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Forgiveness For Divorce

God forgives all sins and we are not to judge. So if you divorce and decide to remarry and you were the one who had the affair with your first marriage and you are a totally changed person from that first marriage. Why do some Christians whole this scripture to law Matthew 19:3-9 and not James 2:10-13?

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 ---Kenny on 11/28/06
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Anon, thank you for answering BUT you would do well to utilize ALL scripture concerning the matter instead of just the ones you agree with.
See Glenn's post for all the scripture concerning the matter.
You have to realize that God does allow remarriage provided that your divorce was on biblical grounds.
Also, if this was done before you even came to Christ, all of the sin was washed away by him and forgotten by God.(the only unforgivable sin is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit)
Why do you sit in judgement of those who have remarried? It isn't your place. If they have repented, they are forgiven. This is from many pastors and elders that I have spoken with on the matter.
---miche3754 on 8/17/09

miche3754 - Whether or not a person repents is not the issue at hand for being forgiven if you divorce. It's what you do AFTER you get divorced that is the issue.

Of course you are forgiven if you divorce, but in every single Gospel, Jesus tells us that if a man remarries, he is committing adultery and if a woman remarries, she is considered an adulteress woman.

It's a matter of After we divorce, do we want to believe what Jesus said about remarrying? Or do we disregard what Jesus said and remarry anyway? Paul said, a woman is to remain single if she leaves, so why are so many women remarrying? It'a a matter of obeying the Word of God, and yes you are forgiven if you get divorced.
---anon on 8/17/09

Brother, I am so applauding your scripture on this subject. It shows you have done the search through the Bible on this.

Just amazing!!!!

I do have 1 question, what about a person who was in sin when all of this happened?
Say, they were the cheating party and they divorced and remarried the one they committed adultry with?
If they repent, should they divorce?
(this isn't me since you already know my situation. I'm just curious about this one). I have been told that anything we did BEFORE coming to Christ is forgotten and forgiven. That there is only one unforgivable sin and that is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit.
By the way everyone, lying is a sin and lying about virginity falls under that so, Glenn is correct.
---miche3754 on 8/17/09

Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer, and anyone marrying one, is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Matthew 19:9, 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage. This isn't a punishment, but recognizes that person is disqualified.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09

Kenny..If someone had an affair,divorced their wife,re-married and then repented,confess to GOD that they had SINNED and asked for FORGIVNESS of their SINS,GOD WILL FORGIVE them.GOD FORGIVES "ALL" SINS(except one).The last time i checked ALL MEANS ALL. PRAISE GOD !!
---JIM on 3/17/08

** Matthew 19 explains where Christ says
'' Except for Fornication'' So r,w there is an exception right.**

Not all MSS have this escape clause. Are you willing to risk your salvation--or have other people risk their salvation--on something that Jesus might not have said?
---Jack on 12/1/06

Matthew 19 explains where Christ says
'' Except for Fornication'' So r,w there is an exception right. Or did someone put that one in as a footnote? If you marry one that has married before never marrying yourself and find out the one you married lied and remarried without the exception of fornication then you were not married to them in the first place because they were betrothed to another. what God has joined together let not man put assunder. Let not man pull apart. Let not man Divorce.
---Carla5754 on 12/1/06

I am not going to debate on the subject of desertion, alcoholisim, abuse or other. One knows full well you can Divorce for any reason one may choose to Re-marry Jesus said ONLY FORNICATION will be an eception to the law of marriage. Like I explained before people can debate and make excuses The word is there for all to read it in it the right context and work it out, with fear and trembling. Salvation calls for a life that is Holy acceptable before God not MAN/WOMAN.
---Carla5754 on 12/1/06

I encourage you to read, reread the scriptures on divorce and see if this adutlerous relationship is worth your life with God. This world will soon fade away, and life as we know it will be no more. Search the News and see if the End times are not near. I pray that God will open your eyes that you will see him, open your ears that you will also hear him and find his perfect will for your lives. God BlessX
---Carla5754 on 12/1/06

You cannot unscammle an egg but you can purchase a new one and this time consult the recipe book on how to cook it properly. You can give your life back to God and as him to exchange your mistakes for a new life and this time remember you are now brand New. No Adutery, No sin No shame. What will you now, do with your new life because you will be clean, washed forgiven if you trully turn around! Go back to an Adulterous relationship? or turn your back on it and continue in Christ?
---Carla5754 on 12/1/06

Could it be God's will that you remain single and celibate? Would you be willing to do that if it were His will? Are you already remarried? If not, pray and read scriptures to learn His will for you. If you are, then pray and ask for forgiveness for your sin, and move on. You can't unscramble an egg.
---Madison1101 on 12/1/06

just as a murderer is still in prison after he gets born again, and is still suffering the consequenses of his sin, if the one you married isnt mr right, when you said 'i do,' he became mr right. Mal 2:16 you cannot divorce and remarry . the adultery (exception clause ) was to the jewish betrothal system.
---r.w. on 11/30/06

Kenny. God is the judge, not man. But if you are asking if any one has the right to tell you what is right or wrong then yes, that is allowed. We are to watch out for eachother. If you see someone steal you are allowed to point it out to them but God is the judge. Are people really judging you or are they pointing out to you that in their opinion you are doing wrong? That is not judging. Try not to take offense when they do that.
---john on 11/29/06

