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I Have A Broken Heart

How can I get over a broken heart from the lose of a loved one. I feel like a part of me died when they died! I need to get my joy and happiness back, but how?

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 ---Douga3773 on 1/9/07
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I empathize with your pain. My beloved baby brother died suddenly at the age of 40 in October. There is not a day that goes by when my heart does not ache.

I have immersed myself in the Word and sought to learn more of Him. God comforts and heals. I also put my faith in Him and trust Him to know what is best for my family.
---Madison1101 on 5/9/08


Douga, I sympathize with you. This past Saturday I learned that I lost a friend very dear to me. I thought I'd never stop crying. My condolences to you as I know firsthand this is difficult. What helps me is talking to God, knowing that my friend knew Him and accepting the fact that he's now at home. Let your joy and happiness be in the love that you shared as well as in the love that God has for you both. God bless you!
---AlwaysOn on 6/1/07


Patrick. I responded to this statement.
"I never realized the seriousness of being unequally yoked". There are three words to describe "unequaly". Unbeliever, unrighteous, darkness. 1.A person who is held sway by "darkness", accompanied by ungodliness and immorality. 2.They are iniquitous transgressors of law, held in violation and contempt by wickedness. 2.This is a faithless, untrustworthy person who you cannot trust. They will never believe God and truth.
---jhonny on 2/18/07


Patrick: Believing the beautiful woman that you described, and beleiving your judgment is sound, there must be "extraneous interference". Something outside of your relationship, something coming in between, for some purpose.
---jhonny on 2/18/07


Finally, I'm not sure if you are, or were married, but this applies in many marriages, divided by institutionalized hypocrites. Mt 19:6 "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
Who are the "man" who have meddled? "Let no man.." Artificial "religious" separations, and their separatists, taking priority over what God has joined. They are the violaters.
---jhonny on 2/18/07




To answer your question. For the first year, I did not leave my house except to work. I then decided to make things happen. God helps those who help themselves. I joined a bowling team, a dart team, became a disc jockey, started a karaoke company and went out to watch the best performers on stage. I met many ladies, but I knew none of them were the one. sixteen years later, I am still looking and hoping the lady God ordained for me will say hello. Then oh how happy I will be.
---Dave on 2/17/07


Dave, good sharing and testimony. One thing catches me somehow. "I have to follow Him and wait patiently." "Waiting patiently".
Waiting, waiting, waiting. The waiting game. Should we be a little less reactive and a little more active in our choices. Just checking.
---jhonny on 2/17/07


Thanks jhonny... what exactly do you mean by "extraneous interference"? Please elaborate on this one for me please as I could sure use some answers on this painful situation. Thanks Dave... I am terribly sorry to hear about your loss. I tell you, I personally, sincerely look forward to the day that there will be no more tears, no more pain. Hopefully sooner than later for me.
---Patrick on 2/17/07


I can empathize with your situation. I lost my wife and children in a divorce in 91. None of them want anything to do with me. It hurt me for years with many tears shed, but where there is a void, God fills that void. Thanks to Him, I developed many new talents, met many new people that give me support and a friend to talk to and I take life one day at a time.Will God bless me with a new mate in life? Only He knows the answer. I have to follow Him and wait patiently.
---Dave on 2/17/07


Patrick I'm not convinced it's as black and white as unequally yoked. You did say this. "She did get to learn about Jesus while she was here,.." My point is that there may have been some extraneous interference. It's sad she's so far away. I'm sorry.
---jhonny on 2/16/07




Of Course the Jews are God choosen people, but they rejected Christ and for now have been grafted from the vine but will be grafted back once they have repented. Just be careful not to boast of your fortune right now since God is just as able to detatch those that boast from the his vine we are just waiting for our brothers and sister to return some from the tribulation others through salvation.
---Carla5754 on 2/16/07


Observer;Why are you shaking your head? Most on here believe that the Jews "are" God's chosen, why not convert? When (in their belief) by some miracle they will be saved! Really can you have it both ways?
---1st_cliff on 2/16/07


I believe Jhonny's question was fair. Trust me, I now know, when you get out of God's will & disobedient you'd be amazed at what you will do or consider. Look at Samson... Blinded by love, Satan's tactics, etc... I never realized the seriousness of being unequally yoked until now & I am now paying dearly for it in severe pain & suffering. God forgive me. I am now choosing to be alone for the first time in my life and truly making God # 1 & let Him send me someone in His time.
---Patrick on 2/16/07


jhonny, on a Christian blog site, you ask another Christian to convert to Judiasm????

