to say "you cannot remarry". Yahweh is not like that. Remeber when Yahshua (real name of Jesus) was fasting in the desert, and the devil appeared to him and said "take this woman, for is it not meant for man to be alone". A man or a woman were not designed to be alone. Why should you have to suffer because of his lust. We have a just God.
---Jacques on 8/10/06


Ruth, Bottom line is it's between you and Christ. Ask Him to show you clearly which direction He wants you to go in this. Seek counsel from your pastor, and from the older women in your church - let them be as Titus 2 women in your life. Be cautious about trusting your emotions right now - give yourself time to heal before even considering the possibility of marrying again.
---daphn8897 on 8/10/06


Ryan, once again, as usual, you twisted the word of God. It does not say it's better to REmarry, it says: It's better to MARRY then to burn. REmarry was never mentioned in that scripture. You scare me sometimes. That's what satan does, he twists the word and then it becomes truth mingled with a lie which is what you have done here.
---Donna9759 on 8/10/06


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ruth, I beseech you with all humility to read these scriptures: Mark 10: versus 11 and 12. AND....1 Corinthians 7:11. Jesus did indeed say you can divorce for reason of adultery, but I cannot find anywhere in scripture where Jesus said you can remarry if you divorced for reason of adultery. Where is remarrying for reason of adultery in the bible? Can SOMEONE point the scripture reference out?
---Donna on 8/10/06


In the Old Testament when someone committed adultery, they were stoned to death. In other words, the "Until death" clause of Biblical marriage was put in place as the adultery was put to death. In the New Testament, we don't stone people anymore as it is better to forgive. However, since your former husband has picked a permanant lifestyle of adultery you are free to move on with a new life and remarry if you choose.
---Moderator on 8/10/06


It is better to remarry than burn with passion.
---Ryan on 8/10/06


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