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Was She Really My Friend

How do I truly forgive my husband of recently four years of having a six month affair? He went so far as she babysat and we had dinner at her house every week? Was she really my friend? How do I know he is truly seeking God?

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 ---Elena on 1/1/07
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the bible says the true friend never rejoyce when the other friend is sad.she was not your friend and she is not ur fiend she will never one of them
---addie on 7/30/08


this is heart breaking.have my condolence sis. decide to forgive and be more careful in the future. listen to God so that you'll be able to chose good friends. because i've experienced friends that stick closer than my siblings. May the Lord give you good friends.Amen
---Patience on 5/19/08


this is heart breaking.have my condolence sis. decide to forgive and be more careful in the future. listen to God so that you'll be able to chose good friends. because i've experienced friends that stick closer than siblings. May the Lord give you good friends.Amen
---Patience on 5/19/08


i will repiy this text cos i wantto have a friend cos
---fatoumatta_jammeh on 5/18/08


You might be able to forgive him but it will be hard to ever trust him again. The woman was not your friend. When a man falls into lust and adultry, he is not seeking God. Right now, it is important for you to seek God's wisdom and presence. Pray.:)
---jody_martin on 9/9/07




Seems kind of a good thing we are not under the law in this case, Leviticus 20:10 `If there is a man who commits adultery with another man's wife, one who commits adultery with his friend's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
---denna7667 on 9/9/07


A true friend will not use you or, in this case sleep with your husband. A true friend will stand by you, be there for you, laugh with you, cry with you, and never turn their back on you. As far as your husband, only God knows his heart. We must forgive as we have been forgiven by God. I know it is not always easy, but if it was not for our good, God would never had told us to forgive. Forgiving others sets us free.
---Cynthia on 9/8/07


If she was cheating,using your Husband she was not your friend.but His.
---Emcee on 9/7/07


How do we know that YOU are truly seeking God, Elena?

You want us to take your word for it, right?

Then go thou and do likewise. Take HIS word for it.
---Jack on 9/7/07


You did not say if this affair went on during your marriage or before your marriage. Best to forgive - and forgive your friend. Doesn't mean you still have to be friends with her.
---Pat on 1/18/07




hi friends,
i might slightly off track but i need a bible friend that both of us will share ideals and exchange gifts
---bendu on 1/4/07


"Take his word for it"? Isn't that how she came to be in this situation?
---ralph7477 on 1/4/07


I agree with Grace. There is an old saying that says "it takes two to tango." No, she wasn't a friend, especially since she invited both of you into her home during this time. There is a trust issue here. Matthew 11:25 tells us that we should forgive others so God can forgive us.
---Norma7374 on 1/3/07


You two need serious counselling. You need to take time to heal from being betrayed. Choose to forgive Him because the word tells us to, but work out the feelings of being betrayed with God and your counsellor and with your husband. I don't think she was your friend at all. You won't know he is truly seeking God, but the word does tell us, "you shall know them by their fruit." The fruit of the spirit is love, peace, joy, kindness, long-suffering, patience, etc.,
---Donna9759 on 1/2/07


No, she is not a true friend. I think the question is if your husband is truly repentant. Did he confess or did you find out? If he isn't truly repentant it will be awfully hard to trust him again. His repentance must show in his daily actions.
---faye4464 on 1/1/07


Don't make the mistake of putting all the blame on her shoulders. But no I don't think she was/is your friend. Your husband has to rebuild your faith in him. Even though you may forgive him that doesn't mean you have to immediately trust him again. Put your trust in God to lead you to the right answers.

Grace
---grace3869 on 1/1/07


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There is no way to know unless you pray and ask God to reveal it to you. You probably both should seek counseling. As to was she your friend--it probably seems not now but she may have been and just got trapped in the lie of the enemy. Or-she may have been pretending the whole time. You are in my prayers my sister!
---Amand9339 on 1/1/07


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