(((shaking my head)))
---Observer on 2/15/07


Pat ::Send her a bible & tell her to read it,maybe it will promote discussion,that way it will keep the pot on slow boil & who knows God willing she will develop into a new bottle ready to be receptive to the new Wine.Hey All's fair in Love & war ask HUD_son,he does write a love ditty.
---Emcee on 2/15/07


Thank all of you for your replies. I burst into tears over the Valentines Day poem. But all I've done is cry and moan in grief and pain since this has happened & can't get back up. Yes, she asked me a few times to convert to Jewish but it would mean denying Jesus which I can't do. She did get to learn about Jesus while she was here, I only hope & pray it makes a difference with her.
---Patrick on 2/15/07


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Could you convert to Judaism. How's your position on that.
---jhonny on 2/14/07


Patrick::The walk in this life is loaded with obstacles to fit us for Eternal union with Jesus Our Saviour.If the love is true it will stand the test of Time. Not in the way you want but in His way are you both prepared to,pick up your cross & Follow.The solution to the problem is Patience LOVE will find a way Tell her this & Pray.Parting is sweet sorrow but there will always be a tomorrow. Bad beginnings happy endings.
---Emcee on 2/14/07


I am sorry for your loss, Patrick.
This is dedicated to you, on Valentine's Day.

Looking back on the memory of
The dance we shared 'neath the stars above
For a moment all the world was right
How could I have known that you'd
ever day goodbye

And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end, the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance;
I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance
---Rural_Cafe on 2/14/07


Yes my life
It's better left to chance
I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance

Tony Arata (G.Brooks)
---Rural_Cafe on 2/14/07


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Time is a great healer but what do you do in the time you have to spend waiting? You focus on the good things you did together and instead of focusing on the loosing celebrate her life and achievements and what positive things you gained from her in life. After every storm is a calm and after heavy rain comes the sun, after pain, healing and after sorrow, JOY!
---Carla5754 on 2/14/07


King David lost his son and was on his face during the time his child could be saved but he realised that his son had passed and there was just nothing else he could do, so he Got up washed dressed and got on with life, the people couldn't understand it because they thought this would surely kill him, be he was wise enough to know there was just no point in laboring the unchangeable, there is a bighter day that Brighter Day begins gratfully with reality.
---Carla5754 on 2/14/07


Dear friend,
Sometimes we get ourselves into some of the darnest situations by not heeding the Word of the Lord (bible) The bible plainly states we should not be unequally yoked.This causes untold problems when we do this.
You need to confess and repent to the Lord. Cry out to Him for forgiveness and for disobeying His Word. Your joy will begin to return from this point.
I send blessings to you and pray you will seek the Lord on this.Love
---robyn on 2/14/07


I am an American Christian and late last year met a Jewish Iraeli girl "Yafit" that was here visiting & we both fell deeply in love with each other. It just recently ended because her mother disowned her for being with a Christian. She went back home to Tiberias, Israel in tears saying it won't work because her mother will never except me being Christian. I'm left not knowing how to cope as I have never met anyone like her. She was the love of my life
---Patrick on 2/14/07


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It is healthy to grieve after the loss of a loved one. Unfortunately, it is also terribly painful. If we don't know pain, how would we know joy? Joy will come to you and time heals all wounds. Give your pain to The Father and He will surely Heal You.
---Pat on 1/29/07


I have not lost anyone to death since I have escaped hell, but I have had a whole lot of distresses and pain. If you are walking close to God, I have found out, if you go to HIM, perhaps lay down on your bed and start talking to Him, all of a sudden inside of you, you will feel a soothing going on, and also perhaps some grieving. It is 100% God.
---CATHERINE on 1/28/07


Pray for God to send a comforter. I lost a younger brother once and was wracked with misery because I wanted to know if he was in heaven or hell. A lady name Mary sent a sympathy card to me and when I read it I felt like the words floated into me and when I put the card down the most peacful feeling came over me. I knew that my brother was in heaven after that and not a soul could tell me otherwise.
---anonymous on 1/28/07


NW - The Lord told us to "Love one another as we love ourselves, but to love God, above all else." If you transfer this love for your lost loved one to your love for the Lord, you will find healing and peace.
---Pat on 1/28/07


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My sister or brother that's common when you are human. I believe we all have passed through that door, Remember nothing last always, maybe you will see later your broken heart was God closing one door to open a better one for you, he can see what we can;t hear and know what we don.t hear or know, when you live for God your broken heart is for you to tell others you will survive, stay prayerful always thinking God in the midst of your storm, God will turn it around for your good.
---wiswa7358 on 1/28/07


