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I am an unmarried 36 years old woman. My Mum thinks that my being single at my age is a reproach and has encouraged me to have at least a baby out of wedlock to beat menopause and guarantee that I will have a child to take care of me when an old.

Moderator - Of course a Christian would not do that. What country are your from?

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 ---Ann on 10/14/06
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Am I to understand ''christians'' are giving an alternative to children other than through Marriage?


I know I've read this wrong?

Pray tell me Im not understanding these replies!
---Carla5754 on 6/17/08


That must have made you feel good.Did you ask her if she just had you to take care of her in old age? If a parent said that to me I would feel unloved.The only reason to have a child is if you love children and want one.I think our moderator forgot that you don't have to have sexual intercourse to have a baby in this day and age.Their is a procedure called artifical insemnation where you don't even have to meet the father or even know who he is if you don't want to.If you have the money to raise a child.
---shirley on 6/14/08


Am I missing the point here?



''I see nothing wrong with this''

Madison1101 on 10/14/06

Mat 5:19

Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach [them], the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.
---Carla5754 on 6/14/08



1Ti 4:1
Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils,


1Ti 4:2
Speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their conscience seared with a hot iron,

1Ti 4:3
Forbidding to marry....
---Carla5754 on 6/14/08


I'd tell your mum the same thing I told mine. In today's world there is no guarantee that the child will care for me. I have arrainged that already. I will be taken care of whether I have a child or not. Just a short six years later I have two children, still don't anticipate them careing for me though.
---dan on 4/1/08




Your mom is putting too much emphasis on the name and not enough on morality. There are many disadvantages to not having offspring. Especially when you get old you will wish you had children and grandchildren. But you're the one making the decision and I stand with you on not having a child out of wedlock.
---john on 3/31/08


I agree with moderator...What kind of christian would ask their child to fornicate? You can always adopt a child at any time in your life.
---sam on 7/15/07


** A mother that would tell her adult daughter this is not a mother or a Christian**

Christians have given bad advice in the past without ceasing to be Christian.

Nor does it stop her from being her biological mother.

Neither "mother" nor "Christian" are terms of approbation or approval. Nor is either a synonym for "good person."
---Jack on 10/15/06


Your mother may want a grandchild.
---Eloy on 10/15/06


A mother that would tell her adult daughter this is not a mother or a Christian. For one thing you are of age to make up your own mind. At 36 you're still a young lady and having a child out of wedlock is not a way to have someone take care of you when you're older. You can still find a nice gentleman and get married and then you'd have two people to care for you. Like many have said, you can always adopt.
---Norma7374 on 10/15/06




**but I doubt that God will share it on this occasion.**

emg, did God tell you what this woman should or should not have done?

Your opinion about it doesn't really matter.

MYOB, dearie.
---Jack on 10/15/06


2. Madison, sorry, I failed to say that I was referring the a.i. not the adoption.
---emg on 10/15/06


Madison, you are definitely entitled to your opinion, but I doubt that God will share it on this occasion.
---emg on 10/15/06


I had a 40 year old coworker who did not date because she was obese. She had one child by artificial insemination and another by adoption. I see nothing wrong with this.
---Madison1101 on 10/14/06


Tell your MUM that you would rather be right with God than to commit fornication. Your MUM obviously expects you to take care of her when she is not able to take care of herself. Are you ready for that? If you think she is demanding now, just wait.
---Susie on 10/14/06


Two thoughts,1) why not marry. and 2)if you put all the money away it takes to raise a child you wouldn't have to rely on one for your retirement years... just practically speaking. The Bible is plain on the subject of marriage and children so that is not the area of your conern, what is?
---mikefl on 10/14/06


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Ann::so far we have heard what your mom thinks & how she would solve the problem.My question to you is "What do you think,what is your approach to the situation?". I'm sure you have some thoughts.
---Emcee on 10/14/06


Ann::so far we have heard what your mom thinks & how she would solve the problem.My question to you is "What do you think,what is your approach to the situation?". I'm sure you have some thoughts.
---Emcee on 10/14/06


**What kind of christian would ask their child to fornicate?**

Ever hear of artificial insemination?

Don't forget, in Biblical times (especially reflected in the OT), being childless, or even worse, unmarried, were considered catastrophes. In a society with no social security or widow's pensions, one's children would have been one's support in old age.
---Jack on 10/14/06


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