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How Do You Show Love

Is it possible to love someone that you don't like?

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Elena, thank you so much for your wonderful words. I really enjoy so much to study about God. I get up very early to study many topics, today at 12:30 am. take a nap about 10 am for two hours, and I'm ready to go.
I'm making tamales this weekend at my daughters house. It's that time of year. I have the big pans ready and we leave Friday. Hope to make about 30 dozen. Wish you were there to help us. It's a big job, but well worth it. Blessings and peace.
---Mark_V. on 12/14/11


Hello! bro.Mark,always great you our teacher no matter what comes you are there help lift up the weak.. glad see you here,other day want to say "hello" have to be couteous not take up too much blogg..I been have sleep problems(all the extra holiday eating & stress) smile!Thanks,brother.
---ELENA on 12/13/11


Elena, you are correct. There are many brothers and sisters who need help, on problems they have in the Word of God, in tribulations they are going through and this website is the right place to go and ask. But with one understanding, that many here come down hard on you for asking. So be prepared for that. If what anyone says does not help you, move on to answers that can help you. Peace sister.
---Mark_V. on 12/7/11


hello! Family, we are living most hardtime...not onlyfinances,cutbackswe see the hardness and the pain of ahuman heart! Regardless,what nationor country - we all need God. Evil everywhere! broken hearts.. families .... we need these kind of websites! People are not able sometimes, ask questions some church's. Keep on teaching those who got the gift! Strengthen.. the weak and help mend broken vessels...
---ELENA on 11/28/11


hello, I believe you can truly love that enemy but,you do not like "their ways"I do not hate anyone,but for true they can do things that make me "pray harder" yes! then,God right! His way sweet,tested & tried. be blessed all.
---ELENA on 11/28/11




The way you show love. No backstabbibg your enemies, Show kindness even if you feel sick in doing it. Afterall, we are only saved by God's grace. None of us are too great. However, there will be times when God will tell His people to confront. For some of us that too can be a real challenge. God is very big on just letting things pass, also. Obey Him in everything. Word of God and God directly. Get close to Him or you will not make it on this earth. And possibly not even into heaven.
---catherine on 3/10/08


True love is a rarety in today's world. rarely does anyone know HOW to really love. Sure, it's easy to define it, but how do you perform it. True love is when you put everyone else's needs above yours. Be willing to go the extra mile for everyone. Go out of your way to help someone in need like the Good Samaritan. It's easy to throw money at the problem, but are you will to work at love? The Bible says it's a DOING thing.
---Steveng on 3/8/08


Sue can you love someone without respecting them?Depends on one's definition of love.Jesus said "Love one another as I have loved you "what did he mean?Consider sitting on a beach enjoying a romantic setting,moonlight cool breeze and being "happy and contented" just because of the moment, or watching your child playing in the waters edge gathering shells.You are at peace with everything.That is the love I am talking about.sharing each other.
---Emcee on 3/7/08


Yes it is but hard to pull off. With God's help anything is possible,though. It is not a romantic kind of love. It is agape love toward the person a christian should show. That is choosing to do the right thing towards that person. Having the right intentions, taking nothing away from the person. If there is a need that you can fulfill, then do it. You have shown love to him or her.
---Robyn on 3/7/08


Emcee, yes, I agree you have to have respect in order to love somebody, but can you respect somebody without loving them?
---sue on 3/3/08




SUE::You have to combine RESPECT with the ingredient of Love and the need to fulfill the love from the responder, must have the same ingredient RESPECT.
---Emcee on 3/3/08


I've always believed that true love is much more than an emotional feeling. It is kind of a disapline, a commandment from God. "Love one another". It takes lots of disapline and learning and practice, it does not come naturally like alot of people think it does.

