2, said He, shall be ONE flesh.
And 2 can not walk together,except they
agree.To be divied in one house will cause
much conflict.Its best to put it all on the table,and eat it together.Than it is to have somewhat to fight over.It is writen,that,the
man is not the author of his body,but the
wife.And the woman is not the author of her
body,but the man.
Do you still want,independence in marriage.
---Jack on 10/22/07|
My husband works while I cook and clean, etc... During the Christmas season, I work for extra money(not just for gifts). Anyhow, I do not feel that by staying at home, I am not contributing. However,there is nothing wrong for a woman to work, especially if the husband does not make enough for basic needs.
---Kella3336 on 10/21/07|
Just look at Proverbs 31:10-31: this is the portrait of a "Virtuous Woman".
She has her own business (growing crops, importing food, weaving cloth, and selling it). She's a financially independent breadwinner, whom her husband praises, and the wares that she sells make her famous.
Hardly the typical "stay-at-home dependant housewife" model we all think of.
---StrongAxe on 10/20/07|
Every situation is different, and each much answer to the Lord. Financial independence may at times be equated with lack of trust in the Lord. I have stayed home with my children, lived paycheck to paycheck, and God has ALWAYS seen us through, ALWAYS provided. I don't have earthly savings, but do have some heavenly...
---christina on 10/20/07|
Hi Richard, I just have to tell you, the "virtuous woman" in Proverbs also worked--bought and sold property and clothes :)
---Mary on 10/19/07|
I would prefer a man go out and bring home the bacon and I stay home and cook it. This is not a very popular lifestyle these days. A lot of women will probably disagree with me on this.
I have some college and other training but I would prefer to stay home. I also like to cook,clean,iron,wash etc...does not matter to me. I am still a worthwhile and loving person. I know this already. I don't need reinforcement from a man.
---Robyn on 10/19/07|
I am a former pastor and from experience I look at some of these questions with nagging suspicion as they are very one sided and only a partial glimpse into the reality of what is taking place.
Issues that need to be considered are children -- many wives do not want to stay home and be housewives they are instead attracted to the bright lights of the big city.
financially indepenent what does this mean?I want to be independant of my husband financially same words different meaning.
---Richard on 10/16/07|
Is your family broke that your children wear rags? Do you eat cat food? Probably not.
Most of the time this independence is desired because someone wants to lavish gifts upon themselves or want to give money and donations their husband does not approve of.
These are unacceptable reasons to rebel against one's husband.
How unfashionable is it to pray and seek God daily and be a virtuous woman?
---Richard on 10/16/07|
I don't see why any husband would need to 'allow' this. Every husband should hope that his wife will not be left destitute if he were to die first. There is far less likelihood of that happening if she is not financially dependent on him in the first place. Of course, there are not very many women who come in that category as they usually give up all to bring up their joint children and often look after elderly parents at the same time.
---RitaH on 10/15/07|
We never know what tomorrow will bring and I think it is only wisdom for a woman to be financially prepared for anything and everything. Usually in a case like that both spouses agree to place the same amount of money in a joint account to live on. Have a joint checking account but also one of your own. Nothing wrong with having your own money,two income households often can make it better in life than most one income families.
---Darlene_1 on 10/15/07|
I take my hat off to any woman who can do this and to the husband who is loving enought to allow it..I dont see any wrong in it infact it prepares a woman 4 when a husband dies..too many woman are left useless when husbands die. God gave us plenty upstairs to use and utilise.
---jana on 1/4/07|
That's good, Anne, that your husband puts relationship first...and that you do too...and it's good that his supports you.
---Reiter on 12/29/06|
My husband is proud of my success in my career, but more proud of our marriage. Money is only the vehicle to run the home...it's not the home and marriage.
---Annie on 12/20/06|
As a working, married minister of the Lord, I am financially independent in all ways. Everything we own is jointly, including bank accounts. But, the check book is in my purse! LOL!
---Susie on 12/18/06|
No, it's not wrong. When you start wearing your "I'm financially independent and I don't need a man to support me" banner - more than we're a team, you will have problems. In your fight for independence, the marriage will suffer. The man or you may cut yourself loose. You will then be free, to stand on your own two feet. That process may leave you that way, but you can wear the banner.
---Karen on 12/18/06|
Is it ever wrong? Yes, but it's not always wrong. Many good points have been brought up. It's wrong when the "one" wants to become "two" again. Greed, lack of trust, and other such reasons would also be wrong.
---john on 12/17/06|
I think how a married couple manages its finances is the couple's business and nobody else's, don't you?
---Jack on 12/17/06|
Pkay,trust has nothing to do with a woman having her own bankaccount. What it does have a lot to do with is,if the husband leaves or dies a woman has ready access to funds for all needs. She also has established a profile of being in charge of money and therefore a financial history which is important to have for a woman alone. She should also have a credit card in her name to build up her credit rating. My husband insisted I do both things for my own protection in case he dies before me.
---Darlene_1 on 12/17/06|
Why would it be wrong?
The only objection I could ever have is when Children suffer.
---Pharisee on 12/17/06|
The parents make out better and are richer in a two income household...this way they can afford adult "toys"...but in a one income household...the Children fair better...having Mother [not a sitter]...it depends on what matters most to you...
---Reiter on 12/17/06|
A separate account for either the man or the woman is a sign of lack of trust in the marriage.
---pkay on 12/17/06|
Why would it every be wrong? The wife needs to support herself in the event of divorce or death of her husband. It also creates a better marriage because then the wife stays with the husband out of choice, not out of necessity.
---Madison1101 on 12/17/06|
It depends, God's plan for marriage is that everything becomes as one, including finances, BUT, What if the husband/wife isn't saved, foolishly squanders all the family's money on booze or gambling? Or what if the spouse is very bad/negligent with finances period. Godly wisdom is a must! God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 12/17/06|
(II.) Another important factor is God's holy tithe, What if one spouse believes in tithing and the other doesn't? God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 12/17/06|