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I Can't Locate A Single Man

I am 48 years old, very pretty, love the Lord God Almighty with all of my heart, and I've just spent time looking up single Christian men and can't find one I'd be attracted to. Is something wrong with me or is it a stage I'm going through.

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 ---Anonymous on 12/5/06
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give this and all problems to the lord. he will fix it for you. I am 49 and single and I understand that it get lonely, but since I have been putting the lord first I have had a peace in my life.
---stephanie on 9/11/10

Hi, u anit get any problem sister,its a matter of time.maybe u can find one outside ur country, be more friendly. ur man is waitng for u.hope to meet him soon?
---Lawrence on 9/2/07

Lot of judgements in these posts... Madison1101 do not ever think you are not pretty because you are not a "perfect" size! That is a bunch of bologne! I didn't read anything about "lust" in her question. I think we all seek, date, and marry the person we are attracted to. And if anyone says they don't, I don't believe them.
---Pat on 1/18/07

There is nothing wrong with you. Keep your standards, settle for nothing less than you know God would have for you. Keep praying, and stay encouraged. I too am waiting. God see's and knows all. Men and women alike are seeking Godly mates. Stay prepared, he will come ...,
---lynet on 1/4/07

I know exactly what you mean. I myself am not looking for marriage, but would like to find a nice single gentleman for friendship and some dating. Aren't there any single men in your church? I think we all have our standards in looking for a gentleman and if they are in accordance to God's will, don't settle for anything less. Maybe you're trying to hard.
---Norma7374 on 1/3/07

48, single and pretty. Are you divorced, with or without children? If there are loose ends, God may have you in a holding pattern until they are straightened out. God's ways are higher than our ways.
---Charlene on 1/3/07

Just...shine your Inner an angel...don't worry...don't pursue...he will see your inner light...your character...your wisdom...your virtue...your beauty...

---Reiter on 1/3/07

It is difficult to give you a straight answer on that one! At times, we must go through different seasons just to complete a process. After we have successfully achieved what was to be learnead in the process, then we are able to move on.
I am looking for that man too and I cant and as human, get frustrated but have to believe God's promises are real and are for me. keep praying and trusting God that He will answer you real soon!
---Maria7845 on 12/14/06

Angela, "Should I pursue this man", read this one, too.
---R.A. on 12/14/06

Nothing is wrong with you. You only need to adjust your life style. In that case you will need to talk to a counsellor. I am 35 and about to get married. I met the guy im about to marry 3 years ago. After the first time that he visited my house, he stopped visiting. He later wrote me a mail stating that i could be expensive to handle. I sort for counselling. after series of counselling, i adjusted my lifestyle, and here he is today. we are getting married soon.
---Debbie on 12/13/06

quent....It is not the wonderful characteristics of a man that anonymous is talking about. She is talking about only the physical appearance. Personally, I'd take a balded-headed, funny, loving, kind and considerate man of God like my husband anyday over some handsome man who is shallow inside. Of course, I consider my husband handsome, but Anonymous would not.
---Susie on 12/13/06

I am 41 and single again. For the first 3 years after my divorce, I did not date, did not want anything to do with men. Then something happened. A SERMON, on how I(because it was for me,) was afraid of failing again. I have prayed for God to take this desire from me,if it is not of Him. It is still there, so therefore believe that God has someone in mind for me. He just needs to come with a sign stating that He is designed for me by God.
Dana 9769
---Dana on 12/13/06

Susie ... Why are you so quick to say that it is lustful to find a man attractive?
Is not kindness attractive, nor shared interests and values, nor consderation, nor respect, nor conversation.
Is it lustful to find those things attractive, and want to develop a friendship (which may lead to something more) with a guy?
Honi soit qui mal y pense!
---quent5969_the_Scot on 12/12/06

Annie...I was referring to looking for a man solely on whether or not you are attracted to him. That is lust!
---Susie on 12/12/06

I disagree with the following statement. My husband is a strong Christian man and I've very attracted to him.