To 'like' somebody is a differant story.
---SUE on 2/29/08


If you don't love your neighbor, you don't love God.
If you don't love your neighbor, you may have religion, but you don't love God.
---Cindy on 2/29/08


How do you show love you say. Love can be shown in many ways. We all have our different ways but a special way of showing it is just helping out someone. You don't show love by making love. REgarless if you're married. Love doesn't even have to show. It matters if you just have it.
---Purunematu on 2/28/08


I have voted for people because I admire them, though they disagreed with me personally. Some others I won't associate with. But if I were to meet CN people at a party, I would certainly not wear my name on a badge. LOL. I think some people are able to love without liking. Anyway hate and love are close emotions. If you hate someone a lot you can also love them a lot. The disliked are the problems.
---frances on 2/28/08


Cindy ... Perhaps that is how you would behave.
But as for the rest of us, how could we, for youm say we are all one person, anyway!
But seriously, my judgment of most of the bloggers is that they would remain courteous. as they are here.
---alan_of_UK on 2/28/08


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If you are a believer the is answer is yes. Not the kind of love this world knows.
---catherine on 2/28/08


Yes, you can.
I often think how it would be if we actually met the people here. What would be the reactions?
The sneers, jeers, and leers. The snorts, sniffs, pawing at the ground and fistacuffin'. The grabbing of noses and pulling of hair, flinging each other around like ragdolls.
But when the verbal insults were all finished, and the dust settled, you might find someone you like.
A handshake, a hug, a pinch on the cheek and the fistacuffin' starts all over again.
---Cindy on 2/28/08


If we were without moderation, we would see language that you would find on every other "Christian" site. Trash.
If some were allowed to tell others what they really thought of them, it would be horrid, because nothing good comes from the flesh.
If one is able to tell someone off, without any conviction whatsoever, do you really have the Holy Spirit? Light and darkness do not mix and love and hate do not mix either.

Beezlebub cannot cast out Beezlebub.
---Cindy on 2/28/08


The bible tells us to love and pray for all our enemies. Matthew 5:44 says "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you..."
---Regenia on 2/27/08


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Yes..You ask Jesus to fill you with His love. Then do it! Not easy but can be done.Tough as a matter of fact. Loving the unlovable is what christianity is all about.This is why Love fulfills the Law. We do not have to try to live the 10 commandments. If you learn to love others you will have kept all of the commandments. Praise God for this understanding!
---Robyn on 2/27/08


Yes, when you are walking in the Spirit, and controlled by Him.
---Madison1101 on 2/26/08


Steveng, I thought you were a school teacher, that took kids to the park on weekends.
---Shiela on 11/28/06


Madison,

It is not "teacher vs. parent" Teachers and Parents work together to keep children safe. Both serve as protectors and both serve as educators.

Rachel
---Reiter on 10/31/06


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Steveg, honestly I wish I had had a teacher like you when I was in school. Taking time to just be with kids means alot to them. So does dancing with them Madison, it shows the kids you care. Its horrible we live in a world where, when caring is seen as being a predator. When just sitting and relaxing with students is seen as creepy.
---bethie on 9/30/06


A soccer coach from my state is sitting in a pen because he took liberties with young boys for years. He isolated them, took them to meets, drugged them, and had computer cameras in his ceiling at home where he lured boys. You get the idea. Parents trusted this loving man. He even had slumber parties at his home. Parents handed their kids over to the wolf. Not me.
---Shiela on 9/26/06


This can be carried to the extremes, either way. I don't see school dances as a threat, teacher dancing. Mothers have instincts. I don't like the river bank - soaked to the bone story. Teachers need to avoid even the very appearance of improper actions. My taxes pay for their salaries. Children belong to God and their parents. Teachers are not the enemy. We know who the enemy is that causes a teacher to cross the line.
---Shiela on 9/26/06


Shiela, from the looks of it, I am your enemy. You say teacher v. parent. I am a public school teacher, and I have had spontaneous moments with my students. Last year our school had a dance, and I danced with some of my inner city students. They wanted to teach me a certain dance they do.
There are to be boundaries that teachers follow, and I am sure Steve follows them, but splashing in a river is harmless.
---Madison1101 on 9/26/06


