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Married To An Unbeliever

The Holy Spirit keeps our faith strong. If you married an unbeliever, how do you live day in, day out without throwing in the towel?

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 ---Renee on 11/12/06
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Renee: [Married to an unbeliever] As a believer, (1) your commitment/promises to Christ has to be maintained (2) Remember you were unsaved but now saved (3) Live as Christ-letter to your spouse.(3) Pray & hope & work that your spouse will become saved. May God reward your efforts.
---Adetunji on 9/18/12


Chi, when you God married, neither was saved, and now you are. It takes many times, not all times, "Submission, Diligence, Faithfulness, Patience and
every word that comes from the mouth of GOD!"


Please read (1 Peter 3:1-4). In many cases it's better to separate to give time for prayer and allow God to work in the heart of the husband. It doesn't mean divorce. A believer can sanctify the rest of the family.
"For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife" ( 1 Cor. 7:14). This does not refer to salvation. The sanctification is matrimonial and familial not personal or spiritual. One Christian in a marriage brings grace that spills over to the spouse, even possibly leading them to salvation.
---Mark_V. on 9/15/12


I think by the grace of God only. You literally become the living Bible in the home. Prayer will yield results and be encouraged that God said we can "do all things through him". Surround yourself with enough godly friends who can lift you up in prayer when the going gets tough and the burdens seems too heavy. We are called to share one another's burdens.
---Sharon on 9/15/12


I became a christian after we got married. My husband is so selfish and only thinks about himself. At this point i am so tired of him not being committed to the marriage and the children.
I have been emotionally abused and once physically abused. My friend thinks i do not put my foot down enough.
---Chi on 9/14/12


Very carefully. It is frustrating,bothersome,undermining,divisive and every other evil you can think of. Been there and still there. You feel so alone and divided from other married christian couples.You have to pray alone at home. Go to church alone and so forth.I recently shyed away from a marriage retreat at my church. My husband would not have had the slightest clue as to what was really going on. Sad! Yes.
---Robyn on 4/12/08




You pray day in and day out!!!! You pour out your heart to God to save this man. You fast according to Isaiah 58. Why did you marry an unbeliever? And are you not happy with him/her? Why? What are they doing that is frustrating you? Didn't you know what the word says? "DO NOT BE unequally yoked together with unbelievers."
---Donna9759 on 4/4/08


2Cr 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

Paul said that if you are already in that situation and married to unbeliever than stay with them unless they leave you. i think he also said that we should pray for them.

but you are right it will be hard because you have no fellowship with them.
---tony on 5/6/07


1 Peter 3:1-2
---Linda32708 on 11/18/06


2.If one were born again after marrying with both being unbelievers, the unbeliever is sanctified--set apart for the working of the Holy Spirit in their life--by the believer's position in Christ. Commit your marriage to the Lord asking Him to keep it for you. You won't be able to in your flesh! He'll remind you of His strength in your weakness, He loves you both. His understanding, compassion, mercy, grace is NEW EVERYDAY. He'll abide in you & fill you with His thoughts Rom. 12:1-2
---Linda on 11/13/06


3. Remember, we are saved to bring glory to God from the obedience to Him as we live our lives out in our relationships & circumstances. He promises Joy in Him, not in the events of this life. However, His grace being sufficient, His mercies new each day & people of God to support & encourage in His Word & Christian love...we can choose to be victorious in Him. It isn't finished until He says it is. To God be the glory!
---Linda on 11/13/06




1. If you were born again after you married your spouse & were both unbelievers then, the sin factor is not the same. Situation differs if you married outside the will of God. Christians are not to marry unbelievers. A person who marries outside the will of God, knowingly, has guilt & unfulfilled expectations of their own making ie. "I thought I could lead him to Christ." This one needs to confess their disobedience, repent of their sin, be forgiven & ask forgiveness of their spouse.
---Linda on 11/13/06


Jack has a good point, but the Holy Spirit will keep HER faith strong, she wants her unbelieving husband, who probably has no faith, saved. Right? So what should she do about that part of it?
---Donna9759 on 11/13/06


keep setting good examples, the
Holy Spirit will find him.
Peace be with you
---kent on 11/13/06


Jack, why are you so grumpy? You've told several people they've answered their own questions. I don't know how long it takes before you're so road weary of answering questions (maybe 6 months); but if you need to let everyone have it, take a breather.
---Shiela on 11/13/06


Renee, you've already answered your own question before you asked it!

You just said, "The Holy Spirit keeps our faith strong." What more do you want?
---Jack on 11/13/06


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