My Engagement Was Stopped
If you were in a serious relationship, engaged and going to church you were comitted to this person only for 2 1/2 years, and suddenly you find out that they were cheating on you and walked out on you and the family, how can you get over that emotional pain, I am depressed what can I do?
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---Cegi on 8/17/06
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I can understand you are very upset. But remember, the person you thought you loved, never existed.
You will have pain continue when you realise that you were loving a dream, & you may eventually feel yuo were stupid in being taken in for so long by a liar & cheat.
At pity it took so long & you will mourn the wasted years.
But rejoice, when you can, and read what Bruce said.
---alan8869_of_UK on 12/20/07|
What you can do is rejoice! How blessed you are to find out this before you got married. A friend of mine has a similar story and she found out just a few days before the wedding. It was devastating to be sure but, again, she counts her self blessed to have found out before the actual wedding. She has recovered and you will too. God bless.
---Bruce5656 on 3/31/07|
cegi, there are givers and there are takers. read my blogg under title CHRISTIAN GIRL SEEKS ATTENTION. better now than later. thank God.
---tom2 on 9/10/06|
Hi Cegi, I understand your pain, and it is not easy. I was walked out on twice, once by the man I married, (we later divorced), second time by someone I loved. It takes time, but God does heal. Allow Jesus to be your Love, your comfort, your everything. Even that takes time when you are hurting so badly, but He is soooo good and loves you so much. He knows what is best tho we cannot see. Will be praying for you. BLESS YOU
---Christina on 8/30/06|
Depressed REJOICE you lucky Girl can't see it now but boy you will. Now try the what if theory's and see how better off you are without this looser in fact what happened was God knew how hurt you would be and knew you would not have been a door mat and decided to help you see what would have happened if you married him. Count your blessings girl and go Celebrate your new found love God and next time choose wisely girl.
---Carla5754 on 8/30/06|
Cegi, Jesus said, "I came to heal the brokenhearted." Psalm 147 says, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Cry out to Jesus, tell him how badly you are hurting, and ask Jesus to heal you. Take your comfort in Jesus by worshipping Him and reading the word of God, especially the Gospel of John and the Psalms. "I am the bread of life." Not human beings. Flesh and blood can't comfort you but my Father who is in heaven can. Pray and ask God to comfort you.
---Donna9759 on 8/25/06|
Be so thankful that you didn't marry him. My brother-n-law found out that his wife cheated on him after being married 11 years. they are still together, but miserable. The kids are suffering the most and they can't see it. It will take some time but try and get over him. There are other good and decent fish in the sea.
---Rebecca_D on 8/18/06|
Celia, I am so sorry you are hurt so much, but be thankful you did not marry him, have children and then find out he was cheating. Madison gave the best advice I have ever heard.
---shira on 8/18/06|
Cegi - I am really sorry that you are hurting so badly. However, it is much better that you found out now, rather than after you were married ... can you even begin to imagine what it would have been like had you been married? Forgive him, and trust the Lord to bring you through this and heal you of the hurt -- He will.
---Helen_5378 on 8/18/06|
Count your blessings! You could have married him, and than find out he was cheating on you. "Time", they say, "heals all wounds". This is probably going to be true in your case. In the meantime, let it be known you are vailable to date. Just remember, this is the first day of the rest of your life - don't waste it thinking about the guy who cheated on you. Just thank the Lord you weren't a victim in a marriage with kids and a cheating husband.
---wivv on 8/17/06|
Cegi I am sorry that you hurt now, but I agree with Bruce.
Could this be an answer from God? I believe so, for he has given you a minor heartache compared with what would have happened if you were wed and bed.
---John_T on 8/17/06|
My husband of 25 years divorced me five years ago. The pain was intense and felt overwhelming at times.
However, as Bruce said, you learned BEFORE you were married, and are spared a bad marriage and possible divorce as a result.
How did I recover from my loss? I dug into the Word of God and claimed Jeremiah 29:11 for myself. God has a plan for your life. Seek HIM and He will reveal it to you.
Find a Bible study to particiapte in and build your social life through that venue.
---Madison1101 on 8/17/06|
I'm so happy you found out before you get into the marriage. That's wonderful. Just keep yourself busy, completly block any contact with him. And spend a lot of times with friends and such
---nicole on 8/17/06|
The only things that will reduce the pain are time and prayer. These are natural feelings that God put there. If you had your top layer of skin flayed completely off, it would hurt, too.
There's a saying, "Engagements are made to be broken." The very word means, "If all goes well--then we shall marry." I can't help wondering why your engagement was that long, but everyone's different.
---Jack on 8/17/06|