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I don't home school. If anyone is going to soak my kids to the bone, it won't be the teacher. The days of good old Mr. Wilson and Dennis are over. If you think not just remember the teachers this year alone who have crossed the line. I don't want a teacher teaching his ideas of faith to my kids either. Allowing prayer in school is fine. We have to keep an eye out for our kids. Gushing over v parental concern.
---Shiela on 9/26/06


Steveg: Spontaneous you are. I'm sure your students like you. Keep sharing God's love, word & nature with the students. I know there are many Christians teaching in our school systems. My granddaughter has had them and what an impact they have had in her life. I've had many wonderful talks with her from events that she has been exposed to in the normal course of her life. She's being prepared by God to take the place that He prepares for her with Christ in her heart & wisdom from His Word.
---Linda on 9/25/06


Whoa, "playmate vs. predator". You must homeschool. Thinking Steve's story as weird is your privilege. But I hope that fear that comes through the "vs." used is'nt translated to your children. Keeping them protected from "worldly" people until they leave home is your parental right. But, to lead them to have fear & insecurity as basis for choices won't help them. They're going into society needing info. to form their own beliefs. Not fear, but Truth in love from God.
---Linda on 9/25/06


I don't live in a city. There are boundaries I expect at school, and why some choose to home school. Educator v parent, Caretaker v charge, grownup v child, playmate v predator.
---Shiela on 9/24/06


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Besides, any time you have a chance to sit down with kids away from the TV, the music, the video games, school homework, extracurricular activities, is truly quality time and a person or parent should take advantage of it and talk about things that really matter - God - and have them soak Biblical knowledge up. I've know quite a few kids I've tutored and they have grown and have kids of their own I'm tutoring. (gosh, did I reveal my age?)
---Steveng on 9/23/06


Why? You must like your way of life in the city. Didn't you ever sit on a rock, or a pier, and dangle your feet in the water? It does have a soothing affect. You should try it some time. It's at those times, especially when you are alone and where you are away from the things of man, that you can actually hear the whispers of God.
---Steveng on 9/23/06


Steve, that story gives me the creeps.
---Shiela on 9/23/06


He said, "God made this river so I can splash all of you," as he scooped hands full of water at us. We all jumped in after him. Well, to make a long story short, a few minutes later we were soaked to the bone. The love of sharing. (this story immediately came to mind when I wrote "Show me HOW" even though the blog was about a person you didn't like)
---Steveng on 9/22/06


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So I took off my shoes and sat down next to her. She said, "Doesn't it feel good?" I replied with a yes and said, "God made this river for your happiness, Michelle." She turned to me and smiled. We talked about different things when a few minutes later the other three kids were sitting on the rock with their feet dangling in the river. Ryan, having a mischievous heart, jumped in the river, being only shin high and began splashing us.
---Steveng on 9/22/06


So far I've only read superficial opinions and definitions of what love is. Show me HOW to love.
Four of my students and I visited Jones Bridge Park in Norcross Georgia. As I was walking the path along the Chattahoochee River, I saw Michelle, one of my students, sitting on a rock with her bare feet dangling in the water. I ask, "What are you doing." She replied, "Just playing with the water with my feet." I said, "May I join you?" ...
---Steveng on 9/22/06


I"ve learned that love is an action word. It is more then saying, "I'll pray that you find a job", it is going and doing, giving, not selfish, did I say doing? Oh, and listening, and giving, and doing...
---John-B on 9/22/06


Donna, thank you. Your words mean a lot to me. I've unintentionally stepped on a few toes here. Even though I've apologized, it still feels really crummy to have your intentions misconstrued and even worse to feel like you've hurt someone. It pleases me to read that someone really sees me. Thank you so much for your kindness and the feeling is quite mutual.
---AlwaysOn on 9/22/06


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greetings,it is possible to love those who revile you and persecute you.equally so to love one who is of lesser standards than you would require a deep self understanding of why and what is needed to make personal attitude changes .if a day comes when you are one in the position to become the good samariatan for that person do not let it pass you by.that is love and your presonal attitude has changed.
---earl on 9/22/06