If you are interested in finding someone to marry that you are "attracted to" then your thoughts are lust only. You are only looking at the carnal person. This is worldly thinking, not Godly. Thank God Jesus doesn't look at our appearance in deciding if we are worth of salvation!
---Annie on 12/12/06

"He who finds a wife finds a good thing". This does not mean that every man who ends up married has found a good thing. Not all women who want to marry necessarily want to be a wife. Women marry for all sorts of reasons, mostly focusing on what they want out of a marriage, not what they can be for their husband. The original blog question is a good example. Who can find a virtuous woman? Perhaps King Lemuel couldn't even find one which is why he asked the question.
---ralph7477 on 12/11/06

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Trina's right...note the word 'find' in the last order for HIM to find...he has to you are a woman...the not your burden...being smart and choosy is a must for the woman...not to let just anyone in...rachel
---Reiter on 12/9/06

Men may say they want the woman to make the first move. I say hooey, men like the chase. Let that woman start showing up same place, same time every day, tracking a man, ready to pounce. That man will run. Men can spot fearful, clingy, needy motivations a mile away. Desperation is not a woman's best side. Computer dating is not for everyone. HE who finds a wife, finds a good thing.
---Trina on 12/9/06

Anonymous...I'm not sure what you mean by "looking up"...but you may be making too much effort.

A) Nurture yourself; be the best you.
B) Let family and friends know that you are open to a new relationship; they may know someone perfect for you.
C) Socialize and be open to interesting conversation, but don't be on the prowl.
D) Time should not pressure you; you don't need to settle tomorrow...or next week or next month...until he is just the one for you.

---Reiter on 12/9/06

The Bible says "He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtain favor from the Lord. Let him find you. You are a special order and special orders take time. Step back and let God do His perfect work and your mate will find you. God is not going to give you just anything, He wants what is best for you.
---Edna on 12/8/06

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And maybe you'll feel differently about it all, Madision, when your weight loss goals are met. You too, will be very pretty.
---kim on 12/8/06

Ralph: I also suffer from having been rejected after 25 years of marriage. In the past 6 years, the Lord has taught me more about my relationship to Him, than I ever learned in my 25 years of marriage. I would someday like to have a husband who would love me unconditionally, and enjoy marriage, but the Lord has given me the message that HE is my husband for now, and HE has not seen fit to share me with anyone at this time.
---Madison1101 on 12/7/06

Amen, Ralph; I, too, share your experience of rejection by a spouse; it does suck and you are so right--the old adage is sooo trite! But am happy now--much happier than I ever was married; hope you're happy too; God bless ya :)
---Mary on 12/7/06

Anonymous...I laughed at your description of the man you could never be attracted to. Except for the bad teeth you described my husband. He is a praying man who wakes up EVERY morning at 4:00 and prays for two hours. He is retired so he doesn't have to get up early. He does it for the Lord. He is a man of God which is more important to me than looks! I know that God has someone perfect for you. You will be pleasantly surprised when HE brings that man into your life.
---Susie on 12/7/06

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Anonymous, keep looking. Pray and look and mingle with people. I spent many years single and eventually found a woman much better than I was looking for. This can happen to you too.

Don't give up, Lady. Your man will eventually show up.
---Caring on 12/7/06

You are very pretty,that may be the problem. Research shows when a woman is very pretty men are afraid to ask her out thinking she wouldn't go, or because you are so pretty you already have a date/relatioship. If you aren't attracted to them you must know you haven't found Mr. Right yet. The Bible says "whatsoever state you find yourself in,therein be content". praise God for a close walk and rest in the Lord. God directs the steps of the righteous. When you least expect it, miracles happen.
---Darlene_1 on 12/7/06

If it were really lust, I am sure that an attractive woman could find plenty of bed fellows. It wouldn't be hard. I would not want a mate to marry me soley because of my christian qualities,and have no desire for me phsyically. I would feel like an unattactive charity case.
---Chris on 12/6/06

I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I have to side with Jack here.

The void in your life has to be filled with God or he won't bring you a Cristian man to destroy.

