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Not Allowed To Make Decisions

I am married and my husband never wants me to make decisions. When I make a suggestion or decision that he doesn't like he says that he is the head of the household and that I need to do whatever he tells me. I do not feel content with this, actually very disturbed.

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 ---Questioning_Wife on 11/15/06
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Your husband and you need to seek marital therapy with a Christian counselor. He sounds like a control freak.
---Madison1101 on 8/17/08

In the Bible, Husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church. & in Ephesians it says Submit one to another. What you describe of his behavior doesn't sound like love; sounds like control.
---marilyn on 7/17/07

Jae drew attention to an important element: WISDOM. Women MUST access this, because when we do, we will find that we can easily be Influential w/out taking "the control" from Men. A smart Husband will pay attention to his wife's advice and even Consult her on important decision making...IF she is wise...but if she is a fool...well why should he bother...

---Reiter on 11/21/06

there's a husband level.. then there's the Spirit level. for the sake of peace. let him take the place he calls his.
if you pray.. your "vote" counts with God.. and your wisdom (in prayer) could override your husband's knowledge.

its possible that the less you try to make the decisions on your husband's level.. God would have an opening to build a bridge of trust between you and your husband.
- read 1pet.3:1-6
---JaeR on 11/20/06

We should honor & respect our husbands,however they also should respect us as their wives. We were made from their ribs; side by side helpmeets, they are not made to donomate over us nor we of them.He needs to re-read his scripture because Jesus lvoes all of us equally therefore so should we lvoe our spouses as well like christ.
---candice on 11/18/06

Proverbs 10-12: A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

26-28 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.
---Crystal on 11/16/06


Now, after reading Proverbs 31 "The Wife of Noble Character," how could anyone dispute that wives can and SHOULD be in the position to make decisions. Any man who does not recognize his wife as an equal and capable partner is foolish and missing out on one of God's greatest blessings. Why? It's all about pride, honey! One of the 7 deadlies!
---Crystal on 11/16/06

You sound exactly like my best friend, she's in the same boat as you are. Your husband needs to love you like Christ loved the church. Please go to a marriage counsellor, seek counselling with or without your husband. Whenever a man has to "Declare" he's the head of the household, it's usually a manipulative and controlling spirit/demon that's controlling him. Cast it out of him or go to a marriage counsellor and ask them what you should do.
---Donna9759 on 11/16/06

Jack...with all due respect, she already said what the husband would say, start with the 24th word in her post/blog and it says, "he says that he is the head of the household and that I need to do whatever he tells me." Why don't you believe her? Are you always for the men? Can't you ever see a woman's point of view? tisk tisk...
---Donna9759 on 11/16/06

I would feel sooo relieved being in your place...I love when the man makes the choices...all the way down to the menu...that's romance...that's catering to a woman...and that relieves me of stress. I would rather have my mind on higher endeavors...i mean if u trust him there shouldn't be a problem...and if he really knows you...

---Reiter on 11/16/06

"Husbands love your wife's"
---Ryan on 11/16/06

I wonder what the husband would say?

I've noticed that there are usually two sides to difficulties like this.
---Jack on 11/16/06

Trust your feelings, pray, and seek a licensed marital counselor for help.
---lynet on 11/15/06

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