After we are finished here on this side, then on the otherside our joy will be restored. Praise God! there will be no more tears then, only happiness, and once and for all every one who hurt us will be gone.
---Eloy on 1/27/07


God bless all of you suffering from loss of a loved one. Mourning is a natural response, but then turn it over to the Lord. Our Lord Jesus died on a Fri.but all was changed on Sunday. Remember it may feel like Friday night, but Sunday is on its way! Rejoice that your loved one is with the Lord, no tears, no hurting and in the sweet presence of our Lord Jesus. My prayers are with you.
---NV_Barbara on 1/27/07


Fill your time doing the will of God, that is feed, clothe, and quench the thirst of the poor and needy. Encourage the weak in faith. There is more joy and happiness when you take your thoughts off of youself and unto the things that really matter - other people.

Dear Father in Heaven. Holy is your name. Take the grief you find in the person's heart that they may enjoy your peace. In Jesus' name.
---Steveng on 1/27/07


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You probably understand how the Father felt when His Son died.

That's alot of years to be grieving. Do you know Jesus? He takes away grief.
---Cindy on 1/27/07


NWEST::Remember God see's your tears & hears your cry of anguish. My dear Lady,consider it a light cross to bear. But mind you, You have survived nearly 4 years. He has gone to his eternal rest leaving you the captain of the ship do you want His ship to sink.or bring it through the stormy sea safely to harbour. Be patient the Lord is with you keep it like that. In his grace seek His council think of the job in hand & you will get the extra happiness which you think you missed.but NOT LOST.Blessings.
---Emcee on 1/27/07


NORTHWEST, I'm sorry!!! Right now it hurts. It hurts in the middle of your stomach, in the middle of the night , and in the middle of the store but please bear in mind that the grief does not last forever. It will someday come to an end. And you will remember your loved one with peace and love and smiles. You may e-mail me anytime you want. I will pray that Jesus takes the grief away soon.
---faye4464 on 1/27/07


Northwest - Hi. You are right that you can't make anything good out of your life. Only Jesus can, and He is waiting with open arms to receive you.
---Helen_5378 on 1/27/07


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may 23 03 was the most terrible day in my life... he died in my arms.. i just have to learn to live like this.. all alone... i just cant make something good out of my life again.. i just cant..
---NORTHWEST on 1/26/07


Douga: Hello friends! I ran across
Isa.62:3 You will also be a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord...

Praise God!
---christina on 1/16/07


Douga, a broken heart is an open wound that needs to be covered with the bandage of empathy, love and concern so it will heal from the inside out. If you have no one else who understands please keep coming back to this blog. You will find understanding here by most. Only time heals.
---faye4464 on 1/14/07


Let me start by saying I'm here for you! You need to start doing something nice for someone else, and minister the Gospel to others. This will help build you up, by showing you that there are others hurting out there, and you can make a differance in their lives. It will help you to become others-focused and not self-focused. God will meet your needs when you meet others needs.
---Leslie on 1/14/07


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Yes Douga, Your loved one is now in eternal glory. My sister-in-law put it perfectly when I lost my mother, "As much as I miss her, I would not wish her back from the glory of Heaven." May God ease your pain and bless you abundantly.
---faye4464 on 1/14/07


My heart reaches for you and commends you into the everlasting arms of Him whose love is beyond any love.
(Been where you are). Your loved one is in the arms of God, no pain, no suffering nothing but Christ. We miss them, are lonely but can rejoice in the knowledge of their eternal Joy.
Part of you was torn away... you were one. But He now wants to complete You with his love...My cry is then "what now, my Lord and my God"
May His Love make you complete in Him
---Edmond on 1/13/07


Hello friends! I ran across
Isa.62:3 You will also be a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord...
4 It will no longer be said to you, "Forsaken" ...But you will be call, My delight is in her!!
Please make note read all of Isa. 62 it has brought me great peace!! thanks all
---Douga3773 on 1/13/07


it is always hard to lose a loved one, we lost a grandson age 5 years in 03 and it still is hard especially around the 4th of july his b.d was the 3rd. but with all the prayers that has gone up then as well as now is the only way, God is right there with us always to love and comfort us, your in my prayers. shira8444
---shira8444 on 1/13/07


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Grief is but a passing Phase in the essence of Time.OUR God of love holds that essence& comforts those who sorrow by giving pleasant memories that will flash by from time to time,He or she has gone into another room to which you are not allowed to follow as yet,but rest assured you will meet again.Love never dies,parting is such sweet sorrow But there will always be a tomorrow,
---EMCEE on 1/13/07


Suffering loss isn't a winter looked forward to by anyone. A broken heart may very well be one of life's most difficult valley's. Broken hearts can avalanche... into broken lives and broken testmonies. Today it's very hard for you. Tomorrow it will be very hard for someone else. Blanketing yourself around the fire of His Word letting 2 Cor. 1:3-4 be a quilt your Father sent to help remember... winter... comes to pass. On both sides of any valley is a mountain-top... but we must look up to see them.
---pals on 1/13/07


Always on: "God is very good!"

