Repent Of The Marriage
A Christian has married a non-christian despite counsel and warning from the pastor. Does the pastor, after they got married, have the right to exclude that Christian out of future fellowship gatherings such as church service or Bible study until that Christian repents?
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---gary on 1/31/07
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I would try and find a church that is dedicated to saving the lost sheep, not getting rid of the lost sheep.
---Pat on 2/1/07|
Marrying an unbeliever is not fornication, just foolishness.
Rom 14:11 For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.
Rom 14:12 So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God.
Rom 14:13 Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother's way.
---Pharisee on 1/31/07|
Shame on that "pastor"! Glad I have a great pastor--I feel even more blessed now!
---Mary on 1/31/07|
I concur with all of the "no" replies. Would Christ react in this way? Further, if one looked closely into each congregant's life, including the pastor's, what would be found?
The pastor could stand to learn a little from Hosea.
Also, repent how? Divorce?
---AlwaysOn on 1/31/07|
The Bible is filled with texts showing us God's love for sinners. To even ask this question presupposes an ignorance of this fact. I suggest that the person who posed the question reread Christ's parable of the lost sheep.
---Jack on 1/31/07|
I'm thinking in a situation like this the church will want to draw the couple in closer, involving them in fellowship and bible study in order to lead the non christian to Christ and assist the christian in restoring and/or maintaining their relationship with Christ.
---Stephie on 1/31/07|
I agree with you Susie, christians should never do that..There is not one person who is perfect in their lives, we all make mistakes, who knows it may not be a mistake God could have plans to use them both..mary4964
---mary on 1/31/07|
Your pastor does not at any time ,have any authority as to what you do in your personal life. Period. I feel the pastor was within authority on giving the warning to the couple before marriage, but the last decision is between the couple and the Lord.
No, he does not have the authority again, to exclude anyone from fellowship, unless they are disruptive in the church are out of order according to the Word of God. Enough said. Blessings to all.
---robyn on 1/31/07|
---Susie on 1/31/07|
How can he be a Christian if he is living in sin? There are many people on the blogs who would say that this man lost his salvation by defying the bible and becoming unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Another question: If two Christians marry and one backslides, thus losing salvation according to some, should the non-backslider divorce so as not to be unequally yoked?
---ralph7477 on 1/31/07|
As a Christian, turn our back and exclude and person that needs our help and guidance? Doesn't sound very Christian to me! Glad I don't go to your church!!
---Annie on 1/31/07|
Separation from another Christian is not a personal decision. If there has been an offence that is irreconcilable then the whole church is to make this decision, not one person. Matt.18:17
---john on 1/31/07|
My initial response was yes he does. However, in re-reading the question, you are not asking if it would be right to privileges of membership withdrawn or to be removed from a place of ministry. You are asking if, as and individual you should be excluded from church gatherings. The answer to that is no. The only reason that could be acceptable to bar someone from Church attendance is if they are being disruptive.
---Bruce5656 on 1/31/07|
There are cults which do "shun" members when they marry non-members. Jehovah Witnesses are one of these. Christians should never "shun" other Christians because they have sinned or made terrible decisions in their lives. No one should ever be told not to attend church services or Bible studies.
---Susie on 1/31/07|
No the person will have enough to deal with trying to balance a unequally yoked marriage. What the Pastor should be doing is offering help and guidance in the area of discipling the unbelieving spouse and the person that went against the teaching. Why turn them out form the fellowship after all it's them that need God not the saved.
---Carla5754 on 1/31/07|