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How To End An Affair

I am married with 2 children and having an affair. I need advice and scriptures to help me end it.

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 ---LostAngel on 8/14/06
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If you do not have "scriptures" to YOUR satisfaction will you continue in your affair?

Holy Scripture condemns adultery period.

You end an affair by confessing your sin to your spouse. Keep hiding from your spouse you will ALWAYS enjoy this secret ...LUST and PLEASURE of the secret more than the affair that you enjoy.

ending an affair begins with communication CLEARLY you have none in your marriage seek counseling so you can learn how to be truthful to yourself, your spouse, and your children otherwise you will find those comforting scriptures YET still live a LIE
---Rhonda on 1/11/12

Um... Stop cheating on your spouse. There's no advise for how to stop. You have to tell your spouse, then see if they want to work it out from there. Scripture is very clear about adultery, and very clear about forgiveness. We all make mistakes, but the biggest one is believing we can't "end it." God gave you the ability to choose. Sorry for being blunt, but advice for how to end your affair? Come on, you know better.
---Kolten on 1/10/12

Listne to Paul Simons "50 Ways to Leave your Lover"! And No your and NOT a Lost Angel, but a Found Demon!

Christian??? PLEEEEZZZ!
---John on 6/10/11

I don't think I have ever heard a question quite like this from a Christian, it's really not even something that needs to be asked. There are two examples I will give. You can cover it up like David which may end up far worse than ending it and telling your husband and asking for forgiveness,which is the Godly way to deal with this.We can't run from the consequences of the decisions we make,which are very painful and heartbreaking, nor hide them from the one we have sinned against. The second one is the women caught in adultery whom Jesus told go and sin no more. You have to do the first and then go and sin no more.
---willa5568 on 6/10/11

I've had affairs my whole life beginning with cheating on my high school sweetheart with a priest. When I conducted a mid life review, I felt so ashamed. My book, My Mother Killed Christ: But God Loves Me Anyway, traces my path to peace and forgiveness. I hope it helps others do the same.
---Katie_Roberta_Stevens on 6/10/11

Ed: Although this is not the Sabbath blog, I have seen those on CN who believe there are only 1, 2, or 9 commandments still in effect. I can find no scriptural justification at all for those who "think to change times and laws" (Dan 7:25). In fact, my Bible says:

Jas 2:10 For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.

Mat 5:19 Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.

Be careful what you teach, heaven may be talking about you.
---jerry6593 on 6/21/09

These are deceptive times that try everyones soul. Anyone can fall, but we need to flee sin as fast as possible.

It is not a joke and God is not playing with anyone when it comes to tresspassing His laws of covenant relationship. We should be warned that if we want to have inheritance with the Kingdom of Christ, we should not practice pagan thoughts and behavior. Matt 7:23

The answer is the same since ancient times..."turn away" from LAWLESSNESS. The letters of 1st -3rd John talk abaout this issue.

If we love God Keep His commandments. Fear God and keep His commandments.
---Yochanan on 6/20/09

Jerry, almost nobody on these blogs believe the Ten Commandments have been done away with. Nine out of ten of the Commandments are restated to keep in the New Testament. The debate is whether Christ is our Sabbath rest or keeping the Sabbath Law is our rest.
---Ed on 6/20/09

Yeh, I've got a scripture for you. How about:

Exo 20:14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.

Of course, there are those on this web site who believe that the Ten Commandments have been done away with under the New Covenant. But they haven't! Adultery is still sin, and the wages of sin is death.
---jerry6593 on 6/20/09

I am having an affair and I am so broke that I can not keep up with her husband

Jon Hlutke
---jon_Hlutke on 6/20/09

By ending it.
---carpenter on 6/7/09

I am in an affair with a woman that appears to still be in love with her husband. Any advice? I am still a student and living with my mom. No real money.

Jon Hlutke
---JonHultke on 6/7/09

Its not that simple. You have two kids, whose are they? Then depending upon whose they are you go from there. Been there, done that. In affair 6 years, now paying the fiddler....Three kids, two are his, one my husband.
---Morgana on 4/7/09

James 6:8
I think that's the right passage--I imagine myself as the woman to whom the Lord said "neither have I condemned you. Go and sin no more." I, too, am a sinner like you. It is harder to forgive myself as I have such pride which prevents me. I am new to this way of thinking, and yet, it has helped me.
---Wanda on 9/5/08

Unless people stand in your shoes, they will not understand. I understand. Either way it does not make it right and you obviously know that. As much as it hurts it must end. To save your marriage and your family and your relationship with Christ. Keep your heart soft, remove yourself from the situation, seek forgiveness from God and move forward. Do not look back. Retrain yourself (with the help of the Holy Spirit) and through prayer to get back to the woman God needs you to be.
---Rose on 3/9/08

Psalm 46vs 1, says God is our strength, a very present help in time of trouble. Stop the affair and continue to ask God for the strength to stay away from this person. It is never easy and if you are emotionally attached to this person the heartbreak is unbearable, but thank God for His mercy, the more you ask Him to help u believe me He will. Take it one day at a time and fill the time u spent with this person with something else. Spend more time in the word. It can be done - I've been there.
---Suey on 7/29/07

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1) Paul says a non-vigin is joined. 1Cor6:16
2) Jesus says joining is an act of God. Matt19:4-6,9. It is never a sin: Adultery is sin.
3) In scripture, multiple spouses are only denied to kings, church leaders and women. Other men must only meet the criteria common to any marriage.
---Uriah on 9/10/06

