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Will My Wife Ever Come Back

My 48 year old wife of 20 years left me last September for a man she met in a bar. She filed for divorce and lives with the man she left me for, turning her back on God, Church and me. It's seems like life is over. What's next? I still love her, and will forgive, but I doubt that she'll ever be back.

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 ---Dave on 1/21/07
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I read your comment and I found your level of faith when you said,"I doubt if she will ever be back." Sir, your words are powerful and they determine what you speak is what you get! If you want to believe for your wife- do so...but be led through prayer. (Her leaving could be your peace and freedom)...however, if you have been called to this woman like Hosea and Gomar in the bible...Then pray and stand in faith....caution do know what you are asking for.
---erica on 3/25/11


I don't know if she will ever come back? What will she be coming back to? Only you can answer that. Were you taking care of your husbandly dutiesbefore she left? Were her needs being taken care of? Sexual and otherwise. Surely you must have known something was not right in the relationship. Seems as though she was one miserable woman to do what she did. You can keep hanging on but its going to take a miracle for her to return. Or she tire of her little playmate(the lover)and look for the fool to take her back(you).
---Robyn on 3/23/11


To forgive is better than divorce. You're loving your wife as Christ loves the Church.
You have the right heart and I hope she comes back. Wait on the Lord, your thinking is scriptural. Don't rush a divorce.

Dave w/new moniker
---Dave on 9/19/07


The Bible teaches in Corinthians chapter 7 to let the non-believer leave. She knows the truth and the question is not will she come back but Is she really saved. You are free to go about your life with no guilt. Pray for her salvation before it is to late. Venegence is mine saith the Lord.
---Tracy on 1/23/07


Dave, pray immediately.

Every day that goes by, the ground becomes colder.

When someone is lost, the search party goes out immediately. The chances are greater of finding them. Every hour that goes by without prayer, the ground becomes colder.

Stay hot, fight for your 20 year marriage.
Don't go to bed and pull the covers over your head.

Don't stay away from Church and become a victim. Get back in that ring and fight.
---Cindy on 1/23/07




"Man, how do you go on?"

A born again Christian knows how to answer that question.

We are hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.

We know all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
---Cindy on 1/23/07


Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.

I will be glad and rejoice in Your mercy, for You have considered my trouble;
You have known my soul in adversities,
And have not shut me up into the hand
of the enemy;
You have set my feet in a side place.
---Cindy on 1/23/07


I will lift up my eyes to the hills-
From whence comes my help?
My help comes from the Lord,
Who made heaven and earth.

Though I walk in the midst of trouble
You will revive me;
You will stretch out Your hand
Against the wrath of my enemies
And Your right hand will save me.

The Lord will perfect that which concerns me;
Your mercy, O Lord, endures forever;
---Cindy on 1/23/07


Man, the way you go on is stand strong in the Lord. Love her as Christ loves the Church.

Fight for your marriage, on your knees.
Do battle. You can accomplish more in prayer than you can running the streets looking for her in the bar.

Nahum 1:7
II Corin. 4:8,9
Psalm 138:7
John 14:1
Isa. 43:2
---Cindy on 1/23/07


Romans 8:28
Psalm 31:7
Psalm 121:1,2
Hebrews 4:15,16
1 Peter 5:7
Matt 6:34
II Corin 1:3,4
Philipp 4:6,7
Isa. 51:11
---Cindy on 1/23/07




Continue with the Lord. Your wife will reap what she sows. When my husband accepted Jesus almost thirty years ago, his wife did this very same thing to him. She decided to go back to her old world of partying, drinking and drugs. Despite years of witnessing by her children and my husband, she never came back to the Lord. She died last year when she was driving drunk and had a wreck. Everyone could see it coming, but no one could stop her.
---Susie on 1/23/07


Dave, We weep with you brother. Perhaps the OT book of Hosea can comfort you. As awful as this is - God is still good. Let this be a time in which you press into Him. Your willingness to forgive is a gift from Him. Hold onto it and let no root of bitterness take hold. Spend time with godly men who'll encourage you but not coddle. Dive into His Word and keep hoping for the impossible, because with God, nothing is.
---daphn8897 on 1/23/07


It hurts a lot, doesn't it. Man, how do you go on? You may not feel like praying for a while. Don't worry about it. God does not choose perfect people.
---CATHERINE on 1/23/07


Dave, life isn't over. Hang on to your faith. God bless you.
---Pat on 1/22/07


dont worry everything happen for a purpose, she was not meant to be yours. God will give you he is always in control of everything. Eccessaitic 3 vs 1-2
---grace on 1/22/07


The next step is that you continue with the Lord and continue serving Him every chance you get. You keep strong in the Lord and He will stay strong in you. You can make it through this. Pray for your marriage to be restored. It has happened thousands of times!!! God can do it!!!
---Susie on 1/22/07


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I'll hang onto your hope tonight, sleep tight.
---Your_Brother on 1/21/07


Wait and pray for the Lord's guidance. Seek Him for your marriage and its possible reconciliation. If she divorces you, you can be assured that the Lord will be with you, and will hold you up. He was faithful to me when my divorce occurred six years ago. I prayed for three years for reconciliation, and waited until my ex remarried before I began to date.
---Madison1101 on 1/21/07


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