My Girlfriend Is Still Married
My girlfriend and I can't get over the hump. We have been together for 3 years and remain in love. Both attend church, but I am further along. She is still married. Why's our relationship seem to be strange?
Moderator - Because you are in an ungodly relationship as she is still married.
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---jeremy on 10/21/06
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Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer, and anyone marrying one, is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Matthew 19:9, 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage. According to the Word, you are both disqualified to marry.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09|
Your first clue should be she is still married. And just because the two of you go to church, that don't mean anything. I don't see how you can be further along in Christ when your living in sin. It don't work that way.
---Rebecca_D on 11/19/07|
Goodness, gracious, sakes alive!
I hope Steve is not still involved with that one.
---Reno on 3/10/07|
Steve, first of all, YOU ABET ADULTERY!
Other than that, you have many other problems, such as risk-taking behavior, helping to destroy a marriage and letting her use you as a "romance" object and forbidden confidante.
You flirt with disaster, for surely your sin will find you out.
PS Hope hubby does not own a gun or a claymore to use on you both.
---Observer on 2/6/07|
my girlfriend is 43 lives with her husband in dundee scottland has chrones bowel cancer and diabeties. am i insane?
---steve on 2/6/07|
Jeremy??? Hello??? What is wrong with you? Do you know about Karma? What we reap we sow. You are intimate with another man's wife and you are PLAYING church. You are the kind of a christian that keeps non-christians OUT of Christianity. Quit the religious cover up. Let go of this woman who does not belong to you and see if you can make ammends with her husband. Now. Adultery arouses Jealousy, jeremy. When another man is in bed with Your Wife, you will have tasted karma.
---Reiter on 11/14/06|
I think it seems strange because it is strange. Reading through the other replies - many assumed you are living together. are you? what are the circumstances of her marriage? God loves both of you no matter what and has a plan for you. Going to church doesn't save your soul; Jesus does. God's best in marriage is 1 man/1 woman- no bf/gfs. Hold out for that! :)
---maria on 10/28/06|
Jesus says He does not condemn you, but adds, Go and sin no more lest a worse thing come upon you. Do not turn from Him because you don't like His assessment of the situation. Let Him save you from yourself--our hearts are deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. Only He can change us. He loves you, therefore He tells you what is right.
---Wayne87 on 10/27/06|
.Both attend church, but I am further along.
What sort of church do you attend? Surely the pastor preaches from comic books, not the Bible, or else you would have been convicted by Holy Spirit and changed into a godly relationship within the past 3 years.
Why is she still married, and living with you?
If you want to be blessed by God, it is not smart to disobey his rules on marraige.
---JohnT on 10/26/06|
Even if she were not someone else's wife, you would still be committing fornication. You ae not so far along that you aren't willing to stop living in sin.
---Susie on 10/24/06|
Jeremy::HI-given the fact it is wrong what you are doing satisfying your desire in the name of lust & Girlfriend,but still a registered "another mans wife"Say if she was your wife& her exBOYFRIEND did the same to you with her"CHEATED" what would be your reaction do yo agree it is ok,is that Love & fulfilling your matrimonial VOWS?would the 3rd party who is God be a duplicity to the action.reflect before it is to late.
---Emcee on 10/24/06|
Since everyone here is being direct with you and telling you the truth, that you are in SIN since you are with another man's wife, they're advice is EXCELLENT and RIGHT ON. Believe what they're saying. GET out of the relationship QUICKLY. The reason you can't get "over the hump" is because God has turned his face away from you UNTIL you REPENT and do it quickly. Remember repent means to turn away from the sin-your girlfriend. You are committing adultery, don't you realize that?
---Donna9759 on 10/24/06|
Girlfriend, GIRLFRIEND?? She's NOT your girlfriend, she's another man's WIFE!
You are both in DEEP sin. If you were as 'far along' as you think, you would see this. From where I sit I see both of you in need of a Savior, and get away from each other!
---NV_Barbara on 10/24/06|
In actuality you do not have a girlfriend. You sir have another man's wife.
---mima on 10/24/06|
It really doesn't make any difference what the "hump" may be - you are in a sinful relationship. If she's married, she's hand off to you. As the one who is "further along", you should bring a rapid halt to this relationship. If you go to the same church, one of you must find another church. Read 1 Corinthians 10:31
---WIVV on 10/23/06|
You are not in a relationship. You are in an adulterous affair!!!!
---Susie on 10/21/06|
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I am glad you recoginze that something is wrong. Given that your girlfriend is still married, you are in an adulturous relationship. Adultery is strictly forbidden in the Bible.
Galatians 5:19-21, "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication...they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God."
---Bruce5656 on 10/21/06|
Do you see the problem? You need to repent of this sin. Repentance involves turning from or away from the sin. In this case, your adulterous relationship.
Jeremy, this is not a denial of your feelings for your girlfriend. They are very real. So is the feelings that a drug addict has for the next fix. But having "feelings" cannot justify self destructive behaviour whether it is physicaly destructive or spiritually destructive.
---Bruce5656 on 10/21/06|
Geee, you are attending church? That implies you study the Bible? You should already know about adultry and about marriage vows, and about how God feels about taking another man's wife? So what else is missing here?
---mikefl on 10/21/06|
Forgive me, but if you are in such a relationship, you are not very far along.
And if your girl friend divorces her husband to marry you, she'll divorce you for someone else.
Finally--do you WANT to be a homewrecker? Do you really want that on your conscience?
---Jack on 10/21/06|
Because your relationship is adulterous, that is why. You are in love with a married woman who must return to her husband.
---Madison1101 on 10/21/06|
Part 1: Your relationship "seems so strange," because you are both in sin! You are committing adultery. You need to repent of this adulterous affair now, break up, and seek God's guidance in your lives. There is no easy way to say this, but, this is the truth. The church you attend, do they know about your situation? And if so, why haven't they counselled you on the wrongness of this? Sounds like you need to find a church that is strong on the teaching of the Bible and get under their authority.
---tommy3007 on 10/21/06|
Part 2: If you haven't realized the error of this, you might want to reconsider what it is that you may base your salvation on, and get it right. Start reading your Bible regularly, and you won't find yourself falling into such sin as this.
---tommy3007 on 10/21/06|
What road are you further along? Is it the road you walk with Jesus? If so, what not ask Him why the relationship "seems so strange"?
Presumably her marriage is over, even if not terminated? Were you the cause of the breakdown?
Why does she not get divorced? It at least would give you some (worldly) justification for being her boyfriend.
I would say your actions are not those of sameone who is with Jesus.
---alan8869_of_UK on 10/21/06|