Notice before God made man Eden was PERFECT.
---Pharisee on 12/6/06

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Anonymous, I know what it's like to do everything alone. I also know what it's like to do those things you mentioned with somebody you love and have commited your life to. I also know what it's like to watch that same somebody walk out the door after they promised to love and be with you always. The last scenario hurts more and for longer than you might guess so perhaps God is sparing you some pain. Contrary to a trite adage, it is NOT better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
---ralph7477 on 12/6/06

Well, carnal men around 48 would buy a new red sports car, get a curly perm,& pay 22 yr old women to go out with them. This happens to women too. Fortunately we as Christians have guidelines in our lives. We have scripture to help us. Fellowship with like minded people. You may be lonely or be as Paul's words as a person who needs a husband (this isn't always a bad thing). Visit your pastor, see if there are other churches you might visit in your faith. Socialize there. God knows, ask Him for a plan.
---mikefl on 12/6/06

I think someone is in a miserable marriage and wishes they were single. A role reversal. I encountered all of the same opposition when I was single. Get your eyes on the Lord, have you ever thought - God wants you single, and on and on. Meanwhile, they trudge on home to "their four and no more". I do hope 48 and very pretty is not baiting men dressing like an 18 or 28 year old. I agree, until you examine the past, you will repeat it.
---Cindy on 12/6/06

I do know what it is like to be alone. I was alone for many years before the Lord brought my husband into my life. The time I was alone was very important as it was a time when I became closer to the Lord. It was also a growing time when I began to realize that God had the right husband for me. It was also a time when I became the "right" person. By the way, my husband and I have only been married 7 years and we are both approaching 60. If God puts it together, it will be blessed!
---Susie on 12/6/06

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Susie, you are way off base. I want a man whose heart is after God's heart, most definitely that's what I want, but there has to be some physical attraction. I met a guy who was 53, looked 63, said his hair was black with grey sides, he had NO hair, a few strands at the top, and he never got his teeth/caps filled at the dentist and picked his teeth at the dinner table every night. Could I be physically attracted to him? Not really, you are way off base, I don't lust for a man, I want a praying man.
---Anonymous on 12/6/06

PULEEZ!!I am a single woman and agree with what both of them said. Of course, I would like "a man" but my life is full of excitement, activities, and many friends w/o one. Volunteer with those less fortunate than yourself; get your focus off yourself & onto others; develop your personality & skills. Then you will have friends when you need help; you'll be looking for time to be alone. Who you're attracted to could well change. You're not ready for a man 'til you can live without one!
---marya4598 on 12/6/06

Crystal and Jack, I admire your lack of compassion for single women. I don't think Jesus would give such cold-callous answers like you two have. Do you know what it's like to be alone all the time and have to do everyting by yourself? Do you know what it's like to travel alone at night, in the wintertime, hoping no one hurts you. Do you know what it's like to sit in a house and pray all alone without your helpmate? I bet the 2 of you are married and that's why you both are so insensitive to this subject.
---Anonymous on 12/6/06

If you are interested in finding someone to marry that you are "attracted to" then your thoughts are lust only. You are only looking at the carnal person. This is worldly thinking, not Godly. Thank God Jesus doesn't look at our appearance in deciding if we are worth of salvation!
---Susie on 12/6/06

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Anonymous, have you not seen the number of blogs here posted by people who are either unhappily married or whose marriages are dissolving and want help?

Don't think that being married will make your life complete.

And if you DID love God with all your heart, you wouldn't care if you were single.
---Jack on 12/5/06

I know what you mean. I want a mate that I am attracted to also. I believe that God will bring me that mate in His timing. There was a lady who asked a minister would God have her marry a mate that had all the qualities of a christian, but whom she was not attracted to, the minister reply was, no, God would not want us to be with someone we were not attracted to.
---Chris on 12/6/06

This looks like a mirror image anonymous lookin for anonymous would you call it a split personality.any explainations?"This man is my fathers son?who am i.
---Emcee on 12/5/06

Oh my goodness! NOT AGAIN! Get over it already. When your focus is "man," there is only disappointment. Maybe God wants you to be single. Did you ever consider that?
---Crystal on 12/5/06

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To find the 'one', you need to be the 'one'. Your qualifications sound very immature and shallow for a 48 year old. I'm pretty, in need of a good lookin' man. We don't know your history, but those who fail history are doomed to repeat it. Pretty is as pretty does. Do an autopsy on your past relationships, why didn't they work?
---anonymous on 12/5/06

Maybe you are looking for someone "very pretty" as you say you are and not looking for someone who loves the Lord God with all his heart. Physical attraction should not be the first thing you think about when you are looking for a mate.
---Susie on 12/5/06

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