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How To Reproof A Saint

How do you tell another Christian in a nice way they are not the head of the body - Jesus is? They love to correct, lifting themselves as a guide?

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 ---Linda3939 on 9/3/06
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First make sure it's not that important to you in your heart that he be corrected.

Second; state things in "how I feel statements" so that you are not using statements that create something to fight against.

This will lengthen the confrontation, but if your motives are right you'll endure this and persist without anger.

Should he refuse your correction, bring another with you who agrees and try again.
---Pharisee on 8/10/07


Jack had a good comeback on an earlier blog. You could say, God told me something completely different, why is that? Jack says it better. Sounds like they're a 'topper'. Always there with a word that 'tops' yours. Argumentive or oppositional. Need to have the last word, and can't stand it if they do not.
Or you could stick your tongue out.
I'm just sayin... :-b
---R.A. on 12/27/06


I've known a few like that in my time; I call them "Kick Butt for Jesus" people, and it's not a compliment lol!
---Mary on 12/27/06


Actually, the Bible has a better idea than to go to your brother if you have something against him. Forgive him and you won't even have to go to him. if there is no offense then there is nothing to deal with. That's the highest way to deal with the problem.
---john on 9/26/06


Linda3939: It's touchy correcting someone. It sounds like you have a personality conflict here. We don't have friendships with everyone. Jesus wants His love to be shown in the body. You can limit your contact with them. You said they made you feel "unloved". No one can make you choose to feel unloved, you aren't unloved: God loves you. Churches have people in them who're "challenges" to the body in some way. Pray for patience, understanding for you & enlightenment for the offender.
---Linda on 9/25/06




Jack :: I agree those who use Profanity & expletives are the unfortunate who have not had the chance or ability to improve their conversational skills. Either since they think it is acceptable in the circles they mix & it becomes a habit.We need to point out words of distaste & abuse is not one of a good person's choice & so "By their fruits you should know them"Please improve your vocabulary.
---Emcee on 9/25/06


I agree with Pharisee. The Bible instructs us that if we have an issue with our brother, to go to him in love and work it out. If he refuses to change, then bring along a witness. If this person is a friend of yours, you should be able to just talk to them about how it makes you feel.
If after talking with this person they don't change their ways, then put some distance between the two of you.
---Kate on 9/25/06


I don't know the person Rev Herb was speaking of, but "using a few salty expressions" doesn't sound the same to me as "having a very dirty mouth". Neither Jesus nor Paul used the F word (or it's equivalent) that I can find. If they spoke of sexual matters, it was in context. They did not use it nor the name of Deity as an expletive.
The people I think of as having a "dirty mouth" are those who use obscenities as ordinary parts of speech.
---Donna2277 on 9/10/06


** I talked with a guy once that had a very dirty mouth. I asked if he went to church and was a Christian. He said yes. I told him his mouth didn't show it. He got mad but latter appoligized to me.

Jesus and Paul were point blank, why should't we be.**

Jesus and St. Paul were not above using a few salty expressions themselves.

Are you on the spiritual level of Jesus or St. Paul, Rev. Herb?
---Jack on 9/6/06


"how I feel statements"
"I don't feel loved."
That's the honesty he needs from you to ammend this rough handling of the people Jesus died for.
Linda just be honest and show your hurt to him, that you want to be at ease around him and not dreading to speak.
---Pharisee on 9/5/06




Bold or obnoxious. If 'person' analyses every thing you say and thinks they're being helpful by solving all your problems...speak out and up. Exp. Well thanks for your input, but I really need to seek the Lord about this one. Or - The Lord hasn't revealed that to me yet, I'm waiting on His answers. Thank you.
---Rachel on 9/5/06


It seams this person is always correcting everyone. In almost every conversation - they can find something wrong. I get the impression they think they are better than anyone else. I don't feel loved - but inperfect around them.
---Linda3939 on 9/5/06


Regarding the original question: "Reprove" is a verb, "Reproof" is a noun.
About Christians using dirty language, you need do nothing except use godly language. After a while EVERYONE notices. I've never seen it fail. The foul- mouthed one (often even a non-Christian) will begin to watch his mouth.
Reproving those who love to "correct" others...sometimes just answering with scripture is good (if nothing else it sends them to the Word to find a response)
---Donna2277 on 9/4/06


I talked with a guy once that had a very dirty mouth. I asked if he went to church and was a Christian. He said yes. I told him his mouth didn't show it. He got mad but latter appoligized to me.

Jesus and Paul were point blank, why should't we be.
---Rev_Herb on 9/4/06


I found this saying that seems to apply to the present issue:

"It is vain to hope to attract souls to God by a bitter zeal. On the contrary, harm is done more often than good by taunting men harshly with their faults, and reproving their vices with asperity."

It was said by Pope Pius X. What do you think?
---Jack on 9/4/06


People in the flesh refuse to be corrected, but the spiritual are commanded to correct the disobedient. "But he that is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is judged of no man. Brothers, if a man be overtaken in a fault, you all which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering yourself, else you also be tempted." I Corinthians 2:15; Galatians 6:1.
---Eloy on 9/3/06


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People in the flesh refuse to be corrected, but the spiritual are commanded to correct the disobedient. "But he that is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is judged of no man. Brothers, if a man be overtaken in a fault, you all which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering yourself, else you also be tempted." I Corinthians 2:15; Galatians 6:1.
---Eloy on 9/3/06


It's difficult to answer because I don't know if this person is in a place of responsible leadership or if they are just making a nuisance out of themselves by telling everyone how high to jump. I think do just what you say. Tell them in a nice way or speak to someone in leadership or in close family and maybe they can do it for you. Any way you do this is likely to cause a stir unless the person is humble.
---john on 9/3/06


First off, the Moderator should be aware that "reproof" is a noun; "reprove" is the verb.

Moderator - You are correct; that's what we get for typing too fast :)
---Jack on 9/3/06


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