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Friends Keeping Me From God

I have these friends and my relationship with them is holding me back in my relationship with God. I'm too nice to tell them I don't want to be friends anymore. What should I do?

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 ---Gina on 2/12/07
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Rom 6:16 Know you not, that to whom you yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants you are to whom you obey, whether of sin to death, or of obedience to righteousness?

Yield to friendship or yield to Christ. You can't be servant to both. Currently you are sin & idol worship, yielding to something other than God.

Try to overcome your niceness. It will alienate them. But either alienate them, or alienate God.

Besides, you may lead them to Christ.
---a_servant on 7/27/07


You had better choose this day whom you will serve God or your friends. Your friends cannot do for you what Jesus can do. This is not your friends fault, this is your fault. You are playing with God and this is a deadly and childish game you are playing. One that you will lose.
You don,t have to tell them you don't want to be friends anymore. Just begin to let Jesus use you and become a witness to them. They will see the changes in you.
---Robyn on 7/27/07


(Hebrews 12:1)

The Word teaches us to remove all stumbling blocks in our walk with the Lord, anything that would affect our walk with God, in a negative way, must be removed. God always comes first. God said: be ye separate & don't be conformed to the world. God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 7/26/07


gina, the bible tells us not to associate with the unsaved.now that being said actually you are suppose to try and get them saved if they refuse then you need to have social activities with them ended.not saying not to be friendly and courteous and even talk with them,but you should talk about jesus and your faith,not constantly but they need to know who and what you are.then they can decide whether to socialize with you or not.
---tom2 on 7/26/07


First let's look at the positive the fact that you realize what the problem is. Next I would pray on the situation, and keep in mind that who you associate with could hinder not only your relationship with God, but blessings as well. If your friends are not on the same accord with you, it is hard to maintain a relationship. I don't think you have to completely cut them off, but lessen the time and still try to speak the word of Jesus to them. Lead by example.
---kymbe on 3/1/07




Yes, Jesus hung out with sinners to save them. However, those sinners did NOT hinder His walk with God. The difference is, you can hang out with sinners to save them, but if they hinder your walk with God, then get away from them.
---Leslie on 2/17/07


For me, if someone is not suppose to be in my life God removes them. I pray and ask God if this person is suppose to be in my life let them stay, if not remove them. He removes or he lets stay. Alot of people, including family he has removed because they were not interested in Jesus Christ, they were interested in tryng to drag me away from him.
---Chris on 2/14/07


Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of Sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the Scornful. Righteous People, what in the world have you in common with the Wicked?
---catherine on 2/14/07


Ok well, if you spend more time w/ your friends than you do w/ God then the things they do will rub onto you and you do what they do....if you spend more time w/ God then your friends than, the things of God rubs up onto them...
---mark on 2/13/07


The thing, about keeping wrong company is this, the bad will wear on the righteous quicker, than the good on the wicked.
---catherine on 2/13/07




The only reason why they are dragging you down is because you let them drag you down. Your giving Satan power to work through them to get to you. If one is not careful, it is easily done. You can still be a friend to them. But ask yourself this question, will they be there when you really need them or will they turn and leave? A true friend will be there for you no matter what. Regardless if they are saved or not.
---Rebecca_D on 2/13/07


YES, Sue, JESUS hung out with sinners, But to try and save them. never to makes friends with them.
---catherine on 2/13/07


Hey, Jesus hung out with hookers, sinners, tax collectors....people who were thought to be the scumb of the earth. He wanted to save people who needed to be saved. Maybe you could very carefully try to get your friends saved. But only if you feel strong enough to do this, dont be pulled down. Pray.
---sue on 2/13/07


jim ,I read the same one we all read. apparently you have misunderstood me.you,me all the saved are to witness and try to lead the lost to jesus.but we aren,t to let them and their wordly ways lead us away. thats what Iam saying.if youhave friends and they are leading you away from God then you need to depart from them and get right again with God.but alas,many christians today think they can have one foot in heaven and the othe in the world.
---tom2 on 2/13/07


jim,yes your absolutely right. but as I have said we can,t let them lead us into sin.we must be about and around the lost,thats our commission.
---tom2 on 2/13/07


Wean them out of your life. What I mean by wean is slowly let them go. Don't return their phone calls and don't make any to them. These are practical things to do of course. I have a friend who is Christian and keeps pointing out everyone else's demons which is Jezebel. These are toxic people and we need to ignore them, not return phone calls, find new friends at a new church, go to Christian website called Penpals and find new friends. You can email me here at donna6598. (((huggs)))
---donna6598 on 2/13/07


