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Why do so many couples live together instead of getting married first. Am I old fashioned?

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 ---Norma7374 on 10/15/06
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Just another example of how sinful our culture has become and how much people need Jesus Christ!
---sam on 11/12/08


I think it is exciting myself, just another sign that Jesus is comming soon and I can't wait.
---Rev_Herb on 5/12/07


Cindy- If the minister knew before hand that one of the two in the marriage had not truly given their heart to the other, and he still preformed the wedding, I believe he will be held accountable. But only God truly knows mans heart.
---ShawnM.T. on 11/21/06


Allowable but not legal. I understand the spiritual part. Christians are to follow the governing laws of the nation. Permitted but without benefits that the law would provide. It provides loopholes for older parties to keep all their financial benefits. Are ministers compromising when they perform these ceremonies? Are they spiritually accountable?
---Cindy on 11/18/06


Cindy- You asked if a ceremony is legal without a license. The answer is easy, are you looking to be right with God or the world? When we give our hearts to Christ, were filled with so much joy & love that we are driven by the Holy Spirit to give our testimony to the world. Every ceremony should parallel our union with Christ in this way.
---ShawnM.T. on 11/17/06




Cindy- There is nothing wrong with the gathering of family and friends to announce the giving of your heart to another in a ceremonial union that parallels our spiritual union with Christ. Be mindful of the spiritual things not worldly things.
---ShawnM.T. on 11/17/06


I don't like the idea of commitment cerimonies not because I don't believe they would be equivalent, but because the current tax and economic set up revolves around legal marriage, if insurance companies would offer benifits to "commited partners" then that would be good, but without marriage both people need/have to get their own plans because they are not legaly family.
---Jared on 11/15/06


I have heard that older persons on social security almost have to live together not to lose their benefits. Do you think in order to survive they could so as not to be alone?
---Virginia on 11/15/06


ShawnMT, hope you're still there. I believe commitment ceremonies are permitted, but not legal. What do you think?
---Cindy on 11/14/06


Good answer. What do you think about ceremonies without a license? A commitment service. What do you think about those?
---Cindy on 11/14/06




I think the change in relations is directly resulted from the parent's of the children of marrying age now. I'm a gen xer and In my generation many of our parents were divorced it is not so much the fact that commitment has changed but that the younger generations haven't seen commitment so they don't know how. Is it wrong yes, but I think we can be judgmental about it and drive them away from christ or we can accept them in grace and encourage them into a deeper relationship with God and with eachother.
---Jared on 11/14/06


the cycle can and needs to stop but it won't until we start seeing them as people not as sinners, who here can say that they haven't messed up in their lives, we all have the difference is some of us found the hope of Christ and others are being driven away from him by judgmental christians.
---Jared on 11/14/06


All that we do is to parallel the marriage/ union we have, when we gave our hearts to Christ. The true giving of ones heart is what makes the relationship a marriage not getting a piece of paper from the world. All that enter any union that does not parallel what we have in Christ, God will judge; even those who weddings that were preformed before priest, that did not truly give their hearts. Heb.13:4 Col.3:1-2
---ShawnM.T. on 11/14/06


Hi; I agree, even though I wish I didn't, that living together is sin. God said it so it's true. But marriage is a risk I'm not willing to take anymore; who can a woman (or man) trust not to crush their spirits anymore? Really--I no longer have much faith in most men. I know there's some great ones out there but I'm afraid to ever trust one again--until God helps me trust the right one.
---Mary on 10/21/06


Starr,
If they accept Jesus and get married, this points to the fact they are sorry for their past actions and the couple now has lined up with the will of God by first getting saved and then by getting married which is all expressed in the Word of God. This would be the perfect solution to the problem of living together. Joy9988
---Joy9988 on 10/19/06


Good question, I often wonder because some live together and do often get married. So I guess my answer is a question also,what if they accept Jesus and get married. I wonder how that works , any answers......thankyou
---Starr on 10/18/06


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Jack, good question...I don't have the scripture in front of me but doesn't it also say...as in the day of Noah...? or something like that, in which case you need to refer to what was going on then when God judged etc
---christina on 10/16/06


Jack, no offense, but your statement here doesn't make sense. Jesus didn't say marrying will be a sign of His return, he said people will be giving in marriage, that is they will be living life as usual without knowledge that judgement is about to come. On the other hand he said iniquity will abound in the haerts of many. And fornication is iniquity.
---Okebaram on 10/16/06


I forgot to mention in this context, there's the "eating and drinking" Jesus refers to.

In other words, life as usual.
---Jack on 10/16/06


** Jack, could it be that Jesus was referring to those who repeatedly get married?**

Good guess, though the Greek doesn't imply that.
---Jack on 10/16/06


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Rebecca_D , I agree, some get a "rush" out of it, but that rush is from the devil. Marriage is the wonderful plan of God, but the devil hates it.
---Mrs._Morgan on 10/16/06


So, what do you think about people who become Christians after they have been married several times and then get married to a Christian and stay married? Are they going to heaven?
---Susie on 10/16/06


Rebecca-that's the problem with this world, to many people think like that. I know this is an old cliche but-things weren't like that when I was younger. Sure, it probably went on but at least people didn't brag about it. This is a sin sick world that we live in and the sooner the Lord returns the better off it will be.
---Norma7374 on 10/16/06


Jack, could it be that Jesus was referring to those who repeatedly get married? Marrying sounds like a "continuous state" meaning people marry and re-marry and if that doesn't work out, they marry again. Some have married 7 or 8 times. This is just a guess Jack, so don't jump on me if I'm wrong, but what do you think?
---Donna9759 on 10/16/06


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Norma, you are NOT old fashioned. If you believe in marrying over living together, then you believe right. People choose to live together (there goes that FREE WILL again) they choose to live together not even caring if they're living in sin or not. Because if they did care, they wouldn't do it. Right?
---Donna9759 on 10/16/06


People like living in sin. they want to try before they buy, so to speak. If they don't like it they want to return it and get another one. It is harder to do that with being married.
---Rebecca_D on 10/16/06


**I also agree it's a sign of the times pointing that Jesus is coming back soon.**

I will repeat a question I asked:

Jesus said that "marrying and giving in marriage" would be a sign of His return.

Therefore, how does the opposite--NOT getting married--become its sign?
---Jack on 10/16/06


What is the difference in living together and what sociologist are calling serial monogamy which according to statistics many evangelical Christians are involved in. Arent both adultery?
---randy on 10/16/06


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I also agree it's a sign of the times pointing that Jesus is coming back soon. Living together without marrying is also pointing to the sin of human nature and the need for a saviour. The Bible is clear when it says fornicators shall not enter heaven.

The problem also is one of fearing the responsibilites that come with marriage such as working hard to make a mariage work by being faithful, learning how to communicate and learning money management strategies. Joy9988
---Joy9988 on 10/15/06


I also agree it's a sign of the times pointing that Jesus is coming back soon. Living together without marrying is also pointing to the sin of human nature and the need for a saviour. The Bible is clear when it says fornicators shall not enter heaven.

The problem also is one of fearing the responsibilites that come with marriage such as working hard to make a mariage work by being faithful, learning how to communicate and learning money management strategies. Joy9988
---Joy9988 on 10/15/06


** I think it is exciting myself, just another sign that Jesus is comming soon and I can't wait.**

I would like to know how you get by logic from living together to the Parousia.

Concubinage was even more common in the Roman Empire, and I don't think Jesus returned back then.

Jesus said they would be "marrying and giving in marriage"--not "living together in an unmarried state"--as a sign of His return.
---Jack on 10/15/06


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