Oh, I can just feel the love.... Anybody out there have step-children? Anyone putting their love in action on a minute to minute basis? Anyone have an adopted child that's a challenge? Anyone love their husband's ex-wife? How about a tyrant boss who stores his liquor bottle in the toilet tank at work, talks like a sailor and breathes in your face?
---Shiela on 9/22/06


AlwaysOn, you're soooooo very welcome. I'm telling you, we think alike. I can sense your gentleness across these blogs. I am drawn to gentle people. The rought ones I have to pray hard to get through the day with them here at work, but it's worth it. God Bless you Mightily, I love you dearly.
---Donna9759 on 9/22/06


Yes. Love is simply a motive lead by a thought & tendency that inclines one to do or say that which is uplifting, edifying and beneficial to or towards another. Liking someone has very little to do with this. It is a superimposed state of mind that is yielded to the love of God. When one allows oneself to be opened to a knowledge of the Father, one is given a knowledge of self & will treat other as they themselves would like to be treated.

"Like" is a feeling, love is a choice.
---josef on 9/22/06


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Sue, I like that, especially because it reminds me of my mother who used to say something quite similiar. Smile
---Christina on 9/22/06


Donna9759, that was beautiful! Thanks!
---AlwaysOn on 9/22/06


My mother always had some very wise words about this: 'when someone is acting like you cant love them, thats probably when they need love the most'.
---sue on 9/21/06


It's easy to dish out the word "love." It's easy to say "Love your neighbor as well as your enemies." Paul defined it very well. But people today have a most difficult time knowing HOW to love. Look around you and during the past 50 years. What do you see? Love has grown icily cold. People have a hard time developing relationships. People live on the surface and very rarely delve into the deepest part of the heart where love truly lives.
---Steveng on 9/21/06


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I love everyone and I try my best to show them that. but I don't always like someone. There are some people that I have tried and tried and I still don't like them. It isn't them it is their personality that I don't like.
---Rebecca_D on 9/21/06


Here's a real good key to follow when loving the unlovely. Realize what is making them unlovely. For example: Hurting people hurt people. Try to look beyond the reason why you don't like them, and try to find out what's going on inside their heart. If someone is evil, then you know what you're wrestling with, not flesh and blood, but spirits and principalities, so bind them up real quick and give that person a hug. They probably need one badly.
---Donna9759 on 9/21/06


I just got done working with the most bitter person I've ever met. She even said "I am bitter." I loved her by crucifying my flesh and yielding to the Holy Spirit's love inside of me. I let it flow through me even on days when I felt like strangling her. I love the unlovely by walking in a state of forgiveness towards them. I keep thinking, "We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against spirits and principalities."
---Donna9759 on 9/21/06


I love George W. Bush, Tony Blair (I really do) and for Alan, UK I love Prince Charles and 'Cammiller'.
---R.A. on 9/21/06


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By all means...or maybe not by all means but by the Spirit. In the flesh/natural we do not truly love someone we do not like, but with God's help all things are possible, especially love, since we know God IS love.
---Christina on 9/21/06


Yes you love the person but not there ways
---Betty on 9/21/06


We are told to love everyone, especially our enemies. The only way this will be accomplished is to have the Spirit in control of your life.
---Ryan on 9/20/06


Keep on loving, that far outways liking.
---Lynn on 9/20/06


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Yes. Phil, it is hard at first, but the way i do it is say, "God, I know that you want me to love this person so i am. Help me love them more...and mean it from my heart. Help me find parts to love and even like. Let me love them for who they are and help me see them as You see them." And be nice to them. You may never "Like" them enough to be best friends...but God can work miracles if you are willing. they don't even have to be willing... but pray for them, God changes hearts.
---Amy9384 on 9/20/06


Yes! Be patient with them. Be understanding. Encourage them when possible. Respect them as God's creation. Look past their faults and show love anyway. Pray for them. Be an example, a expression of love. Keep things simple. Be interested in their needs. Share God's word with them. Be a peace maker. Be free with your love - no price on it.
---Linda3939 on 9/20/06


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