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What Is Christian Dating

What exactly is Christian dating? What should Christian singles do during their date? Should Christians date only for marriage?

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Dating for marriage is the better way to go. Do wholesome things.There is no dating in the BIble so you have to go by what you know is right and wrong. Include your parents in on their opinion and discuss with them some ideas you have. Obviously they have experience in this field that you are new to and can be a great help.
---john on 12/8/07

Dating is not Biblical.

This is why so many relationships fail.

Dating is based on the person supposing to know what is best for them.

Provebs 14 states There is a way that seem right unto a man, but the end are the ways of death.

If Christian parents are allowed to participate in chosing their children's spouses things wouldn't be so messed up.
---TDG on 3/9/07

Wow, Kelly, if you have to rely upon Christain Net to communicate with this guy then by all means, you should NOT be marrying him yet! It just doesn't sound like you know each other well enough yet. Only my opinion though, God bless.
---sue on 3/1/07

Kelly ... It sounds very much as if he has lost interest in you.
Bless you
---alanUKquent64534 on 3/1/07

i'm dating a man i met on Christianet, we've agreed to marry.i visited him in Dec. He's stopped calling regularly.i understand coz he is unemployed, but he logs on his Christianet profile daily. then i stopped emailin to his address & instead wrote 2 him on Christianet so that when he logs on he can reply. he still doesn't write 2 me daily but he logs on daily. Could it be that he has changed his mind about me? i'm praying 2 God 2 reveal Himself 2 me.
---kelly on 3/1/07

After taking the dating and marriage quiz, I realize there is more for me to learn. I have tried it my way and the worlds way. I have come to the conclusion that God's way is better. I need a soul mate and only God can provide that. If I go looking, I will get the wolves in sheeps clothing or worse. I believe marriage is between a man and a woman and it is best to wait until marriage for sex, so the person having it with you, values you.
---Eliza on 2/12/07

We have hated each other for so long.
I want to borrow the hatchet.

* * * * *
My relationship with my
ax girlfriend was so painful.
---Rural_Cafe on 2/9/07

Dating tends more to promiscuity than purety and we all know it. And though we are Christian, out statistics on chasity is somtimes worse than the world.

If we do it the world's way, we get world's results.

Parents are better at chosing our mates than we are. Dating is a recipe for heart ache.

Is dating Bible? If not, why do we keep doing it?
---TDG on 2/9/07

Stormin' Norman, check out the dating/penpal option here. There are oodles and scoodles of women looking for a well known gentleman.
---Cindy on 2/8/07

I'm 5'11" tall brown eyes and dark hair
I'm an well known Gentleman who likes movies, walks and also to spend quiet times at home
I'm 40 yrs old and avg Build (medium)

I go to church every Sunday and enjoy relaxing after work

Looking for that special woman for an longterm relationship and possibly more.
---Norman on 2/8/07

Many today are dating for divorce. My grandmother told me:

Three dates: The first two do not give a realistic impression.

After the third date, ask could you see marrying this person? If the answer is no. Break up!

If the answer is yes. Date for no more than 18 months. By the end of 18 months, if you have not decided to get married, then break up!

If you have decided to marry - put God first, then go forth and multiply.
---lorra8574 on 1/29/07

If 2of3 1st time marriages end in divorce(non-Christian/Christian), isn't reason to dialog why we keep doing things the same and expect different results?

This blog has dating tips. Sure they're trying to help. We have bought into a system that appear to be best, but what we have is creating heartbreak, dysfuntional families, single parents,unwanted kids...

Is dating Bible? If not, why do we keep doing it?

Previous comment is proof dating hurts more than helps.
---TDG on 1/29/07

I believe that God, our Father knows who is the best match for me. I have not made good choices in the past, and I have given it over to Him. They say that "Good things come to those who wait"...well I am waiting for God to provide ~ he provides all else...why not wait for him to provide my helpmate? I think I will find him when I am least looking...I know he is out there...somewhere.
---Cheryl on 1/28/07

Wonder if promiscuity was 1 top reason for giving in marriage in scripture.

The above was perhaps how society then dealt with the dangers of dating and the societal practice of "Thou shalt not commit adultery."

So, any takers? What would society look like if we were pursuing "Thou shalt not commit adultery?"

What would dating look like? Or would dating be removed?

I think what makes this so tuff is that you must consider how this will affect you?
---TDG on 1/16/07

I can see there are many that want to do the right thing and that is serve the lord. meaning Seek Him first and His righteousness. I believe if we are busy for Jesus and trying to win the Lost the subject of dating and marrying is seldom a topic.
---Steve on 1/13/07

I believe God will know the desires of our heart and bring the right person equipped to do ministry to reach the lost. We can serve God and seek his presence in our lives on our own. We don't need a spouse to do that and besides the Lord Jesus commanded this in our relatioinship with him.
---Steve on 1/13/07

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I believe that God does allow two people to selfishly enjoy one onther, but there focus should be ministry and Now that they are a couple,how can they be a team to accomplish more at building the kingdom of God that they weren't doing before they ever met.
---Steve on 1/13/07

I have seen individuual Christians serving gladly in ministry and along comes Mr./Mrs. Right, so to speak and all of a sudden their focus for ministry seems somewhat dimished. There seems to be this distraction and Jesus is no longer first in their lives which makes the lord very sad indeed.
---Steve on 1/13/07