What some people are looking for when they write in is understanding. Affairs are not always lust. I was involved in one that my counselor helped me to understand was one of genuine and true feelings. I may have even have married my husband out of lust instead of love and now must choose to love him. There is nothing you can do except go through the pain and it's almost unbearable. Know that God will be with you. That's the only thing that's helping me.
---Robin on 9/7/06

A man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself. (Proverbs 6:32)

It hasn't been two weeks since I found out about my spouses affair. My advice to you is to end it completely with no further communication not even a wink when you see the person. Dont return the phone calls and when you see that person run dont walk the other way. All the attention you were giving to the affair pour it on your marriage.
---Christine on 8/24/06

I know where you are. I've recently ended an affair myself. I have mourned the loss of its end. But I was wrong, I have devestated my spouse by my selfishness. Your spouse can't compete with the excitement an affair brings. You have to make the choice and it won't be easy. Choose to love your spouse, that is what it is, a choice.
---Jez on 8/18/06

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You end this thing the same way you started it. You walked in and started so walk out and stop.
Let your ungodly partner know that you are informing his wife, your husband and/or anyone else to include the Police to make him stay away.
You can surely end this thing if you really want to.
Then repent and begin to rebuild your life. Stop being an object on a score board for someone else.
---Elder on 8/17/06

Lost Angel::You are not lost but bewildered you see something more appealing,But is it??The devil did the same to Eve, Yes your eyes will be opened in more ways Than one "what would it profit a man/Woman to gain the whole world (This affair)& suffer the loss of your soul"are you prepared to give up your children & the man you made a vow with in exchange for your soul,the ball is in your court.Its his Game.Its either DELETE or stay in the game.Its your choice.
---Emcee on 8/17/06

Just say NO!!
We teach it to our kids, and their just kids.
You need scripture to help you end it???
I think many unsaved people without scriptures have ended affairs. It's called conscience. Do you have one?
---kathr4453 on 8/17/06

Let's give this Lost Angel the WAY OUT. Jesus is your way out. Pray to Jesus and ask Him to help you stop having this affair. After all, he already knows you're having one. He's waiting for you to "Come to me all who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest." GO TO JESUS. He is the WAY out. You can't do this by yourself, the temptation of lust is very strong and satan isn't just going to let you go willingly. PRAY to Jesus, CRY OUT to Him, "Lord Help me out of this."
---Donna9759 on 8/17/06

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You are betraying:
Your husband,
Your children,
Yourself and your own integrity,
Your marriage vows,
---alan8869_of_UK on 8/17/06

I have 2 questions for you. 1. How much do you think your spouse knows? and 2. How much does your spouse really know?
Some of us know a lot more than we admit. And love a lot stronger than we are given credit for, and just wait and pray our spouse comes back to reality, and remembers what is really important.
---deb5863 on 8/16/06

Mark 10: 6-9
6.but from the begining of the creation God made them male and female.7. for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE;8 and they twain shall be one flesh; so then they are no more twain, but one flesh:9 What therefore god hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Your oath is not only to your spouse but also to god.
---deb5863 on 8/16/06

How about the commandment, "Thou shalt not commit adultery."

To end your affair write a note to your "lover" and tell him/her that it is over. No reason, just end it. Then, do not take or return phone calls. Do not see the person again. Do not communicate in any way, shape, or form.

Confess your sin to the Lord, and get into an accountability relationship with a person of your gender who is a little older, and has been walking with the Lord longer than you.
---Madison1101 on 8/16/06

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i would just like to commend you on posting this blog. It takes courage to admit your sins. Humble yourself before Jesus, ask Him to convict you of your sin and to pour His love over you and guide in His way :) He will find a way. The blood that Jesus shed will cleanse you. I pray your spouse can forgive you too..
---natasha on 8/15/06

You will end this affair when you decide to stop living in sin. You will only end it when you want to. You continue it because you want to. If your two children is not reason enough to end the affair, then you wouldn't listen to scripture either.
---Susie on 8/14/06

How you end an to.....end it. Walk away!
---Annie on 8/14/06

"The wages of sin is death." "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom." "If you love me, you'll obey me." "If you confess your sins, He is FAITHFUL and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness."
CONFESS your sin, TURN AND WALK AWAY FROM it and Jesus will make you whole again. Keep an open dialog with God. Pray to Him about it...ask His help.
---Donna9759 on 8/14/06

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a/ Stop - now. You know what the right thing to do is. You must choose to do it and stop - cold turkey.
b/ Pray that you have not done irreparable damage to your marriage and that your spouse will forgive you.
c/ Go to him and seek his forgiveness. Use a third party to intervene if you need to but do it.
---Bruce5656 on 8/14/06

Scripture:Matt 7:12, Ex 20:14, Prov 6:32, Rom 13:9, Galatians 5:19-21, "works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, ...I tell that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God."

---Bruce5656 on 8/14/06

You don't need scriptures to help end your affair, you just need to END IT PERIOD. Bottom line if you want to, I mean really want to, you will/can end it right now. But if you have second thoughts about it, then you really don't want to. No one can help you unless you learn to help yourself. Meaning if you want help to end it, then end it first, then get help.
---Rebecca_D on 8/14/06

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