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jim ,be a light yes ,but if a friend tries to cover or smother your light you are to separate.scripture we are too correct in love. we are to go into the world as a witness of jesus. thios is the great commission.but we aren,t to allow the lost to lead us astray,or into discbidience.we must go to the lost,but not become lost in the world doing it thats my point.
---tom2 on 2/13/07


It is easy to blame a relationship with others for our weaknesses or to use them as an excuse,but isn't it really your relationship with God that allows you to be drawn away? No one can hold you back from God when you are 100% commited to serving Him. You must choose whom you will serve God or yourself and friends. Bruce is right. Pray,read your Bible,and fellowship with Christians more. Get closer to God so your light from Him shines for all to see.
---Darlene_1 on 2/13/07


tom2-what bible do you read? Jesus ate with
sinners, went to their house and saving the lost was his purpose for coming and dieing.
If you be the best witness you can be, what
if just one friend found Jesus-with God
all things are possibe-we are to be a light
and light shines brightest in dark places
God Bless..
---jim4884 on 2/12/07


Decide which you want more...God...or your friends..
---don on 2/12/07


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bruce and others have answered much better. I can only add that paul wrote to the greek iam greek,to th jew iam jew.in other words be in conflict with no one.the important thing is to lead the lost to jesus,not allow them to lead you into temptation, or wordly activities.
---tom2 on 2/12/07


If anyone leads you away from your God and your relationship with him then they are not your people. Leave them alone and find some real friends that love the Lord. Just postpone going places with them. Friends are not more important than God. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind
---tonne on 2/12/07


If their influence on you is greater than your influence on them then increase the light to the point that either the darkness is expelled or you may have to find other friends. It sounds like they may be trying to change you too so be careful. Sometimes we have to wipe our feet and find new soil.
---john on 2/12/07


They're not your friends if they hinder you from God. Maybe they donot know they're hindering if you donot say anything.You need to be to the point but nice,& donot let the persuade you to stay their course, you need to go your own course toward God.
---Candice on 2/12/07


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The Bible says not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers. It is easier for them to pull you down, than for you to pull them up. If they are keeping you from God, they are NOT your friends - get rid of them.
---Leslie on 2/12/07


Would you rather be in trouble with God or your friends? God said to forsake all others, take up your cross and follow HIM. Your choice. I love my friends but when it comes To My Lord and Savior they dont compare or even come close.I am not going to lose my soul for anyone. Not mom, dad, anyone!
I spend time with my friends in wholesome and honest activities but I never compromise my love for Jesus.
---robyn on 2/12/07


God forbids His people from associateing with the wicked. What has God got in common with Satan? Can the Lord get along with Satan? [The wicked plotteth against the just]. It will ruin your ralationship with God. It is not worth it. You need God. You do not have to have people.
---catherine on 2/12/07


Hi Gina, it took me a long time to understand the differance between being assertive and being mean to somebody. You can set your boundries and still be nice. IF your friends don't respect your beliefs, well then they're not really your friends, are they?
---sue on 2/12/07


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PART ONE:
Gina,
As Tom2 pointed out, idealy we should be making friends with unsaved people to be in a better position to witness to them. Your question indicates that you are not at the point spiritually that you can be around unsaved people and not be influenced by them instead of influencing them.

So, then, who is your best friend? Is it Jesus? Jesus made it clear that our love for him as to be first and foremost.
---Bruce5656 on 2/12/07


PART TWO:
He said it in rather shocking terms to get his point across in the strongest possible way:

Luke 14:26, "If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple."
---Bruce5656 on 2/12/07


PART THREE:
Now we know that Jesus was not commanding us to hate anyone, much less our families. He was saying that our love for him must be so strong that our love, for anyone else would be as hate in comparison. Or to put it another way, if our family or friends turn their backs on us because of our relationship with Christ, we must be prepared to accept that and move on.
---Bruce5656 on 2/12/07


The Bible indicates that once saved you are a new creature. Practically speaking, if you will read your Bible and start doing what the Bible says, your unsaved "friends" will depart. It's a matter of whether you are willing to do right or not. Go to a good Bible teaching church and start studying the Word of God. GOd will honor that and you will begin to grow. You will also be in a place where you will meet the right kind of friends.
---Scott on 2/12/07


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Gina you should realize that not being honest is what's not nice.

You should tell them the ways their behavior grieves you and give to them the opportunity to change it to keep you as their friend.

Bad company corrupts good character, but only if you go along with their evil ways. Expose the deeds of darkness whenever they arise, and believe me you won't have to shun your unbelieving friends, they'll shun you
---Pharisee on 2/12/07


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