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Wife Left Without A Mention

My wife, whom I dearly love, left me without a whisper. Never were the words divorce or seperation mentioned. Never was I given a chance to fix what I must have broke. To the last moment, she was a loving wife. Why?

Moderator - An affair?

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 ---Guy on 8/20/06
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I think if someone is loving, she is communicating about her feelings and about what is going on with her. It looks like she did not communicate . . . if what you are saying is really true. But are you telling the real truth? And what about children?

Possibly, you have not invested time in really getting to know her. I offered to do this with a lady, and we basically haven't talked since (c: lolololololol

And trust . . . if you are loving, I'd say you trust each other so you tell each other the truth about yourselves. Have you two really loved one another ? ? ?
---Bill on 11/27/10


This sort of thing invariably works two ways, John.
---Cluny on 11/21/10

I AGREE 100% WITH YOU!
---John on 11/21/10


for sure the wife was fed up of the situations and felt -it make no sense to stay and the situations seems hopeless..its hard to procrastinate what she think-so th best way is to ask her..
---mj on 11/21/10


\\NEVER did he care enough to listen to her!
NEVER did he think of others besides himself
NEVER did he have the time for her!
NEVER did he talk to her!
NEVER did he complement her!
NEVER did he love her!\\

This sort of thing invariably works two ways, John.
---Cluny on 11/21/10


Jesus said in Matt 19 that it is hardness of heart that makes people divorce.
This wife no doubt was hard of heart and followed the trends of this selfish world.
---Haz27 on 11/20/10




The key word in this question is NEVER.

NEVER did he care enough to listen to her!
NEVER did he think of others besides himself
NEVER did he have the time for her!
NEVER did he talk to her!
NEVER did he complement her!
NEVER did he love her!
ALWAYS HE WAS IN DENIAL!!!!
---John on 11/17/10


The moderator may be right. Or perhaps her thoughts became deceived, wrong thinking, mental illness. Pray about it, and contact her if you know where she went, and ask her for an explanation, otherwise you may not know the reason as to why she left. It is common today for spouses to sin by leaving their partner for someone else, just as it is also common today for children to run away from their parents home without any forewarning, for whatever reasons.
---Eloy on 11/16/10


\\She was probably fed up with the husband not listening to her. Men have a way of walking off, pouting and dismissing what a woman is trying to say to them\\

Women, of course, NEVER do this to their men, do they, Robyn?
---Cluny on 11/16/10


She was probably fed up with the husband not listening to her. Men have a way of walking off, pouting and dismissing what a woman is trying to say to them. She tired of talking and decided to show him. Actions speak louder than words. Women are getting fed up by verbal abuse and bad treatment from men.
---Robyn on 11/15/10


Two quick questions--did she take her stuff with her? And have you heard from her (or of her) since?

If the answer is no to these questions, you should go to the cops. Because she may not have left you.

Someone may have forced her to go.
---Nancy on 12/1/07




My son's wife did the same thing. He had no clue anything was wrong and she came home one day from work and told him she hated him and was leaving. She moved in with an older man in which she had been having an affair. It took my son more than 10 years to get over it. Sometimes I think he isn't over it.
---shira on 11/24/07


** Guy, only two people know the TRUTH of WHY. Your wife and God (if you don't know what it is).**

And your wife, though she may rationalize, may not know the real reason, herself.

Only God knows what was really going on inside her mind.
---Jack on 9/13/06


Guy: "To the last moment, she was a loving wife."
Not really. If she were, she would not have left. There was a deliberate, long-time plan in place for her to go to another place. Moving takes planning.
My heart goes out to you, guy. There is no simple answer, EXCEPT 1) do not beat yourself up over HER decision, and 2) you need to have other godly guys help support you for a while, while you get through it.
---JohnT on 9/13/06


helpful, friend from my own experience I would tell you Please don,t beat yourself up over her decision to leave. as the moderator has said it is not human nature to be loving and then just leave without there being someone else involved.she has been hiding something,if only just her feelings about your marriage and relationship.when you love someone it,s natural for you to blame yourself when they walk,but though fault may be mutual, assuming full responsibility is wrong.why?she left you may never know
---tom2 on 9/13/06


Clearly there is something more going on with her. Perhaps it was you, perhaps it was her, perhaps it was the way you two were together. It may seem easier to know, for the sake of catharsis, but you will be all the stronger if you can accept that which you cannot fix, and can get through it, without knowing. But you must be open to growth, & seek it out. After taking some time to grieve, of course.
---david on 8/24/06


After 27 years of marriage, I came home with my 7 year old granddaughter that lived with us, to find a note in my chair. He was gone. Never even said bye to the child. Took him 2 years to even try to see her. Another woman!! She now has him and guess what...she's miserable and so is he.
---Annie on 8/22/06


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Guy, only two people know the TRUTH of WHY. Your wife and God (if you don't know what it is). Since your wife has chosen not to tell you, why don't you ask Father God? The word says, "You SHALL know the truth and the truth shall set you free." When I asked God to show me the truth of the situation I was in, God got word to me through my sister and shhowed me the TRUTH of why. ASK FATHER GOD! He has the anwer. He will guide you into All TRUTH by the power of His Holy Spirit.
---Donna9759 on 8/21/06


My story is similar. When my twins were 3 weeks old, I went to the store and bought my husband a card that said "I love you more now than ever before" When I got home he asked me for a divorce. Shock, disbelief and terrible pain. It may not be you who "broke" the marriage, but rather the temptation of Satan seeking to destroy your wife. Pray for her, forgive her and protect your heart from bitterness, as this will allow for future healing.
---April on 8/21/06


Maybe all the tell tale signs were there you probably chose to ignore them. No one go's without a reason, only you know why. You have some work to do if it is possible to fix what you did wrong maybe you now know she was not happy and it's prolly too late now she's gone.
---Carla5754 on 8/21/06


2. If you know where she is, and if you havn't already done so, you must speak with her and try to find out the reason (whatever it is, it is better to know than not to know). I don't think that we ever know other people as well as we think we do regardless of the years we have known them. Something serious is troubling your wife which, at the moment, she cannot discuss. I will pray for you that you will soon find the answers you need.
---emg on 8/21/06


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1. I don't think that this necessarily means an affair, or another person at all. It is possible that she has been bottling things up for a long time and has just 'snapped'. She could be on the verge of a nervous breakdown or something of that nature. Is there a possibility that she has discovered that she is ill and has disappeared for a while to think about how she will handle it (before everyone else starts to tell her what to do)?
---emg on 8/21/06


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