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Divorce For Adultery

What if you leave your spouse for your spouse committing adultery? You had a son together and I terminated his father's rights. There is no father figure in his life at all and he is 5 years old. Is marriage o.k. and do you still have God's blessing, if He is in the Center?

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Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Please read Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18. Both Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
p.s. Pray, Titus 2:3-5.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17.
---Glenn on 8/16/09

(2.)Brandy, Of course most mothers want a good father figure for their kids, but if there isn't one, then, YOU must be the role model, and other family members and that is good. Sometimes we just have to make due with what we have, and count our blessings, but never should a Christian feel that they have no other choice but to put up with a cheating spouse. I pray that you let the Lord give you peace and wisdom in this difficult situation. God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 9/17/07

What if your spouse married you knowing that you were a hooker and then condemned you for adultry so that he could steal your holy name and assets?
---anonymous on 1/28/07

Matthew 5:32 sounds like marriage is a one time shot unless one of the party dies. Even if there is fornication=pre-marital RELATIONS not ADULTERY). If the woman WAS BETROTHED AND deceived him. Then it says he can put her away. Marrying a divorced person whatever the reason is perpetual Adultery. The Bible says while they still liveth they are still bound by the law regardless of FORNICATION or Adultery.I Corintians 7:39.
---IW on 1/24/07

I feel for you. I am divorced because my ex is in prison for adultery with a minor. I have 3 children. I don't know why you terminated his rights to see his son but I have not chosen to do that. My children are not in any danger when they visit their daddy so I will continue to take them for visits. It will be up to them when they are older as to what kind of relationship they have with him.
---Angela89 on 1/17/07

(2) If the Lord was to bring another man into your life I believe it would be ok to re-marry but as some good friends have told me...please don't settle for anything less than God's best for you just so your son will have a father figure in his life, it would only lead to regret later.
---Angela89 on 1/17/07

Brandy, If God is in the center as you say, He will lead you in this. I know the pain you and your child both have not having a father figure...allow God to be the perfect father that He is in both of your lifes. May HE be your strength, your comfort, your everything, and wherever He leads, in marraige or not, may you be blessed and He be glorified.
---Christina on 1/17/07

My question would be, what was your motive for terminating your child's father's rights? Did you terminate his rights as a means to get back at him for hurting you? If this is the case, you are only hurting your child.
---Pat on 1/16/07

What if your spouse coerced you with drugs of error to committ adultery? What if they used drugs of spirituality to cause fornication? Would that spouse still be guilty of adultery if her husband condoned it?
---anonymous on 1/16/07

A parent's rights cannot be terminated unless a judge agrees. One parent cannot terminate another parent's rights. So, there must have been just cause for this to happen. Do not remarry just so your son will have a father figure. Remarry because God has brought a man into your life who will be a Godly husband and head of your household.
---Susie on 1/16/07

Why did you terminate the father's parental rights? Was he abusive? Is he a criminal? I don't understand that one. Even an adulterer has a right to be a part of his child's life.
---Madison1101 on 1/15/07

Your question lacks enough detailed information to advise you properly.

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---Pharisee on 1/15/07

I am always sorry to see such a total breakup to such an extent that one parent is right out of the picture. Yes, you are free to re marry. If God is in the center you will be doing everything to make things as right as possible even though you are divorced. Your son will hook up with his real dad later by his own choice will make an evaluation of his dad himself. Try not to paint a worse picture of your ex than what your son will see for himself later.
---john on 1/15/07

(1.)Dear Brandy, Yes re-marriage is okay(only if you didn't forsake [your] marriage vows too) in God's Eyes, if you want to leave that undesirable situation. In regard to the "father figure", Yes, it's important, But not more important than obeying God's will. If you are eligible for re-marriage do so using caution/godly wisdom, praying for the Lord's guidance...
---Mrs._Morgan on 1/15/07

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