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Should I Ignore These Feelings

I'm a single Christian (baptist) woman who's been friends with a single catholic man for 8+ years now. We've had some "lively" debates on our religious differences. Lately, I have had stronger feelings for this man (love?), but I know we're not two be unequally yoked. Should I ignore these feelings?

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 ---Anna on 12/29/06
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Anna,Anna,Anna. You are about to be caught in your own trap.If you know what you need to it! You are already in disobedience but yet you are not doing anything about it.These feelings are not going away. Then what? You have already spent 8 good yrs with this man. How many more do you have to lose? I hope you are really young because the middle aged and elderly do not have years to waste like this. Someone needs to convert or part ways.
---Robyn on 9/8/07

I would say so. If the man hasn't made a move in 8+ years, there's your sign.

Remain friends. God probably has someone else. Sounds like you would like to have a Christian mate. I'm not saying the Catholic is not Christian. But Baptist and Catholic are unequally yoked.

Have you ever heard, that right before the real one comes, the enemy tries to bring you a counterfeit? The enemy will get your eyes off God for a moment, and bring confusion. Keep waiting, friend.
---Simeon on 9/8/07

I want to thank you all for your responses. Some were very helpful. We both are in our 40's and both have been divorced. I have decided that we are best to just be friends. I could never attend 'mass' and would never change religious affiliations. I need any man I marry to guide our family using scripture (of which he says are just a bunch of stories). Thank you all so much for helping me realize what I probably already knew.
---Anna on 1/2/07

John is correct, since we don't know the true polling questions. The statistics reflect religious affiliation given by respondents when the data was collected. It would be nice to know what was the affialiation when the divorce occurred and if a changed affiliation after the divorce and if the divorce had anything to do with the change in affiliation. The site did have data about general geographic breakdowns in North America and we don't know sample sizes to establish confidence limits.
---notlaw99 on 1/2/07

Anna::Certain factors need clearing.1 Age & maturity2. Resolve to remain comitted it is a contract before God.Divorce should not be an option.3 Children which Faith will they be raised in& if you choose to be married in which Or both Churches.4Religious differences should be firmly discussed & rules set in place as a woman & a baptist would you be willing to follow Your Man,in view of subject to him.5If all these are congruent & your natures are adaptable? (8 years).Then I hear wedding bells.
---Emcee on 1/1/07

dont get advice on this site about your topic, well you can but dont take it seriouslly, its between you and God
---mark on 1/1/07

If you believe by marrying this Catholic man that you will be unequally yoked then don't marry him. You don't deserve him.

---grace3869 on 1/1/07

notlaw. Your statistics could prove that people who are divorced are not as welcome or comfortable in a Lutheran church as they are in an independant church? Your stats don't show that these people were all raised in those particular churches it just shows were they now are members.
---john on 1/1/07

No, Anna, it is not a good idea because you are unequally yoked. As a Catholic myself I can assure you that if he's a knowledgable & devoted Catholic then the odds of your converting him are slim to none.

The real question, though, is CAN you ignore your feelings? If not then you should end the relationship altogether.
---augusta on 1/1/07

I have dated a women of different denomination,She was Catholic and the differences in our beliefs did create many problems between us,Can there be true unity in a relationship of different beliefs? God lets us make our choices in life and if we don't follow the scriptures in our choices we can not turn and blame God for our wrong choices in life.Proverbs 3-vs 5-6,We are to trust god.Put this to prayer and let god lead you.His way is always the best way even when we all may not agree with it.
---Joe on 1/1/07

Variation in divorce rates among Christian faith groups:
Denomination (in order of decreasing divorce rate) % who have been divorced
Non-denominational (small conservative groups; independents) 34%
Baptists 29%
Mainline Protestants 25%
Mormons 24%
Catholics 21%
Lutherans 21%

These Statistics are from Onterio Consultants on Religious Tolerance. Reflecting only percentage of members who are devorced. I have not found any data on devorce rated on cross denominational marrages.
---notlaw99 on 1/1/07

"Kay, whent the apostle Pail was referring to in 2 Cor 6:4 by being unequally yoked was a between a Christian and a Pagan; here both parties are Christians"

Notlaw99, Anna feels as though her man friend isn't a Christian. Do you know him better than she does?
---Kay on 12/31/06

"..just plain bigotry toward Catholic and Orthodox Christians infering that thay can't be saved?"

