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Women To Ask Men Out On Date

Biblical and Christian teaching state that the man is the one who should start the dating process with a woman. Now that women have there own identity and the pickens are slim, more and more are approaching men. Presume this is acceptable, how should a Christian women approach a Christian man?

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 ---margaret on 1/8/07
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I am sure more women are approaching men these days but I would prefer to be approached,even now. Men should start the dating process. Especially serious dating. Just to be friendly with no strings attached,would not matter, who asked, whom.
---Robyn on 5/24/08


Different generations have diffent ideas on this and you'll get varied answers I'm sure. I personally think the man should take the initiative, but this can be a huge problem if a man is very shy.
---m.p.a. on 5/23/08


Where does the bible saythat it is the man who should start the dating process? Dating is not even found in the bible. There are records of matchmaking and arranged marriages. If you want to follow a "bilbical" pattern, perhaps it would be better to have someone pick out a mate for you. It is a mistake to confuse historical/cultural/social practice with a "biblical" standard.

For example, do you greet people with a kiss in chruch? Rom 16:16
---Bruce5656 on 6/10/07


Wonder ladies/gents if promiscuity was 1 top reason for giving in marriage in scripture. You do see a few exceptions, but the norm was giving in marriage/marriages pre-arranged.

The above was perhaps how society back then dealt with dangers of dating and the societal practice for "Thou shalt not commit adultery."

Promiscuity is truly the greatest danger I fear when my children think dating.

Maybe our approach should be to answer, why dating is not the biblical norm?
---TDG on 1/10/07


There are some really good suggestions posted here. I see nothing wrong with the woman taking the first step. After bible study might be a good time, it's more relaxed than after Sunday service. Any general subject will do to get started, your car, the holidays, an upcoming function at church. Afterwards he'll have something extra to smile about, and you can have a sigh of relief becasue the next move is on him:)
Stay prayerful, and have fun.
---lynet on 1/10/07




**He thinks through me, Talks through me**

If you think that God thinks through you, you're in a bad way spiritually.

Even in the OT, God says through Isaiah, "My thoughts are NOT your thoughts."
---Jack on 1/9/07


Who ask whom is more of a cultural matter than a Biblical one. With this in mind there a number of options available. 1. You invite him to some church fuction. 2. You can also leave hints. 3.Another way is to tell another woman who knows him, you like this guy and would like to go out with him. (It will get back to him.)4 Be attractive, but not an attraction. Give him commplements - but be honest. (For example: "I like your tie.")
---WIVV on 1/8/07


** Biblical and Christian teaching state that the man is the one who should start the dating process with a woman.**

Where on earth did you get THAT foolish notion, Margaret?

Please give book, chapter, and verse where it says the man should start the dating process.

Dating wasn't even HEARD of until the 20th century. Hence how could the Bible say anything about it at all?
---Jack on 1/8/07


I go srickly by the Word. God says You have not because You Ask not. He also says If you will rejoice in Me, I will give you the desires of your heart. He also says to commit your work unto Him and He will establish your thoughts. I commit my mind, mouth, heart, soul, and body to Him, He thinks through me, Talks through me, Loves through me, He wills through me and moves through me..Exciting things happen..So let go and let God..
---judy3969 on 1/8/07


Granted dating is not in the bible, but what are we supposed to do 2000 years later? We can't just go into someone's tent/house and consider ourselves married like they did in the old days, can we? This tradition of how we meet and date today had to evolve somehow from some culture, I just don't know and by the way my grandmother's marriage was arranged and she told me she was never in love with my grandfather, isn't that sad?
---Donna9759 on 1/8/07




I would just love to see any Biblical teaching on dating. I'm serious. And especially any Scripture that would show that the man initiates the dating process.
---john on 1/8/07


Margaret I don't recall the teaching you speak of.
---alanUKquent64534 on 1/8/07


This is interesting. I have few questions.

Does the Bible even teach dating?

What about Pro 18:22 [Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the LORD. I'm sure this is speaking of a man.

Has anyone ever seen a woman divorcing her husband?
---TDG on 1/8/07


With the same discretion as buying groceries.
There are no cents off coupons, and the bargain Item be the best choice. And I don't think that their are any two for one sales.
---notlaw99 on 1/8/07


No big deal. If you like the guy, ask him to coffee or whatever.........if you're not too shy!
---sue on 1/8/07


margaret, if you find a Christian man you think you may like to spend time with, be his friend first and foremost. Talk to him about the things of the Lord. Ask him questions about what he likes and doesn't like. In other words, be his friend first, socialize with him in Church and at church functions. Don't be pushy, just let things flow freely and if they don't, then it wasn't meant to be.
---Donna9759 on 1/8/07


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