I can't help wondering what your husband's intention was at the time you all made your vows.
It sounds to me like he didn't really intend to keep them.
If so, you have been defrauded, and a marriage entered into by fraud is in fact NOT a marriage.
---Jack on 8/22/07|
only you can make decision for self. don't follow what others want you to do. Pray, seek God and ask him for his widsom on what to do. I have dealt with something similar-(details very lengthy)-what do you do, do that which is right in God's eyes--and do that which is right for You, not him, or other family members, but right in God's eyes which are for you. I have been where you are. It's hard--but God will be there for you.
---jodollie on 2/4/07|
"The Biblical model is ARRANGED marriages."
Jack, if someone wants to have an arranged marriage, thats their business. But the Bible never says that we must have such. In the New Testament, Paul teaches that we can marry anyone we want as long as that person is a born-again believer.
"..but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married TO WHOM SHE WILL; only in the Lord."-1 Cor 7:39
---Kay6588 on 2/4/07|
"Is loving each other given anywhere in the Bible as the motivation for marriage?
Please give book, chapter, and verse in your answer."
Jack, do you think Solomon loved his bride prior to their wedding? The way he communicated with her sounds as though he did.
---Kay6588 on 2/4/07|
A marriage cannot be successful if there is no love between the couple.
I do not agree or submit to "arranged marriages" - I chose my wife, we loved each other and without love nothing can keep a couple together.
---Caring on 2/4/07|
** Jack, are you married? If you are... why did you marry?**
No, Aluh, I'm not married, but nowhere does the Bible give love as the reason to get married.
The Biblical model is ARRANGED marriages.
---Jack on 2/3/07|
If your husband has left you all 7times 2 commit adultery, then you have every right 2 tell him to go n dont return if he love the other woman. You didnt do wrong but him so he has 2 go, he cant treat u like dirt. He will never change.The bible says u can be free of him. Do it if u want 2.
---jana on 2/3/07|
I can't imagine how frustrating such circumstances might be. PRAYER CHANGES THINGS! - one way or the other.
---Careen on 2/2/07|
Mat 12:25 And having knowledge of their thoughts he said to them, Every kingdom having division in itself is made waste, and every town or house having division in itself will come to destruction.Mat 12:26 And if Satan sends out Satan, he makes war against himself; how then will he keep his kingdom?
Mat 12:33 Make the tree good, and its fruit good; or make the tree bad, and its fruit bad; for by its fruit you will get knowledge of the tree.
---dsda on 1/29/07|
My husband would frequently threaten to leave only to then get angry with me for not begging him to stay. I don't play those games (we were both 37 when we married). He finally did follow through with his threats and left me. His reasons? I didn't agree with him spending all of his money on himself and not paying ANY of the bills. We have been separated for 21 months now and nothing has changed except his grandmother now pays his way.
---Anna on 1/29/07|
there is no hurt in true love described in 1Col 13.
---dsda on 1/28/07|
Jack, are you married? If you are... why did you marry?
---aluh on 1/28/07|
Your next step is Christian marriage counseling. Make sure you find a LICENSED Christain marriage counselor, not just a friend or pastor of your church. You both should attend, but if he won't go, you should.
---wivv on 1/27/07|
Jackie, you don't indicate your age or your husband's age. He sounds to be very immature. Rather than communicating his feelings - he just leaves! You both need to learn to communicate with each other - that is the key to any marriage being successful.
---Pat on 1/27/07|
If he is not also very hurt by all this then I suspect he has other interests. Seeing you don't have good communication with him, can you talk to his friends or family to see what's up? If something you are doing is bothering him that much then he will probably be saying something to them.
---john on 1/27/07|
**Did you guys married because you LOVE each other?**
Is loving each other given anywhere in the Bible as the motivation for marriage?
Please give book, chapter, and verse in your answer.
---Jack on 1/27/07|
How are you communicating as husband & wife? He should have reasons why he kept on leaving you... but tell him to be fair enough and to let you know what or why. Did you guys married because you LOVE each other? Or was there any other reason, maybe pregnancy... etc... Please TALK to HIM and lure him to talk with you, too.
PRAY first before the talking, okey?
---aluh on 1/27/07|