HOW TRUE! He truly is WONDERFUL.
---christina on 1/13/07


You are in my prayers because when my first born son died at age 19 I truly beleive, with all my heart, that it was all the prayers people were praying that kept me from going insane with grief.You will always miss your loved one,but in time you'll be able to think of them and smile instead of cry.God bless you.
---Sue on 1/11/07


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Thank you, Christina! Your thoughtful words are very comforting. God is very good!
---AlwaysOn on 1/11/07


Douga, I am SO sorry you lost the love of your life. I've been there. It hurts terrribly, but believe me when I say that the hurt does not last forever. There will come a time, and only God can do it, that memories will be sweet. I lost my fiance 1 month before we were to be married. However he loved me more in 11 months than I had known in 12 years of previous marraige. I was devastated. Everytime I think of him now, I can feel his love, and I smile.
---faye4464 on 1/10/07


Amen John you said it. We will grieve no matter what at first. Later we can either hold onto that grief or give it to God. I myself am learning how to surrender my worries and problems to the Lord. Although grief is different than worrying, holding onto it will only hurt your Christian walk. Grieve for a while, you have that right, then just let it go. You may still grieve at times but at least it won't affect your daily attitude. A positive/faithful attitude is a must for a Christian. God bless.
---Matthew on 1/10/07


God doesn't fan the flames of sympathy.

He doesn't leave you suspended in grief for the rest of your life.

It destroys us when we allow grief to be our friend and bedfellow.

God removes mourning, but we have to surrender the grief.
---John on 1/10/07


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Dear soul, remember, the Heavenly Father Himself knows what it is to see His Son die.

I'm not minimizing your pain. But I promise you it WILL pass and you WILL heal.

Just give yourself time.
---Jack on 1/10/07


I was healed of a broken heart afterI cried almost every night to the depths of my soul for 3 years. Then I began to say, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." I was devastated & distraught and one day the Lord visited me and made His word become Spirit and Life to me and when His presence lifted off of me, the pain was healed. Cry and stay close to Father God. He hurts when you're hurting and He will heal you. Keep confessing scriptures on healing, He will honor His word.
---Donna9759 on 1/10/07


Remember to think about the good times that you had with this loved one. Sit down and make a list of some of the happier times in your lives. Talk with your friends and family about those times and how much you miss this person. God will help you get through this.
---Susie on 1/10/07


Douga, Madison and Always on...May the God of all comfort comfort each of you, draw you near unto Him, that you may know His peace that passes all understanding. BLESS YOU
---christina on 1/10/07


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I, too, have lost loved ones. Your present pain is part of the grieving process. You can't amputate a limb or digit without pain; the same principle applies here.

Give yourself time to grieve and heal.
---Jack on 1/10/07


Matthew 11:28

"Come to Me, all you who labor and heavy laden (heavy hearted) and I will give you rest."

Lift up your broken heart to the Lord in prayer and He will bring you comfort.

If we did not know sorrow, how would we know joy?

If we did not know grief, how would we know love?

God bless you and comfort you.
---Pat on 1/10/07


grieve for a small season, but ask God to not let it take ahold of you.

I lost my brother, it was hard at first, but I kept praying, crying, praying, asking God to remove the roots of grief. I wrote a goodbye letter to him. It helped.

However it wasnt goodbye, it was I will see you later. That brought comfort.
---Chris on 1/10/07


I Thessalonians 4:13 tells us to sorrow not as those that have no hope. The Scripture does not tell us not to sorrow. We can and we should. Sorrow can be a tribute to the loss we feel over those who've gone before. But, in the sorrow, we need to take comfort in the power of God to reintroduce us to those loved ones. We, the Christian, have the hope in the Lord which the world can never know.
---Ed on 1/9/07


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Doug when things don't look right in the natural, look to the supernatural, God's word says in Matthew , blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted, and recieve your comfort by faith in Jesus.
---Hope9668 on 1/9/07


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