Notlaw99, did you not read what I wrote? I said that it doesn't matter what denomination he claims, IF he hasn't received Christ as his personal Savior then they are unequally yoked. Attending a Christian church or claiming to be part of a particular Christian group doesn't make someone automatically a Christian.
---Kay on 12/31/06

While you state you are a Christian, you don't state his relationship with Christ. Regardless, you would still be "unequally yoked", in my opinion. Not because you are a Baptist and he's catholic, but because your focus on Christ is different. For example: one person may want to be a missionary, and the intended doesn't. This is being unequally yoked, in my opinion. Don't depend on feelings when you make a decision. Can this union glorifyChrist?
---WIVV on 12/31/06

Kay, whent the apostle Pail was referring to in 2 Cor 6:4 by being unequally yoked was a between a Christian and a Pagan; here both parties are Christians. Likewise, different Christian traditions did not exist when Paul wrote the statement to the Corinthians. Do you feel qualified to put additional meaning into Paul's statements? Is your interpretation of their potential relationship religiously ethnocentric or just plain bigotry toward Catholic and Orthodox Christians infering that thay can't be saved?
---notlaw99 on 12/31/06

Think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened to you;

rejoice to the extent you partake of Christ's sufferings; that when His Glory shall be revealed, you may be glad with exceeding joy.
1 Peter 4:12,13

Count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.

Let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect, complete, lacking nothing.

James 1:1-18
---Simeon on 12/31/06

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Study the life of Jesus and the disciples.

Hebrews 4:14-16
Hebrews 2:18
II Peter 2:9
Romans 6:14
Psalm 119:11
James 1:13,14
1 Peter 5:8,9
James 4:7
1 John 4:4
James 1:2, 3, 12
Jude 24, 25
1 Peter 1:6,7

"..Your adversary the devil, walks about as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour."
---Simeon on 12/31/06

God does not bring confusion, "God is not the author of confusion, but of peace" 1 Cor 14:33

For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work...James 3:16-18

If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, ...James 1:5

Proverbs 3:5,6
Isaiah 40:29
Isaiah 30:21
Philippians 4:6,7
---Simeon on 12/31/06

The Name of the Lord is a Strong Tower:
The righeous run to it and are safe.

What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?

But the Lord is faithful, who will establish you and guard you from the evil one.

He brought me up also out of a horrible pit, out of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and established my steps.

Romans 8:31
II Thessalonians 3:3
Psalm 40:2
Proverbs 18:10
---Simeon on 12/31/06

"You both believe in Jesus Christ but from different traditions. You are not a matched pair but you would not be unequally yoked either."-notlaw99

If her man friend isn't saved then they are unequally yoked. It doesn't matter what he acknowledges regarding Jesus and it doesn't matter what denomination he claims. If he hasn't personally trusted Christ as his Savior then they are unequally yoked.
---Kay on 12/31/06

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"Have you ever heard, that right before the real one comes, the enemy tries to bring you a counterfeit?" -Simeon

I've heard this little saying before. People use it as if it came straight from the Bible.

"The enemy will get your eyes off God for a moment, and bring confusion. Keep waiting, friend."

The devil will also try to confuse us to cast doubt on something good.
---Kay on 12/31/06

Simeon----May I ask where you heard the statement you made about the real one/counterfeit one? I have never heard that expression and found it very intriguing. Can you explain?
---ljt on 12/30/06

You say you know you should not be unequally yoked. Therefore will you obey God or Satan. As to your feelings, we really cannot trust them. We can ask God to fulfill His new covenant promise in our hearts so that we will truly want to always do right, and to give us grace to be true to that knowledge He brings through conviction. There are times when we must turn from our feelings and rest wholly in His word.
---Wayne87 on 12/30/06

Anna, I know exactly what you mean because I have a similar problem. With me though I would never marry him, because he is also a Catholic. I just pray for the strength not to fall in love with him and God has been answering my prayers. I would never let him know that I feel anything more than a good friend. I try to distance myself from him from time to time.
---Norma7374 on 12/30/06

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Not really sure what I was expecting to hear from everyone here. Part of me wondered if part of the reason I am in this man's life is to help lead him to the Lord. I didn't understand why my feelings had changed for him (and it felt like his for me are stronger too). I do not feel he is born again, but he certainly believes in Jesus' sacrifice for our sins. Just trying to figure out these feelings is all.
---Anna on 12/30/06

If one of you believes in YHWH and the other believes in Zeus you would be unequally yoked.

You both believe in Jesus Christ but from different traditions. You are not a matched pair but you would not be unequally yoked either. So if you think you love him and he loves you go for it!!!
---notlaw99 on 12/30/06

Bruce has stated the situation exactly as it is you state,"but I know we're not two be unequally yoked." How much plainer can it be.
---Mima on 12/30/06

Although he may be a Christian, would you be ready for having your kids sprinkled at birth? Are you willing to have him be the spiritual leader in your home and will you and him put the breaks on for certain things you just can't accept? Are you ready to have someone teach your kids to pray to Mary?
If you have no problem being Catholic then maybe everything will go well.
---john on 12/30/06

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What is it you are expecting to hear from us here? By your own admission, you are aware that it is wrong to be unequally yoked. James 4:17, "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin."
---Bruce5656 on 12/30/06

1. What makes you think he's not a Christian? Because he doesn't give the "correct" answers to the pop-evangelical questions? There are many Christians with deep faith who simply can't articulate it as glibly as others.

2. Feelings just are. Feelings that are not acknowledged by yourself become demands. Simply ignoring them will not make them go away. This is not the same thing as acknowledging their presence, and deliberately choosing not to go by them.
---Jack on 12/29/06

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