I feel your pain I have been married for all of one month and I just found out a couple of days ago that my husband has been having a ongoing affair for over a year and I had no idea this was happening, any help? |
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---jennifer on 9/10/09 |
I feel your pain I have been married for all of one month and I just found out a couple of days ago that my husband has been having a ongoing affair for over a year and I had no idea this was happening, any help? |
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---jennifer on 9/10/09 |
I feel like you my husband is an emotional cheater and this is time number 5. I have forgiven each time and I feel stupid stupid. I don't want to displease GOD by filing for divorce but I am so hurt I am just going through the motions. |
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---Tee on 8/17/09 |
First of all sister, remember Jesus said I will never forsake or leave you. He is there with you, I pray that GOD strengthen and comfort you. 5 days is not a long time, you need time for yourself First. Your husband needs to know that YOU are hurt. Its not about HIM now, take your time and talk to someone a christian counslor can be very helpful.God bless you |
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---BB on 8/11/09 |
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If you do this: 1Corinthians 11:3-10, 13, 15-16, 14:34-35, Ephesians 5:22-24, 33, Colossians 3:18, 1Timothy 2:11-14, Titus 2:5, 1Peter 3:1-2, 5-6, and he does this: 1Corinthians 7:33, Ephesians 5:25-29, 31, 33, Colossians 3:19, 1Timothy 5:8, 1Peter 3:7, this resolves the situation. If he / she doesn't consider the others best interest, he / she might easily be abusive.
p.s. (1) Don't uncover your husbands nakedness, but Galatians 6:1. 2) Pray. (3) Be kind, Ephesians 4:32. (4) All, get saved and trust in Jesus Christ. (5) True Christian Counsel is helpful. (6) Don't listen to those bitter folk who tell you to divorce, Jude 1:12, 2Peter 2:17. |
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---Glenn on 5/27/09 |
I know EXACTLY how you feel! I found out two weeks ago that my husband was cheating on me. The way I found out was amazing...he was stopped by police for running a red light while making deliveries on his work route. When the officer ran his driver's license, they discovered a 12 year old fugitive 'failure to appear' warrant from another state. He was arrested and held without bail. When I went to retrieve his personal belongings, I immediately checked the voicemail messages on his cell phone, only to discover that what I had suspected for years was true. There were voicemails and text messages from his latest girlfriend! I don't know if I can EVER forgive him! |
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---Sheryll on 5/26/09 |
lisa, in your flesh you cant.Good christian counseling is a must.only with the help of God can you overcome such a betrayl.forgivness is easy,but your husband must ,and you that there are consequences to our decisions.I was betrayed by my wife some25 years ago,it took many many years to overcome. |
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---tom2 on 11/19/08 |
I also just find out my husband cheating on me last week and I felt devastating.I am waiting for him to tell me about it,but he denied about the cheating, he want to leave me. |
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---J_cheuk on 8/9/07 |
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Dear Lisa.