I am reading all responses I am taking all in but is it ok for a Christian person to judge you on this.
---kenny on 11/29/06

I hear what all is saying but I never knew a person could actually be a sin so when God says turn away from that sin does it mean that person? and what about the story of David with Bethsabee?
---Kenny on 11/29/06

We repent and ask forgiveness. God forgives all sin except one which is to blaspheme the Holy Spirit. Repent means to turn from your sin. There are only 2 reasons that make divorce ok. Desertion and adultery. I am in a divorce process right now and have added cruelty and abuse to the adultery and desertion. I am perfectly justified in remarrying. I should never have married him as he was guilty of adultery from his last wife. Sometimes people don't tell you these things before marriage.
---Linda4448 on 11/28/06

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We repent and ask forgiveness. God forgives all sin except one which is to blaspheme the Holy Spirit. Repent means to turn from your sin. There are only 2 reasons that make divorce ok. Desertion and adultery. I am in a divorce process right now and have added cruelty and abuse to the adultery and desertion. I am perfectly justified in remarrying. I should never have married him as he was guilty of adultery from his last wife. Sometimes people don't tell you these things before marriage.
---Linda4448 on 11/28/06

(II.) Carla5754, As for the people who did not have enough light in regard to God's condition's of Re-marriage, God is just and will weight that in His Perfect Judgment, but many "have enough of light/knowledge in regard to remarriage, then deliberately go against God's Word, then they want to "so-called" repent while remaining in that "forbidden union", It just won't work.
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/28/06

(III.)Carla5754, It just won't work because repenting while intending to remain in Error is hypocrisy. People must be honest with God and themselves, if they truly desire God's Saving Truth. Once again, Excuses=Bondage(Romans 1:20) .God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/28/06

This is the most asked question to me in the last 30 years. God's scriptures stand. Will you be guilty of adultery in your new marriage? You will!! But included in your question was the answer to this, God truly does forgive. Not actually has forgiven us of Sins before we commit them. Now thats good news!!!! Praise the Lord.
---mima on 11/28/06

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(I.)Carla5754, You are speaking God's Truth in regard to re-marriage. Christian's will have to just buckle down in regard to God's Truth and do what's right. Many Christian's are fully aware what God says, but still try to find Scriptures to "excuse themselves" from obeying Him, They are putting themselves in bondage when they do that. Excuses=Bondage, in regard to our Christian Walk.
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/28/06

The reason why some people do not acknowledge your opinion on scripture is because you want to re-write the scriptures to fit your cirumstances. God wrote the rules of marriage for His purpose of reconciliation of his people back to their first Love that they may return to him not another(GOD). Therefore he personies marriage to one man one woman for life. However if ones spouse commits Fornication you have a right to divorce as he did with Isreal. So it is in marriage so it is with God.
---Carla5754 on 11/28/06

Consider those whom have never loved yet have to live a Holy, chased life without the right to commit fornication remain so and call themselves children of God. So it is when a person wishes to commit Adultery stay in the same position and call themselves repented without comming out of the sin they have committed. What Is A Mans Advantage If He Gains The Whole Wide World And Then Looses His Soul.
---Carla5754 on 11/28/06

God is a very serious God when it comes to Heaven yet he gives us the oppotunity to repent and choose life with him in Eternity. No Adultery will enter there. you need to repent and come out from amongst those that live in the world abusing it for their own purposes. The truth is there will be no marriage in Heaven, nor any memory of it There will a new Heaven and a new Earth,So why put yourself in a position where you could possibly loose your soul because you committed adultery and still in it?
---Carla5754 on 11/28/06

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Read the word for yourself and prove what is Gods perfect and acceptable will for your life. It was once said that a man was to cut off the part of the body which causes him to sin for it is better to enter heaven without the offending limb rather than enter Hell with it.(Paraphrased) the last scriptured I would like to leave you with is the one that describes that No man has seen nor heard, or has it even entered in his heart what God has for us that love him.(paraphrased) Consider that!
---Carla5754 on 11/28/06

What some people need to understand is the fact you steal you give give back if possible and restore the person you stole from. But if you commit a sexual sin you have to get out of that sexual relationship, if never married, get married. If married reconcile back to husband/wife or remain single 1 Corinth 7. Repent means to turn around not stay in the same place and fool others to fall in the same sin as yourself because of denial.
---Carla5754 on 11/28/06

The awful truth is that we are not supposed to change marriage partners like shoes.

It is a big deal that the forgiveness you receive cost Jesus his life.

I'm amazed at how many Christians don't take Ephesians 5:21 or 1 Corinthians 11:31 to heart.
---Pharisee on 11/28/06

I've often wondered the same thing and I haven't been divorced. I see cruel judgements placed on those like yourself. When any one passes judgement on you just ask them if they will forgive you. That usually ends it and no offense will be taken.
---john on 11/28/06

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Is a man who stole not required to make restitution simply because he said, "I'm sorry, God; I repent"?

Would two men in a same-sex relationship not be required to end it as part of their repentance?

Why do heterosexual couples think that "I'm sorry" changes adultery into honest marriage?
---Jack on 11/28/06

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