I believe God does not place restrictions on dating, however we better be rooted and grounded in the word and the other party better be as well or the experiences that I just read will surely repeat themselves.
---Steve on 1/13/07

And if the two are mature and balanced in their Christian walk, then both will know when the right one comes along and when it will be the right timing to take it to the next level.It would be important to study the word and show ourselves approved before God gives us permission to date this person or that person, which seldom is done even in the Christian arena.Read Philippians 4:4-9.
---Steve on 1/13/07

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I believe it sheds light on the issue and puts things in perspective.Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him! Make it as clear as you can to all you meet that you're on their side, working with them and not against them. Help them see that the Master is about to arrive. He could show up any minute!
---Steve on 1/13/07

Don't fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God's wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down.
---Steve on 1/13/07

It's wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.
I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, graciousthe best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
---Steve on 1/13/07

Put into practice what you learned from the Lord, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies, so bless you all real good and may His face shine upon you and his peace surroiund you as you reflect his countenance in your every day lives.
---Steve on 1/13/07

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Summing it all up,friends, and those that see you see Jesus and fall under His powerful conviction and recieve His amazing grace and our Lord's eternal salvation through Jesus Christ and truly understand His love byour daily example.
---Steve on 1/13/07

Wonder ladies/gents if promiscuity was 1 top reason for giving in marriage in scripture. You do see a few exceptions, but the norm was giving in marriage/marriages pre-arranged.

The above was perhaps how society back then dealt with dangers of dating and the societal practice for "Thou shalt not commit adultery."

Promiscuity is truly the greatest danger I fear when my children think dating.

Maybe our approach should be to answer, why dating is not the biblical norm?
---TDG on 1/9/07

Donna, I see a very wounded woman. My intentions are good towards you, while somewhat blunt. Dating evangelism is bad. The prospects you should be considering should be saved and able to stand on their own two feet. Financially solvent, no fixer-uppers, and no one you need to prop up. I know you're 48, but with the terrible abuse in your background; the right kind of men are going to be completely different than what you have gravitated towards in the past.
---Cindy on 12/13/06

Matthew, I walk very closely with the Lord and He does remind me on occasion that He is a Jealous God. I should have told everyone that as of last year, I completely stopped dating and I'm having a blast with Jesus and me in our love relationship. Cindy, the reason why I made dinner was because the Christian men I dated didn't have money to pay for my dinner as well as theirs. My hearts desire in life is to minister to the brokenhearted and see the captive set free.
---Donna9759 on 12/13/06

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Donna how close are you to Christ? I'm not questioning your closeness but rather I feel you may be so close to Christ that he may not want you to get married. Have you tried asking him if he wants you to get married or not? Have you asked him to bring you someone in your life? There is nothing we can do by ourselves which includes finding a mate. Maybe its not working out because you are doing it on your own?
---Matthew on 12/12/06

"Dirty deed".
In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you.

For of this sort are those who creep into households and make captives of gullible women .....always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
---Paul on 12/12/06

Why were you paying for dinner, did you ask these men out. I would not invite men into my home that I knew only through a few dates. I've read your background (abusive relshps), but there does not have to be repeat performances. At 48, I can guess you've sat down with a minister/pastor and prayed/counseled through these experiences. The cost is too great to have even one more bad relationship/marriage.
---Cindy on 12/12/06

Cindy, good question. The answer is: I trusted them. I cooked dinner for them. Being 100% Italian, I'm an excellent cook and it was cheaper for me to cook dinner than to pay for it. Plus, I trusted them explicitly on the basis that they were BELIEVERS in Christ Jesus, yet they had no fear of the Lord or else they wouldn't have wanted more than dinner.
---Donna9759 on 12/12/06

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Why were you inviting these men into your home? I can understand being at the door, ready to go somewhere; but after a 'date', asking them to come back for coffee, the couch, etc?
---Cindy on 12/11/06

Matthew, sounds too good to be true, huh? Would you believe that every Christian guy I've dated wanted to do the dirty deed and I had to end up opening my front door and telling them to leave. That wasn't what I was interested in at all. I wanted Jesus to be the topic of the conversation and unfortunately He wasn't even the topic at dessert.
---Donna9759 on 12/11/06

That sounds lofty and ideal. There are wolves in sheeps clothing that can say and do all the right things right up to the altar. If you busy yourself with Christian activity/religious conversation, you can avoid taking a good hard look at reality. You may miss the putty in the cracks, crooks, and smooth talkers.
---Cindy on 12/11/06

Donna- Christian dating is when two born again believers in Christ Jesus get together for fellowship, coffee, socializing, and even praying together.

Sounds wonderful. I'll be waiting for such a woman to come in my life. If God wills.
---Matthew on 12/11/06

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Christians should lift up the name of Jesus and have sweet fellowship together on a date. If "Christ is your life" you won't want to talk about anything else but the awesomeness of God, the finished work of Jesus, the things God has brought you through, the times He blessed you, etc., Christian dating is when two born again believers in Christ Jesus get together for fellowship, coffee, socializing, and even praying together.
---Donna9759 on 12/11/06

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