I am single. Have not cheated but have done other hurtful and selfish things. Thank God i had a miraculous change of heart. And I began to love others (and am still sellfish, and at times, perhaps often, horrible). I will pray for you and your husband, that you will be blessed with happiness. I know others who have forgiven and are happy again. People are foolish and weak, including your husband. But he needs your love and forgiveness. Very hard as that may be. God Bless. |
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---Ed on 2/12/07 |
The only way to overcome this is through God. He is the only one whom can take away your hatred. I understand how you feel, but if you don't let God help you mend your heart, then you will have bitterness in your heart. If this man hasn't ask God to forgive him yet, then he needs to before the two of you can work on your relationship. |
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---Rebecca_D on 2/10/07 |
No, this Lisa is another lisa. This lisa is in trouble not me. Pray for her. I am doing great praise God and glad to hear the great things all of you are saying to her. I will be using Lisa's as my name from today on because of this other Lisa. Lisa, I am praying for you too. You will get through this somehow, God will carry you through someway somehow. And He does love you. |
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---Lisas on 2/7/07 |
Dear child of God Lisa::No amount of words can soothe a betrayed Heart the trust has been dragged in the dirt & Trampled.You feel defiled & do not want to Forgive.My sincerest advice to you is to PRAY from deep within Your heart & ask Jesus to give you peace,heal your broken heart after this, Pray more to give you courage to forgive, as it says in the Lords Prayer.Any children?You have the crown of martrydom in your hand.I say this so that you will get back your sanity.God Bless. |
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---Emcee on 2/7/07 |
Lisa, it is a process you will need to work through. Number one through counselling. Find a good Christian friend or counsellor that you can talk to about how deeply you hurt and what to do about it. 2)Write your husband a letter telling him how badly you hurt over what he's done. Even if you don't give it to him, writing is healing. 3) Talk to God every day about how you feel and how you need God to heal you, ask Him to. It's a process, but you will get healed through it. |
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---Anonymous on 2/7/07 |
Wow I hate to say this, but I did the same thing to my wife 15 years ago right in the middle of a time she was really growing spiritually and we were going to church faithfully. I thought I was doing great. trying to witness as much as I could, then "BAM" found myself in a relationship. I can look back now and it is like I was someone else. It takes a lot of work to mend the trust, but if you are willing and he is too, you can get through this with Gods help. Its hard on me too. |
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---buttons on 2/6/07 |
Dear Lisa. God loves you and He loves your husband also. He hates lies, cheating but He loves the sinner, for He came down in the flesh and gave His life for you and your husband.
Without forgiveness your marriage will not survive. I pray that the the Lord will heal your heartache and fill it with the love He has for your husband. It is not His will that your union be broken by sin, but on the contrary that it be built up and strengthened by forgiveness. |
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---Edmond on 2/6/07 |
Forgiveness is a choice we make and we do it not for the offender, but for ourselves. If we fail to forgive, we suffer more than the person who hurt us, because bitterness eats away at our spirits.
If you wish to save your marriage, I suggest you read "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie O'Martian. It helps you to pray for your husband and in doing so, you will change your attitude about him. |
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---Madison1101 on 2/6/07 |
And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.
Matthew 26:39
Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:
Luke 6:37 |
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---scripture on 2/6/07 |
I think God will give you all the grace necessary to forgive. And may I suggest that this is the right time to get him to some Christian councelling. He will probably go for it right now. And why not go for some yourself too? I'm sure you could use a few shoulders and ears to help you overcome this.
God bless both of you to pull through this. |
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---john on 2/6/07 |
love(please see 1Col 13) or leave, there is no other choice. bible tells us to love. if you change your thought of "how can i overcome this" to "how can they overcome this", u will feel better. life is cruel, we have only one way. |
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---dsda on 2/5/07 |
Forgiveness will take time - and it may be his hope (and belief) that you will do this out of your own goodness, but not willing to count the cost himself. He needs counsel and Godly - mentoring from a man in authority, or this will happen again. |
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---cbhsoloist on 2/5/07 |
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Lisa,
I know you are hurting. God will give you the strength to get to a place where you can make decisions that are not entirely emotional.
In situations like this the offender want's to be forgiven and the offended are left with all these tied up emotions, and questions. It's a difficult place to be in.
Please do not internalize these feelings, he alone is responsible for his actions.
I'm praying for you.
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---lynet on 2/5/07 |
Pray, fast and give yourself time to hear from the Father to sort this all out. Your last 5 days have certainly been agonizing, but your entire future is ahead of you. Every decision you make, with or without the Almighty, will undoubtedly affect you for the rest of your life. Whatever direction you decide to take with your marriage, forgiveness is crucial and possible. Ask the Father to guide you, then trust that He will. Our prayers are with you, Lisa. |
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---AlwaysOn on 2/5/07 |
Are you the lisa from the blogs? |
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---Soda_Pop on 2/5/07 |
Think about how you might feel if the tables were turned.
Right smack dab in the middle of the Gospel we find the words, "forgive us as we forgive those who sin against us."
I know it's difficult right now. It might be that all you can do now is express to God a WISH to forgive--as an act of will that you KNOW is the right thing to do.
You say you hate liars and cheaters. God loves liars and cheaters--so much that He became man to save them. |
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---Jack on 2/5/07 |
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