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My Father Is Controlling Me

My father will not let me have any friends as he says that he is suppose to be my best friend. I am 18 and feel controlled. Help?

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 ---pepe on 8/10/06
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In the US, you are an adult. You are free to have friends and live as you wish. You may have to move out from your father's home to do that. If you are in another country, you may not have the same freedoms.
---Madison1101 on 2/3/08

You may have to stand up for your rights by moving out on your own.
---Jack on 6/18/07

You use pretty strong words--"control" and "any" friends. Sounds like an abusive situation. Unless you are in danger, you need to evaluate your situation. Has your father been faithful to take care of your needs? Does he respect God and you? I disagree that your father should be your best friend-- Jesus should be your best friend. You are asking for help--so pick up the phone and call a local Church or Youth outreach ministry that the Lord leads you to.
---glory77 on 8/11/06

If you get your own home, you can have your own rules.
---Annie on 8/11/06

Nooooooo, he is your father! If you are not allowed to have friends, THAT is a big, huge, flourescent red flag. Something is not right here. You're 18, so maybe it is time to break away...
---Crystal on 8/11/06

You could posssibly suggest to your earthly Father, that it is time to let go so you can have a chance to get to know your Heavenly Father. He wants to be your best friend too.
Are you saved?
---kathr4453 on 8/11/06

Pepe: Are you male or female? if you are a Hispanic female, there may be cultural roots of your feeling controlled.

The words you state hint that dad is breaking boundaries, at least in the area of being over protective...

Are you able to set up a dialogue with dad? At 18, you should be able to express your desires rationally, and then find out dad's reasons for actng as you say he does.

Could there be valid reasons (in Dad's eyes) why he seems so controlling?
---John_T on 8/11/06

According to Ephesians 6:1-3 pepe'; you should do what your earthly father wishes. But also being 18 you legally can do whatever you want to.If you live at home, follow the word, show your earthly father Ephesians 6:4 now; have a talk and pray together; it will be OK, WATCH!!
---rober9463 on 8/11/06

2. Unless you live in U.K. or U.S. you are possibly still considered a minor so choices might be limited for a little while yet. Try speaking gently with him about this and tell him you'll introduce your friends to him so that he can have peace of mind regarding who you wish to spend time with. I hope it all works out well for you soon.
---f.f. on 8/11/06

It is good, in some ways, that your dad wants to be your friend. Many young people would love to have dads that are also friends but your own dad seems to be taking the friendship bit a little too far. I'm sure that you respect and love him but he should also know that you need friends of your own age or similar. He is possibly very worried about you because of what he hears young people do and say these days.
---f.f. on 8/11/06

Tell your dad that you don't want him as your best friend, you want him as your Father. He probably just wants to keep the lines of communication open with you.
---sue on 8/10/06

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